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Isn't It Time To Stop Griping And Start Doing?

Posted: 10/04/10 08:00 AM ET

Last week, I was inspired by Arianna Huffington's new book, Third World America and wrote about shifting from anger and blame to personal engagement and response-ability. Thanks to you, our readers, I am inspired to take this conversation even further.

As usual, comments last week ranged from the appreciative to the kind of glass-is-always-empty attacks that some seem to call engagement. And thank goodness for these critics -- they keep reminding us why this kind of work actually matters.

More to the point, however, are the personal examples people shared about what they have done in response to challenging situations. I'm sure the trolls out there will be all too willing to attack these folks as well, but what the heck. In doing this work for several decades now, I have found any number of one-time critics who have circled back to thank me for the original provocation. So, too, in this way might these very real and very personal examples serve to provoke the complacent into self-motivated action.

Here's an example from Thor who created a career by holding a clear intention and committing to it.

Russell,


Nice article, I liked how you walked the reader through your thoughts around thought and action. The only additional element I might suggest you add to the mix is intention.


When I was looking for a job 10 years ago I knew that I would have a number of opportunities presented to me for work, however I was focused on the intention of finding a job that involved sustainability. During the 8 months or so that I was looking, I indeed had a number of "traditional" job offers which I ended up rejecting.


However, when I was offered the opportunity to work with my local electric utility on its fledgling "green power" program I immediately jumped at the chance to work with a truly sustainable product, renewable energy. Today, I'm proud to be the leader of a team that runs the nation's leading renewable power program.


I had the thoughts and I took action but it was also my intention that got me where I am today. Thanks!


THOR


And thank you, Thor -- a great example of matching intention with personal commitment and involvement. Before you jump to dismiss Thor's example, try the next one on for size.

Here's an incredible example of what one person can do with intention, commitment and resolve, something that made a powerful difference not only to himself, but to his community as well:

A couple of us have been creating sustainable jobs out of a chemically contaminated industrial street in Springfield MA. We started just simply helping those around us.

One day a guy asked if he could gather scrap wire from the back yard and burn the rubber off. He would turn the copper in down the street at metal scrap business. He then asked if he could sleep in one of the old trucks and keep the fire going all night. He then asked if he could take the old truck apart for scrap. We asked he leave us the back frame which is the door we walk into everyday for work. He now owns his own truck and apartment, and still gathers scrap.

Six years ago a guy came with a small load of old building material looking to get space for a store to ReSell old building supplies. ReStore is graduating spring of 2011 into their own 60,000 square foot warehouse.

Last year we had 30 inner city kids working for Summer Youth Project teaching job skills. This summer six came back and we started Green Street Community Gardens.

Rob Thomas

Now before you jump in to cream Rob, perhaps you should know that he has created something called The Gasoline Alley Foundation (www.gasolinealley.org), a not-for-profit foundation enabling others to create socially responsible and sustainable businesses as tools for positive social change. From their website:

The Gasoline Alley Foundation believes job creation is the most effective means of both economic and community development. In short, socially responsible business practices are the strongest economic model for sustainability. Consequently, we focus our efforts in socially responsible entrepreneurship education.
And at an even more grass roots level:
I'm no hero, but I did keep visiting local restaurants and coffee shops and kept lawnboy employed when it wasn't really affordable to do so. After two years the businesses I supported are still here and lawnboy went to college with a little more change in his pocket. I was no savior, but I did help and evidently someone else did too.

Tsakonas

Lastly, good old Marcus01 added a great summation of the principle being extolled here:

WE need to take responsibility for our lives. We need to band together and form more communities of people helping each other, rather than expecting help to come from outside, because it's not coming, folks. Those days are clearly over. Get used to it, get up, and get moving.

Marcus01

So, please do keep your focus on what you can do to make a difference - for yourself, for your family, for your community. No act is too small and wherever you find yourself is a great place to start. Be easy on yourself and on those around you - no one is going to transform this mess in one fell swoop, but we surely will fall if we don't do what we can.

What do you think? What could you do to become more personally engaged? What small step could you take to help move things forward?

I would love to hear from you about your ideas, about what you have done to work around the challenges you are facing, or about what you have seen a friend or neighbor do that has been effective.

Please do leave a comment here or drop me an email and let me know your experience.

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Russell Bishop is an Educational Psychologist, author, executive coach and management consultant, based in Santa Barbara California. Watch for my new book coming out in January, 2011 Workarounds That Work: How to Conquer Anything That Stands in Your Way at Work. You can find out more about Russell at http://www.lessonsinthekeyoflife.com. Contact Russell by email at: Russell (at) lessonsinthekeyoflife.com

 
 
 

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Last week, I was inspired by Arianna Huffington's new book, Third World America and wrote about shifting from anger and blame to personal engagement and response-ability. Thanks to you, our readers, ...
Last week, I was inspired by Arianna Huffington's new book, Third World America and wrote about shifting from anger and blame to personal engagement and response-ability. Thanks to you, our readers, ...
 
 
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07:43 AM on 10/05/2010
To me this is about knowing who you are in the first place and the footprint you consciously choose to make in the world.
If you know what you stand for you can commit yourself to a clear intention that is aligned with your values.
Each of these acts tells a story about the people who have taken action. The actions reflect the autonomous decisions made by people who are prepared to think for themselves. Each of these people is a leader in their own lives. In accepting responsibility for themselves they are becoming leaders in the wider community also.
In this way, by choosing to serve we become leaders.
This translates into business. In short: Ask not what your workforce can do for you, but what you can do for your workforce. You may be surprised what you get back.
05:32 PM on 10/04/2010
Yes this is the time to start doing. Who has been trying to "Do"?- Our President and most of the Democratic congress. Who has been gripping and acting the FALSE victim? The Republican/Teaparty, who has said NO to everything, just screams and yells but OFFERS no solutions! Their only solution is privatizing everything. Privatizing everything will destroy our social safety nets (when corporations take over we will have no rights, they will have the power to do what they want) goodbye to Soc sec, Medicare, Education, the VA, FD and PD's, these are things that DO for us. The Republican/Tea Party; Hate, Fear & No Help! Choose the positive, please vote Democrat so we can get things DONE!
05:32 PM on 10/04/2010
Right around the corner, on 10/10, in fact, we each have an amazing opportunity to do something to make a difference. 350.0rg --http://www.350.org -- is organizing another global event to bring attention to the importance of reducing carbons and getting climate change under control. Bill McKibbon uses 350 to show us the parts of carbon per million in our atmosphere that will allow earth to remain inhabitable for humans. In October of 2009, 350.org coordinated 5200 simultaneous rallies and demonstrations in 181 countries, what CNN called the 'most widespread day of political action in the planet's history.' This October 10th he's poised the create an even bigger event--worldwide. Check out his website, you're bound to find a work party near you. It's one day that could send one big message to the powers that be.
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TurboKitty
05:04 PM on 10/04/2010
It's very refreshing to me to see that the world, on a personal level, is re-embracing humanity ... I hope it's contagious =)
02:58 PM on 10/04/2010
"Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country" - John F. Kennedy

This article is a breath of fresh air. We have the capacity to deal with tough times, but too many prefer to blame and whine instead of engaging creative coping mechanisms. Our resilient forebears coped during the Great Depression of the 1930s, but we have become spoiled and impatient, demanding instant gratification of every desire. I was reminded of two things: the play, "Waiting for Godot" by Samuel Beckett and an item in the current issue of Ebony Magazine, debating whether or not black leadership was "dead." In the former example, two characters in "Waiting for Godot" are waiting for an unseen character named Godot (who never arrives) to come in and take care of everything for them with no input on their part as they sit and wait. In the Ebony debate I tended to agree with the author who said that that African-Americans are indeed equipped with the human resources to assume leadership in a number of areas instead of waiting for a single "saviour" (such as a Martin Luther King) to emerge, advancing from a 1950s and '60s model of leadership while building on the legacy of Dr. King to move into the multiple leadership opportunities of the 21st century.
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Marturia
Are we there yet?
02:03 PM on 10/04/2010
My husband and I were recently talking about getting 'green' jobs. Looking for websites and groups that hire and/or do training.
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01:22 PM on 10/04/2010
Personal responsibility is an overused term just like the term life style has become overused. Until the global corporatocracy which controls our lives for their own self interest understands about social responsibility, this is just pie in the sky anecdotes about 0.00001 per cent of the population. Until we understand that social responsibility comes first and personal responsibility comes in second we will have cynical politicians whipping up right wing populism so the corporate interests can further rip us off.

Just like the tea bag parties think we can go back to some kind of 18th century agrarian utopia, Mr. Bishop thinks one business we can all engage in is recycling old electronic parts or some such refuse. Excuse me, recycling is a dirty, toxic business. That's why there are laws. That's why the tea bag parties don't get it.
02:33 PM on 10/04/2010
The corporatocracy that you mention has arisen from the continued growth of Government control and entitlement programs. You say "What?. With the government providing more and more control over your life and business such as taxation for entitlement programs and minimum wage etc. The corporations and in most cases feel that they are already giving out to support the needy. Once they have met all of these requirements everything else is fair game.
What has also happened is that the continual knock down of religous organizations has lead the country away from a strong local community based organization structure to a more federal base where there is no connection to a given community creating a political heirarchy that is only getting worse.
We need to reduce our Federal taxes and get back to more local community style organization. That way if you are not happy about what is happening you go directly to the source. Believe it or not the internet will slowly bring this about in another form and that is that with a small community structure you know the people and what their character is and what they are involved in. With the Internet the information is there for all political and business characters but you may have to read between the gossip.
There is no such thing as Utopia and therefore more government and taxes will never get us to Utopia. It will just line someone elses pocket.
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03:35 PM on 10/04/2010
I do not know if more government will get us to utopia, but I know that less and less government will get us to anarchy.
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ShellyintheWest
No pain or trial that we suffer is ever wasted.
04:21 PM on 10/04/2010
I agree wholeheartedly. Reduce the federal government to almost zero...put sheep back on the front lawn of the white house. Let local governments deal with issues. It keeps the power with the people. It goes along with the personal responsibility theme. Government is no different than corrupt individuals who want to oppress people. We must be weary of both. Give the power to the people.
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Russell Bishop
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07:20 PM on 10/04/2010
Sorry to read that you so clearly missed the point. If your objective is to contribute, jump on board, regardless of your point of view - engagement is needed. If your preference is find fault and gripe, well, there are lots of tea parties to join. I call it the "ain't it awful club."

And, if social responsibility matters, as, in fact, I do, then how do you move to social responsibility without someone taking personal responsibility first?
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WoodsideCraig
Author of the blog "The Weiler Psi"
12:11 PM on 10/04/2010
This brings up an important point. It is not only necessary to decide what we want, but also what we don't want. Thor understood this. He could not live his dreams by settling for something that did not personally fulfill him.

I encounter this in my job as well. I cannot be all things to all people.
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darquelourd
You Get What You Play For
01:55 PM on 10/04/2010
is this the "God" complex?
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FirstGame72
The Sleep of Reason Produces Monsters
12:06 PM on 10/04/2010
If every American tried their hardest at all times to live by the golden rule and tried very hard not to act on selfish, self-centered impulses and thought about what is right and wrong morally in every situation, the rest would take care of itself.
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darquelourd
You Get What You Play For
01:56 PM on 10/04/2010
there would be no time left for being bad
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Anaxamenes
It's not how big your micro-bio is...
03:40 PM on 10/04/2010
You can play the bad guys on Halo, so yes, there is plenty of time to be bad on your video games.
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
06:36 PM on 10/04/2010
faved.
11:56 AM on 10/04/2010
No! We need to be willing to take responsibility for other people's lives! That's where America has fallen down. We've become greedy and self-centered and afraid of our neighbors - who aren't really neighbors but just the people who live next door or across the street from us.

We're not as friendly or as charitable as we should be. We're not open to helping others anymore. We're afraid of being "taken" by our fellow Americans but have no problem about being "taken" by huge corporations.
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
06:40 PM on 10/04/2010
I worked for the Census Bureau this year. I could be in a small town and ask someone if their neighbor was "so and so". NO ONE knew their neighbors! I grew up on a ranch and we knew people 20 miles away. Everyone helped others. If we were short a hay-hand, a neighbor would show up to help. My dad pulled more cars out of ditches and changed more tires than you could believed. We grew up helping.

I now live in a small town and my neighbors are all closed off with fences and curtained windows and it makes me wonder if anyone even lives in the houses.

However, I did find a puppy-mill today in a small neighboring town and we'll get that shut down in due time.

Please help someone else because we end up helping ourselves more.
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Marcus01
It all just seems like it's real
11:08 PM on 10/04/2010
A lot of people, myself included, would object to others trying to take responsibility for their lives. Yikes, that's a pretty invasive concept.

How about we take serious responsibility for our own lives? If you look at that in a larger sense - responsibility for everything: the good, bad, and the in-between - it's a very tall order. While we're at it, we can reach out to our neighbors in a non-invasive way, and suggest a return to real community. One where we're not in each others' faces, but there if we're needed. Let's find our commonalities. We have much more in common than we think.

One of the reasons the corporatocracy/plutocracy/kleptocracy has been so successful is they preach a message of division, and have us convinced through the media that we're all divided into opposing groups. Liberals, conservatives, Democrats, Republicans, yada-yada all come down to divide and conquer. Pay attention and you'll see how that game is played.

Really, we have much more in common than we think, but our propaganda-fed egos keep pushing us apart.
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11:53 AM on 10/04/2010
So right. While we're working for a better overall situation through policies, legislation and government funding, we can and must act ourselves. My church bought a piece of adjoining property (in hopes that one day we'll need and want to expand). In the meantime, the parcel contained a two-bedroom house . To avoid the temptation of becoming landlords, the missions team proposed we use it as a transition house for a member of our congregation/community. Someone who'd lost a job, a house, or had serious (but temporary) health issues would need a home for free or at a deep discount while getting back on his/her feet.

A choir member had lost her job during chemo. After two years, her new job is secure and we were expecting her to move into other housing. Sadly, other health problems (maybe long-term chemo side effects) have surfaced. We do not know how much longer she'll need this house, but we have saved one "starfish" and made whatever housing she might have found available for another struggling individual.
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11:43 AM on 10/04/2010
Many people are being driven into entrepreneurship by the job market. There are often opportunities if you are willing to start small and see where it goes. However, I find that shopping local, and giving feedback to local businesses often opens their eyes to something that they had been too busy to discern. I also give feedback when I get really crappy service. I tell the person in charge why I will not do business with them, and that they need to improve their product or service if they want my business. I find that too many Americans are passive in the face of downright rude or crooked behavior, particularly in the very large or monopolistic businesses. We need to assert our rights as paying customers. We need to get back to businesses EARNING our custom.
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
06:41 PM on 10/04/2010
Amen! Faved. I recently walked out of a beauty salon because they had Fox news blaring. I felt so righteous. :-)
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ReadMyLipstick1
It can't be that hard.
11:24 AM on 10/04/2010
Mr. Bishop, Thor, Mr. Thomas, Tsakonas and Marcuso1: Very positive and enlightening! Thank you for the encouragement during these tough and negative times. These examples tie in nicely with the old, old phrase of "the buck stops here". Your examples are the new "capitalism" and what it was to have originaly stood for!
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11:18 AM on 10/04/2010
Good article, however taking personal responsibility is counter intuitive to the general progressive meme.
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2garen
12:32 PM on 10/04/2010
Like the conservatives have a monopoly on responsibility? I don't think so.
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01:21 PM on 10/04/2010
No, but it seems that too often progressives push for handouts and not hand-ups(for whatever it's worth). It also seems that they are riding high on the class warfare wave and it is serving them well right now, so their focus is on threatening to take more from people to address their manufactured desire for vindication. There is nothing about personal responsibility in their general narrative, it is about latching on to one of humanity's most guttural emotions, envy, and exploiting that emotional response to further a political agenda.

Heaven forbid one of the quoted entrepreneurs gets successful to the point where the same posters on this site who have praised them for going into green business today will be lambasting them for "exploiting the climate crisis to enrich themselves, build a business on the backs of their employees, blah, blah, blah."
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01:03 PM on 10/04/2010
I think this shows that you don't really understand what the general progressive meme is. I am a progressive and work in the social service field. You can expect accountability even though someone might need help.
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03:00 PM on 10/04/2010
> I think this shows that you don't really understand what the
> general progressive meme is.

He doesn't. The Murdoch/Hearst brainwashing ranges far and deep.
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11:13 AM on 10/04/2010
Loads of stuff - A chance to get to all those household things done that you've put off in your house (saves money to do it yourself). Assist/advise a startup. Work with the campaigns you support. I think a group in Seattle formed to take advantage of their free time and respond to requests for help. My favorite, met a lady who works as a waitress to build a little cash reserves and then takes off for the Caribbean to sleep on the beach and surf til she runs out of cash. And a popular trend, cash out (house, stocks, etc. ) and move to Panama.