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Ryan Thomas Neace is the founder of Change, Inc., and is the founder and Chief Intern Guy at, a site that helps budding counselors find direction in clinical practice. Ryan also blogs for the American Counseling Association, and is an adjunct professor of Psychology for Lewis & Clark Community College. Ryan holds degrees in Religion and Marriage & Family Therapy, and his passion is to help people clarify the immense confusion that can arise when they enter their internal worlds. View his personal blog here.

Entries by Ryan Thomas Neace

Br. Alois of Taizé on Racial Unrest, Jesus Christ, and the Gospel

(0) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 12:06 PM

Taizé is an ecumenical monastic order in Taizé, Saône-et-Loire, Burgundy, France, founded in 1940 by Brother Roger Schütz, consisting of over one hundred brothers from Protestant and Catholic traditions and about thirty countries across the world.

According to Wikipedia, "The community has become...

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Why I Am Only Telling One Side of the Michael Brown Story

(2) Comments | Posted August 28, 2014 | 9:48 AM

As the days have drudged onward since the police shooting of unarmed black teenager, Michael Brown, in Ferguson, MO, I have been knowingly, overtly, and

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Requiem for a Therapist: A Tribute to Robin Williams

(17) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 9:40 AM

Like so many others, I was saddened to hear of the death of actor and comedian, Robin Williams that was made public Monday. To hear that his death was at the end of a life-long battle with depression that ended in suicide was an additional blow, both as a fellow...

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Moving Beyond Tribal Religion

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 11:55 AM

Several years ago it dawned on me that most all of my spiritual heroes are unabashedly ecumenical:  Father Henri Nouwen, Brother Roger of Taize, Sister Joan Chittister, Father Richard Rohr, Thomas Merton, Parker Palmer, Wendell Berry.  If you read their writings, you'll find themes of radical inclusivity, radical compassion, and radical identification.  Each in his or...

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Confessions of a Chubby Kid

(0) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 2:22 PM

"Ryan! The rhino! Fat as a rhino!"

That's what a classmate I barely knew yelled up to me in middle school in his best sing-song voice. He and some other kids were playing underneath the bleachers where I sat watching a high school basketball game. I looked down at them,...

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Happy New Year! I Bought You Some Therapy

(4) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 10:54 AM

Every year, tons of phone calls pour in to my St. Louis counseling practice inquiring about referring some family member or loved one. You know -- wayward children, beloved siblings, aging parents, etc. Many times, the callers are so concerned they're considering paying for therapy themselves.

Of course, these kinds...

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Tweet, Tweet: Mark Driscoll's Simple World

(29) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 6:03 PM

A friend of mine asked me for my professional, psychological analysis of Pastor Mark Driscoll today after this tweet:


He wasn't surprised at the content of Driscoll's tweet, per se. My friend, an evangelical himself, understands that this line...

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Consecrated Sexual Attraction (Part 3)

(3) Comments | Posted December 27, 2013 | 11:45 AM

(This is post 3 of 3 entitled, Consecrated Sexual Attraction. Read part 1 here or part 2 here.)


Several years ago, I worked with a woman who I first met back in high school. I remembered her clearly because I was...
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Consecrated Sexual Attraction: Part 2

(1) Comments | Posted December 10, 2013 | 6:19 PM

This is post 2 of 3 entitled: "Consecrated Sexual Attraction." Read Part 1 here.


Growing up, my father and I talked a good deal about women, marriage and sex. He's a salt-of-the-earth kind of guy, as likely to talk with you about...
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Consecrated Sexual Attraction (Part 1)

(2) Comments | Posted December 10, 2013 | 5:52 PM

I took a deep breath when Samantha came into my office (identity changed to protect confidentiality). Twenty years old, brown hair all the way down her back, and every bit of 5 feet 10 inches, she truly had "model good-looks." She was wearing a ribbed, white tank top that was...

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Duck Syndrome: How to Help Your Stressed-Out Teen

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2013 | 1:47 PM

"Duck syndrome" was first identified by Stanford University in reference to its incoming freshmen. Like a duck gliding peacefully along the water but paddling frantically underneath, Stanford freshmen tried in earnest to appear at ease despite real internal chaos associated with the increased demands of college life and...

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Are There Some Questions the Church Can't Answer?

(198) Comments | Posted October 17, 2013 | 7:37 PM

"Can I tell you what I think?"

I've responded like this countless times to clients posing what is to them a vexing life problem: Is my relationship's disintegration my fault or because we're incompatible?  Do I keep sabotaging myself or am I terminally a failure?  Do I keep gravitating to...

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Do Church Small Groups Need a Therapist?

(10) Comments | Posted October 4, 2013 | 2:35 PM

The spiritual life is not a life before, after, or beyond our everyday existence. No, the spiritual life can only be real when it is lived in the midst of the joys and pains of the here and now. Therefore, we need to begin with a careful look at the...
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Making Sense of Death Is Living Life Wisely

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2013 | 1:40 PM

On this Memorial Day, I found myself trying to make sense of death.

Every time I hear the laughs and babbles of my infant son, I am struck that the term "infant" is from the latin infans, which means, essentially, "incapable of speech." Yet, with gurgles and coos and nehs...

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I and My Father Are One

(31) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 6:15 PM

Shortly after my recent blog about Christian masculinity, I read a moving, related piece by Alan Noble, of It was a response to an interview with Christian author Eric Metaxas about his newest book, "Seven Men," which chronicles the lives of seven of...

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Christian Masculinity, the WWF and Unbelonging

(80) Comments | Posted May 11, 2013 | 9:28 AM

When I was a little boy, I wanted to be a professional wrestler. It was the 1980s -- the height of the World Wrestling Federation (WWF) and pre-reality TV Hulk Hogan. True masculine theater of the absurd, complete with gargantuan men in tights who inspired the awe of children with...

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But Aren't You a Christian Counselor?

(49) Comments | Posted April 28, 2013 | 11:25 PM

"My son, he goes to a Christian university, and we just found out last night...he's struggling with homosexuality. Can you help him?"

That's a verbatim quote from a worried mother who contacted my counseling practice last fall. I get a handful of calls like this every year. I recall them...

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