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Shannon Deep is an essayist, dramaturg and playwright originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She currently lives in New York City with her boyfriend, too many roommates and three cats whose mission in life it is to ruin everything she ever loved. She will definitely tweet back to you if you say hi to her on Twitter at @sldeep. If you like essays that are long (but still good!) you can read more on her blog, This Millennial Life.

Entries by Shannon Deep

Experiments in Happiness: Gratitude, One Month (Almost)

(1) Comments | Posted April 27, 2016 | 10:13 AM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness, so I'm experimenting with my behaviors and habits -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can access my archive for past installments.

April: Gratitude Journaling, One Month(ish)

Gratitude journaling...

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Experiments in Happiness: No Sugar, One Month

(0) Comments | Posted March 31, 2016 | 4:03 PM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness, so I'm experimenting with my behaviors and habits -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can access my archive for past installments.

March: No sugar, one month

I am...

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Experiments in Happiness: No Sugar, Two Weeks

(0) Comments | Posted March 17, 2016 | 10:39 AM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness, so I'm experimenting with my behaviors and habits -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can access my HuffPost archive for past installments. You can also read...

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Mansplaining Street Harassment in the Best Way

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2016 | 8:51 AM

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I've written a lot about street harassment. (Like this post or this one or this one.) It's a subject near and dear to my heart, if by near and dear I mean a daily enraging experience...

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Experiments in Happiness: Meditation, One Month

(0) Comments | Posted March 1, 2016 | 1:30 PM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness. This year, I'm focusing on my own behaviors and thought processes and experimenting with altering them--one per month--in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can access my Huffington Post archive here for past installments....

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Experiments in Happiness: Meditation, Two Weeks

(0) Comments | Posted February 16, 2016 | 10:14 AM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness. This year, I'm focusing on my own behaviors and thought processes and experimenting with altering them -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can also access my

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Experiments in Happiness: No Alcohol, One Month

(0) Comments | Posted February 1, 2016 | 9:19 AM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness. This year, I'm focusing on my own behaviors and thought processes and experimenting with altering them -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can access my HuffPost archive here...

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Experiments in Happiness: No Alcohol, Week Two

(0) Comments | Posted January 20, 2016 | 10:00 AM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness. This year, I'm focusing on my own behaviors and thought processes and experimenting with altering them--one per month--in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can also access my HuffPost archive here for...

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Experiments in Happiness: The Setup

(0) Comments | Posted January 12, 2016 | 5:08 PM

Recap: My New Year's resolution is to stop externalizing my happiness. This year, I'm focusing on my own behaviors and thought processes and experimenting with altering them -- one per month -- in order to become a more self-aware, self-assured person. You can also access my

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A Year of Experiments: My 2016 Resolution

(0) Comments | Posted December 31, 2015 | 1:48 PM

I've realized recently that my happiness has come to depend too much on external validation. And I mean that in almost all aspects of my life -- physically, romantically, professionally, and creatively. So my resolution for 2016 is to alleviate that by turning my focus inward and concentrating on how...

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You Don't Own Marriage: An Open Letter to Bishop Thomas

(55) Comments | Posted July 17, 2015 | 5:15 PM

I got an email from a cousin of mine last week.

"Shannon,

Your dad wanted me to send you this horrible letter from our church- also sending you what my father sent back to them. He's looking for others to write as well."

I hadn't attended "our" church in...

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Hedging My Baby Bets: Should I Freeze My Eggs?

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2015 | 11:25 AM

Turning 27 last month has put me in a weird headspace. It's a headspace where I'm thinking about things like 5-year plans and IRAs and making monthly budgets and getting a credit card with relevant airline miles. It's also a headspace where I'm looking at said credit card and thinking...

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'Hello' Isn't Always 'Hello' in NYC

(28) Comments | Posted November 6, 2014 | 12:38 PM

"Yes, some things are blatantly offensive," my friend Jay typed over Gchat, referring to the recent street harassment video that went viral this past week. "But sometimes, the dudes just say hi," he continued. "Unless I'm missing a nuance."

"You are," I said quickly. And then I stared...

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Anyone Scoffing at 'Active Consent' Is Missing the Point

(0) Comments | Posted October 7, 2014 | 12:35 PM

Last Thursday, New York governor Andrew Cuomo announced that the state's university system, SUNY, will be enacting reforms in the next 60 days regarding how campuses prevent, investigate and prosecute sexual assault and rape cases at the university level across its 64 sites. One such reform is adopting...

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'Beach House Full of Girls' Proves Street Harassment Is Okay

(35) Comments | Posted August 28, 2014 | 2:59 PM

When you engage in debates on the Internet, every so often you run across an argument that is so moronically airtight that you can't do anything but stare at your screen in amazement. It's as if the extreme ignorance or shortsightedness is so dense it's created an impermeable fog around...

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I Can't Believe I'm Writing This: Street Harassment Is Not a Compliment

(25) Comments | Posted August 21, 2014 | 12:26 PM

I can't believe that I'm writing this, but apparently some people missed the memo: Street harassment is not a compliment. I repeat: Street harassment is not a compliment.

New York Post writer Doree Lewak disagrees, however, and wrote a flippant, but apparently sincere little piece in...

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4 Important Questions for the Future of Your Long-Term Relationship

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 12:06 PM

(This post originally appeared on This Is Quarterlife.)

A generation ago, the average age of first marriage for women was 22 years old; today, it's in the neighborhood of 26.

I am 26.

One look at my Facebook newsfeed will verify that I am right in...

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Talking About the Future with Your Significant Other (Without Ruining Everything)

(0) Comments | Posted August 2, 2014 | 9:42 AM

Let's just get this out of the way: This post will not tell you how to talk about the future of your relationship without ruining everything. What it will do, however, is walk you through a few ways I have almost ruined everything and why I continue to insist on...

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Snuggling: My Motivational Band-Aid

(1) Comments | Posted July 23, 2014 | 10:30 AM

If you were to ask me about my athletic ability and I were feeling generous that day, I would call myself "almost mildly coordinated." My younger brother got all the sports genes, mostly from our dad, though our mom was both a karate and yoga instructor in her 20s. When...

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Misogyny, or Not Misogyny? That Is the Question

(2) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 9:55 AM

"I just don't see it like that," my boyfriend shrugs. He's not upset. He's not even really arguing. To him, our disagreement is simply a divergence of two equally valid opinions. To me, one of us is acknowledging a goddamn fact and the other is not.

We've just seen...

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