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Human Rights Begin in the Pew

Posted: 05/16/2012 2:37 pm

Religious-based bigotry eviscerates women's human rights the world over, and God doesn't like it one damned bit.

Today at the grocery store, I overheard a mom telling her little girl, "Of course you can be President of the United States!" It seems a boy at school said girls were not good enough to be president because they weren't boys. Even though I had heard such things before (I am the youngest of six with five older brothers), this particular conversation stopped me dead in my religious tracks.

Catholicism decided I wasn't good enough to be a leader in the Church about 2,000 years before I was born. I couldn't be its president (aka "pope") or a priest or bishop or cardinal because I happened to be female. Not knowing any better, I accepted my Catholic less-than-ness as a fact of life, like when the Little League in Wheaton, Ill., said I couldn't play because I was a girl. I didn't organize sit ins on the pitcher's mound or walk outs from the pew. Like other girls, I simply accepted the adult-dictated view of things.

The Catholic Church believes the Bible (a document written, translated and almost entirely interpreted by men) establishes that men are, quite literally, born leaders. The Church claims that women can't be priests because Jesus wanted it that way. Really? A man didn't play any role whatsoever in Jesus' conception (from all accounts, it was sperm-free). Christ came out of a woman's uterus, which seems to be a pretty important part of the birth story. Jesus' most trusted disciple was arguably Mary Magdalene. The risen Jesus didn't show Himself to the fellas at the local mens-only oasis. He first appeared to Mary. Experts believe it was Mary at Jesus' right in DaVinci's Last Supper. She wasn't doing dishes in the back or filling the wine glasses for the boys, she was right next to Mr. Equality Himself.

The wildly dangerous and incredibly pathetic part of religiously based gender bigotry is the critical role it plays in legitimizing the horrific treatment of women in societies throughout the world. Women aren't equal in the eyes of God, Jesus, Allah, Yahweh, etc., therefore: Cover your face and body or be whipped. You're forbidden to drive or vote or hold a paying job. Don't speak, as you are not worthy to be heard. You deserve to be treated like objects or property or animals. It is justified by God that you be beaten or stoned to death simply for being the victim of your own femininity. Face the cold, brutally hard fact that all of your human rights are dependent on what men, not God, feel they should be.

In the Catholic "faith," women are told to accept that our own religion utilizes every political and legal channel known to man (aided by the money we put in the Sunday collection basket) to prevent us from controlling what happens in our bedrooms or to our bodies. Using God to control women is what we in marketing might call a "Top Down" strategy. Find an expert and leverage his/her position to convince consumers of a "truth." Unfortunately, God isn't around to verify the man-made claims in support of gender inequity, or to expose it as the load of crap it most certainly is. I believe God made us equal. We may be different physically, but God sees us as His children. Not as His sons and those other ones, but as His children. Precious. Made in His image.

By attending Catholic mass, I'm tacitly endorsing women's inequality within the Church. Through my silence, I am agreeing with its calculated discrimination against females. I am supporting a Church that fights to control women's reproductive choices and is hell bent on ruining the lives of my God-loving gay brothers and sisters. And at the end of the day, I'm going to have to explain to Jesus why I would patronize any organization that doesn't treat His children equally.

I believe in exacting change from the inside out by trying to make things better rather than abandoning them. However, unless I can find a way to express my opposition to all forms of bigotry within the confines of my Church (wearing a sandwich board, neon sign or set of very large buttons to Mass being viable, short term solutions), I'm going to have to stick by the teachings of my God and sit that pew out.

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Sarah O'Leary
05:31 PM on 05/21/2012
For those following the host of errant comment strings below. If you would like me to engage in your POV, please stick to the piece above to frame your questions or comments. Although I wish I did, I do not have the time to open large discussions that veer off topic. If you can site the area of the piece that interests you, I'll be more likely to respond. Thanks.
03:25 PM on 05/21/2012
Having been raised without religion, it amazes me to read all this fuss about what god wants or doesn't want, his intentions towards women, the myriad 'interpretations' of his word, etc. Wouldn't an all-powerful being find SOME way to make his rules universally understood? Perhaps a huge pyramid of indestructible material inscribed with his words that instantly translate into the language of the beholder? Maybe he could appear in the sky each Sunday to deliver his words directly? The lack of such a system is an obvious recipe for disaster, with all manner of mistranslation, misdirection, and manipulation. Oh wait......too late.....
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Sarah O'Leary
05:21 PM on 05/21/2012
Thanks for your POV -- I enjoyed it, and respect it. Why God does or doesn't do is (and I imagine has always been) at the crux of debate. My guess is He gave us Free Will for a reason, to figure out what we would do with it. Thanks again.
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MagicManDoneIt
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01:10 AM on 05/22/2012
That was highly evasive, but I guess it's what you have to continue to tell yourself to keep believing something so ridiculous in the first place.
10:23 AM on 05/22/2012
"to figure out what we would do with it"

I always thought god was omniscient, knowing all past, present, and future events. Why would he need to 'figure out' anything?
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11:51 AM on 05/21/2012
The choice has to be be made, are our inalienable rights bestowed upon us by the interpretations of religious doctrine written thousands of years ago, or are they determined by a modern dialog that goes through a rigorous critique before being accepted. The moment we accept words and ideas as being infallible, is the moment progress is no longer achievable. If we can't admit that our current set of human rights is flawed, we will do nothing to improve them. Thankfully enough of us believe they are indeed flawed, and we're working on dragging the rest of society kicking and screaming into the 21st century. Unfortunately some still need to be dragged through the 16th-20th centuries first.
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Sarah O'Leary
12:46 PM on 05/21/2012
Agreed! Thanks for your comments. I wholeheartedly believe that those who are most at (inner) peace are in the best situation to weigh circumstance and exact change. Simply accepting someone else's edicts as 100% perfect in a wildly imperfect world, I feel, sells our inner beings short.
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JRShire
11:35 AM on 05/21/2012
It is an interesting piece and speaks to the dilemma of many Roman Catholics in America. It is hard though to let go of an institution that one grew-up with from childhood.

I have come to find the Anglo-Catholic tradition in the Episcopal Church to be an alternative to Roman Catholicism because it is largely a progressive tradition (fully supporting women's ordination and queer inclusion) but also it finds justification for these aspects in tradition, scripture, and reason.
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Sarah O'Leary
12:49 PM on 05/21/2012
One of my colleagues refers to the Episcopal Church as "user friendly Catholicism." It has made a great deal of progress, not without taking a lot of heat along the way. The success it has had in exacting change reinforces my believe that change is possible. Thanks for your comment. (P.S. queer is thought by many, including me, to be an inappropriate way to refer to the LGBT population).
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MagicManDoneIt
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01:13 AM on 05/22/2012
About your P.S., if that were true then why do so many organizations that support their rights use the letters LGBTQIA? Does the Q stand for something else?
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JRShire
11:43 AM on 05/22/2012
My apologies, I use the term due to there is a movement within the LGBT community to reclaim the word queer, and is used by some in the LGBT community as an identifying term, particularly to contrast heterosexism and cisgenderism.
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08:57 AM on 05/21/2012
If you find yourself in a pew you're already part of an organization that supports--on some level--oppression. If you wish to support human rights, get as far as you can from any organized religion.
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Sarah O'Leary
09:46 AM on 05/21/2012
Thanks for the comment.
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10:17 AM on 05/21/2012
Seriously, why bother if that's all you have to say? Thanks for your comment to my comment. ;-)
05:40 AM on 05/21/2012
That reminds me of an article I read a few days ago in the German newspaper "ZEIT" about the German Catholic Conference in Mannheim.

Catholic priest and former vicar general of Vienna Helmut SchĂĽller, also known as 'the rebel priest', said there is a 'lack of fundamental rights for baptized persons'. Churchgoers have no fundamental right of dialogue with the church leadership. Dialogue is only a unilateral act of clemency that can be interrupted at any time.

SchĂĽller is board member of the protest movement "Aufruf zum Ungehorsam" (appeal to disobedience). The movement calls for reforms, the opening of the church leadership to women , the ending of the exclusion of divorcees, same-sex couples and married priests, the integration of laymen. His organization is very similar to the Association for the Rights of Catholics in Church.

I think this is a cause worth working for. But it won't come out of nowhere. You'll need to stand up and fight for a modern church.
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08:58 AM on 05/21/2012
Just choose science, physics, math and reality over magic and superstition and save yourself all the cognitive dissonance.
09:13 AM on 05/21/2012
That's an excellent suggestion and what I'm already practicing.

Nonetheless, religious communities actually do play their role in our societies. As I am interested in freedom, constitution and democracy, I keep more or less loose contact with the religious life of my fellow human beings.

I firmly believe that a good idea or a deeper reflection that may lead to a good idea is worth being supported even if I am not a member of that community.
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Sarah O'Leary
09:49 AM on 05/21/2012
Thank you very much for your comments. I wasn't familiar with the article or the priest whom you mention. I wonder how he's avoided de-frocking? Good for him! Accepting one's circumstance when it is unacceptable is the waste of one's being. There is a huge difference between disobeying the tenets of a church and disobeying God. Thanks again -- much appreciated!
12:06 PM on 05/21/2012
"I wonder how he's avoided de-frocking?"

Actually, he's been sacked as vicar general of Vienna by Cardinal Christoph Schönborn. But Schüller is very popular among Austrian churchgoers. He was at the head of the office of ombudsman of the arch diocese Vienna for nearly 10 years. He formulated rules for the handling of sexual abuse, rules that were not implemented. He later confessed that his time in the office of ombudsman disillusioned him.

SchĂĽller's dismissal as vicar general led to a massive wave of church leavers. The arch diocese knows that further sanctions against SchĂĽller will probably end in a catastrophe for RCC in Austria.

SchĂĽller's concept is very simple: work at the grassroots level (the parish) to gather churchgoers, unify them in the effort to implement long overdue reforms in the parish's routine and present RCC with a fait accompli. He's very successful, RCC would have to defrock many Austrian priests to stop the movement.

There is no warranty of course, but I think it's a very encouraging (and courageous) initiative.
03:56 AM on 05/21/2012
Your interpretations of the traditions of those religions are yours to make but defining others intent by projecting them onto others who share those faiths is unfair and wrong. Modern society has colored many religious traditions in a specific light but it has yet to be shown that the rejection of those traditions has improved the quality of life that we experience. It is my belief the questions of spirituality and religious convictions are a personal one to make or reject and I feel that to catagorize traditions of a faith in such a negative light as seen through the filter of pop political culture is of little value.
03:50 AM on 05/21/2012
"By attending Catholic mass, I'm tacitly endorsing women's inequality within the Church. Through my silence, I am agreeing with its calculated discrimination against females. I am supporting a Church that fights to control women's reproductive choices and is hell bent on ruining the lives of my God-loving gay brothers and sisters. And at the end of the day, I'm going to have to explain to Jesus why I would patronize any organization that doesn't treat His children equally."

You don't yet see the true nature of the beast. :(
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Sarah O'Leary
10:02 AM on 05/21/2012
Enlighten me?
08:30 PM on 05/23/2012
There is no empathy in utopia.
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03:00 AM on 05/21/2012
There is one way. Women have the right to say no to the selection of bishops. No one does but the Right is in the Rite. It is about time that we start hearing no and boos instead of clapping at the acclamation. during the consecration and/or instillation.of bishops. It will take a non-violent world wide concerted protest movement to change things. There may be deaths. The important thing is non-violence.
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Sarah O'Leary
09:52 AM on 05/21/2012
I wasn't aware of that -- will have to check it out. And I couldn't agree more -- non-violence is fundamental to any shift -- political, religious, etc. Thanks for you comments.
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01:27 AM on 05/21/2012
What do these religions say about male insucurity. We have to always politically and religously put ourselves over women. Some religions force there women to cover themselves and hide away from even taking part in society. Fear, weakness and jealosy. Men show them sleves to be afraid of the idea of a woman or anyone being more powerful then they are. To me forcing a woman to cover up acknowleges the power women have over men and the weakness men have toward women. If a man is unable to control himself from an uncovered women Its not the womans fauslt but his own weakness. There are also hints of jealousy. We cant have anyone look at our women or give women an ounce of our power. We as americans even have a great many hangups about uncovered women. Violence of all kinds is more acceptable to us then a bare woman. Give me a strong bare woman who can stand with me not behind or bowed down to me. A strong person admires strength in all others. A strong woman cannot deminish a stong man but only add to his strength and vise versa.
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10:51 PM on 05/20/2012
It is like going to the worst restaurant in town, complaining about the food every time, and then when asked why you don't just go to a different restaurant, they say they are on a mission to convince the restaurant to change its menu.

You already recognize it is all arbitrary. Find a better menu.
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Sarah O'Leary
12:11 AM on 05/21/2012
Thanks for sharing. We all have that choice to make. I choose to attempt to exact positive change. If we all just left whenever we didn't like what we see, what would the world look like? The government didn't allow women to vote. Should women have left? Blacks were not afforded equal equal rights (and I would argue still aren't in many areas), should they have just left? After the South lost the Civil War, should they have simply left? I hope you see my point. There are things in a society worth fighting for. And because they are worth fighting for, one is compelled not to run from them.
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02:41 AM on 05/21/2012
False analogies. Which government you select is not comparable, because there is only one government per locality.

Women absolutely should leave the church and join a church down the street that doesn't treat them like second class citizens. The quickest way to force a voluntary institution to change, is for everyone to leave it.
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08:55 AM on 05/21/2012
Yes Sarah, if every woman suddenly declared that she would no longer participate in the Catholic Church in any way, and instead devoted herself to a truly humanitarian organization led by women, that simply directed its energy to helping women and children around the world without any ideology from a Talking God, it would be the greatest thing ever done by women in the history of the world, and it could very well make the world a much better place faster than we could guess.
03:55 AM on 05/21/2012
Agreed.
08:37 PM on 05/20/2012
Basically I find this kind of whiny. Jenn Granholm can't be president, does that make her less of a person than he who can? Who in the heck is this DaVinci guy? I don't care who he put in his painting the truth is Jesus had 12 (and eventually 11) of his MALE apostles there. And certainly Jesus didn't look down upon women, but he adhered to God's arrangement. I'm not Catholic and therefore am not defending it's position, but if more people would take time to study the Bible they'd see things much different than what most of organized religion promotes.
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Sarah O'Leary
11:39 PM on 05/20/2012
Kemo, it seems we agree to disagree. I believe that all of God's children are equal, and the way organized religion has manipulated spirituality to forsake women is not in God's plan.
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09:16 AM on 05/21/2012
And yet you persist in believing "God's Plan" is the RCC. Period. That's some interesting God you worship.
11:05 PM on 05/21/2012
Sarah O: I couldn't agree more that all are equal in God's sight. But again the only way to know what God thinks is through the pages of his written Word, the Bible. We cannot say"Oh, that's out of date for our times", or in other words tell God what He's supposed to think; He tells us what He requires. Please read the following: 1Timothy 2:11,12 and 1 Corinthians 14:33,34 to see how God feels about women's role of leadership in the Christian Congregation. And again this is not meant to be any more demeaning than is the fact that not all of us men can be spiritual leaders in the Congregation. It's not demeaning because everlasting life is just as long for a woman who does God's will as it is for any Pastor, Minister, etc.
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08:15 PM on 05/20/2012
The beating that "religion" takes on this page is unjustified. "Religion" is nothing more than those things that are central to one's belief system. It is that which motivates a person's life. To claim that "religion" is false, is to claim that there is no purpose to life, no center. It is true, on the other hand, that many religions use their belief systems to marginalize others. Even a cursory reading of the Gospels reveals that Jesus' attitudes toward marginalized people, women especially, were far different from that of the Roman church today. Many leaders in the early church were also women. Paul, even though at times he seems a bit misogynistic, said that "in Christ there is no male or female," as saw the chief evidence of Jesus' resurrection as being the breaking down of the artificial boundaries people use to exclude others or relegate them to second-class citizen status. Pastor O'Leary sounds like she is just starting down the road to discovering that the church hierarchy are just people, as fallible as anyone else. This includes the pope. Like most conservatives, they don't like change, and are all-too-ready to relegate others to second-class status. They are more concerned about institutional values than human ones. The gospel, in their reckoning, is good news for them - not necessarily others. Welcome to the real world.
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Sarah O'Leary
11:42 PM on 05/20/2012
I fear you have missed the point of the piece. Let me clarify. Man's interpretation of God through religion has, historically, been at the expense of women's freedom and equality. Thanks for your comment.
06:13 PM on 05/20/2012
You could always start your own religion. John Smith did it. L. Ron. Hubbard did it. The "men" that copied various stories that predated christianity in order to make up your religion did it. So can you.
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Sarah O'Leary
11:43 PM on 05/20/2012
Did you read the part in the piece about not abandoning things, but rather work from inside to change them? For me, this is a more logical approach. In fact, starting my own religion would do nothing to improve the position of Catholic women or the role of women (as affected by organized religions) around the world. Thanks for your comment.
03:15 PM on 05/21/2012
Yes I did read that. And thank you for commenting. It is nice to discuss ideas with the writer of the piece. For me as an atheist that has read and studied a lot of religion. The answer seems simple, pragmatic and logical. Don't like your religion, start something new. Like Martin Luther, without the whole Atheist should be treated like rabid dogs things. Maybe you should write your own 95 these and head to Wittenberg. All Saint's Church still has its door. 
 I don't think the catholic church is going to rescind such a tenant of their organization. Heck they didn't officially admit Galileo was right until 1992. Which was far easier than reevaluating and rewriting the history of their books that really don't like your gender. While I feel your quest is admirable despite my disagreements with your religion. I don't think women are ever going to be given a position in the organization to ever effect the kind of change that you want. In either you religion or the other religions that view women as second class citizens. 
So essentially it seems to me that you are trying to climb a ladder without any rungs for you to grab hold of. Yet. So it would seem more logical to simply create your own. 
Also, I would think in the time when you would be given that rung. Religion probably would be in its last throes and the point would be moot.
ungroundedfaith
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05:54 PM on 05/20/2012
Welcome to the first step in reality. Religion has been at the throats of human rights since its inception. I assume that by the "pew" you mean the people in the seats that stand up for those rights. For centuries the church supported slavery until the most rational minds spoke up and demanded change. Now women's rights... it isn't just the ability to be a church leader... it's the right to use birth control or (god forbid) terminate a pregnancy even under life threatening complications. They also rail on homosexuals and anything else that leans them uncomfortable.