How well did 2012 turn out for you? How would you like to see 2013 go? What can you do about it? These are amongst my favorite questions, the answers to which can be best summed up with this simple paraphrasing from Alice in Wonderland and a debt of gratitude...

If you would like to live your perfect life, the first thing you must do is give up your pursuit of perfection. How's that for double talk? The main challenge with perfection is that perfection almost always lies just out of reach, sort of the impossible dream that can't be...

Would you like to discover the power to create the life you want rather than the one you have settled for? You may be surprised to learn that you already have considerably more power than you may have realized, and the source of that power is already within you. Last...

So many people these days seem to be lost in a sea of complaint and blame regarding their life circumstances, little understanding that much of their plight comes from their own lack of action when difficulties arise. Make no mistake here: I am not saying that all is rosy out...

Are you expecting any joy in your life today? If so, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. However, if you can shift your attitude to one of anticipating joy, you may find that you are on a better road toward experiencing more of what you seek in life....

Hopefully, you answered no one! However, life today seems littered with hate-inspired rhetoric, whether over matters politic, economic or just plain personal. I've even heard "I hate" used by one internal corporate group denouncing another internal group or team. Going well beyond the juvenile "I hate you" when you don't...

A few weeks ago, we discussed the notion of "I'm upset because..." following from an earlier discussion that many of us are drinking our own poison, hoping the other person will die. There are several common threads woven through all these articles, and they all have...

Earlier today, a husband and wife team from a major news outlet came by the Oasis at the Republican Convention seeking a respite from the heat -- both political and tropical. As she said, "My husband is about to have a meltdown." A...

Have you ever experienced a crushing rejection and later discovered that being rejected was actually one of those proverbial "blessings in disguise"? Just this past weekend, I was talking with a friend who recounted a recent experience of hers that was breathtakingly powerful for her. A couple of weeks ago,...

What are you upset about these days? Health care? Government? The economy? Politics? Whatever it is, you can be sure that some politico is going to try and rile you up even more in hopes of wrangling a vote out of you. Make no mistake, no matter which side of...

Last week, thousands of you read "How to Heal Your Secret Hurt," and many wrote to thank me for the article. Some asked a telling question: "How do you avoid hurt in the first place?" What a super question!

Hurt feelings often stem from expectations or unspoken demands...

Do you have any secret hurts? You know what I mean -- that place inside of you that aches for healing but never seems quite able to find it. If you're tracking with me, then you also know what it means to have someone trample all over that hurt, sometimes...

How many times have you been the target of someone else's upset? Have you ever had someone get right in your face, unloosing a tirade of your faults, proceeded by the all-too-familiar "I'm upset because"? How about the other way around? Do you ever find yourself blaming someone else for...

Suffering seems to be evermore commonplace these days -- we see it in those impacted by the economy, in the virtually-daily tally of tragedy, and in everyday personal and interpersonal upset. The sad thing about suffering is that those of us who do suffer, and I have certainly done my...

Have you ever been confronted with something so daunting or downright scary that you have become paralyzed just thinking about it? Surely you have; at least you probably have if you are a soul having a human experience. Over these past eight months, this Soul-Talk series has addressed...

How would you like to become the "captain of your ship, the master of your destiny"? You may prefer my Self-Talk to Soul-Talk lexicon of becoming captain of your soul. If this resonates even in the slightest with you, then perhaps it's time to actually own the notion...

Have you noticed that there seems to be an increasing amount of negativity out there, and it's coming after you? If so, cheer up! It could be a sign that you're definitely moving along on your spiritual journey. Now this may seem crazy to some of you, especially those who...

Do you find yourself struggling from time to time, trying to reconcile your self-image with the reactions and opinions of others? Do you let the approval of others interfere with you becoming more of who you truly are? Do you struggle with trying to defend, explain or justify...

How do you respond when negative emotions show up in your life? Do you wind up adding even more negativity to the already-not-so-great feelings? If this sounds familiar, then you may need to turn down the volume on your Self-Talk and learn how to listen instead to your...

Last week, just after I put up my article asking if you are using your soul's energy to expand or contract, I was given the gift of meeting with Chan Luu, the world-renowned fashion jewelry designer. After sharing with Chan Luu the work we are doing...