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Valentine's Is Not Just a Day

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I knew that love was in the air when my then boyfriend, now husband of 30 years, invited me to attend his company's Annual Valentine's Day Awards Banquet. There I was introduced to his supervisors, co-workers, their spouses and dates. I felt so admired, adored and perhaps envied to be with my "knight in shining armor."

On May 29 of that same year, we were married in a beautiful ceremony, surrounded by family, friends, well-wishers and many of those same people whom I met on Valentine's Day.

The following year, right around Valentine's Day, my husband and I were involved in a near fatal head-on car collision. My ankle was severely maimed in this accident leaving the doctors to the conclusion that I would never walk again. For three days, I lay in the hospital with a thigh-high cast, in excruciating pain. Each time, I woke up, my Knight sat there with an ear bleeding from the shattered windows of the totaled vehicle.

My husband refused to accept the report of the doctor and he taught me to walk again! It is this moment that I realized the adage, "You don't marry the one that you can live with; you marry the one that you can't live without." I needed my husband to love me every day and he needed me to love him in the same way. As a couple, we were unable to celebrate on Valentine's Day that year, but everyday became a day of love.

If Love is concentrated to being celebrated on only one day of the year -- we miss the many attributes of love.

Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered.

It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do.

Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.

Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful and trusting.

Love never fails!

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8 CEV) During this time we are often inundated with pictures of cupid with his arrow waiting to give the gift of love to hearts everywhere. The reality is many of us have been hurt when we fell in love and find ourselves fearful to love again or to give ourselves fully to the one we already have. So during this time, I want to challenge you to live a Psalms 91:5 life, "Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day."

Do not allow your past experiences to stop future joy. Love, when given and received with a pure heart, has encouraged people to overcome their most difficult struggles, to face their deepest fears. If cupid heads your way, don't let fear keep it away. May you embrace all of the love around you on everyday you have been blessed with on this Earth because, dear lovers, Valentine's is not just one day!