Our kids may want things, but they NEED time with their fathers more. This Christmas, instead of stuff, we should give our kids the opportunities to do more fun things with us. Here are a few ideas how.
2. Buy Things That Support Common Interests
Both my wife, Amy, and I come from skiing families. A few years ago, Nick was old enough to start. For Christmas, we bought him kids' ski lessons at Mt. Peter, a tiny ski mountain about 40 minutes north of our house. The (very reasonably priced) lessons were every Tuesday after school from January through March, and Nick could ski for free after his lessons. I bought a Tuesday-only ski pass for myself, and for three months, each Tuesday was spent driving to Mt. Peter and back (I used these car rides to introduce my son to Elvis, the Beatles, Pat Benatar, and punk rock) and skiing together after his lessons. Time and money very well spent.
I have a friend whose son is very mechanically inclined, and every Christmas Santa gets his son one of those gonzo mechanized LEGO sets for them to work on together. The hours they spend working on these is great bonding time, and they also get a tangible reminder of their work together after the project is finished. Legos are great, but Lego sets that become father-son projects are a gift that keeps on giving. (In fact, Lego recently started a very smart ad campaign on this very theme).
Amy and Nick are into Harry Potter and she may give him her set of HP hardcovers in the next few years -- a great excuse to spend time reading the books together.
Regardless of what it is that you and your kids like to do, why not have Santa bring presents that give you more opportunities to do them together?
3. Buy Experiences
Research on happiness shows that money buys far more happiness if it is spent on experiences instead of things.
A few Christmases ago, Nick's favorite present wasn't a toy at all, but an envelope. In it was a note stating that "We are going to Disney!" Amy and I had budgeted for this trip for a while, but this is the first Nick heard of it. That Disney trip was an incredible family vacation, and we have the memories and pictures to hold on to. I'm sure Nick doesn't even remember he got considerably fewer gifts that year.
Yes, I know Disney is not in every family's budget, but there are options at every price range. A much smaller option I'm considering for this Christmas is a four-pack of tickets to our local minor-league baseball team.
If you are a dad who likes the outdoors, buying a small tent for Christmas and attaching a note about when your first camping vacation will be would make for a cool present and a way to lock in a weekend dad-and-kids adventure (plus, the tent can be used in the living room for a test run after the tree is put to the curb).
Family memberships at many cultural institutions pay for themselves in two visits. In my neck of the woods, family memberships to Storm King Arts Center, the Bronx Zoo and the NYC Botanical Gardens are very reasonable. By buying a membership, you are much more likely to spend a few Sundays over the course of the year out on a family trip, as opposed to spendingthe day watching your football teams lose.
Our kids may want things, but they NEED time with their fathers more.
Toys and games are great, and I'm not advocating taking the thrill of ripping away Santa's wrapping paper from our kids, but perhaps we would all be better served by shifting the types of presents we give -- less stuff, more Dad-and-Kid experiences. They'll remember the gift of your constant loving presence more than any present under the tree.
What do you think about these ideas? Any examples to share? Let's discuss in the comments section.
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