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Hey Vatican: Lay Off My Sisters!

Posted: 06/05/2012 7:51 pm

Rather than publicly chastising nuns, the Catholic Church should be thanking God for every single compassionate, thought-filled and selfless one of them.

Here we go again! Instead of getting more pressing matters of its own house in order (the issues of priest pedophilia, the race for the exits by disillusioned Catholics worldwide and deviant political forays from the pulpit by a rogue bishop or two come to mind), the Church has decided to take another swipe at a Sister. The most recent Vatican-imposed time out comes on the heels of the Church's decision to micro-manage the largest nun society in the United States, Leadership Conference of Women Religious, just weeks ago. It would seem, at least to this lay person, that the tunnel visioned boys at the Vatican have way too much time on their holy hands.

Sister Margaret A. Farley, a scholarly woman of faith who taught Christian Ethics at Yale University and served as president of the Catholic Theological Society of America, is being brought to the woodshed by Rome for penning "Just Love: A Framework for Christian Sexual Ethics." How dare she use her God given gifts of cognition to share her educated point of view with the world! It's difficult to say what is more sizable -- her nerve or the nerve she's seemed to have struck with the holier than all of us "Congregation for the Doctrine of Faith" committee at the Vatican.

The committee said "Just Love" is "not consistent with authentic Catholic theology." No truer words have probably ever been spoken. Without doubt, Sister Margaret's perspective is wildly threatening to Catholic leadership. She had the audacity to pose a theological basis for same-sex relationships, same-sex marriage, divorce and masturbation, all in one book! And rather than point out how her perspective lacks complete biblical footing, the Catholic Church instead wants to demean the woman's work because she strayed from "authentic" Catholic teaching.

The elephant-in-the-room question that begs to be answered is this: Was Sister Farley's book a fair, logical biblical interpretation or was it somehow erroneous and misleading? A host of religious leaders and scholars, including the head of her Order and the Dean of Yale Divinity School (a Catholic), have issued statements supporting the good Sister's work. What did she write that was inaccurate? Deceptive? Or was the Catholic Church's objection to her perspective simply a matter of differing biblical interpretation? (As a free range Catholic, I would like to be told why the Church thinks the Sister was off her nut, not simply that she was.)

If the point of the Vatican was to discount the validity of Sister Farley's message, it seems to have failed miserably. The New York Times and a myriad of news outlets have given ink to the Vatican's objection to Sister Farley, affording the book priceless publicity. And thanks to the Church, countless Catholics and others around the world who had never heard of the good Sister will be clamoring to find and read her work.

As a Catholic woman, I am keenly interested in what nuns in particular have to say. Their tireless commitment to quiet service in the face of inequality within the Church is an amazement to me and to millions of others whom they have served in the past 2000 or so years. My favorite nun (if Topps made nun trading cards, I would have hers), Mother Teresa, didn't fear poverty, she made her home within it. She welcomed the pain and desperation and sadness that seeped from the gutters of Calcutta with the grace and love and compassion that simply cannot be fabricated from the ivory tower balconies of Vatican City. We can learn life lessons from the women of the Church, and I believe the Good Shepherd wants us to be led by their positive examples.

Whatever we fear, I sincerely believe, owns us. What does the Catholic Church fear in Sister Farley's writings? If we said that the Bible doesn't have it out for gays and lesbians, would our Church crumble, or would it grow? If divorce was not condemned, would more people leave our faith or stay in it? Do we really think God cares whether or not we masturbate? How we interpret the Bible and God's intent is not a science, but a faith-based journey we are called to take. I humbly submit that God wants us to welcome him, not fear Him. Maybe that's where the journey should start.

I believe God gave us gray matter in hopes that we would use it to grow. If the Catholic Church has problems with "rogue" nuns, open a dialogue. Discuss the differences, and come to agreement where possible, even if it is to disagree. The boys on the balconies need to clue into what the female members of the cloth are doing in the name of Christ in the trenches, and how us regular Catholic gals are living in and out of the pews. Maybe then Church leadership might fully experience the love and compassion Jesus hoped would fill our lives.

Fear not, Vatican. Those nuns? They're just doing God's work.

Sarah O'Leary is an author, licensed minister, and world's first and only Midlife®. She addresses conferences and church groups whenever possible. You may reach Ms. O'Leary via email: sarahathuffpo@gmail.com.

 
 
 

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01:17 PM on 07/08/2012
Throw the nuns out of the Church. Everything they are teaching goes against what the Church teaches us is right.
11:44 AM on 06/18/2012
Having read your article, I am also going to question your claim to be Catholic. Perhaps you are just woefully ingorant about your faith. The "Vatican Crackdown" basically says this book has information that directly contradicts Catholic teaching. It raises concern that people might accept the ideas in the book because they are offered by a nun.

To make one point: you ask if God cares if we masturbate. In the Gospel, Jesus addresses the issue of lusting after someone as committing adultery, eve if it's only in thought. Since a great deal of masturbation involves imagery, imagination etc., one can see how this would run contrary to Christ's own words.
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Sarah O'Leary
09:41 PM on 06/14/2012
If the following NYT article is any indication of how the Catholic leadership thinks the Church should be run, we need a whole new group at the top. Check this out: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/14/us/sex-abuse-statutes-of-limitation-stir-battle.html?smid=fb-share
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Freevo
Hey hey NRA how many kids were shot today
04:11 AM on 06/10/2012
Excellent article, Sarah, thank you for speaking for at least 98% of catholic women (including nuns) and probably more than half the men, including those in the church's authority that are too intimidated to speak up and out. Bless you. I support Sister Margaret and look forward to reading her book. Change is demanded by the masses (no pun intended).
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Sarah O'Leary
07:57 AM on 06/10/2012
Thank you! Her book is now on the top selling list on Amazon. It was initially published several years ago, to not a lot of fanfare. Now that the Vatican has decided to take issue with it, "Just Love" has become a worldwide success story. I believe that through openness and dialogue, the Church has the opportunity to be a force for good in the world. Thanks again for your comments -- much appreciated. (PS -- I love the pun :). God bless!
09:00 PM on 06/09/2012
HI Sarah,
Your article states: "As a Catholic woman, I am keenly interested in what nuns in particular have to say." Please help me understand how "Catholic" you really are. Have you been to a Catholic mass more than twice in the past year?
Thanks,
Ken
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Sarah O'Leary
09:32 PM on 06/09/2012
Yes, I have. I actually spent the afternoon with an old parish priest of mine, and had a lovely time discussing the sad state of affairs he believes the Church is in. With this said, my level of Catholicism according to your measuring stick is irrelevant. If you would like to discuss the issues raised in the piece, please let me know. Otherwise, please understand that I most likely won't engage any/all tangents from this moment forward. This isn't an emotional position, but one I take to keep the comments area on track. Thanks for your comments!
11:40 PM on 06/08/2012
:D Oh man, I'm Catholic and I can't wait to read this book.
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Sarah O'Leary
10:18 PM on 06/08/2012
Hello, Comment Makers! Thanks to all who take the time to enter into the discussion about "Hey Vatican: Lay Off My Sisters!". As the author, I try my best to respond to the comments as often as possible. I have learned a great deal from your thoughts and opinions over the years, and sincerely appreciate your input.

Whereas most of the comments and emails I've received have been thought provoking, It seems that a small few among us don't want to address anything I've covered in the article. The point of the comments section of any HP post is to discuss the content of that particular post. If a person simply wants to use this forum as his/her own soap box to air a host of, pontifications not directly related to "Hey Vatican: Lay Off My Sisters!", I must humbly refuse to reply. I would suggest those herein who want to have open and honest discussion about the piece also steer clear of engaging these people. It simply serves to distract us from successful discussion and debate.

Thanks again for your interest, and may God bless and keep you!
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The Corporate Champion
Conservative, because someone's got to do the work
03:46 PM on 06/08/2012
The Church should just start excommunicating these cafeteria Catholics since they clearly aren't interested in abiding by the Church's teachings. I'm sure there are plenty of other, pro-abortion, pro-homosexual, pro-woman's ordinance, "reformed" denominations of Christianity that they can go to.
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Sarah O'Leary
03:55 PM on 06/08/2012
Interesting idea. You might want to see how many Catholics are in favor of birth control, for example, before you start excommunicating them. You might find you're sitting in the pew by yourself. Good luck, and God bless!
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chiefpayne
05:00 PM on 06/08/2012
Maybe you should check that out FIRST, Ma'am...before bringing it up. And btw, you might be a bit surprised on how many you find that DO follow the Church's edicts too.
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The Corporate Champion
Conservative, because someone's got to do the work
05:14 PM on 06/08/2012
There you go again talking about cafeteria Catholics.
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Sarah O'Leary
06:56 PM on 06/07/2012
Hello, Comment Makers!. I sincerely appreciate hearing from all of you in this comment area, and receiving your emails. I'd like to propose a challenge to all: print your full (and actual) names and email address with your comments. Unless, of course, cowardice, shame, fear or the witness protection program keeps you from owning your opinions. Last I checked, Jesus never used an alias. Cheers! Sarah
09:22 PM on 06/07/2012
Sarah,
I'd love to communicate more directly... but you've deleted all of my comments - most of which were extremely respectful in spite of our differences (but all respectful). However, I'd prefer a public airing of the conversation to document a continuity of rational discourse. But you have the upper hand with the delete button and limit my arguments to those that you choose (in this case, none).
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Sarah O'Leary
12:00 AM on 06/08/2012
Dear Whomever you are,
Allow me to give you a bit of HP education. I cannot delete anyone's posts. That is the job of the moderator. I know that information blows a large whole in your argument, but it is the truth. With that said, you are free to go anywhere on the internet and share your opinion form behind a curtain. My challenge to you is that you own up to what you seem to be so passionate about. You can continue on as a nameless, faceless person, but why? What do you fear? I hope you find solace.
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chiefpayne
05:01 PM on 06/08/2012
Ma'am,

While I am no coward, I am also not going to post my personal information here. Now if you wish to communicate one-on-one, I have NO problem with that.
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Sarah O'Leary
10:02 PM on 06/08/2012
How is it you're not a coward? My name and email address is posted, but you don't want to share yours. Why not? What are you in fear of?

My email has been listed on every article I've written in the last several months. Why haven't you made yourself known by using it? A coward, by definition, is someone who cowers or hides. I'm just curious why you're afraid. Any ideas?
Emereaux
Cerca trova
12:20 AM on 06/07/2012
Great article and great comments! I can only reiterate what's already been said. But it sure makes you wonder why....is it a fear of women or is a fear of the power of the sacred feminine....that they wish to (but never will) silence?
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Sarah O'Leary
10:06 AM on 06/07/2012
The sacred feminine is a fascinating topic -- thanks for mentioning it herein. And I agree, it is impossible (thank God fully) to silence! Thanks for the comments :)
05:34 PM on 06/06/2012
Dear Sarah,
I think it's very odd that you would cite your favorite nun mother Teresa as support for your argument. I sincerely doubt that she would support yours. Please consider the following clips from speeches she has given. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDUXPgKBIIM

Bl. Teresa of Calcutta Pray for us!
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Sarah O'Leary
10:05 AM on 06/07/2012
I believe we must agree to disagree, as I don't feel Mother Teresa would have enjoyed the Church silencing the voices of nuns (or anyone else, for that matter).

On another note, why would you ask Teresa of Calcutta to pray for you? I would think you might get a bit more accomplished if you prayed to God from the start. Just a thought. God bless you!
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09:29 PM on 06/07/2012
Sarah, before you delete this... please note that you tip your hand with such a question:
",,,why would you ask Teresa of Calcutta to pray for you?" Every good Catholic knows that we ask each other to pray for us AND we ask the saints to pray for us too! Of course, we can (and do) pray directly to God but as most Protestants misunderstand, WE see the saints as allies - whose prayers and petitions on our behalf strengthen our request. I will pray for you. Please pray for me.
01:21 PM on 06/06/2012
Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me."

Progressive "Christianity" teaches indulge yourself, use your neighbors for your own pleasure and discard them when they become inconvenient. And "eat,drink and be merry for tomorrow we die."
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Sarah O'Leary
01:41 PM on 06/06/2012
I enraged a small contingent of conservative Catholics awhile back when I asked the simple question, "Would Jesus live in the Vatican?" The mere thought that Jesus wouldn't tolerate the Church's wealth and prestige was too much for some. Thanks for your comments.
05:29 PM on 06/06/2012
Spoken like a Puritan. You are sort of begging the question here.

Quite frankly, I wish the Pope would follow the example of the Orthodox hierarchs and live as a monk.

But how does the Catholic Church mostly use its so-called wealth and prestige in the 21st century -- as the world's largest provider of charity to the poor.

Wealth is not evil in of itself. But how that wealth is used can be.

The worthiness or unworthiness of the people in the Vatican has no bearing on the validity and truth of the broader Catholic tradition.

The scandals in the Church have been a result of men and women who have NOT lived according to their faith and vocation.

As a Gen-Xer, I look at the disaster the sexual revoluton visited on my generation. E.g. widespread divorce, infidelity, a utilitarian sexual ethic, people like my ladyfriend who don't know their fathers and say progressivism's consequences are nothing but societal ruin.

Progressive philosophy only begets societal disaster. And I might note that the rise of progressivism within the Catholic Church has gone hand in hand with the rise of these scandals.

Tolerance of evil is evil.
Emereaux
Cerca trova
12:25 AM on 06/07/2012
Great question! Surely he would be out with the sisters ministering to the needy, not lounging in the temple with the moneychangers...
relevancematters
You're so full of what's right, you can't see what
10:31 AM on 06/06/2012
Sister Farley is obviously a threat to the hierarchy. May her book be read and pondered the world over.
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Sarah O'Leary
10:12 AM on 06/07/2012
I'm going to give copies out as Christimas gifts :)
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chiefpayne
05:06 PM on 06/08/2012
I hope your friends enjoy it. But if they are Catholics, I doubt they will.
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FredSays
I believe in Dog & Jesus approves.
10:57 PM on 06/05/2012
Thanks Sarah for your insightful, on target comments. One of my friends alerted me to the NYT's article this morning. At that time I sarcastically wrote to him: "Nuns are getting out of hand. Can't we burn them at the stake or toss them into lakes with their hands and feet bound? Whatever happened to the good ol' days?" That's pretty much the characterization I have for the Catholic Church hierarchy's attitude.

I've grown increasingly disgusted with the myopic Natural Law fundamentalism that they superimpose on religion. The hierarchy acts like a besieged, tyrannical government willing to visit metaphorical death and destruction on those who dare question its policies and judgments. Such secular governments, history has shown, frequently are overthrown despite their apparent superior resources.
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Sarah O'Leary
08:39 AM on 06/06/2012
So well said, Fred. I especially enjoyed, "natural law fundamentalism", as that is (sadly) rich territory. And your answer to your friend was spot on! (One of my friends through in the cross in an email to me.

The Catholic Church, like a host of institutions today, can only be saved by its people -- not misguided leadership. Thanks for your comments -- you gave me lots to think about.
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haljil
10:18 PM on 06/05/2012
This article shows how all religious dogma is patriarchal, archaic and inherently misogynistic! I am a non Christian and yet see the great work that so many nuns have done in the developing World where I work.... Women like this are an inspiration and help for many completely hopeless and helpless communities and yet she gets denigrated by a Church hierarchy that would rather safeguard ancient intolerance than look at the merit of the suggestions being made and the character of the person making them!

It should simply re-iterate in every person's mind, the complete and absolute separation of Church and State - not just politically, but socially and judicially as well!!!

This illustrates the lingering and festering inequality that women all over the World are subjected to - in the name of religious dogma and doctrine defined by men... I have one life to live and despite all the progress made to date, I will still never be a complete equal - and I am doing so much better than most women in other parts of the World!!!
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Sarah O'Leary
08:42 AM on 06/06/2012
Here here! In a previous piece, I considered the role of religion in women's second (or third or fourth or non-existent in far too many countries) class citizenship. The fact that nuns are second class citizens in their own faith and still do the great works they do is a testament, in my mind, to their faith. Thanks for your comments -- very insightful!