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My Kids Want a Dog. Do I?

Posted: 04/23/2012 1:11 pm

I'm a sports person. I'm a people person. I am not a dog person. Let me repeat that. I am not a dog person. By that I aim to say that I have not been able to relate to people who own dogs rather than implying that I am some sort of half man, half dog beast who craps on the rug but blames it on the baby à la Brian Griffin.

I have no problem with pets. My mom got us pets when we were kids. I had a rabbit named Pudge as a kid, named after my favorite baseball player at the time, Carlton Fisk. I also had a gerbil named Gus. Gus attacked a hamster at show and tell one day and died shortly thereafter. No, natural causes! I feel your look! My brother Todd and I buried Gus in a cigar box and then a few weeks later I dug him up to see what he looked like. Looking back on it now, my mom was right. Bad idea. Ok, maybe I do have a problem.

Now I'm a dad with an eight-year-old daughter who is obsessed with getting a dog. At first my wife and I thought it would subside, much like her daily request to meet Katy Perry. We eventually got her to understand that was a tall task. Especially now. Katy is in a very dark place, poor thing. The dog obsession, however, did not go away.

She took to Google for research -- and not just for pictures. She would come in and announce she knew which dogs were hypo-allergenic, since her brother has a slight allergy. She would walk up to people on the street, ask politely to pet the dog and then ask what kind it was. We would say "Dogs are a lot of work, you know?" "I know, I will walk it and pick up the poop." Uh huh. In the middle of January?

Her efforts, though, began to warrant real recognition, grown up recognition. She wasn't simply whining or begging. She was going about it in a way that clearly said she was serious about it. Well, you know, all but the part about picking up the poop. So if she was serious about it, my wife and I decided we should be, too. So we started talking seriously about it. But it was just that -- talk. I was still not sure. Then my brother Kyle wrote this post and it kind of put me over the top.

One problem -- I have no clue what is proper etiquette when it comes to buying a dog. I know to ask about behavior and training and health, but is it ok to look at this like buying a car instead of having another child? Will the breeder think I'm a jerk if I go in with that approach? "So, I want something in midnight electric blue and you can keep the coat-shining seal. I'd prefer front-leg drive so he can maneuver the tough Chicago winters. Also, I want to be able to take him on runs so how quickly can this breed go from zero to 5 mph?" See where I'm going? This has the potential to turn into a Larry David moment if I am not prepared.

All kidding aside, I see this very much as something that will bring our family closer together and, I hope, teach both my kids responsibility. I know this is as much an emotional investment as it is rationale, probably more so. This will be a member of our family that we will care for, enjoy and love. I don't want any of you to believe I'm shallow enough to only get a dog based on its performance. Well, at least those of you who don't already know me. This is a legitimate concern, so any guidance is much appreciated. You know, like the residual value of the dog as well as a true market money factor.

 

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11:13 AM on 05/04/2012
when i was 8 years old i saw my cousins turtle and decided i HAD TO HAVE ONE . my parents said no. i got every book on turtle and reptile care i brgged and nagged and talked of nothing else until my parents agreed to get me one for my birthday. i got '' michalangelo '' that day on my 9th birthday and i' ll never forget it. for 7 years i fed him and took care of him, cleaned out his tank , although as he got bigger he needed a bigger glass tank. and i would cut up fruit, catch insects for him as a special treat and read the latest reptile care magezines relesed each month. even sit and talk to him. at that young age, i didn't just tell my parents '' i swear i'll take care of him forever .!! '' i meant it. that saying though, most kids were NOT like me.
03:57 PM on 04/26/2012
Don't do it. If you have to convince yourself that it'll be okay once we get one, it'll end in disaster. It'll be alot of work, yes in the middle of January as well as everytime you are sick, feel lazy, etc. Get a cat. They take care of themselves (except for picking up their hairballs) even while you're on vacation.
02:19 AM on 04/24/2012
Don't get one. There are enough discarded dogs in the world. Only get a dog if you want one and know what you are getting into.
06:42 PM on 04/23/2012
Hey Scott - Please consider getting a rescue. There are great organizations that will match you with a rescue that meets the size, activity level, temperament levels you're looking for. Please don't go to a breeder when hundreds of thousands of wonderful animals are euthanized every year because they can't find homes.
05:28 PM on 04/23/2012
Never get a dog for your kids alone. It is a wonderful way to help teach responsibility, yes, but as a veterinarian, I've seen too many dogs obtained on a child's wish only to be forgotten and complained about, which isn't fair to the dog. This will be your dog. Your daughter will love it, and if you're lucky she may help with its care, but she is too young to be the one who is responsible for it. Do your research about breeds and their needs and health issues. Talk to your local vet about what to expect. The first year especially is full of vaccines, neutering, preventatives. It's an investment of time and money. And, it's a long term commitment- remember, depending on the breed, you will likely have this dog for 10-15 years, often after the children leave for college. Off the soap box now. Thank you.
11:40 PM on 04/23/2012
Absolutely agree - many if not most people get pets to indulge themselves, as if it were a toy, without thinking about how the animal fits into their situation.

I hope you preach whenever the subject comes up. When I go off telling a client not to do something, I say, "look at it this way if you doubt me - I'm talking myself out of work."
04:24 PM on 04/23/2012
Find a trainer you like before you get the dog. My preference is for those who use exclusively or at least primarily research based peer reviewed positive training methods. Once you have an experienced trainer who can effectively evaluate your prospective dog's temperament, take him or her with you when meeting dogs or puppies. Go without your daughter first.

Once dog or puppy is home, enroll the entire family in an appropriate dog obedience class. Well run puppy classes are good opportunities for social development. Sensible obedience training helps dogs and families bond with one another.

Good luck.
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01:56 PM on 04/23/2012
Nicely writen. Here are a few things to consider.

1. Looks alone are not the lasting nor the most important issue, but looks do count. not just to you, but to your peers when you take your dog on walks and to the dog park.

2. Personality of dogs vary by breed as well as individual. Choose a breed that hes the personality that fits best for your family.

3. Small dogs bark a lot. They are scared and want to warn you. Often, all the time.

4. Pure Breads and not better than muts, muts are not better than Purebreads. DO look into Purebread rescue. IO adopted three Siberian Huskies that way.

5. Big dogs eat more food.

6. Does your dog bite? If it has teeth, it bites.

7. How close is the nearest dog park?

8. Love your dog.
01:38 PM on 04/23/2012
Well, you know, all but the part about picking up the poop.
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