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Shanell Mouland
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Shanell Mouland is a mother, teacher and writer from New Brunswick, Canada. When she isn’t advocating for the rights of individuals with autism she is writing a children's book called: Sunny and Sinclair. She is actively seeking a publisher because the three full time jobs mentioned earlier take a lot of time away from important things like tea drinking and relaxing. She can be reached through her website:

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Your Tears Mean the World to Me

(3) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 9:14 AM

Sweet Grace. I saw that. You watched as Kate sat beside a little girl and the girl moved quickly away. Likely, she was fearful of a bite or the confusing way Kate speaks. Either way, it crushed you. Kate didn't notice her little friend maneuver quickly away; one of the...

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Our Little Girl With Autism, and Her Changing World

(0) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 2:42 PM

She's getting so big. Every time I look at her I can't believe she's ours. This little turtle-loving doll, that gives so much more love to the world than she could ever take, is our girl.

She starts preschool soon. I know she doesn't really fit in. I know...

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Schatz, ich liebe Dich NICHT von Tag zu Tag mehr

(0) Comments | Posted June 19, 2014 | 7:44 AM

Geliebter Schatz,

ich liebe dich nicht jeden Tag mehr. Du könntest jetzt sagen, dass sich bei mir einfach die Gewohnheit eingeschlichen habe - aber an deine nervige Art, anderen ins Wort zu fallen, werde ich mich nie gewöhnen. Und dann ist da noch deine Obsession, jeden Tag ins Fitness-Studio zu...

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Dear Husband, I Don't Love You More Each Day

(20) Comments | Posted June 16, 2014 | 3:29 PM

Dear Husband,

I don't love you more each day. I guess you could say I get more used to you each day, but then who could ever get used to that annoying way you interrupt people all the time? And then there's your incessant need to work out every...

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Why Woody and Jessie Enjoy My Daughter's Autism

(3) Comments | Posted June 5, 2014 | 9:30 AM

I remember the day like it was yesterday. A day when my eldest girl, only 4, decided she was too old for the toys that she had adored to the point of obsession for so long. She was sacrificing her best friends in favor of saucy ponies that worried about...

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How A Simple Haircut Gave Me So Much Hope For My Daughter

(6) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 2:28 PM

If you had asked me what Kate's greatest sensory discomfort was, I would have said it was related to her hair. Until today, she did not let us brush her hair and a proper haircut was out of the question. Then something changed. First let me explain a little about...

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Verbal Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 5:07 PM

At least she can talk.

Is she verbal?

I thought autistic kids couldn't speak?

I don't mind the questions, I really don't. I just want to clarify a few things.

Verbal doesn't mean what you think it means.

Children with autism, Kate included, have deficits in communication regardless of their...

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Dear Kate: A Little Girl Answers Your Questions About Autism, Part II

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 3:25 PM

Dear Kate,

How come you only eat beige foods? I think you might be malnourished and your parents need to force you to eat something with nutritional value. I would make my child sit at the dinner table until she ate what was in front of her! You sound like...

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10 Things a Little Girl With Autism Has to Get Off Her Chest

(3) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 3:37 PM

1. Your quiet dinners are interfering with my exploration of the fancy restaurants.

2. Your social norms are confusing and they are seriously harshing on my mellow.

3. Your gender stereotypes are lame and teaching girls all the wrong things. Turtle Power!

4. Your...

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Dear Kate: A Little Girl Answers Your Questions About Autism

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 10:56 AM

Dear Kate,

Why must we always make so many exceptions for you? I understand you have sensitivities, but come on. Now I'm a jerk if I want to go to a nice restaurant and enjoy some peace and quiet? This doesn't seem fair, does it? I just wish someone would...

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Why My Daughter's Autism Diagnosis Was a Relief

(2) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 2:34 PM

You know what sucked? The months leading up to Kate's diagnosis sucked. The months directly after were a cakewalk in comparison.

I've written before about how I knew something was different about Kate. I guess even earlier than those months before her diagnosis she wasn't connecting with...

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Lieber „Papa" auf Platz 16C

(2) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 7:52 AM

Lieber „Papa",

ich weiß nicht, wie Sie heißen, aber meine Tochter Kate nannte Sie letzte Woche während des gesamten Fluges „Papa". Es war sehr freundlich von Ihnen, sie nicht zu korrigieren. Nein, Sie haben nicht einmal gezuckt oder gezögert. Ich vermute, dass Sie gemerkt haben, dass Kate Sie nicht mit...

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Querido "Papá" del asiento 16C

(6) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 12:01 AM

Querido "Papá":

No sé cuál es tu nombre, pero Kate te llamó "papá" durante todo el vuelo la semana pasada y tú, amablemente, no la corregiste. De hecho, ni siquiera te sentiste extrañado, pues probablemente te diste cuenta de que no es que la niña te estuviera confundiendo con...

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Dear 'Daddy' in Seat 16C

(303) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 7:22 AM

Dear "Daddy,"

I don't know your name, but Kate called you "daddy" for the entire flight last week and you kindly never corrected her. In fact, you didn't even flinch as you could probably tell that she was not confusing you with her own "daddy," but instead making...

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