The spring time holidays are approaching which means road trips back home to small towns across America. It also means having to deal with families that call your lifestyle "alternative" and your wife of five years, your "roommate." I still get emails daily from confused, questioning, self-hating, self-doubting women that...

I get reader requests all the time for dating advice. All too often, women want to know what they're doing wrong, when really it's that they're dating the wrong person! After hearing far too many similar stories from single lesbians, I realized there were some common threads running through many...

As a young girl, my favorite superheroes were Wonder Woman, Cat Woman and She-Ra. Like many children, I watched those cartoons and then acted out the heroic feats in my front yard with the neighborhood kids. Unlike most of the other little girls that wanted to play the damsel in...

The coming-out process can be an overwhelming experience. It is most definitely an emotional rollercoaster as one goes through the self-realization that they are gay all the way to admitting it to the world. But how much of the 'when you come out' affects how you identify within the gay...

Before signing domestic partnership papers with my wife last year (yes, I call her my wife), we were told by several people who had walked that path before us that it was the most unromantic, matter-of-fact thing in the world. People told us that it was simply signing a paper...

In a recent post Megan Evans wrote about femme invisibility. As I was reading through the comments on that post, I was struck by some that seemed downright angry that we should want or dare think we deserve to be recognized as lesbians. Several people argued that perhaps...

Once upon a time, I tried not to date anyone shorter then me, not because I think any less of shorter women (I don't... in fact, some of the hottest lesbians I've ever laid my eyes on have been of shorter stature than me), but as a femme, I had...

I'm in a constant state of awe at my total lack of self-awareness as far as figuring out I was a lesbian. Really, how could I not have figured out I was gay before the age of 24?! I mean, I could understand if I were bi. But I'm not....