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Shannon Bradley-Colleary is a Life Coach at and a Scribe, Tart, Provocateur at TWFKAB. Her latest book, Married Sex: Fact and Fiction is available for download now.

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The Little-Known Secret Weapon for Ending a Toxic Relationship

(2) Comments | Posted October 4, 2015 | 2:44 PM

"I feel so used!" I cried to his retreating back. The man I'd been dating five years and living with for two years was walking out our front door carrying our coffee table.

He'd already taken most of our artwork, every stick of furniture that was his before we moved...

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9 Lies Cheaters Tell to Throw You Off the Scent

(3) Comments | Posted September 24, 2015 | 3:12 PM

In my final toxic relationship with a man I call Mr. Cruelly Handsome it took dating two years before he finally gave me a key to his apartment.

When that day arrived I was thrilled. It seemed to usher in a new era of closeness and commitment.

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For This Woman, The Third Try Was The Charm In Bed

(0) Comments | Posted September 20, 2015 | 7:57 AM

I have a midlife client we'll call Mercedes L'Estrange. She's been working my Married Sex Resuscitation Program and was kind enough to allow me to share her most recent story.

She has given me creative license in terms of narration.

Hold on to your socks. This is...

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If You Think 'This' Is Normal in a Relationship, You're in Trouble

(14) Comments | Posted September 14, 2015 | 7:30 PM

From time to time in a long-term relationship we get annoyed and impatient with each other, but if your man criticizes you constantly you're involved in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Slowly but surely toxic partners will work to undermine your confidence in order to control and contain you.

They criticize...

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12-Steppers: 2 Simple Tasks for 'Coming to Believe' in a Higher Power

(0) Comments | Posted September 10, 2015 | 12:49 PM

Living with a philandering Asshat brought me to my knees. So I started attending CODA (Codependents Anonymous), a 12-step program that helps people who are addicted to other people, and working the program with the passion of The Damned.

I did quite well with the First...

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The One Must-Have Item For Seducing Your Spouse

(38) Comments | Posted September 1, 2015 | 5:58 AM

I've always known my husband Henry is exceptionally intelligent. But I didn't realize the extent of his brilliance until he sprung it on me last Mother's Day.

I'll set the scene.

Days prior to that exploitative holiday I'd convinced Henry we should spend it with his mother.

(Did an...

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5 Bad Reasons Women Take Cheaters Back

(1) Comments | Posted August 28, 2015 | 9:35 AM

The question of whether Ben Affleck did or did not cheat with the nanny on his soon-to-be ex-wife Jennifer Garner has gotten me wondering how many times Jen must've taken him back over the years and meditating on why women, more often than men, take cheaters...

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6 Ways to Forget Your Casanova (Shia LaBeouf Is One of Them!)

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2015 | 5:12 PM

Are you dating a Casanova?

Casanova (via The Urban Dictionary):

A smooth-talking charmer who has mastered the art of finding, meeting, attracting and seducing beautiful women into the bedroom.

Once he accomplishes his goal, he leaves the woman [out of] fear of having a relationship and proceeds to find...

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How 'Naked Lunch' Can Lead To Hot Married Sex

(33) Comments | Posted August 17, 2015 | 5:10 AM

When you've been married 14 years and together 17, drastic measures must sometimes be taken to Keep Love Alive.

Drastic, but not difficult.

So last week I tried something new and, for me, a bit daunting.

I stripped this 50-year-old body of mine of everything but...
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Is Your Boyfriend Toxic? Answer These 10 Questions

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2015 | 7:33 AM

Sometimes we don't know whether we're in a bad relationship or not.

Maybe our parents had a very similar relationship to the one we're having now. (Right up until their divorce.)

Maybe we think the difficulties in our relationship stem from us and all of our issues.


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I Was 'Catfished' To Lure Sugar Daddy Bait At 50

(35) Comments | Posted August 2, 2015 | 9:02 AM

I hadn't been on the dating market for oh say ... 18 years. But unbeknownst to me I'm currently out there "Looking For Fun."

Urbandictionary frame

Sunday at 4:23 p.m.

I received a direct message on Facebook from an...

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God Helped This Agnostic End a Toxic Relationship

(1) Comments | Posted July 21, 2015 | 4:43 PM

I was raised Mormon, which didn't suit me. The "One True Church" aspect smacked of hubris and the focus on "Sin" made me rebellious toward a judgmental God. So I became agnostic. I wore my agnosticism like a Girl Scout merit badge.

My inner monologue when the Mormon Missionaries came...

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Break Your Addiction to Toxic Men; My 3-Step Bible

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2015 | 1:30 PM

Addiction to a toxic man prone to Asshattery is no different than addiction to a substance. And I should know because I've been there!


All of the same symptoms can appear:

  • Descent into a shame-spiral about the addiction. (i.e. I'm a grown-ass woman, why do I let him...
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I Cut Off All of My Hair. What Happened Next ...

(1) Comments | Posted July 8, 2015 | 6:29 PM

Hair can have a transformative power. Just look what happened when Felicity chopped hers off; her tv show tanked. When Britney shaved her head she suddenly became an umbrella wielding ninja, sticking it to the paparazzi. And Miley Cyrus's close shave seemed to usher in a period of what some...

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Just A Little Hot Water Made Our Sex Life Boil Over

(1) Comments | Posted June 20, 2015 | 8:48 AM

Last month I had a mild midlife crisis after dancing in a gay club with attractive, sweaty young men who humored me.

I came home a bit disgruntled by the sexual stasis in my long-term marriage with the most interesting (and loving) husband in the world.

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The 9 Life-Altering Things That Happened When I Stopped Dating the Wrong Guy

(12) Comments | Posted June 15, 2015 | 3:29 PM

A toxic man can squelch your Bad-Assery. You are a Badass. You just know you are. You have at least 10 jets that propel you through your badass life.

The problem is, when you date a toxic guy, he can drain your jets.

So instead of having all...

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'My Teenage Daughter Has Become A Cat'

(90) Comments | Posted June 6, 2015 | 6:36 AM

Being older parents has its benefits, which is that we get love, affection and snuggles from our children well into our 50s while everyone else we know is packing their kids off to college.

However no one warned me that when my daughter turned 13 she'd become a cat.


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Die 2 Dinge, die Frauen im Bett wollen und über die wir nie reden

(2) Comments | Posted May 24, 2015 | 11:03 AM

Vor ungefähr einem Monat fand ich mich in einem Schwulen-Club wieder mit reizenden Männern tanzend, die mir das Gefühl gaben, lustig, sexy und schön zu sein, aber absolut kein Interesse daran hatten, mich aus meinem einheimischen Hafen zu locken.

Nach dieser Erfahrung kam ich...

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The 2 Things Women Want In Bed That We're Not Talking About

(453) Comments | Posted May 18, 2015 | 5:47 AM

A month or so back, I found myself in a gay club dancing with lovely men who made me feel fun, sexy and beautiful, but had absolutely no interest in tempting me away from my domestic haven.

However, I came home from that experience...

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Don't Fart in Front of Hot Paramedics

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2015 | 3:19 PM

I thought I was dying.

That's the only excuse for my execrable behavior during The Incident. ("Execrable" being the operative keyword in this tale of bowels and gorgeous men.)

I have IBS, which stands for Irresistible Beauty Syndrome (street-name Irritable Bowel Syndrome). The night before The Incident, my entire...

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