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Getting Unstuck : 3 Simple Ways to Get Back in the Groove

06/10/2015 03:10 pm ET | Updated Jun 10, 2016

Has this ever happened to you?

You're cruising. Business is good and the days fly by. You're accomplishing a lot. In fact, getting stuff done is almost effortless! Life is satisfying and fulfilling.

You're physically strong, energized and healthy. Your relationships are solid and secure. Life feels joyous. You're happy and in the flow.

Then, all of a sudden, something happens and kapow! Everything comes to a screeching halt.

Maybe you get physically sick and can't get out of bed for two weeks. Maybe you lose a major client and it sends you into a tailspin. But suddenly, you're out of the flow. Now life feels hard.

Where did that energy, that desire, the vibrancy go?

From the vantage point of this new lackluster place, your former "productive" self feels like a dream.

If this sounds familiar, it's because we can ALL relate.

Similar scenarios occur on and off throughout our lives in both small and huge ways. Maybe it's a day of feeling off your game, maybe it's six months.

I used to think, "when this issue is gone, it'll be smooth sailing from here on out." But then one day I realized, NO. Life is always providing challenges for us to overcome and some of those are curveballs.

The question is, how do we get back into the game?

Here are Three Ways I've Learned to Get Out of the Funk and Back in the Flow:

1. Stop Judging
Part of what happens when I slip out of my groove is that I judge myself. Suddenly I feel less productive, less energetic, and a lot more apathetic.

When I judge that place, and make it wrong, it becomes much harder to move through it. However, if I can accept and acknowledge what it is -- just a moment rather than a weakness - I'm more easily able to step out of it.

2. Ease Back In
Think about yourself like a car. Very few can go from 0 to 60 mph instantaneously. We have to regain that speed over time. Ask yourself, what's the first thing I can do to resume my regular schedule?

If you typically run two miles a day, can you start with one or perhaps even a half a mile?

If you normally make 20 calls a day, how about starting with five or maybe even ten?

3. Recognize It For What It Is: Temporary
What we're experiencing is simply a reset. All of us want to be going strong 24/7 but the reality is we can't. Sometimes we need breaks.

So ask yourself, What does self-care look like?

Is it a late evening walk, a relaxing bath, a quiet chat, uplifting music?

Incorporate self-care and small ways to relax into your regular life. By scheduling these, you'll likely be able to maintain your groove longer and more easily without getting blindsided.

And even when you do need a timeout -- remember that it's temporary and necessary.

Life is full of ups and downs. It's just that most of us like the ups more than the downs. But when we remember that it's all part of the journey, we can accept those down times and embrace them for what they are -- a reminder to go slower, a reset or some time to stop and think.

When you find yourself in a down cycle, be gentle and see if incorporating more self-care will enable you to move through them a bit more quickly. Most importantly, remember that what you're feeling is what we all feel and is part of the human experience.

Shakti Sutriasa is the Founder of DecideDifferently.com, offering life coaching, counseling and workshops that combine modern psychology and spirituality. Shakti is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and has an MA in Education. To learn more Click Here