Is learning to create the life you want instead of the one you settle for just another bunch of psychobabble leading nowhere? For some reason, encouraging people to claim authority over their own life experience seems to set off the critics. Toss in references to Soul or Spirit and the tempest explodes.
Is It Psychobabble or Psychology?
The distinctions between what I have been calling Self-Talk and Soul-Talk coupled with some basic principles of self-determination are frequently dismissed by some as "psychobabble." Most people who invoke the term are concerned about what they consider to be the bastardization of psychology. First used in the 1970s as a way to disparage the surging popularity of large group self-improvement programs, "psychobabble" has found its way into the popular lexicon.
Many of those who bandy it about fail to realize that psychology itself has been bastardized over the years, coming to mean "the science of mind and behavior." However, the word psychology is itself little understood, including by many of those who claim to be practitioners. The word psychology literally stems from the Greek word psyche, a term meaning soul. Hence, psychology actually means "study of the soul." Critics often tend to dismiss spirit or soul centered principles using their minds, failing to address the issues or choices at hand through the eyes of their soul.
Let's review a few principles that are frequently dismissed as psychobabble.
You Create Your Own Experience of Life
In my experience, most people are more adept at settling than they are at creating. Perhaps it would be better stated that most people don't even know they are the ones creating their experience of life when they choose their response each time the road forks. As I'm fond of saying: if you don't know where you are going, any road will do. This notion is simple, but not simplistic; it is simple, but far from easy. Vamping off Robert Frost and Scott Peck, you can easily breeze by the profound implications of choice by taking the road (fork) more traveled, the path of blame and complain, rather than the road of create and choose.
Take Charge of Your Life -- the Other Road Less Traveled
Surely you recognize that all manner of circumstances can befall you over which you have precious little control. However, the one area where you are distinctly and unequivocally in charge is how you choose to respond to what happens. The road more traveled is one of blame and complain, focusing on what happened, finding people to blame for your circumstances. The worst part of the blame and complain game is that you are usually right -- something did happen and it may have been neither fair nor within your control. However, no matter what befalls you, you still have choices about how you respond. As you choose your response, you create your experience; the more you create the experience you seek, the more powerful you may become in creating the life you want rather than the one you settle for.
You Are Your Own Worst Critic
Learning to choose wisely, regardless of the circumstance, takes considerable awareness and practice. Toss in the negative Self-Talk that most of us are all too familiar with, and you can wind up in a pretty messy downward spiral. And quickly.
For most of us, our negative Self-Talk seems to come from a natural, in-born critic, one who forever finds fault in ourselves and in others. In fact, the more fault you can find with yourself, the more fault you are likely to find in others. Let me at least claim this one as my own, for indeed it is true -- the harder I am on myself, the harder I am on others.
Learn to Listen to the Quiet Voice of Your Soul-Talk
However, whenever I find myself in critic mode, there is also a quieter, gentler voice encouraging me to be more accepting, more loving, and more creative in how I respond. This is the voice I call my Soul-Talk and it is forever pointing the way forward, focused on how to improve upon the current condition, regardless of circumstance. In my experience, listening to your Soul-Talk is that road less traveled. Putting aside the critic who would have you remain mired in the mess, and listening to the more positive and uplifting message from your soul takes considerable practice and discipline.
Are You Listening to Your Mind or Your Soul?
In the perfect world of apparent contradictions, the critics usually leap to their mind-oriented claim that the soul does not exist. And, for them, at least for the moment, it does not. So, if you're that critic, there's no need to dismiss anything here just as there no need to accept anything. Rather, why not become your own scientist? For example, how about asking yourself what is that you want out of life? And then inquire even more deeply, asking why you want whatever that might be? From there, consider: Have you ever wound up with what you thought you wanted only to wind up asking yourself, "Was that it?"
As I'm fond of saying: If you don't know where you are going, any road will do. Please do consider the difference between what you focus on in life vs. why you want it in the first place. The more clearly you can frame the distinctions, the more clearly you will be able to choose when that road forks. At each fork in the road, you will been to listen intently to those inner voices.
The more you keep listening to the Self-Talk focusing on the what-you-want and why you can't get there, the more you will keep cycling through the old familiar blame and complain game. The more you can allow time and space for that deeper voice, your Soul-Talk, the more you may discover that you have the ability to create the life you want regardless of apparent circumstances.
I'd love to hear from you. What's your take on psychology as the study of the soul? What would a soul-centered life mean to you? Please do leave a comment here or drop me an email at Russell (at) russellbishop.com.
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Your reality is precreated, all you do is walk through it until you can some how override your initial blueprint. You are on automatic pilot until you become conscious of the hidden design that controls your whole being. Your higher self or soul continues to interfere, it provides the set-up that we all have to walk through in life. There are no accidents no coincidences. It tells you "I love that person" or "that is the person I am going to marry" and you have never seen him/her before. Look back at your life and all the directions you received from (thoughts hee, hee) So, where did they come from?
They came from you, viva your higher self. You just thought they were from you. Your lower self. Okay, I would like to think that "we" can change the course of future events in our lives, but can we? I really think we can, I really think we live in a total self created reality, but if we don't understand that we have existing blueprints, it makes it much harder to change and alter our reality. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks, Bill
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We should all be quite skillful in both introspection and retrospection, with heavy doses of self honesty.
example guilt. most take to guilt like repubs take to free markets and tax cuts for the rich.
guilt is of the ego and it is one of the most deceptive aspects of the conditioned ego.
much of that so called soul talk might be coming from the other side as spirit talk. consciousness is capable of such a breakthough of the vail that separates the physical from the astral.
Now that all your worry
has proved such an unlucrative business,
Why not find a better job?
HAFIZ
Thank you for your article, Russell. I lost my job yesterday. Unfairly, yes. But I should never have been there in the first place. I took the wrong fork in the road.
This time I will turn on to the road of my destination.
I can see similarities to when I was in counseling and was told about self-fulfilling prophesy. The more you dwell on past difficulties, the more they can bring you down. There are ways to let them go, and those ways can heal your spiritually.
As a person who has found a finally found a purpose, I've discovered that's what it was all about all along. ~To have a goal.~ What in the world was I waiting for? The goal might be to ~have~ a goal, that in itself would be enough. Just something to strive towards, instead of just lolling in front of the TV night after night, absorbed in the UN-reality of someone elses overly-dramatized (fake!) life. Time to wake up and smell the roses, get up, get some fresh air, see the world, hey, look at the stars once in a while, or when there's frost on the windshield, see the patterns for once, instead of just complaining about it, they are beautiful.
Change is difficult, for some it's nearly impossible. Society itself (and many other influences) dictate how people grow (or more importantly, don't grow). Decide to GROW! That's what we're meant to do.
I blog a lot both at the Huff Post and elsewhere and so why do I want to do it in the first place? Because I enjoy making sense out of things that confuse me about what happens in life especially between and inside people.
When I blog I don't know what I am going to write about when I sit down and use it as a way to discover what I know about something that catches my attention. Why do I want to make sense out of the confusion I see in the world. Part of it is for satisfaction that clarity offers and part of it is for a bit of redemption to myself. I think I have always tried to make sense out of confusion, but it very often didn't match the sense that others made out of life and who often told me I didn't know what I was talking about or was wrong. I think that hurt me and frustrated me for a long time, but instead of becoming angry it pushed me to become an even better noticer and explainer.
"I am therefore I blog or I blog therefore I am." Either way it's pretty satisfying.
What do YOU do and why do YOU want it in the first place?
First, and foremost, recognize you don't have the "Right" to be happy. For proof, go check out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BN3YWc7ijXI
The author seems to be among those who don't understand the terminology they're using but claim to be practitioners. Maybe it takes one to know one...?
The translation of psyche = soul is rather simplistic and somewhat misleading, to say the least. The Greek word can mean soul, mind, spirit, breath, life - to name but a few possibilities.
And, to anticipate possible objections, I do happen to know what I'm talking about: I hold a PhD in philosophy, an MA in clinical psychology and a BA in Ancient Greek.