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About the time Ronna Benjamin turned 50, she had an epiphany. After 28 years , she realized she couldn't stand being a real estate attorney for even one more minute (can you imagine?) She jumped into the world of writing as her "encore" career, and never looked back. Ronna teamed up with Better After 50 founder Felice Shapiro, and soon became a partner, managing editor and weekly humor columnist for BA50. She writes about the things BA50s are concerned about: adult children, aging parents, illness, anxiety and insomnia, to name a few. Ronna is thrilled to be working with the awesome women at BA50. She is a native Bostonian and loves to spend time with her wonderful husband and three adult children. She also loves to cook, sail, ski, run and bike, and she is always on the look out for the next great diet.

Entries by Ronna Benjamin

18 Things Kids And Parents Each Need To Know Before The Kids Leave The Nest

(12) Comments | Posted June 17, 2016 | 5:10 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

"Did you change the bed and put on new linens?" I asked my daughter on the phone, crossing my fingers.

"Of course I changed the linens, mom. When I'm a guest, I know to make the bed with fresh linens."

I...

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What Does 'Delete Your Account' Mean? -- I Had To Ask My Kids

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2016 | 5:47 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

Apparently, I have just blown in from Stupid Town. The words everyone seemed to be talking about last week, "Delete your account," made me feel old and out of touch.

"Delete Your Account" was, of course, @HillaryClinton's response to @realDonaldTrump's attack tweet:...

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Does Your Sense Of Humor Age?

(1) Comments | Posted June 16, 2016 | 5:13 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

The other day I was in the car alone, listening to Morning Edition, or On Point with Tom Ashbrook, or This American Life with Ira Glass -- I listen to them all, and I can't...

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Why You Should Go To Your 40th Reunion

(1) Comments | Posted May 24, 2016 | 5:47 AM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

Among us, we have had seven husbands.

We have had two divorces, if you count the one currently in process.

We have had one death of a spouse.

We have had one breast cancer survivor.

...
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Why Don't Parents Drug Their Kids Anymore?

(0) Comments | Posted May 23, 2016 | 1:40 PM

A woman recently told me that years ago, when she was about to take her two babies on a long plane trip, she sought out the advice of a British mother who had five children. This older and wiser mom was a seasoned traveler with children--back and forth from London...

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18 Free (Or Almost Free) Things You Can Do To Spread Happiness

(2) Comments | Posted April 30, 2016 | 8:25 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

"Help me out," I told my friend as we walked through the woods. I did not need a hand over the roots sticking out from the muddy path. I did not need a sip of her water. I needed mind help......

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8 Things Every Breast Cancer Patient Should Know

(3) Comments | Posted April 11, 2016 | 6:26 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

"You can make an appointment to see us in six months."

Those words, from my oncologist's PA last week, were the sweetest words I have heard in a very long time. For while I still have three weeks to go with...

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What The Hell Does My Daughter Do For A Living?

(4) Comments | Posted March 29, 2016 | 5:12 AM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

I envy the moms who can describe in one or two words what their kid does for a living: Accountant. Physician. Teacher. Ah, the beauty of simplicity!

For those of us moms (and dads) who lack a basic understanding...

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What It's Really Like To Be A Bald Woman

(1) Comments | Posted January 26, 2016 | 4:06 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

Recently, on New Year's Day, I got out of bed with just a trace of a hangover, ran my fingers through my hair, and took a bunch of strands with me to the bathroom. What a way to start 2016, right?

...
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24 Types Of Friends Everyone Will Recognize At Midlife

(1) Comments | Posted September 28, 2015 | 5:40 AM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

Every so often, I get really into a Buzzfeed article. I don't go around talking about it, because I'm a little embarrassed that I (sometimes) read Buzzfeed (only after reading the Times, the WSJ, and finishing the...

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This Is Why I Delayed Cancer Surgery

(1) Comments | Posted August 29, 2015 | 12:15 AM

"I have 3 things I want to accomplish before the sun goes down," I tell Mike as I drop the mooring in Provincetown Harbor, just heading out for a 20-hour sail up to Maine.

"What's that?" he asks, but he cuts me off by pointing a finger to starboard. "Look - there's a...

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How Do You Say Goodbye To A Family Home?

(4) Comments | Posted August 10, 2015 | 7:45 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

For many people, "Arlington Road" conjures up the 1999 mystery thriller starring Jeff Bridges with the tag line, "Fear Thy Neighbor." But my relationship with Arlington Road started well before 1999, and there is nothing fast moving, mysterious or...

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Ben Affleck And The Experts Are Wrong: Marriage Is Not Hard Work

(2652) Comments | Posted July 8, 2015 | 7:01 AM

Ronna and MikeYou are only as happy as your most unhappy child. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Deciding whom you'll marry is the most important decision you'll ever make. Marriage is a lot of hard work.

All true? Most people...

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The Bridal Shower: How (On Earth) Is THIS Still A Thing?

(93) Comments | Posted July 2, 2015 | 3:01 PM

Ever since I started watching comedian John Oliver's "Last Week Tonight" on HBO, I've been yearning to write this piece. I know it's another, "WTF? If you write that, you will probably lose a few friends" kind of piece (see 17 Things Not To Say To...

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17 Things Not To Say To A Friend With Breast Cancer

(0) Comments | Posted June 25, 2015 | 7:00 AM

This article was originally published on BetterAfter50.com.

I don't want to seem like an ungrateful bitch (one whom ironically practices Gratitude) but I feel the need to vent a little. I have cancer, so you will have to forgive me (nice use of the

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Can It Be Better After 50... With Breast Cancer?

(0) Comments | Posted May 15, 2015 | 2:37 PM

life with breast cancerThe nurse at the renowned Dana Farber Cancer Institute asked for my email address.

"It's ronna@betterafter50.com," I told her.

I repeated the address, to make sure she knew not to spell out the 'fifty.'

"It's Better after 5-0" I...

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50 Things I Don't Feel Guilty About Now That I'm 50

(16) Comments | Posted March 11, 2015 | 6:56 AM

Because it's (almost) always better after 50, I'm done feeling guilty ... how about you? Here's what I'm not feeling guilty about any more...


  1. cover2Boycotting restaurants that have calorie counts on the menu.

  2. Losing my new lipstick within...

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How I Finally Quieted My Mind

(4) Comments | Posted August 21, 2014 | 7:08 AM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

no time to readMy eyebrows need a good tweezing, my hair is a tangled mess of curls, and I haven't even thought about makeup. I've been wearing the same shorts for the past...

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5 Reasons I Hate When You Are Late

(3) Comments | Posted August 5, 2014 | 12:32 PM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

My Dear Chronically (not Occasionally) Late Friends,

I know this piece may make me sound bitter and angry, but I'm compelled to write it. I need to tell you that I love you a lot, but when you are...

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How Hard Could It Be To Learn A New Language After 50?

(2) Comments | Posted July 30, 2014 | 6:56 AM

This article was originally published on Better After 50.

Last week I took my first Spanish lesson. Apparently, I am as qualified today as I was at my last language lesson almost 40 years ago. Surely, when I travel to Costa Rica this winter, I'll be able to dazzle the kids with my...

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