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Sari Eckler Cooper
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Sari Eckler Cooper LCSW is a licensed individual, couples and Certified Sex Therapist and writer who has been in private practice in New York City for 20 years. She has written about sexuality, sexual education, and presented talks about issues including: divorce, gender, sexual dysfunction, erotic conundrums and affairs. She leads workshops on How to talk to Your Partner about Sex, How to Educate your Tween or Teen in the Digital Age about Sexuality and Increasing Your Sex Esteem TM. Her work has appeared on the websites,,, and in Timeout New York, Esquire Magazine, and Contemporary Sexuality. Her blog Sexual Aptitude can also be found on her website

Entries by Sari Eckler Cooper

What Readers of Fifty Shades of Grey Want Their Male Partners to Learn From the Movie (If They Agree to Go See It)

(10) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 1:45 PM

With the premiere of Fifty Shades the movie widely anticipated this Valentine's Day, I think it's important to look at what heterosexual men can learn about what women are seeking in the fantasy that is Christian Grey. I would say that for 99% of my clients and those of my...

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Home for Thanksgiving Dinner With Your Parents (and a Bit of Sex With Your Partner?)

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 5:41 PM

Thanksgiving is upon us and with it all the rituals that allow Americans to feel good about being, well, American. It is also the holiday in which 46.3 million Americans will travel to visit family or close friends to celebrate the turkey, the football, the pumpkin pie and...

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Are Millenial Men Supposed to 'Man Up'?

(0) Comments | Posted October 15, 2014 | 12:45 PM

Where does the essence of masculinity and virility lie? What defines a man as a man these days and how far have millennial men come as far as the variety of emotions they are allowed to express openly?

Conventional gender roles and scripts have been molded from our society's...

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The Real Naked Drama Behind the Movie Sex Tape

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 5:39 PM

I was fortunate to be invited to a private preview screening this week of the comedy Sex Tape with Jason Segel and Cameron Diaz. No spoilers here!

I thought they captured the most common pitfalls couples find themselves dropping into and that continue from one generation to the next....

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What Makes a 'Good Dad' This Father's Day?

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 12:06 PM

I recently attended the Third Metric Conference where Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, presented the idea of givers, people who give more than they get; takers -- people who get more than they give; and matchers, people who find the balance between giving and taking and...

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Sex With an Ex: A Valentine's Day Fantasy or a Possible Start to Reuniting?

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2014 | 9:31 PM

We have seen some celebrities (such as Kobe Bryant and Pink) reunite with their spouses after actually or almost divorcing. Fans would likely project their own fantasies about these celebrities onto their own personal longings for a recently parted spouse or lover. What could feel more...

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Matt Lauer Asked the Wrong Question/Miley Cyrus Gave the Wrong Answer

(2) Comments | Posted October 9, 2013 | 1:58 PM


This week on The Today Show, Matt Lauer asked Miley Cyrus whether the latest dances, photo shots and songs she's been presenting is a new "sexual side" of hers that will be here for a while then move on to something else?...

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Does Cheating Automatically Mean Divorce?

(495) Comments | Posted June 20, 2012 | 1:30 AM

Is it possible to move on after a spouse has had an affair?

As a certified sex and licensed couples therapist, I have worked with many couples in the aftermath of an affair. Those first few weeks and months seem crazy to the hurt partner as they try to piece...

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Teacher's Firing Over Alleged Porn Career: A Teaching Moment for Parents

(35) Comments | Posted December 4, 2011 | 3:00 PM

With the recent article in the Boston Globe reporting that Kevin Hogan, an English teacher and chair at a charter school in Boston, has been put on leave while the allegations that he starred in porn videos is being investigated, it is a perfect opportunity to teach kids...

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Does Sexual Dysfunction Lead to Divorce?

(654) Comments | Posted October 25, 2011 | 2:00 AM

When we hear about celebrity couples splitting up, it's often due to infidelity -- or so we're told by the gossip magazines. What is never reported are the couples who divorce due to one or the other having a sexual dysfunction. It may be obvious that this is perhaps the...

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Congratulations Kate and William! Did you Sign a Sexuality Prenup?

(2) Comments | Posted May 31, 2011 | 7:21 PM

After an estimated 22.7 milliion viewers watched the wedding of Kate Middleton and Prince William last month, I wonder if any of them thought about whether this marriage too, like Charles' and Diana's, would end in infidelity and divorce?

Gazing at Kate's calm, cool, and collected...

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Surviving Divorce: 7 Dos and Don'ts; an Addendum

(0) Comments | Posted January 25, 2011 | 10:40 PM

In an effort to provide readers with a fuller list of tips in their post-divorce single life, Sari Cooper, relationship and sex therapist, adds some tips to the article Surviving Divorce: 20 Dos and Don'ts first published by The Survivors Club on Huffington Post with which they may...

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