Have you heard about the growing "NoFap" movement in which men are choosing not to masturbate? Essentially, NoFap is a reaction by young males to the fact that some of them -- thanks mostly to omnipresent digital porn -- are losing interest in finding and engaging real-world sex...

Romantic love has always been one of mankind's greatest mysteries -- difficult to define, yet equally difficult to miss when it happens. For centuries poets, philosophers, and more than a few stray troubadours have endlessly pondered the nature of this ever-so-ephemeral emotion, providing us with a few moderately useful nuggets...

"Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well."

--President Barack Obama, inaugural address, Jan. 21, 2013...

Finding your soul mate is a numbers game and, sadly, the odds do not favor true love.

In fact, research suggests it's a sucker bet. Studies show that a single man or woman hoping to find a long-term partner should engage in somewhere between 15 and 25 new

A More Perfect Union?

Today's wedding announcement: sex and technology have merged. And folks, I'm not seeing a divorce on the horizon. The simple fact is that ever since the Internet arrived, our sexual and romantic lives have become more and more digitized, with "sexnology" offering opportunities for connection, dissociation,...

Once upon a time, there was no such thing as the Internet. Endless varieties and amounts of hardcore pornography were not available at the touch of a button. America had not yet been desensitized by digital smut, and sex was a taboo subject. Nowhere was this more evident than in...

It Takes Two to Tango

Most studies suggest that somewhere from 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages and other committed monogamous relationships will cheat on their partner at some point.

While cultural stereotypes inform us that it's mostly men who cheat on their wives or...

Over the past several years, I've written extensively on the nature and effects of pornography abuse. (Visit here and here for some basic information.) I am pleased to see that with Ricky Camilleri's recent HuffPostLive interview of Isaac Abel and others that this issue...

It's officially January; the time of year to take stock of your life, pinpoint your issues and change your perspective for the better. Perhaps you've gotten off to a good start by following through on your New Year's resolutions of hitting the gym, not letting the dirty dishes pile up...

Bah, Humbug

Whatever holidays you celebrate, or don't celebrate, the season running from Thanksgiving through Christmas/Kwanzaa/Hannukah/Festivus and into New Year's Eve and Day can be emotionally and psychologically difficult. The media bombards us with nostalgic, Norman Rockwell style imagery of happy families gathered around the fireplace, drinking hot cocoa topped...

Digital native is a term that refers to people who grew up interacting with computers and the Internet, a group that primarily consists of men and women age 30 and younger. And digital immigrants... well, that is the rest of us older folk. And while it is true that many...

The current drama now playing out in the media related to General David Petraeus' affair is without question the tip of the iceberg in relation to a concern that is both under-recognized and misunderstood by military leaders and the general public. It is neither salacious nor unpatriotic to hold an...

Sexual addiction is among the most hotly debated topics in the psychiatric community. Does it exist? If so, how do we define it? What should we call it? And does it belong in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) -- the "diagnostic bible" for psychological disorders?

Needless...

The Sleepy Little Town

Until recently, the seaside enclaves of Kennebunk, Maine were best known as the upscale locale of former president George H.W. Bush's summer vacation home. This picturesque setting has traditionally been viewed as a great place to dig for clams, eat lobster, and forget about the worries...

What's Love Got to Do With It?

More than a few of my sexually addicted and/or perennially cheating male clients enter treatment via what I like to call 'the spousal ejection method.' Meaning that a wife or long-term partner has basically said, "I'm tired of your cheating, your lies, and...

Last week I was in the Nashville airport after providing a week of human sexuality staff training at The Ranch, a rehab center that provides gender-separate residential treatment for adult sexual and romantic addictions, among other challenging emotional disorders. Much of that clinical training focused on the under-discussed and dramatically...

Looking for Love and Sex Online is Old News

For the better part of the past two decades online bulletin boards like Craigslist, dating websites such as eHarmony and Match.com, and endless pay-for-play sexual hookup websites have provided the single, lonely, horny, cheating, or simply bored man or woman with...