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I am not the sunniest person I know. Not even close. But neither am I a font of Scandinavian gloom. If I had to describe how I try to go through the day, the word that comes to mind is bemused. My wife sometimes asks what is upsetting me and I have to explain my dour countenance. Nothing, I say, that is just my face in repose. Some people look blissful when they are relaxed. I look like I just finished reading The Brothers Karamazov. I wish I were smiler. My natural expression is a slightly foreboding one (at fifteen, my son is actively trying to cultivate this), and I wish it were not so. If I were smiling naturally, perhaps it would be easier to feel better about things.
Although I have been relatively lucky in life - if you don't count a series of bad relationships prior to marriage, and cancer (I'm fine now, thanks) - I have developed a somewhat pessimistic outlook. Perhaps this has something to do with having worked as a screenwriter for the past twenty years. An agent once told me, "The movie business is designed to make you cry." I can attest that this is true. So I developed a negative gene, one that protects me from damage. If you can anticipate the insult, it can be deflected. An open heart is one that will bleed to death.
But that, my three readers, is show business. Not life.
I don't feel like I have the luxury of pessimism any more. The country is in dire shape, the problems seem insurmountable, the leaders of the past eight years dangerous buffoons who will pay no price for their epic malfeasance. The auto industry is tanking, newspapers are going bankrupt, and Wall Street is fleecing us again with the bailout. Truly, things are awful.
And yet.
Here is Barack Obama. I am not one of the people who think he walks on water. He is human and will make his share of mistakes, of bad calls. He will do things I don't like. But he is a supremely intelligent grown-up, and someone I am willing to trust. Perhaps he won't be able to disarm Iran, or provide universal health care, or eliminate the drum machine from pop music, but his being in charge makes me hopeful.
Pessimism is too easy right now. The public education system is an abject failure, we are in an S&M relationship with China, and our economy is in free-fall. But to be pessimistic is to give in to the obvious. The hope thing, so in evidence throughout the Obama campaign, always struck me as a loser. I would see the famous poster of Obama and it reminded me of the classic one of Che Guevara that adorned dorm room walls back in the 70s, and was so-often observed through a haze of bong smoke and Joni Mitchell music. It was a killer in graphic terms, but it had the look of a loser. Che had ended up riddled with bullets in a South American jungle. What did he have to show for all of his revolutionary fire? The dictatorship of Fidel Castro's Cuba? And please, don't tell me about how everyone there has free medical care.
In my previously pessimistic state, I assumed Obama would follow Che's path to irrelevancy. The Obama posters, like those of Che would be an aching memory of a candle that burned just brightly enough to tickle everyone's expectations, before being blown out in a foul gust of McCain-Palin. How great it is to be wrong. Clearly, anything can happen.
People will continue to do bad things to each other. They will be greedy, slothful, consumed by lust, and insensitive in the extreme. Some might be pessimistic about their chances in such a difficult world. Borders is failing, major publishers are contracting, and the market for fiction by someone who isn't Stephanie Meyer is shrinking. So I am optimistic right now. Given all the awfulness, why should that be? It's no secret that the most resonant art comes from pain. I suspect we are in for an unusually creative period.
Seth Greenland co-founded the InnerKids Foundation.
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Thank you for this blog. I can completely relate to the notion of becoming a "sudden optimist" and perhaps even an accidental activist. I think we will see optimism springing up as a reaction to a lot of the pessimism around us in the next year, we will suddently see smiling women on magazine covers replacing moody shots of beautiful people looking, well, not so beautiful.
I look forward to the creativity and am enjoying my own, having started a little movement to counter the notion that frugality is cool called Fuel the Economy. Have a look www.fueltheeconomy.org and by all means, if you are so inclined, join me.
Look - you have more than 3 readers!
Here's the thing. Most of life is perception.
If the media began to broadcast the resurgence of our healthy economy, everyone would jump on the bandwagon and make it real.
You are right that it's easy to be pessimistic. And yep, during times of hardship, beautiful, significant art emerges.
Let's HOPE things get better. Why not?
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Your balanced perspective was just great to read - thank you I too feel that we are in for a period of significant creativity, about which I feel optimistic.
I am curious to see the good that will be emerging from these "dark" days.
I appreciate very much what you have written here.
Anne Naylor
From an optimistic point of view: the recession is on a steady road to recovery.
Oh Seth,
I am still holding out for the removal of the drum machine!
- Daniel Davis, displaced drummer
Great to have your new uplifting insights Seth
inspiring to see the possibility of shift
For someone who had that old disposition you still managed to produce some great works of writing
let the sun in
Agapi
Seth, I couldn't help notice the irony that as I read your article two banners above it mentioned '31 Ways to Find Happiness' (it leads you to Oprah.com) and 'Don't forget to laugh'.
Since you mentioned a Russian novelist I'll counter with a Scandinavian playwright. Ibsen's play, The Wild Duck, is difficult to stage and poorly received as a drama. However, when I read it in university I found it so absurd I started laughing out loud, recognizing it as maybe the earliest example of a 'black comedy'. A few weeks later I found a glowing review of the Theatre de la Jeune Lune in Minneapolis' staging of the play as a black comedy. Since they set the right context, the audience knew what they were getting and could relax and enjoy!
It's all CONTEXT.
So, SMILE. Life is a comedy, sometimes a black one, with cancer (glad you're better) but also love. Your 15 year old, like my 12 year old can be a jerk one minute and a great source of joy the next; I choose to see the 'jerk' part as the temporary and the 'joy' part as the natural state. Ultimately optimism, like comedy, means no matter what happens, at the end of the day, you'll choose to come back and try another day.
Thanks for an entertaining read and thoughtful insight; I look forward to more.
Wonderful read! Thank You!
Seth Greenland,
A brilliantly written piece! Thank you! You spoke my heart. In these times, more than ever, our willingness to simply stand in possibility, which I think is even stronger than hope, is crucial. Maybe this is what it takes to jar us out of our collective slumber that got us here in the first place.
I'm sure you'll have more than three readers for this wonderful piece of writing. I'm going to post it on my Facebook page.
Thank you for speaking this important truth.
Blessings,
Judith Rich
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