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Weight a Minute!

Posted: 04/28/10 11:16 AM ET

Can you believe it? Something said on the Howard Stern Show created a controversy.

We were talking about how Precious star Gabourey Sidibe's weight will negatively affect her health and career. I guess by stating the obvious we hit a nerve because the mainstream media went wild calling us mean. The reaction of the African American community has been even more confounding, calling Howard racist and me a sellout and a House Negro. What no one wanted to confront was the validity of our argument.

To say there won't be a lot of leading roles in the future for Gabourey is hardly some kind of giant, racist leap. Precious is not your average film. The filmmakers had to go out and find an actress who looked the part. Most working actors start out thin and contort themselves to fit a role. Robert De Niro won acclaim for gaining weight to play Jake LaMotta in Raging Bull, but quickly slimmed down again so he could continue to qualify for the many different parts he would be offered. The same can be said for actresses Rene Zellwegger and Charlize Theron.

But what about when an actor is already overweight? When was the last time you saw Kirstie Alley in a movie? Once a leading lady, she is now hounded by paparazzi trying to catch her shoving something into her mouth and doing show after show about her efforts to slim down so she can work again. Oh, but, our critics point out, look at Kathy Bates and Queen Latifah. Let's be real: both these women have gained and lost weight over the years. They continue to struggle to lose weight because they know it's important to their careers, and while neither of them will ever be Zoe Saldano, they are not Gabourey Sidibe either.

I wonder why nobody except me and Howard Stern are willing to say that Gabourey needs help. She is not just overweight, she is dangerously obese. I understand that she was discovered this way, but after the film someone should have said, "Hey Gabby, it would be great if you slimmed down so that you can capitalize on the opportunities that will be coming your way."

When you're in the public eye, like it or not, you become a role model. Precious is the kind of film that speaks to people. I, for one, am afraid of what is being said to African American girls about the movie's star by the media. Is it really okay for Gabourey to be looking forward to another fast food orgy at the Chick fil-A? Does she really look great on the red carpet? Is she really a part of Hollywood, or just its latest victim?

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 50% of black women are obese. Obesity is a risk factor for every major disease including heart disease, stroke and diabetes. Two of Gabourey's co-stars in Precious have openly talked about struggling to control their weight now that they have been diagnosed as diabetic--and neither was ever the size of Gabourey.

We can't be for Gabourey continuing to eat out of control and for the First Lady's campaign to stamp out childhood obesity at the same time. We have to start being honest about how deadly this health crisis is, particularly in the black community. We have to be able to say that Gabourey is fat.

I know the deal; I've been there. I was clinically obese. I never thought it was cool, nor did I want anyone encouraging me to eat more. I was devastated by the way I felt and the way I looked. I feared that because no one commented on my condition people thought I wanted to look that way. Everyone says Gabourey has a good attitude. Well, what is she suppose to do? When I was going through it I didn't say anything either. I even stopped talking about dieting because I was tired of failing publicly.

I never gave up though, and I eventually found my way back to sanity around food. As a result of all I've learned, I believe we need a Food Bill of Rights in the Constitution to help us make informed choices about what we eat and how our food got to our plates. This is a right as much as clean, drinkable water. I'm going to let you know how my food bill progresses and I want your input. We're all in this health crisis together and it will take all of us to get out. The first step in solving any problem is being able to identify it. Let's start telling each other the truth about weight. It's killing us.

 

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10:39 AM on 06/05/2010
Each of the article's observations are accurate in themselves. But so much of the obesity discussion is about attractiveness more than health. It's one of many public health problems, but it apparently grants a politically correct loophole to the schoolyard bullies and frat guys who've been doing the same thing forever.
02:08 PM on 05/12/2010
Hi Robin, I hope you read these comments to your article. I've listened to you and Howard on the radio for years. Your entire show is social satire and commentary. Your comments about Gabourey Sidibe were honest and true. If people dislike the format in which the message was delivered then so be it! You and Howard are brutally honest about yourselves on the show and have never feared to tread lightly on topics others are uncomfortable about. I think when the health and well-being of the country is plunging (most of it due to the obesity epidemic) somebody has to stop being fake and start telling the truth. I'm excited to hear about your upcoming adventures!
04:03 PM on 05/05/2010
The Howard Stern Show is not for sensitive crybabies. It's raw and edgy, and I love it! With that candid discussion, Howard and Robin were doing what they do best, ragging on an obese woman who has little chance of being an A-list actress.
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09:36 AM on 04/30/2010
Did anyone actually HEAR the comment? I know that as a former long-time fan I gave up on the show last fall. It's not even worth bootlegging. I don't want to hear about some fat actress, I want to know what Howard Stern turned his back on his own show and on his insanely loyal fans.
09:26 AM on 04/30/2010
How many skinny, beautiful, talented Hollywood actresses are out of work right now? Gabby's size is an essential aspect of the career she selected. She's not asking to be a CEO, she doesn't want to be a zoologist. She wants to hold her own in a career where beauty, talent and a Q-tip figure are the primary concerns of those who will make or break you. That's the way it is and why get made at the people who point that out? Would you tell her she could be a Supermodel, too? Who's kidding who?
03:31 PM on 04/30/2010
of course other actors and actresses are out of work, that is a no pointer, obviously no one could be hired as lead roles at the same time. And do you know who gets the lead roles? People who could do their job and are good/very good at it. Yeah i liked precious, i saw it two times, but she showed her immaturity as an actress on SNL, Sidibe has said she would like to be in comedies. And SNL is usually a stepping stone for actors/actresses into movies. Granted she was only the 'host', she fluffed most of her lines, her caribbean accent was rather offending, me having born and grew up in the caribbean.
07:28 AM on 04/30/2010
first of all, if ANY of you saw Sidibe on the street, and she was not an actress, you'd be like,' that girl needs to lose weight' and be very judgmental, so to the people supporting her, pleases get off your high horse. And you cannot compare other celebrities and their careers to others, everyone's career would NOT be the same, believe it or not. And i hope people know that a tv series is usually canceled if their first 7 episodes or more or less first season is poor.

And did anyone catch he SNL guest performances? They were POOR. This is her job and she baffled it on LIVE tv.

This girl needs to lose weight, for her sake, for young girls that look up to her and her fans, because if she gets a heart attack sometime I hope the fans would feel good about themselves supporting her 'lifestyle'.

Being overweight could be categorized with drugs, let's check- both addictive, bad for long term health, both causes major heart attacks, and the list goes on. All the junk she eats is like 'legal drugs'. She really needs to hit a diet.

And before any judgmental people say anything, I am a proud half black man, with black relatives, and lived in predominantly black neighborhoods, and love my people, i just speak the truth everyone tries to be blind about.
05:29 PM on 04/29/2010
Robin you and your boss were making fun of Gabourey Sidibe. All you cared about was the punchline, not her waistline. You got called on it so now you're trying to walk it back. Too much, too little, too late.
04:51 PM on 04/29/2010
I happened to be listening to the Stern show that day, and I have to say this is all just spin. At the time there was no concern over health or career, it was just making fun of someone who is over weight. How are comments like "She is as big as a planet" and "She can play the linebacker on Blind Side 2" commentary on health or Hollywood's obsession with weight. The whole commentary on health and career only came after the backlash started.
07:55 PM on 05/03/2010
Agreed....Im a loyal listener and they totally were trying spin their stance after the uproar, but to be fair he says way more outrageous stuff on a daily basis. The Blind Side 2 line cracked me up though I have to admit.
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02:48 PM on 04/29/2010
The scrub police are in full force today.
Stern and Quivers were commenting on the fact that and Obese person is less likely to have a long lasting Hollywood Movie career then one that is not obese.
Plain and simple
02:23 PM on 04/29/2010
There have been many successful actresses and actors that had weight issues. Shelly Winters,
Queen Latifah, etc. But there is no question how unhealthy it is. But did Stern and Quivers voice concern over her health when they did this bit??
Quivers also should try to excuse herself and Stern about how the actress will end up killing herself.
This is nothing new to them. Saying something outrageous to get publicity. Everybody knows this by now. What Quivers is doing is saying they were trying to help her out.
What a load of junk.
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02:44 PM on 04/29/2010
Wrong, they were pointing out the obvious.
An obese man or woman is less likely to have a major long lasting Hollywood movie career than one that is not obese. What is it about this simple fact you seem to miss.
They pointed this out on day one then the media took hold of it and it turned into Gabourey's health and the health of all obese persons, men and women.
I listen to them every day and have for years. I get the jokes that you seem to take exception to.
Try to have a sense of humor and lighten up. You can always change the channel or not read the article.
09:31 AM on 04/30/2010
Shelly Winters was not always fat -- she used to be thin and stunningly beautiful. That's when her career started. Queen Latifah is a CHARACTER ACTOR at best and a character actor isn't what Gabyy wants to be. Can you name a fat leading actress who was fat from the get-go? (Remember, they had to become a leading actress WHEN THEY WERE FAT. No fair pointing to Elizabeth Taylor who proved her mettle long before she started gaining weight.) Okay, got your list? Go!
01:50 PM on 04/29/2010
Robin, you have made a huge difference in my life. First it was the day you mentioned the movie "Food Inc" and thank you for introducing it to the world. I had never heard of it. I am morbidly obese and have had this problem all my life. My diet is really odd, but the day you and Howard started discussing Gabby, I decided that I will lose weight even if I have to starve myself. I'm sick of being obese and I thank you both for showing me I have to do what I have to do in order to get rid of all the problems that have come with my body o' lard.

Thank you! ;c)
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03:43 PM on 04/29/2010
Starving isn't healthy either. Try making it simple by burning the same amount of calories you eat every day. If that doesn't work, you might want to see a nutritionist about tailoring your diet to your genetics for optimal exercise results.
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01:43 PM on 04/29/2010
Over 60% of the nation is either overweight or obese. Only 7% has diabetes. Most of those with diabetes are overweight, but there is the fact that insulin resistance causes weight gain. Genetics + lifestyle is the magic formula that determines whether you get diabetes, not obesity.

Your comments on her career are dead wrong. Her role on "The Big C" was recently expanded because of the popularity of her character. She is also the lead in a film called "Yelling to the Sky." Only time will tell if her career will be stunted by her size.

As far as leading actors who are fat... there are plenty of movies with fat men or traditionally unattractive men. Why the double standard? Why is a fat woman in Hollywood so worthy of scorn and contempt? It speaks more to your own feelings about fat than about Gabby's ability or career.

Finally, you have no idea what Gabby eats. So she wanted to go to Chick-Fil-A. Wow, what a crime against humanity... I don't see hear pundits obsessing over all the Hollywood celebs in fast food drive-throughs, yet TMZ has pictures of them constantly. You have no idea what her lifestyle habits are and, quite frankly, they are none of your business.

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02:50 PM on 04/29/2010
"Your comments on her career are dead wrong. Her role on "The Big C" was recently expanded because of the popularity of her character. She is also the lead in a film called "Yelling to the Sky." Only time will tell if her career will be stunted by her size."

Thanks for stating the obvious.
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02:59 PM on 04/29/2010
Stating the obvious? You mean that thus far her career has not been hindered by her size? Or do you mean that she is proving to be a more popular actress than Stern and Quivers assume?

Yeah, time will tell is obvious, but the fact that she is a working actress is not, based on Quivers' comments.

Peace,
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02:57 PM on 04/29/2010
Your comments on her health are also way off track. I can give you 10 solid, research-based reasons why that is so. If you would like to engage in a discussion on obesity and health, I'm all for it. But sadly, people like you tend to rely on stereotypes about fatties keeling over to inform the "science" you take for granted. Fat people are not walking timebombs. If you are eat healthy and exercise, no matter what your size, you can be healthy.

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Tara James
11:46 AM on 04/29/2010
People are reacting to the nastiness and disrespect you and Howard show toward Gabby. I listen to you guys on a fairly regular basis. Calling her, or anyone who is fat, a whale, or saying that they are big as a house is hardly productive. People shut down to a message that may or may not be legitimate when you use a shovel to bang it into their heads. The way you talk about her and others who don't conform to your standards (or Howard's love of the anorexic) is pretty despicable.
Like I said, I'm a listener and often find the show entertaining, but I turn it off when you both get on your high horse about how you think a person is suppose to look.
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11:57 AM on 04/29/2010
Right on Tara! Especially about their meanspirited attacks on Ms Sidibe and, as you put it, "Howard's love of the anorexic".
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02:49 PM on 04/29/2010
I felt Howard and Robin's "discussion" about Ms. Sidibe's physical appearance went too far and was mean spirited...both Robin and Howard tried to put a different spin on it after they were criticized for their attack on this girl after the Academy Awards. Robin is now the spokesperson for weight loss which I find funny since she isn't all that svelte herself.
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07:03 AM on 04/29/2010
I predict Ms. Sidibe will lose wight.
I also predict she will develop her skills as a character actress, and she will find roles that play to her strengths.
The future is not written and there is no guessing what roles will become available.
Hopefully she will be able to balance out quality/important roles with roles she must take to keep working (which are often self denigrating; i.e. Berry in Monster's Ball).

Acting is not a "fair" career choice, it's rarely even a meritocracy.
Hollywood is shallow even if you want to work BEHIND the camera.
BTW, what ever happened to the kids from "Slumdog Millionaire" now that they are no longer in the spotlight?
09:13 PM on 04/28/2010
Robin, I'm really curious about how you changed your attitude about food. Did you have a food addiction? Were you using food as a psychological replacement for a need that wasn't being fulfilled? I would love to hear your whole story. You touch on it very briefly in your last two paragraphs. How about writing another book?