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Rory Vaden
Rory Vaden, MBA is Co-founder of Southwestern Consulting, Self-Discipline Strategist and International Speaker, and New York Times bestselling author of Take the Stairs.

Entries by Rory Vaden

4 Misconceptions About Self-Discipline

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2014 | 6:13 PM

Self-Discipline is one of those things that we all know we need but that no one likes to talk about or learn about. Sometimes we even shudder at hearing or seeing the word. Perhaps though it's because most people have a skewed sense of what self-discipline really is and what...

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7 Ways to Lose Trust

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2014 | 8:19 AM

Trust is the lubricant for all relationships. People are perpetually evaluating our trustworthiness. When we have their trust we move through things quickly; we make progress. But once we lose someone's trust we attach a slowing weight to the possibility of ever making progress.

Some people may be more trusting...

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The Enjoyment 'Requirement'

(0) Comments | Posted March 26, 2014 | 3:57 PM

My mom thought it would be good for me to learn a little self-discipline, so when I was 5 years old, she put me into martial arts. Being a small kid in the class I typically got beat up on a bit, so I didn't always like going. I would...

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Money Value of Time

(0) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 9:06 AM

The Time Value of Money is the calculation used to determine what an amount of money you have today will be worth at some point in the future by adding in an estimated amount of interest or inflation for that time period. It's a concept that you've probably heard of...

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Ignore Your Inbox

(0) Comments | Posted November 14, 2013 | 12:15 PM

If email is the first thing you read every morning, then you are not maximizing your productivity.

Don't take it personal. I know you're reading your email first thing every morning because you are a sophisticated, intelligent, hard-working person who is committed to doing a good job. And you're simply...

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The Mysterious Power of Giving

(0) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 3:42 PM

As I think about my own various journeys of self-discipline in life, few have been more challenging and arduous than learning to give. I didn't grow up homeless, but at times, it was only because my mom had friends that would take us in.

I remember living in a...

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Champion Character

(0) Comments | Posted September 12, 2013 | 4:12 PM

A champion is someone who has character and class regardless of circumstances. Although we tend to think of champions as people who win in terms of score, results or hitting some empirical mark, the true measure of a champion is someone who cares more about how they play the game...

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The Commitment Conundrum

(4) Comments | Posted October 31, 2012 | 8:40 AM

Dear _____,

You aren't doing yourself any favors by breaking your commitment. You have rationalizations and justifications for why it's okay, sure, but none of them are the honest truth about why you are going back on your word.

Tell yourself whatever fictional stories you want to make yourself...

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How to Work Double-Time Part Time for Full-Time Free Time

(19) Comments | Posted August 7, 2012 | 6:20 AM

Balance is crap. The concept of balance is not only a discordant metaphor for how to spend your time but an ineffective strategy. Striving for "work-life" balance is an impractical standard; it's one that won't bring you the results you truly seek -- and it should be avoided.

By definition...

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Flat-Tire Freedom: The Truth About Saying Goodbye To Stress

(2) Comments | Posted August 3, 2012 | 8:04 AM

If you had a flat tire today driving on the way to work, and someone asked you at dinner later on "How was your day?" you would probably tell him or her about the flat tire, wouldn't you?

Anyone who has ever had a flat tire can tell you it's...

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3 Ways to Stop Complaining! Because You're Stressing Me Out...

(44) Comments | Posted June 19, 2012 | 8:00 AM

You chose the life that you have right now. Your choices have all led you to be exactly where you are at this very moment. While there certainly are uncontrollable parts about life, the reality is that the majority of your life is the direct result of the decisions you...

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How to Fight: 10 Rules of Relationship Conflict Resolution

(41) Comments | Posted May 11, 2012 | 6:10 AM

Great relationships develop not from the absence of conflict, but from determining an agreeable pattern for how to resolve conflict. Defining the rules of engagement for how you "fight" with someone you care about is ultimately much more important than trying to never have a disagreement.

If you care about...

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How to 'Own' Your Dream

(3) Comments | Posted April 27, 2012 | 6:40 AM

It is a peculiar truth of life that we often do not appropriately value the things we don't directly pay for. One of the problems with credit is that it enables us to have something that we "want" now even though we might not really need it. And had we...

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The High Cost of Always Being 'Right'

(5) Comments | Posted April 19, 2012 | 7:20 AM

After years of coaching successful professionals in a variety of disciplines, I've come to see that when conflicts arise, many of us tend to care more about being "right" than we do about finding the best course of action.

I'm sure you've experienced this in your own life, at the...

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