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Where Are the Men?

Posted: 02/23/2012 1:01 pm

All across America, women are responding to the latest attacks on their reproductive health and rights. Female legislators, leading feminists and concerned women everywhere are fighting back. Good for them, but where are the men?

On the other side of the reproductive divide, there is no shortage of men. There was no shortage of men when a U.S. House oversight committee last week pulled together a panel of "expert" witnesses to testify against requiring health insurers to cover contraceptives for women who work for religiously-affiliated organizations. The majority on the committee called 11 witnesses. They were all men. That's why women on the committee walked out in protest.

Public opinions suggest that men are less concerned about family planning and reproductive health than women. They are also more likely to oppose the president's proposed coverage of contraceptives as it applies to religiously-affiliated hospitals and schools. But the gap between men and women is not that large. When penned down by a pollster on questions about contraception and family planning, plenty of men will come out on the same side as women.

So where are they? If legislatures were requiring colorectal exams for no good medical reason, banning Viagra, outlawing condoms and vasectomies, and otherwise messing with the private parts and reproductive health of men, you better believe that men would be doing more than waiting for a Gallup pollster to ring them up.

Men who truly care about women also care about their reproductive health and rights. Real men, or at least men who really care about women, believe that women should be able to prevent an unintended or unwanted pregnancy. They recognize the value of having government-supported family planning clinics that provide contraceptive services and screenings for breast or cervical cancer. Men who really care about girls and women would never deny them access to emergency contraceptives, particularly in cases of rape or incest.

So where are these men? Why aren't they speaking out? Why aren't they marching on the state legislatures that are defunding the family planning clinics? Why aren't they protesting laws that would require women to get an invasive ultrasound before they terminate a pregnancy? Why aren't they testifying before Congress about the importance of providing women with health insurance coverage for contraceptives? Why aren't they writing blogs or letters to the editors in defense of reproductive health and rights?

There's no good answer to that question. Maybe some men believe that women don't need their help, that they can win, or re-win, the battle for reproductive health and rights all on their own. If so, they would be wrong: Women are losing in state legislatures all across this country. Several states have slashed funding for family planning clinics. And unless more men speak up and treat this issue with the urgency it deserves, women will still lose more legislative battles.

There's nothing wrong with women rallying women on behalf of women and their reproductive health, but unless they want to keep fighting -- and losing -- these battles forever, it's time to enlist a few good men in their cause.

I could be wrong, but I suspect that the vast majority of people reading this blog are women. If you are a woman, maybe you should send this blog to the men in your life and tell them that their help is urgently needed. Tell them that real men care about women and are willing to stand up for their reproductive health and rights.

And if you're a man, don't let Rick Santorum speak for you and your gender on this issue. Let the world know that you care about women and their reproductive health.

 
All across America, women are responding to the latest attacks on their reproductive health and rights. Female legislators, leading feminists and concerned women everywhere are fighting back. Good for...
All across America, women are responding to the latest attacks on their reproductive health and rights. Female legislators, leading feminists and concerned women everywhere are fighting back. Good for...
 
 
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ZimbaZumba
08:59 PM on 03/20/2012
"Where Are the Men?"

to which I ask the question

"Where are the women ?"

when it comes to male reproductive rights? No where, absolutely no where.
09:09 AM on 02/28/2012
Feminists like to quote and talk to each other endlessly, which is why they get into this mess. In fact, the word “women” appears 134 times in the document, guaranteeing a huge number of special rights and privileges. In contrast, the word “men” appears once in the document, in a generic "men and women" sentence that means nothing.

Here is the exact text from the Obamacare legislation that describes those services that (i) must be offered by all providers and (ii) must be free of cost or co-pay requirement:

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(a) IN GENERAL — A group health plan and a health insurance issuer offering group or individual health insurance coverage shall, at a minimum provide coverage for and shall not impose any cost sharing requirements for –

(4) with respect to women, such additional preventive care and screenings not described in paragraph [1] as provided for in comprehensive guidelines supported by the Health Resources and Services Administration.
(5) for the purposes of this Act, and for purposes of any other provision of law, the current recommendations of the United States Preventive Service Task Force regarding breast cancer screening, mammography, and prevention shall be considered the most current.

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Breast exam? Check. Prostate health? Out of luck.
Female contraception? Check. Male contraception? Out of luck.
Female reproductive health? Check. Male reproductive health? Out of luck.
Female smoking cessation? Check. Male smoking cessation? Out of luck.
Female violence prevention? Check. Male violence prevention? Out of luck.
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fitzroya
composer of dreams, vacations and peace
02:50 PM on 02/24/2012
The men took a recess and departed the building. Constance Johnson proposed a sample female reproductive health screening for the men, so they could make an informed vote. For convenience, mammography was chosen. Since male lawmakers don't have breasts, other external dependent anatomy was to be substituted.

Male anatomy was to be placed on a special platform and compressed with a paddle made of clear Plexiglas. The technologist would compress the male anatomy for thirty seconds after they said "ouch."

Anatomy compression is necessary in order to
-Even out anatomy thickness so all tissue can be visualized.
-Spread out tissue so small abnormalities are unobscured by overlying tissue.
-Allow the use of a lower x-ray dose since a thinner amount of anatomy tissue is imaged.
-Hold anatomy still in order to minimize blurring of the image caused by motion.
-Reduce x-ray scatter to increase sharpness of picture.

-Representatives were to be asked to change positions between images. But the session was adjourned without a set time to reconvene.
08:10 AM on 02/24/2012
My wife had plenty of time to protest and join women's causes because I was working my ass off to provide for the family. But aside from that...

How about women legislators everywhere do more of what the woman in Virginia did and actually propose amendments requiring an anal probe prior to a viagra prescription or vasectomy? How about some women pharmacists (and they are legion) refusing to sell viagra due to their religious beliefs? This would shift the debate and get a real conversation going.
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Charleyeo
01:57 PM on 02/24/2012
How about you fight along side of women demanding their rights and their quality of life. We all have to advocate for freedom and respect of women in this society. Fight for your daughters and all generations of women. Thank You.
06:06 PM on 02/24/2012
A all male supreme court created abortion rights practically out of thin air. Men have been actively defending abortion rights ever since but I don't see any respect for men from this author or many of the women on the pro choice side of the debate. Instead they keep spouting 60's era rhetoric and man bashing while ignoring the culpability of pro life women.
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eagle95124
In God I trust !!!
10:13 AM on 02/25/2012
I know my wife love me and she knows I love her . we have a very happy marriage of 19years . we agree politically ( both Christian liberals ) But each time the tactics of the GOP/TP attacks on women rights across the nation comes up she look at me as if I'm the enemy . So to all my sisters out there we your husbands STAND and WILL FOLLOW YOUR LEAD . My wife said maybe you needed to know this . Dragging the GOP/TP into the 21Th century is very hard work
06:18 AM on 02/24/2012
"Men who truly care about women also care about their reproductive health and rights. Real men, or at least men who really care about women, believe that women should be able to prevent an unintended or unwanted pregnancy. "

No, real men would commit themselves to a long-term relationships with one woman, provide these needs for them through work and an income, and not foist a government handout or insurance mandate on them. Real men would provide for the women in their lives through their own toil and would take the issue of contraception and of preventing an unwanted pregnancy seriously enough to ensure that they take the steps, or provide the resources to provide these needs for the woman they are intimate with.

This real man's wife doesn't worry about these things because this real man has already provided for her needs in this area.
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07:39 AM on 02/24/2012
Well, you're lucky you have that. Not everyone does so.....
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Tracee Collins
APATHY = COMPLICITY
08:10 AM on 02/24/2012
Your scenario is the exception, rather than the rule.
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HermaO
Conservatism is intellectual laziness.
06:16 AM on 02/24/2012
One large part of this issue resides in the fact that men don't feel concerned, or they don't really grasps the consequences of all these attacks on women's reproductive rights, and how it will affect not only women, but them too.
They don't really get that men who sleep with women also enjoy the benefits of contraception.
They don't realize how much access and control over reproductive rights have changed the life of women.
The answer resides in educating men and women, boys and girls on reproductive rights, abortion and contraception, and show them that it is a global issue and that everyone will be impacted.
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Charleyeo
02:03 PM on 02/24/2012
I agree. As well as education we need to encourage men, women, boys and girls to become active and vocal in supporting the rights of women and girls. Educated and caring men must organize and speak out about this rape of womens choices. These choices affect humanity. Stand up men and let your voices be heard defending womens and family rights to freedom. F&F
06:19 PM on 02/24/2012
Men invented contraception.

A liberal all male supreme court created the right to abortion which has no real constitutional basis

Men have continued to fight alongside women for this right for the past 40 years.

You need a education on how men have fought for women's rights and learn some respect for the opposite sex. The man blaming approach is absurd. You have nearly half of women who are Pro Life and you completely ignore the possibility of changing their mind.

Did you know Roe from Roe Vs Wade became a Pro life advocate in the 90's? Educate yourself and stop making sexist assumptions about what men think.
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ravenrdr
04:48 AM on 02/24/2012
Insure that men are financially responsible by including a statement that the man responsible for the pregnancy will be held financially responsible and will automatically have child support deducted from their paychecks, inheritance, etc. for 18 years.. That will bring them out!
03:01 PM on 02/24/2012
It would work even better if they were required to foot half the bill for OB visits, doctor/hospital delivery fees, prenatal vitamins/medications, and birthing classes, and had to help cover any gap in income the mother of their child has when she takes maternity leave.
06:23 PM on 02/24/2012
They did all of that a long time ago. Where have you been? The thing is men don't have a right to abortion and have no right to determine whether or not the child will be born.
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chimaeroid
Rabid Sesquipedalian
02:59 AM on 02/24/2012
As a man who stands strongly in favor of reproductive rights, and an outspoken and quite vocal supporter for women (much to the consternation of some friends) I still want to thank you for this article. Plenty of my friends, family members, and co-workers don't understand why I am so passionate about this set of issues,especially since I am gay.

I am never going to get pregnant, and I am never going to "accidentally" impregnate somebody either. But I have a sister, and a mother, and cousins. I have a niece, and I will never support any candidate who wants to the their choice away from them, for what they do with their own body. I will very actively and loudly speak out against the kinds of laws that restrict freedoms, of anybody, regardless of who they are. I just wish more people did as well.

I applaud you for calling them out, and I intend to do my part as well.
04:29 AM on 02/24/2012
As a man I would like to call you out for endorsing this shameless attack on men. Everytime a women or someone who claims to support women wants men to do something they don't get to blast my entire gender.

This man bashing and shaming needs to stop. Being treated with respect is not suppose to be a privilege you earn by being some activist obedient slave. Men should not have to prove they care about women anymore than women are expected they prove they care about men. Sexist generalzations about what men lthink, how should they feel, or what they have to do in order to be men, are invalid lines of attack.

Bringing up the sexist gender relic of males as the protector of women is also invalid. Women have enough agency to defend themselves in a political fight since they are the majority of the electorate and if they want men's support they can ask for it nicely. You don't tell me I am not a "real man" then order me to do as you please in order to get my manhood back. It's shameless manipulation and utterly disrespectful.
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ravenrdr
06:27 AM on 02/24/2012
Yes, we all know men are the true victims here. When someone's rights are questioned, they are always the victims--an acknowledgement of true weakness. At least they are aware of it.
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Lady1genius
No se puede tapar el sol con un dedo
02:46 PM on 02/24/2012
You see an attack where there is none. I see a call to action, and a call to acknowlege that the reproductive choices of women actually affect men as well. They're half of the equation here, as there's usually one on the scene whenever a pregnancy occurs.
I see a lot of men here whining about having to actually support the children they made, and most likely did NOT want to have aborted. Then if I tell them to stop whining about child support, I'm labeled a man hater. Well BULLSPIT! You men can't have it both ways.
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Tracee Collins
APATHY = COMPLICITY
08:11 AM on 02/24/2012
Fanned and faved, my friend!
02:38 AM on 02/24/2012
There is a Department of Women's Health at the federal level but no Department of Men's Health.

Men die younger than women do.

Females are protected against involuntary genital mutilation. Males are not.

WHERE ARE THE WOMEN?

Also, I don't have sex. I don't have sex with men. I don't have sex with women. I am not interested in sex. So, no, this is not my battle. And frankly as someone who would be labeled a progressive on every other issue, I do not comprehend why Democrats don't work harder to reduce the number of abortions that take place. You can study what factors lead to fewer abortions and try to implement them. I am not embarrassed to say that I don't find anything about abortion progressive. It is literally a prehistoric solution to a problem that with modern contraception should be exceedingly rare. And some forms of abortion that Democrats tried to fight to keep legal such as IDX are horrific.

I am interested in the protection of the individual, and at some point—and I don't know what point that is—the fetus is an individual, especially when it can live on its own.
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
04:35 AM on 02/24/2012
"Men die younger than women do."

It has been noted that women do not typically say "hold my beer and watch this" or do bacon shots.
08:19 AM on 02/24/2012
Look at the names on the Vietnam memorial. I find your statement insulting to men.
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Tracee Collins
APATHY = COMPLICITY
08:13 AM on 02/24/2012
So if this isn't your battle, then....SEEYA!!
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Charleyeo
02:19 PM on 02/24/2012
This is everyone's battle. No more influence from bigoted, predjudiced, ignorant GOP men. No more influence from patriarchal psychopathic religious cults. Men, join women in the protest against the disrespect of the womans right to choose. Make your voices heard.
Should. Loudly. f&F
01:30 AM on 02/24/2012
Women's views on contraception are a moot point in the discussion of the legality of Obama forcing religious institutions to provide them via insurance against their will. That is why no women needed to be heard.
12:46 AM on 02/24/2012
Hey drama-boy. It's only about bc being free vs. cheap. Calm the f down.
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
03:23 AM on 02/24/2012
No it's not. It's also about defunding Planned Parenthood -- which provides breast and cervical exams as well as birth control and other health information. PP helps save lives from cancer and STIs. It's also about birth control being available and affordable to women who want it. It's about girls women who really don't need an unwanted baby keeping them in poverty being denied an abortion, or being forced to have an invasive, expensive and unnecessary procedure before getting an abortion.

Please get a clue. Talk to your mother, your sisters or your girlfriend -- if you have one -- and get an idea about how women think and feel before dismissing this.
04:38 AM on 02/24/2012
Think about how men feel about people trying to gain their support by questioning whether or not they are "real men". It's a political fight women could easily when if women had even 60% support. They are already more than half the electorate. If you don't like what's going on why not change women's minds instead of blaming men?

The defunding of PP is all about abortion. Some people believe life begins at conception. They are not going to stop trying to get rid of something they consider murder. Blaming men for the existence of these very real moral questions is dishonest.
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Charleyeo
02:25 PM on 02/24/2012
Thank you. This is everyone's business. All, men and women, stand up and fight for womens rights. These decisions affect the lives of women of all generations. Our grandmothers endured much bigotry and abuse fighting for the vote for women. Let's remember that and carry on defending womens right of equality and right to choose. This fight is for our daughter and grandaughters. Respect is the issue. F&F
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cwebster
predominantly exasperated
12:40 AM on 02/24/2012
Thank you, Mr Walker. It's nice to hear an informed opinion from a real man.
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boycottrightwingthings
END WAR on women vote Dem 2014!
12:35 AM on 02/24/2012
AMEN! Thank you, honestly! YES- where ARE the men??
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Karissa36
Saving lost boys and fighting pirates.
06:52 PM on 02/24/2012
The men have gone quietly into the voting booths, and voted down personhood at conception laws, right along with the women.
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Badger33
I'm trying real hard to be the shepherd.
12:21 AM on 02/24/2012
I'll try to post this again. Men are quiet because even those who are sympathetic are told they have no right to hold an opinion on this issue. Better to remain mute, nod your head and smile.
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TeamSanity
strong emotions don't equate strong arguments
02:27 AM on 02/24/2012
All are entitled to opinions. I suspect you're confusing your right to your opinion with the legitimate anger from women who wonder how anyone without a uterus can dictate what people with uteruses do with them. That's not telling any man they can't have an opinion - just telling men to not legislate it.
04:43 AM on 02/24/2012
Who are you to tell society what they can and can't legislate through their representatives? Last I checked it was not the gender of the law maker but their willingness to carry out the wil of those who put them in office. Your gender does not make you immune to the rule of law. You are not even a minority in reality or in the electorate. If women don't want these law makers they could by themselves put them out of office.

Instead of facing reality and changing minds feminist go back to doing what they know which is blaming men for not getting their way.
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Charleyeo
02:31 PM on 02/24/2012
March side by side with women to demand freedom of their right to choose and right of equality. Respect women and generations of girls to come. Do your part to stop the bigotry and persecution.
11:56 PM on 02/23/2012
Ridiculous comparison. Condoms and vasectomies are not covered by insurance. That's on our dime, as it should be. Insurance is protection against an unforeseen risk - getting sick. Turning medical insurance into some sort of pre-paid debit card via mandates is part of the reason it is so expensive to get insurance.
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TeamSanity
strong emotions don't equate strong arguments
02:31 AM on 02/24/2012
Insurance is protection against an unforseen risk.

Hmmm. Rhetorically, your comment indicates that insurance should only cover accidents or sudden, unexpected health problems (e.g., the unforseen heart attack or stroke).

That's not what insurance is for: it's a collective agreement to ameliorate the cost of preventative as well as responsive medicine.
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Charleyeo
02:31 PM on 02/24/2012
Thank You. f&F
06:36 PM on 02/24/2012
The man has a point. Vasectomies should also be mandated along with tubal ligation.
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
03:25 AM on 02/24/2012
Vasectomies are often covered by insurance: http://www.vasectomy.com/ArticleDetail.asp?siteid=V&ArticleId=10

Men can go to Planned Parenthood for condoms if they can't afford them.