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Robin Amos Kahn
Robin Amos Kahn. Writer, Speaker, Lead Coach at Own the Room. Plays include Scrambled Eggs, NYC, 2013. She has been nominated for five Emmys and won a Writers Guild Award. Currently working on a book about resilience. Her website is:

Entries by Robin Amos Kahn

A Primer On Divorce And Forgiveness

(7) Comments | Posted September 4, 2015 | 1:45 PM

Truths (according to me):

#1: Divorce is one of the most traumatic events in anyone's life. If anyone tells you they had an easy divorce, they are either lying or in denial.

#2: Divorce is better than staying in an unhappy marriage. As painful as it is to "rip...

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It Gets Better

(2) Comments | Posted May 29, 2015 | 1:12 PM

"Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness."
-Marianne Williamson

If someone had told me, even just a few years ago, that my ex husband and...

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Embracing 'And'

(3) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 7:34 AM

About 10 years ago, I was extremely depressed. I was what I like to call a card carrying member of the sandwich generation or given the times, "The Panini Generation."

Like many millions of people, I was caring for a parent (my mom, my dad had already died) and raising...

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The Obstacles On the Path Are the Path

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 10:40 AM

Over a period of several years, my life seemed like an impossible obstacle course. I was a card carrying member of the sandwich generation. For 10 years, I was my mother's primary caregiver and she was in and out of hospitals, emergency rooms, and even hospices, until her death in...

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What If Someone Told You to Jump Off a Cliff

(0) Comments | Posted November 19, 2014 | 10:22 AM

I was one of those kids in school whose hand always shot up with answers. Well, to clarify, that was in history and English -- and probably not ever in math or science.

All through college, in almost all of my classes, I always had plenty to say.

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Dear President Obama

(19) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 3:33 PM

Dear President Obama,

I wanted to make out with you. I was so in awe of the way you managed to get Obamacare through that insane Congress, run mostly by a bunch of Republicans. (OK, maybe they are not all lunatics, just the obstructionist, obnoxious ones -- does that narrow...

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The Freedom of Letting Go

(1) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 4:49 PM

Passover commemorates the liberation of the Israelites from slavery in Egypt, 3,300 years ago, led by Moses, a.k.a. Charlton Heston in the movie The Ten Commandments. It is the story of a heroic and daring Exodus from slavery to freedom and it is also the story of 40 years of...

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It Doesn't Matter What You Say: Lessons Learned from Maya Angelou and Pema Chodron

(2) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 11:10 AM

"I've learned that people won't remember what you said
And people won't remember what you did
People will only remember how you made them feel."
-- Maya Angelou

In 2005, my mother was in a hospital, dying. I remembered that a friend of mine, Pippa,...

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Divorce: "You Will Survive"

(4) Comments | Posted February 20, 2014 | 12:33 PM

Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true, because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and...they just had a great thing, and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has...
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How Pema Chodron Saved My Life

(0) Comments | Posted November 1, 2013 | 9:45 AM

In October, 2004, my mother nearly died. All her organs were failing and it seemed unlikely that she would last more than a few days in the hospital where she had been for several weeks. I remembered a friend of mine was a volunteer at a wonderful hospice, Jacob Perlow...

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The Peaks and the Valleys

(3) Comments | Posted October 10, 2013 | 4:55 PM

"Our own suffering, if we turn toward it, can open us up to a loving relationship with the world." -- Pema Chodron

Whenever I hit a valley in my life and I feel hopeless or worried, somehow if I can lean into it, sit with it, turn toward it, it...

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Men, Divorce, and Love

(4) Comments | Posted October 4, 2013 | 2:28 PM

One night, a few years ago, I went to a party for a professional organization I am a member of. Most people there were getting pretty drunk, feeling the effects of the lousy economy. I saw an old friend of mine, someone I hadn't seen in many years. He flirted...

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The Blessings of Everyday Life

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2013 | 11:42 AM

But listen to me
For one moment quit being sad

Hear blessings dropping their blossoms all around you.


Every morning when I wake up these days, I find I am in various states of sadness, hopelessness, despair, discontent. And every morning I have a practice...

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Rising From the Ashes

(2) Comments | Posted September 16, 2013 | 1:22 PM

From 2001-2009 I was a caregiver for my mother, who was in and out of emergency rooms, hospitals, nursing homes and rehabs. I was also raising a teenage daughter, living with a husband whose business had gone under, working hard at my own job, and walking two dogs. I was...

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Thank You, G-D, for This Hellish Divorce and All the Crap That Goes Along With It

(24) Comments | Posted August 26, 2013 | 12:16 PM

I was sitting next to two men recently in a coffeehouse and one of them was complaining (whining) about his divorce.

"I hate my life. My ex is killing me in the divorce, I can't find a job, I feel like sh*t all the time, my kids don't call,...

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Write for Your Life

(4) Comments | Posted August 14, 2013 | 11:59 AM

Divorce. Death. Job loss. Moving. Daughter leaving home. Empty nest. Really empty nest. Two dogs, no job. Financial insecurity. Fear.

In 2009 I went through almost the entire list of life's most stressful events. To say I got hit by what felt like a tsunami of loss would not...

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Barbra, Donna, Piper and Me

(1) Comments | Posted August 5, 2013 | 5:38 PM

This morning I was taking a walk and suddenly the words "No More Tears: ENOUGH IS ENOUGH" hit me and I thought of Donna Summer and the song she sang with Barbra Streisand back in 1979. I was thinking about how I've been writing some really depressing blog posts about...

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Living in the 'I Don't Know'

(6) Comments | Posted July 23, 2013 | 8:32 PM

This morning I woke up at 5 a.m. from a bad dream. I was on my way to a job interview somewhere in midtown Manhattan and I ended up in Canada. Lost. No offense to Canada, but I felt an overwhelming sense of anxiety and dread. I was too embarrassed...

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Welcome to Crazy Time

(4) Comments | Posted July 12, 2013 | 6:09 PM

Recently I ran into an acquaintance I hadn't seen in a few years. She is in middle of a nasty divorce. "This is a nightmare!" she told me. They have kids, so both custody and finances are at the heart of the dispute.

My own divorce was final two...

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Divorce, Illness and Compassion

(14) Comments | Posted June 27, 2013 | 6:08 PM

A couple of weeks ago, I found out that my husband was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer.

He is actually my ex -husband. We have been divorced for almost two years. Anyone who has read any of my writings about our divorce, knows that it was not an...

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