Parents Set The Example: Kids And Adults Should Exercise Together

It's a well-established fact that consistent exercise and sensible eating habits will enhance quality of life. "A common denominator among people who successfully manage their weight and stay fit is that they exercise and make great nutritional choices as a matter of habit." The same holds true for kids. Our bodies are designed for locomotion. We all need to keep on moving. We as parents must pay close attention and set an example.

It is vital that we teach and encourage our kids to stay active. It's no secret that a life of overeating, lack of physical activity and being lazy can lead to a host of physical and potentially life-threatening problems. Present couch potatoes make future couch potatoes. Active kids become active adults, plain and simple.

Exercising with our kids provides us as parents with a fantastic opportunity. It establishes a great sense of camaraderie, companionship and a time for bonding. This is valuable time spent. My wife used to jog with her dad in the mornings or after dinner. She maintains a healthy lifestyle while her father is 80 years old and still exercising three times per week.

My father made me a weight bench out of wood. We would lift weights together twice a week. This inspired me and gave me a foundation to always include exercise in my life. Again, we as parents are setting the example, being a positive role model and creating the image of health, fitness and wellness. You not only send your children this positive message, but you stay fit yourself--not a bad idea.

For example, you could set aside two hours per week as times that you and your child will exercise together. Key time periods are say early in the morning (before school and work), in the evening just before dinner or on weekends. I suggest that you "schedule" in these times to make sure that nothing will interfere with your set workout times. You may choose to do the same type of exercise. It's key to find activities that you enjoy so you'll look forward to and do them on a regular basis. Some examples may include:

* Weight lifting or cardio work in your home gym
* Weight lifting or cardio work at the health club, recreation center, YMCA or the local gym.
* Biking
* Hiking
* Playing catch or hitting fly balls or grounders at the baseball/softball park
* Shooting baskets or practicing another team sport like soccer or volleyball
* Taking a walk or jog
* Go to the track and practice track events
* Heavy bag work or martial arts
* Tai Chi or Yoga
* Golf (walk the course)
* Tennis
* Swimming
* Aerobics class or tape
* Father/son or Mother/daughter church, recreation or sport leagues

You may have slightly different preferences in which case you could even combine any of the above or other activities together. For example, dad is in the garage lifting weights while son or daughter is on the treadmill, stationary bike or shooting hoops in the driveway. Or, mom and dad are doing yoga while son or daughter is practicing on the heavy bag or running wind sprints. Then you both go out for a walk/jog or bike ride to complete the workout. Point being, you have set times to workout together. There is so much value in this time spent. Other workout times should be included during the week as well for both you and your teenager either together or separate.

Follow these workouts with a healthy meal or snack and talk to your kids about healthy nutrition and devoting time for exercise. For kids a key time for exercise and physical activity is after school. Even with a boatload of homework, 30 minutes to an hour of some form of exercise will only enhance study time. Consistently parking in front of the TV or diving into the latest video game after school with the bag of Doritos and a tub of ice cream would not be my recommendation nor is it a good pre-study regimen.

Many kids lose interest in sports or physical activity if they "don't make the team" or when choosing sides for a particular playground event and they either consistently don't get chosen or chosen last. There is a huge emphasis today put on by our schools and the media on external motivation, being "the athlete," or competition and not the pure joy of exercise and sport along with health and wellness benefits of leading an active life style. There are only a select few that make the team. There are few less in the top 3 on the physical fitness tests. What about everybody else? More emphasis needs to be put on "personal best" and our own individual improvements. Be in competition with yourself. And sometimes kids will get discouraged if they don't live up to your standards as well.

So make sure again that this is all in the name of fun, health, fitness and wellness and not some test or standard that you have unfairly set that your teen needs to live up to. Put the focus on being the best that you can be on a given day in an activity that you are passionate about. If you think about it, you don't have health conscious adults spending hours in the gym per week because they are the best treadmill walker or weight lifter in the facility. We don't join the summer softball league because we think we're Barry Bonds. We don't wait hours for a tennis court because we think we're Venus Williams or ride a bike because we are entering the Tour de France. Adults are there to get a good workout, to be healthy and improve quality of life. This is what we need to tell and teach our kids early on and not wait until there is a weight or health problem. Exercise and an active lifestyle needs to be a way of life, a mindset whether we "make the team" or not and it's up to us as parents to establish this from the get go.

So, if you're an active adult you've most likely given thought to this already. If not, I'd say this is the perfect time and opportunity to get it going and get moving. Not tomorrow, not next month, not when the weather gets better. The time is now.

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Robert is a personal trainer, nutritionist, motivational speaker, television personality and author of the book Make Over Your Metabolism. He is located in Studio City, California. For more information go to www.robertreames.net.

Comments

[rini]

Yeah,

I've been working out for years, but try to make a slightly sullen 13 year old who is more interested in fashion and music than sports or exercise work out with you.

It's not that I haven't explained the benefits of exercise. It's not that she doesn't understand. She constantly says, "tomorrow" or "I'm exhausted" or "I don't feel good." I know she isn't sick. She just hasn't gotten into the habit. Maybe it's because my husband won't exercise. I don't know. Do I really have to resort to bribes or punishment in order to get her to be active?

[IowaGirl]

This is so true. I think mothers, especially, need to take it on board. My kids will never see me reading a magazine on the side of the pool when I could be doing laps or throwing a ball with them in the shallow end. My husband and I cycle, play tennis, and hike, and even when the kids do not want to join us, they see how much enjoyment we get out of these activities and understand that you don't have to stop playing just because you're an adult. The older I get, the more I believe you can ONLY teach people by showing them how to do something (sometimes over and over and over)and demonstrating its advantages and benefits in a visual, physical, sensory way. Margaret Mead apparently believed this also, as it was how she was taught growing up. Harping at people...droning on...just doesn't cut it. Find what you and your kids enjoy and then adopt it into your schedule. Our family goes to the pool every Sunday together, and we make it a point never to waste a beautiful day indoors on a weekend--we hit a park, cycle around a lake, go to the tennis courts and work on our strokes. I hate that this sounds so self-congratulatory, but just want to chime in in agreement with the blogger.

[cktirumalai]

Yes, what we learn early is etched into our bodies and minds. This goes as much for reading as for exercise. Even though my father did not exercise with me--he was away elsewhere because of his work and its location--the fact that he had been a competitive runner in school and college made me physically active from the start, a habit I have retained through a lifetime. I must add that I prefer activity where much of the body is in motion, as in walking or swimming, and aerobic exercise of the moderate kind.

[dryfactoidobotanoid]

great idea.