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Robert Weiss
Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S, is Senior Vice President of Clinical Development with Elements Behavioral Health, where he has created sex addiction programs at The Ranch treatment center in Tennessee and a women's substance abuse and intimacy disorders program at The Right Step drug rehab in Texas. As a well-known expert on the relationship between digital technology and human sexuality, he has served as a media specialist for CNN, The Oprah Winfrey Network, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and the Today Show, among others. For more information, visit his website.

Entries by Robert Weiss

Digi-Dating, Digi-Sex, Digi-Love

(1) Comments | Posted October 23, 2015 | 5:44 PM

1985: Marian, an unmarried 25-year-old resident of Chicago, felt lonely one evening. Hoping to meet Mr. Right (or at least Mr. Right Now), she showered, did her hair, put on makeup and slipped into her slinky black dress. Then she walked downstairs from her second-floor apartment, hailed a cab, and...
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Cheaters in Digital World Seeking One of Two Things

(0) Comments | Posted October 14, 2015 | 12:52 PM

It is generally believed that between 10 percent and 20 percent of men and women in supposedly monogamous long-term relationships (such as marriage) do not uphold their vow of fidelity, choosing instead to seek a bit of extracurricular sexual and/or romantic satisfaction elsewhere. In other words, they cheat. This fact...

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The Ashley Madison Hack: Everybody Loses

(2) Comments | Posted August 28, 2015 | 10:07 AM

I have created a help page with information, referrals, and support for those affected by the AM hack. To access this free webpage, click here.

So much for the last half of August being a slow news cycle. Between Jared Fogle (Subway), Josh Duggar...

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Sex by Wi-Fi: The New Frontier

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2015 | 6:47 PM

The most recent issue of Vanity Fair presents an exposé on the "adult friend finder" app, Tinder. And the picture painted by writer Nancy Jo Sales is not flattering. Essentially, through a series of vignettes set in bars and other millennial generation hangouts, Tinder and similar apps are...

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Online Infidelity Hack Raises National Cheater Anxiety

(1) Comments | Posted July 28, 2015 | 1:50 AM

Last week it was announced via KrebsOnSecurity that Ashley Madison, a website/app that helps married people cheat on their spouses, was compromised, with hackers threatening to systematically release the names, passwords, profiles and credit card information of AM's 37.5 million members unless the site permanently shuts down. The...

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Sex, Gaming, and the Virtual Horizon

(0) Comments | Posted July 21, 2015 | 1:36 PM

I'm not a gamer. It's just not my thing. Yes, I enjoyed Pong, Pac-Man, Frogger, Space Invaders, and even Donkey Kong way back in the Commodore 64 Stone Age (the 1980s), and yes, I may line up this month to see the new Pixels movie. But...

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Gay Marriage Is Here -- Tell Us What We've Won

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 12:15 PM

Once upon a time, same-sex couples had no legal rights. We could not get married, nor could we enjoy the many legal and financial benefits of that institution -- making medical decisions for our ailing partners, filing our taxes jointly, sharing in Social Security benefits, etc. In the eyes of...

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Beyond Grindr: Matchmaking in the Gay Marriage Era

(1) Comments | Posted June 26, 2015 | 1:46 PM

Once upon a time, gay men had few options for meeting, hooking up and dating. We could frequent gay bars, bathhouses, the men's room in the basement of a local department store, highway rest stops, the steam room at the gym, certain notorious parks, and that was about it.

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Were You Born to Cheat?

(2) Comments | Posted June 25, 2015 | 7:13 PM

Research on infidelity consistently suggests that about 15 percent to 20 percent of American adults, male and female alike, engage in sexual infidelity at least occasionally. Men who cheat are often lauded for their sexual conquests, referred to as "studs" and "players" by their friends. Meanwhile, women who...

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Nomophobia: Something New to Worry About? Not!

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2015 | 11:59 AM

Pop quiz. Nomophobia is:

a) Fear of former LA Dodgers pitcher Hideo Nomo.

b) Fear of a mostly unknown neighborhood in Portland where ex-hipsters go to shave off their beards, e.g., "no mo" life as a bristly poser.

c) Fear of being without your mobile phone or without mobile phone...

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Can You Really Be Addicted to a Behavior?

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2015 | 11:51 AM

Most people can easily comprehend addiction to a substance -- alcohol, illicit drugs, prescription medications, cigarettes, and even something like chocolate. If they've not dealt with such an addiction themselves, they know someone who has, or they've at least seen a fairly accurate depiction of the problem on TV or...

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Global Pride Summit - Online, Totally Free and Totally Awesome!

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2015 | 11:22 AM

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." --Mahatma Gandhi

It's 2015 and the world is not the homophobic place that it once was. Our most popular talk show host, Ellen DeGeneres, is an "out" lesbian. One of our most popular and award-winning TV shows, "Modern...

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Homophobia Today

(1) Comments | Posted April 16, 2015 | 4:28 PM

It's 2015 and gays like myself are still here, still queer and people seem to be getting used to us. Sort of.

Do my husband and I walk down the street holding hands in public? No, we don't. Not even in our home city of Los Angeles, which is...

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Why People Are Angry

(0) Comments | Posted March 20, 2015 | 3:56 PM

Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps out there. Launched in 2012, the matchmaking app now has more than 50 million users. As of today, more than half of Tinder's membership is in the highly desired (from an online dating perspective) 18-24 age demographic. And it appears the...

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Seeking Sobriety in the New Year: The Real Dope on the Imperfect Process of Recovery

(1) Comments | Posted February 2, 2015 | 11:10 AM

Slips vs. Relapse

Getting sober from alcoholism, drug addiction or a behavioral addiction (gambling, spending, sex, video gaming, etc.) is among the most common New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately, most addicts have little to no idea what that entails or how hard it's really going to be. Yes, some addicts do...

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Online Sex Can Shatter, Even Doom Relationships, Survey Finds

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 1:23 PM

In preparation for writing our soon-to-be-released book, Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age, my coauthor Dr. Jennifer Schneider and I, along with our colleague Dr. Charles Samenow, conducted a survey of men and women whose spouses or long-term partners were engaging in digital world sexual...

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Surviving Your Holidays: The Family Version

(1) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 2:01 PM

Forget About Perfect

The holidays are here, in all their sparkling glory. And holidays mean family -- an extra-large dose of the people you see every day, plus more time than normal with grandma, weird Uncle Ernie, your in-laws, and various other hangers-on, any and all of whom you may...

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Jason Reitman's New Film, Men, Women & Children, Offers Lessons in Modern-Day Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted October 22, 2014 | 5:37 PM

Men, Women & Children, the new film by writer/director Jason Reitman, is now in theaters. The story, based on Chad Kultgen's book of the same name, follows a group of small-town teens and their parents as both generations deal with a variety of real- and digital-world issues. At various points...

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Why Some People Just Can't Say No

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2014 | 5:47 PM

The Brain Wants What the Brain Wants

You're sitting in a nice restaurant with your family. You've eaten your salad and your entrée, and you're absolutely stuffed. Then the pastry chef wheels out the dessert tray. Even though you're full, the cakes, pies and puddings cause your mouth to water....

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What Is Online Pornography Doing to Our Boys?

(1) Comments | Posted September 25, 2014 | 1:45 PM

In today's world, many users of porn are adolescent and sometimes even prepubescent boys, and lots of folks are worried about how this may be affecting their development. The three primary questions they're asking read as follows:

1. How many boys are looking at online porn?
2. How...

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