This summer a friend and I started a rock 'n' roll choir in Boulder. A woman we know in Napa Valley, CA, told us she'd joined a rock choir there and they were singing "Good Vibrations" and Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah."

I want to do that! I thought. But the only...

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This post is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: After a great trip with Billy on Cape Cod, I went to a...

This is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: Each time we draw closer, Billy pulls away. But there comes a moment when I know: I'll be fine, whether he leaves or stays. When I feel that, I'm free. To see all posts in chronological order, Click...

This is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: Billy and I go on a four-day bender of sex, drugs & rock 'n roll. To see all posts in chronological order, Click Here.

The next time I visit Billy, he gives me a lifeless peck on...

This is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: Billy and I both get HIV tests and pass. But back in his house, there's a shy awkwardness. To see all posts in chronological order, Click Here.

Billy asks me to come and lie down so he...

This is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: After many weeks of no sex with Billy, I decide I'm ready. To see all posts in chronological order, Click Here.

What's it like to go for AIDS tests at a public clinic when you're over 50?...

This is part of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." To see all posts in chronological order, Click Here.

Well, lo and behold, we're in an exclusive relationship. "Diving in," as Billy says.

At the end of our last phone call, I'd told him, "I don't want...

Part 14 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: I tell Billy not to contact me again. I feel relieved, elated, but then comes the crash. Later I would learn the crashing is a sign of love addiction. To see all posts in chronological order, Click Here.

Part 13 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: I tell Billy not to contact me again. I feel relieved, elated, but then comes the crash. Click here for past installments.

When I moved to Venice, CA, in the 70s, the first thing I did...

Part 12 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: I bond with Sally, and she dumps Billy.Click here for past installments.

After my dinner with Sally, I buried myself in work, which helped take the focus off Billy. I was writing a pilot for ABC,...

Part 11 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: Billy can't choose between the three women he's dating, so I bow out. Then I email one of the women, Sally Burton.Click here for past installments.

Sally and I are at my kitchen table, eating...

Part 10 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Click here for past installments.

Two months before I began seeing Billy, I went to a 5-day retreat with a terrific spiritual teacher, Adyashanti, determined to ask him about a subject that's not "spiritually correct" -- my relationships with men. What...

Part 9 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: After making love with me most of the night, Billy leaves in the morning to go see another woman.Click here for past installments.

Billy drops by before leaving Boulder to return to his home in Lone...

Part 8 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: Billy and I make love while I'm still in a shoulder brace, and it's the best first time I can remember. But he doesn't cancel his dates with other women. Click here for past installments.

Smell. Let's talk about...

Part 7 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Click here to read past installments. Enter the contest and win a free book.

I knew there was a bio of me on Wikipedia, but I'd only seen it once. Last week, though, a friend said he checked his...

Part 6 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: The chemistry was so intense that I opened the door to Billy again. Click here to read past installments.

Some of you have been asking why, after dismissing Billy twice, I went back for more. Why did...

Part 5 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Click here to read previous installments.

We interrupt the story of Billy the Bad to ask: As we grow older, can we find and keep love and sex in a committed relationship? Are we too set in our ways? I...

Part 4 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: First date with Billy is hot, but a ski wreck keeps me from the second. His anger while I'm recovering makes me dismiss him. Click here to read past installments.

Billy showed up at my house the...

Part 3 of a serial, Sex Love Enlightenment. Previously: I broke my collarbone skiing, which stopped me from visiting Billy in Lone Tree for our hot date. Without consulting me, he drove two hours to Boulder to help, couldn't find me and drove home. Click here to read past...

Part 2 of a serial, "Sex Love Enlightenment." Previously: After months of putting him off, I met Billy and we had an electrifying connection.

I was hot to hook up with Billy the Bad when a ski wreck blew my plans. For our second date, Billy wanted me...