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Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is Senior Vice President of Clinical Development with Elements Behavioral Health -- an organization with program development surrounding adult compulsive & addictive sexual disorders. A licensed clinician, he has served as a media specialist for CNN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and the Today Show, among many others. He is author of Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, and co-author with Dr. Jennifer Schneider of both Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age and the upcoming 2013 release, Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Sex, Intimacy and Relationships.

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Is Casual Sex Healthy?

(1) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 12:40 PM

Finding Your Cup of Tea

In today's digital world, casual sex is easier to find and experience than ever. Thanks to "adult friend finder" websites and apps, nearly anyone looking for a no-strings-attached sexual encounter can find one quickly and easily. Apps like Tinder, Blendr, and Ashley Madison facilitate heterosexual...

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Rick Perry vs. Reality: The Truth About Gay Conversion Therapy

(9) Comments | Posted July 11, 2014 | 12:34 PM

It's no great secret that Texas Gov. Rick Perry's political stance is more than slightly anti-gay. In fact, he wears his badge of homophobia proudly, openly subscribing to the now-antiquated Karl Rove "anything-that's-not-exactly-like-me-is-evil" school of political advancement. You know, divide and conquer. Even though this approach didn't work very well...

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When Science Fiction Gets Real

(5) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 4:56 PM

In 1982, a then-unknown science fiction writer named William Gibson coined the term "cyberspace" in a short story titled Burning Chrome. In 1984, he expanded on his cyberspace concept with the novel Neuromancer, in which he created a dystopian, hyper-connected universe filled with hackers, cyberwars, virtual environments, and violent reality...

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Shame and the Empty Life

(3) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 1:10 PM

What Is Shame?

In her excellent and highly recommended book, Daring Greatly, Dr. Brené Brown defines shame as "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging." In other words, shame is the inherent belief that we are not good...

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Do You Speak Sex?

(3) Comments | Posted April 10, 2014 | 3:49 PM

As an acknowledged expert on the intersection of sex, relationships and technology, I sometimes find myself conversing in what sounds like a foreign language. In fact, a few weeks ago I was explaining to a group of fellow clinicians the need for them to understand what it means when a...

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My Facebook Faux Pas

(2) Comments | Posted March 21, 2014 | 11:55 AM

Recognizing the Digital Generation Gap

My husband Jon and I are only 12 years apart in age (I'm 52, he's 40), yet we are from profoundly different generations, with very different ways of viewing the world. Simply put, I am a digital immigrant, born in the pre-Internet days of yore,...

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Thoughts on Nymphomaniac: Volume 1

(4) Comments | Posted March 20, 2014 | 7:20 PM

After more than two decades of treating and writing about sexual addiction, I've developed a modicum of expertise. As such, whenever a new film about sexual addiction debuts, such as the just released Nymphomaniac: Volume I, I get hit with a barrage of press inquiries posing all sorts of interesting...

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Sadly, Tech Addicts Have Taken a Page From Drug Abusers

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 11:08 AM

Help! My Kid Is Addicted to His Laptop!
Sometimes I think my son is addicted to online games. I can't seem to pry him away from the computer in his room, even by offering my car keys. What teenaged boy would rather sit at his computer playing World of...

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Closer Together or Further Apart? Digital Devices and the New Generation Gap

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 4:09 PM

Angry Birds: 1, Grandparents: 0

Last week Chuck and Janet Bloom gave their only daughter a night off by taking their grandchildren out for dinner at a local pizza parlor. Both were looking forward to a playful evening with the kids. But as soon as they sat at the table,...

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New Year's Resolutions: 6 Ways to Achieve Lasting Change

(0) Comments | Posted January 3, 2014 | 10:36 AM

Despite the burning desire for chocolate, extramarital sex, blackjack, cocaine, alcohol, cigarettes, and the like that usually shows up somewhere around Jan. 3, New Year's resolutions can play a significant role in establishing and maintaining positive behavioral change. However, as nearly everyone knows -- addict, couch potato, or otherwise --...

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Oops, I Ate the Whole Pie (and Other Tales of Holiday Addiction)

(2) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 10:52 AM

It's hardly a secret that holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, New Year's, and the like cause many of us to overdo it with food, booze, spending, sex and a wide variety of other intensely pleasurable distractions. For the majority of us, those intensely pleasurable foods, substances, and behaviors are...

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Kids and Life Online: Are Parents' Fears Warranted?

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 9:42 AM

In today's world the majority of kids, especially those born in the United States and other first-world economies, have never experienced a universe without computers and high-speed Internet connections. As such, texting, posting to social media, online video gaming and other digital interactions are as natural to them as eating,...

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How Much Sex Is Healthy?

(47) Comments | Posted November 11, 2013 | 8:59 AM

Dancing the Horizontal Mambo

As a sexual addiction and intimacy disorders specialist, I am often asked about the frequency of sex. Couples want to know what is "healthy." Usually, they're afraid they're either having way too much sex or not nearly enough. Either way, it's a legitimate concern that can...

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Can Cheating Make Us Feel Good?

(12) Comments | Posted October 24, 2013 | 2:20 PM

A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology finds that behaving in unethical ways creates positive feelings in many people, especially if they know or believe that their behavior is not harming anyone. These results are in sharp contrast to previous theories of moral behavior, which...

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Is Thanks for Sharing an Honest Look Inside Sex Addiction Recovery?

(3) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 1:35 PM

A few years ago, the movie Shame hit theaters. A few people saw it, sex addicts and "normies" alike. Most non-sex addicts walked away somewhat shocked and maybe even appalled, not understanding how a smart, attractive, successful man could make such poor behavior choices. Sex addicts,...

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Is Porn Destroying Your Sex Life?

(48) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 11:31 AM

Statistics on Internet porn use are typically inflated. Porn providers pump up their numbers in an effort to increase advertising revenues, and anti-porn activists grab the most inflated stats they can find in an effort to show the all-pervasive nature of the supposed problem. Even the most conservative statistical estimates...

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Who's the Real Sex Addict? The Dubious Claims of Ariel Castro and Anthony Weiner

(4) Comments | Posted August 13, 2013 | 11:18 AM

Ariel Castro, the man who kidnapped and repeatedly raped three Ohio women for more than a decade, has once again asserted that he is not a "monster," but merely a sex addict -- this time at his sentencing hearing. Though I am not privy to the full facts of this...

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What the Heck Is Sex and Relationship Rehab?

(5) Comments | Posted August 5, 2013 | 3:21 PM

It seems like every time I turn on my television, open a newspaper, or go online, I'm hit with yet another story about a secret, problematic pattern of sexual misbehavior and/or multiple infidelities acted out by a major politician, sports star, actor, religious leader, teacher, coach or whomever. Sometimes these...

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Are Political Sex Scandals Passé? The Weiner Test Case

(13) Comments | Posted July 28, 2013 | 5:06 PM

They're Back!

Yes, that's former U.S. Congressman Anthony Weiner getting all the attention in the New York City mayoral race. Yes, that's former New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer running for New York City comptroller. Yes, that's former U.S. Congressman and South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford once again sitting in the...

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Waving the Rainbow Flag, With Guarded Optimism

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2013 | 4:31 PM

On June 28, 1969, New York City police perpetrated a typical late-night raid on a typical Greenwich Village fag bar known as the Stonewall Inn. But the Stonewall's patrons did not go quietly. They had simply had enough. On that night, a group of brave men and women finally said...

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