Tips On Building Commitment In A Relationship

In order for us to know how to commit, we need to understand what it means to be committed. People's needs are changing, and we live in a society where our individuality is a big part of our growth process and who we are. As a result, the world commitment is reshaping itself while keeping its foundation. Commitment means making something strong and healthy.

For many people, times of staying in an empty relationship to satisfy their basic needs have come to an end, and more and more people are looking for true love, a soul mate, or profound connections. Relationships are dynamic and changing because we as human beings are changing.

There is a thick line between verbally committing to something without a real sense of commitment and an authentic sense of commitment. To whom and how much you want to commit are personal choices depending on your personality, your needs, your emotional maturity, your lifestyle and your thinking process. The key is to know yourself and to be honest to yourself and to others with whom you have a relationship with. You may want to commit casually in some cases and more seriously in other cases depending on how much you feel close to the person you are committing to. But if you find yourself wanting a stable and long-lasting relationship, then it is fundamental to make a stronger commitment.

When you commit, it helps you become resilient during the down times and disappointments, and it helps you sustain whatever you are committed to despite tough times while at the same time respecting each other's freedom and individuality.

In order for a commitment to be healthy, the following can be taken into consideration:

It takes a disciplined mind to focus on what the heart wants and to walk toward it. Once there, it still needs determination to keep it moving toward becoming stronger and stronger. At the end, keep your perspective and be realistic -- not idealistic -- with how the relationship evolves. You need to be more flexible than ever to be able to fit into this ever-changing world and to be able to truly commit to something of value to you. At the end, when you commit to something, the feeling should be rewarding and nurturing.

Roya R.Rad, MA, PsyD
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Comments

[Amy Fightmaster]

10:10 AM on 04/18/2012

This article has a lot of good points. I am not in a committed relationship but when that day comes I will do my best to remember the eleven points you go over. Some of the points can also be applied to being committed to other things in life. When being committed to anything, not just a relationship, it is good idea to be honest, and practice routines, having motivation to stay committed, make plans to keep a connection with whatever it is you are commiting to, and understanding that somethings are not going to be perfect and you need to be more accepting.

[Michaele S Gray]

04:09 PM on 04/30/2012

I never thought of it that way, but you're right! These eleven points can be used in other situations in life and not just a relationship. For example, these points can be used when trying to obtain a degree.

[TAMCRANDELL]

10:49 AM on 04/16/2012

I find this article to be informative whether you are trying to find a meaningful relationship or you are trying to better your current relationship. I have been in a committed relationship for 5 years and I think that I will apply these rules to make mine a productive and substantial connection. We already practice some of these suggestions: date night, being honest with each other, connecting spiritually, and staying true to ourselves. I believe that all of these things is making our relationship stronger and will keep us together longer. Thanks, Dr. Rad, for I will be applying and using these tips to make it even better!

[Michaele S Gray]

04:03 PM on 04/30/2012

I totally agree with Tammy on this! You have to maintain the spice in your relationship by continuing to date eachother if you want the relationship to last. Even if your schedules conflit, try to set aside at least one day a week aolne with one another.

[Michaele S Gray]

05:11 PM on 04/11/2012

This article can help anyone wanting to be in a committed relationship. Even if you are already committed to your significant other, these tips provides excellent adivce on how to keep it that way.

[eric14]

08:51 AM on 04/08/2012

How casual does casual commitment have to be before it is not commitment at all? Your use of the expression ''to commit casually'' seems to undermine what commitment means. Surely the truth is that casual commitment is no commitment at all, except in name of course.

[Michaele S Gray]

05:09 PM on 04/11/2012

Dr. Rad stated that casual dating requires a different type of commitment than that of a more serious relationship. Based off of this, all she's saying is to simply be up front with the person so that there will be no surprises later on in the relationship.