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Robert Weiss
Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is Senior Vice President of Clinical Development with Elements Behavioral Health -- an organization with program development surrounding adult compulsive & addictive sexual disorders. A licensed clinician, he has served as a media specialist for CNN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and the Today Show, among many others. He is author of Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, and co-author with Dr. Jennifer Schneider of both Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age and the upcoming 2013 release, Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Sex, Intimacy and Relationships.

Entries by Robert Weiss

Why People Are Angry

(0) Comments | Posted March 20, 2015 | 2:56 PM

Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps out there. Launched in 2012, the matchmaking app now has more than 50 million users. As of today, more than half of Tinder's membership is in the highly desired (from an online dating perspective) 18-24 age demographic. And it appears the...

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Seeking Sobriety in the New Year: The Real Dope on the Imperfect Process of Recovery

(1) Comments | Posted February 2, 2015 | 10:10 AM

Slips vs. Relapse

Getting sober from alcoholism, drug addiction or a behavioral addiction (gambling, spending, sex, video gaming, etc.) is among the most common New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately, most addicts have little to no idea what that entails or how hard it's really going to be. Yes, some addicts do...

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Online Sex Can Shatter, Even Doom Relationships, Survey Finds

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 12:23 PM

In preparation for writing our soon-to-be-released book, Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age, my coauthor Dr. Jennifer Schneider and I, along with our colleague Dr. Charles Samenow, conducted a survey of men and women whose spouses or long-term partners were engaging in digital world sexual...

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Surviving Your Holidays: The Family Version

(1) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 1:01 PM

Forget About Perfect

The holidays are here, in all their sparkling glory. And holidays mean family -- an extra-large dose of the people you see every day, plus more time than normal with grandma, weird Uncle Ernie, your in-laws, and various other hangers-on, any and all of whom you may...

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Jason Reitman's New Film, Men, Women & Children, Offers Lessons in Modern-Day Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted October 22, 2014 | 4:37 PM

Men, Women & Children, the new film by writer/director Jason Reitman, is now in theaters. The story, based on Chad Kultgen's book of the same name, follows a group of small-town teens and their parents as both generations deal with a variety of real- and digital-world issues. At various points...

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Why Some People Just Can't Say No

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2014 | 4:47 PM

The Brain Wants What the Brain Wants

You're sitting in a nice restaurant with your family. You've eaten your salad and your entrée, and you're absolutely stuffed. Then the pastry chef wheels out the dessert tray. Even though you're full, the cakes, pies and puddings cause your mouth to water....

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What Is Online Pornography Doing to Our Boys?

(1) Comments | Posted September 25, 2014 | 12:45 PM

In today's world, many users of porn are adolescent and sometimes even prepubescent boys, and lots of folks are worried about how this may be affecting their development. The three primary questions they're asking read as follows:

1. How many boys are looking at online porn?
2. How...

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Remember the Mile High Club? How About a 5,000 Miles Away Club?

(0) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 3:50 PM

The Tech-Sex Cocktail

Throughout my professional career, the majority of my writing and clinical work has focused on the intersection of digital technology with human intimacy and sexuality. I first became interested in this topic related to my specialized therapy practice, started in the early 1990s and...

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Is Casual Sex Healthy?

(1) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 12:40 PM

Finding Your Cup of Tea

In today's digital world, casual sex is easier to find and experience than ever. Thanks to "adult friend finder" websites and apps, nearly anyone looking for a no-strings-attached sexual encounter can find one quickly and easily. Apps like Tinder, Blendr, and Ashley Madison facilitate heterosexual...

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Rick Perry vs. Reality: The Truth About Gay Conversion Therapy

(9) Comments | Posted July 11, 2014 | 12:34 PM

It's no great secret that Texas Gov. Rick Perry's political stance is more than slightly anti-gay. In fact, he wears his badge of homophobia proudly, openly subscribing to the now-antiquated Karl Rove "anything-that's-not-exactly-like-me-is-evil" school of political advancement. You know, divide and conquer. Even though this approach didn't work very well...

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When Science Fiction Gets Real

(5) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 4:56 PM

In 1982, a then-unknown science fiction writer named William Gibson coined the term "cyberspace" in a short story titled Burning Chrome. In 1984, he expanded on his cyberspace concept with the novel Neuromancer, in which he created a dystopian, hyper-connected universe filled with hackers, cyberwars, virtual environments, and violent reality...

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Shame and the Empty Life

(3) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 1:10 PM

What Is Shame?

In her excellent and highly recommended book, Daring Greatly, Dr. Brené Brown defines shame as "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging." In other words, shame is the inherent belief that we are not good...

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Do You Speak Sex?

(3) Comments | Posted April 10, 2014 | 3:49 PM

As an acknowledged expert on the intersection of sex, relationships and technology, I sometimes find myself conversing in what sounds like a foreign language. In fact, a few weeks ago I was explaining to a group of fellow clinicians the need for them to understand what it means when a...

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My Facebook Faux Pas

(2) Comments | Posted March 21, 2014 | 11:55 AM

Recognizing the Digital Generation Gap

My husband Jon and I are only 12 years apart in age (I'm 52, he's 40), yet we are from profoundly different generations, with very different ways of viewing the world. Simply put, I am a digital immigrant, born in the pre-Internet days of yore,...

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Thoughts on Nymphomaniac: Volume 1

(4) Comments | Posted March 20, 2014 | 7:20 PM

After more than two decades of treating and writing about sexual addiction, I've developed a modicum of expertise. As such, whenever a new film about sexual addiction debuts, such as the just released Nymphomaniac: Volume I, I get hit with a barrage of press inquiries posing all sorts of interesting...

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Sadly, Tech Addicts Have Taken a Page From Drug Abusers

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 11:08 AM

Help! My Kid Is Addicted to His Laptop!
Sometimes I think my son is addicted to online games. I can't seem to pry him away from the computer in his room, even by offering my car keys. What teenaged boy would rather sit at his computer playing World of...

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Closer Together or Further Apart? Digital Devices and the New Generation Gap

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 4:09 PM

Angry Birds: 1, Grandparents: 0

Last week Chuck and Janet Bloom gave their only daughter a night off by taking their grandchildren out for dinner at a local pizza parlor. Both were looking forward to a playful evening with the kids. But as soon as they sat at the table,...

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New Year's Resolutions: 6 Ways to Achieve Lasting Change

(0) Comments | Posted January 3, 2014 | 10:36 AM

Despite the burning desire for chocolate, extramarital sex, blackjack, cocaine, alcohol, cigarettes, and the like that usually shows up somewhere around Jan. 3, New Year's resolutions can play a significant role in establishing and maintaining positive behavioral change. However, as nearly everyone knows -- addict, couch potato, or otherwise --...

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Oops, I Ate the Whole Pie (and Other Tales of Holiday Addiction)

(2) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 10:52 AM

It's hardly a secret that holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, New Year's, and the like cause many of us to overdo it with food, booze, spending, sex and a wide variety of other intensely pleasurable distractions. For the majority of us, those intensely pleasurable foods, substances, and behaviors are...

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Kids and Life Online: Are Parents' Fears Warranted?

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 9:42 AM

In today's world the majority of kids, especially those born in the United States and other first-world economies, have never experienced a universe without computers and high-speed Internet connections. As such, texting, posting to social media, online video gaming and other digital interactions are as natural to them as eating,...

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