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Should You Redshirt Your Child? Tips on Making the Right Call for Kindergarten

Posted: 05/ 1/11 10:17 AM ET

red·shirt (verb)
The practice of keeping a college athlete out of competition for a year with the intent of developing skills and maximizing future potential. Also applicable to preschoolers.

To those unfamiliar with the growing trend toward redshirting children before kindergarten, you may be wondering what all the fuss is about. I mean, it's kindergarten for heaven's sake! But if you're a parent, you probably know what I'm talking about. The story goes something like this...

Once upon a time, there was a whimsical land of make-believe, dress-up and finger-painting. A magical place where "work" was a four-letter word, "elemenopee" was still one letter and you couldn't spot a math fact for miles. They called it Kindergarten. 



One dark day (after the royal superintendent concluded that Kindergarten's whimsical ways were partially to blame for the kingdom's lackluster standardized test scores), everything changed. Stuffed animals and dollhouses were replaced with math manipulatives and spelling tests. Wooden blocks and PLAY-DOH gave way to rigorous core curriculums and palace-mandated standards.



Once word got out about Kindergarten's abrupt metamorphosis, the parents of the kingdom started to worry that it would take more than five candles on a birthday cake to prepare their children to enter this playroom turned pressure cooker. In fact, some decided it would take at least six candles.

Now the royal superintendent had a whole new problem on his hands -- with so many children entering Kindergarten at age six, he needed to up the difficulty level. So he did. Now the parents were even more worried, especially in the case of boys whose birthdays fell precariously close to the cut-off date.


And that's why -- according to an estimate by the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) based on a 2007 report -- approximately 15 percent of 5- to 6-year-olds now begin kindergarten a year late. The End.

As the mother of four kids, all born within a stone's throw of my school district's cutoff, I'm well acquainted with the kindergarten dilemma. As an elementary educator, I've helped guide many parents with young 5's of their own. So you know I speak from experience when I tell you that parental anxiety over whether or not to redshirt kicks in early on. As in, the moment the ultrasound technician assigns our baby a due date (double the worry if the ultrasound also reveals that baby to be a boy). Parents then proceed to fret for the next five years -- one minute being all but certain their little one will be able to handle the demands of the modern kindergarten curriculum (a.k.a. the former first grade curriculum), and the next feeling convinced that if they don't give him the "gift" of an extra year, they'll hopelessly doom his academic career.

Fortunately, the decision-making process needn't be this grueling (although I can't guarantee it will ever be gruel-free). The following tips from the trenches will help you make a comfortable decision for your child and family.

Delay making the decision as long as you possibly can. Preschoolers can change enormously during the course of a year. A child who doesn't seem ready in January may be raring to go by May.
Trust his preschool teacher. Educators see your child daily in a classroom setting and can compare his degree of readiness to that of other children his age, so it's important to take their input seriously. If you feel that the Pre-K teacher is missing the mark, ask previous teachers to share their perspectives.
Consider an educational evaluation. Psycho-educational testing can help provide you with the truest picture of your child's academic, social and emotional profile. Sometimes local school districts will perform such an evaluation for free. Otherwise, you may need to hire a private professional. Community centers may also offer these evaluations at a significant discount.
Think beyond kindergarten. While a 6-year-old may have a seemingly sizable advantage over a 5-year-old classmate when it comes to forming letters or sounding out words, this discrepancy is likely to be short-lived. By the second or third grade, just about every child can read and write, and age no longer remains a formidable factor in determining academic success. Still, if your child is the type to be easily discouraged, struggling in the beginning can have a lasting impact.
Weigh social/emotional factors heavily. While older and younger children tend to even out academically in the early elementary years, it can take much longer for a child to catch up in the social, emotional and physical arenas. It's also important to consider the social/emotional implications of being both the oldest and youngest in a class, and how they might play out for your individual child.
Know the signs of readiness. While every child has his own unique developmental timetable, experts say that most will demonstrate the skills and accomplishments listed below and will most likely develop the others during the kindergarten year. Here are some general kindergarten readiness markers adapted from The Educated Child by William J. Bennett.
• Personality: He exhibits an avid curiosity about his environment and is eager to learn. He is confident in his ability to succeed and independent enough to do certain things for himself (or at least give it the old kindergarten try!)
• Social Skills: She doesn't need to be a social debutante, but she should be able to integrate into a group, relate to new children and adults and adapt to new routines. A willingness to take turns and share is helpful, too.
• Motor Skills: In the large motor arena, he should be able to jump, run, hop on one foot, throw, catch and kick (balls, that is, not other kids). On the small motor side, he should handle a crayon or pencil comfortably, and be in the process of developing potty-friendly skills like snapping, unbuttoning, re-buttoning and zipping.
• Language Skills: She needn't be capable of giving the Gettysburg address, but she should be able to effectively communicate with adults and other kids.
• Attention and Focus" Five- and 6-year-olds are jittery by design, but most kindergartners can listen to a story or participate in a discussion for 10 to 15 minutes. He should also be keen on finishing the majority of projects he starts.
• Other Cognitive Skills: From a math and reading readiness standpoint, she should be able to name numbers and count, identify letters and understand letter/sound relationships. Most kindergarten-bound kids can also compare various objects using relative terms (i.e., bigger, smaller, heavier, lighter, more and less.)
Have faith that children will blossom when they are ready. Despite nationally-mandated academic standards, not every flower in the garden is designed to bloom at the same rate. It's our responsibility as parents to be patient gardeners, providing our children with nourishing soil, warm sunshine and -- when necessary -- ample time to develop their true colors.
Stick to your guns. In the end, what matters most is that you believe in the direction you've chosen for your child and remain strong enough in your resolve not to second-guess your decision. Sure, you'll encounter some rough spots along the way, but chances are that your child will be just fine -- redshirted or not -- as long as you and the school are there to guide and support him throughout his journey.

 

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red·shirt (verb) The practice of keeping a college athlete out of competition for a year with the intent of developing skills and maximizing future potential. Also applicable to preschoolers. To th...
red·shirt (verb) The practice of keeping a college athlete out of competition for a year with the intent of developing skills and maximizing future potential. Also applicable to preschoolers. To th...
 
 
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11:24 PM on 05/03/2011
I have the opposite problem. I question whether the curriculum will be rigorous enough for my 5yr old who missed the Sept 15 cut off by a few months. He can already read, write, count past 100 and do simple addition and subtraction. I don't want him bored for a year.
I believe the reason behind pushing the cut-off date further and further along is schools wanting older kids in classes to bump up test scores. I can't even take advantage of Pre-K at the school for my younger child because it's solely for kids with developmental issues.
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09:22 PM on 05/03/2011
Sage advise from a mom and educator. My grandson missed the cutoff by two weeks, so no decision was needed, but HE definitely needed the extra year to mature.
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mikey09
Living off the grid.
02:49 PM on 05/02/2011
In Finland kids don't start school till they are 7, they believe younger kids learn better through play. Me, I skipped Kindergarden with all of mine, at age 6 they went off to first grade.
11:57 PM on 05/01/2011
No, redshirt means to have a person whose sole objective is to suffer a most painful end to demonstrate how painful it is.
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WhereIsTheTruth
We need more chlorine in the gene pool!
11:25 PM on 05/01/2011
I'm stunned that there is even an option! Kindergarten was an option when I started school, but it was still subject to a birth date. If you wanted your child to start school, their age determined whether or not they went into K or 1. You had no control as a parent.

I wonder if those parents who are choosing to start their child later are considering that their child may finish later. A 19 year-old senior was an anomaly and had most certainly been held back a year when I graduated high school - some dropped out to avoid that scenario. Have parents considered that they may be causing their children pain later in their educational careers?
01:24 AM on 05/02/2011
Our cutoff in California is Dec 2, just days after my kid's birthday. If I had put him in kindergarten "on schedule", he would be 17 his first semester in college. That clinched my decision to wait. I don't think you'd end up with a 19 year-old senior if you wait, i think you end up with an 18 year-old senior.

If your child is born in the fall, and the state has a late cut-off, it makes a lot of sense to wait.
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gravity defiant
Maybe reality has a liberal bias.
02:02 AM on 05/03/2011
Most districts seem to have a cutoff date much earlier than Dec. these days. August or September seem to be more common around the country, from what I've read. Where we (teachers) used to talk about "fall babies" as being the young ones, we now talk about "spring babies" instead. So a 19-year-old senior is not out of the question by any means.

And for whatever it's worth, my birthday is Dec. 2, and the district where I started school had a 12/31 cutoff, so I started kindergarten at 4 and was still 17 for nearly my entire first semester of college. Not only did I live to tell about it, I graduated summa cum laude. Maybe the fact that obtaining alcohol was kind of a hassle until my last semester gave me a leg up. ;)
08:54 AM on 05/02/2011
Redshirting is usually done by people who disagree with the state cutoff date. Mine is December 31st and I believe it should be September 1st. Kids should be five by the time they start kindergarten.
11:23 PM on 05/01/2011
At five my daughter was large for her age, verbal, and often expected to act older than she was because of these factors. These were good reasons to hold her back. But I was still tempted to send her to kindergarten when she was 6 days shy of the cutoff (but she was born 10 days late, I reasoned!).
Then my lovely friend, a dad from Alabama, parent of another large and loquacious 5 year old said to me, 'Honey, our big beautiful gals will go to high school someday. They will probably still be big and beautiful, looking older than they are. Do you want your 13 year old in high school with a bunch of horny 19 year old football players repeating their senior year!?"
That was all I needed to hear. Remember that your child has to enter high school ready to handle the developmental challenges of the teen years, as well as the intellectual challenges. I graduated early from HS and I would happily give back the 'extra year' to have had an easier time of everything socially, academically. There is no rush. Your child may be brilliant and resilient, but there is simply no rush.
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10:48 PM on 05/01/2011
Kindergarten has gotten ridiculous. My Kindergartener spends as much time doing homework as my 6th grader. Homework in Kindergarten?

Kindergarten should be a time for children to transition into attending a full day of school, while developing a love for learning and curiosity about the world around them--not rushing to complete a curriculum.
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10:12 PM on 05/01/2011
I still don't get the redshirting metaphor.

I think our nation's educational problems reflect its underlying and prevailing anti-intellectual culture. I don't think much can be done about it but I wish parents success in their struggles.
10:21 PM on 05/01/2011
I disagree. I "red shirted" my kids so they had a better chance at succeeding academically to help contribute to the intellectual culture you speak of. Too many kids get put into early and don't do well simply because they are not mature enough to learn in a class room yet. You want to stop the anti-intellectual culture? Tell parents to stop treating the schools like a daycare center and start making decisions best for their children, not their schedules or lifestyles.
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10:53 PM on 05/01/2011
Best wishes to you and your children.
01:27 AM on 05/02/2011
College educated parents are more likely to hold their kids back before starting kindergarten.
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09:25 PM on 05/01/2011
I have one child who is one of the oldest (just missed the cut off) and one child who is one of the youngest (just made the cut off) in their respective classes. While the oldest is more mature in her class, I think that's mostly because she is a girl. Boys are slightly immature, but that doesn't mean things don't even themselves out later in their school years. There is no right answer... it's what's right for your child. I heard tons of stories about why red shirting my youngest was for the best, but ultimately what works for one child may not work for another, I have confidence in my son's abilities and so does he.
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09:21 PM on 05/01/2011
MOST people know their own children and what they will be able to handle, and most make the right decision. I volunteer a lot at my kids' schools and see the rosters with the birth dates. There are quite a few with summer birthdays who started a year later, boys as well as girls. Through the years, these kids seem well adjusted and fit right into the routine of the class. As a result, it's almost the norm that kindergarten is filled with 6 year olds, first grade with 7, etc.
09:18 PM on 05/01/2011
I moved in 2005 from NY (cutoff of December) to NC (cutoff was October, but now August) My children have fall birthdays, and already were youngest in the class in NY. Now thy were on average a year or more from many of their peers in their grade. Didnt hurt in younger grades until MIDDLE SCHOOL and the boys hit adolescence. Had someone in the schools told me about this trend in the area when I arrived,
I would have held them back the year I got here. (My son is actually too young to even be in his grade per NC cutoffs)
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09:05 PM on 05/01/2011
how do those kids in China handle it? They have much higher standards.
11:25 PM on 05/01/2011
They have much higher standards academically. They do not have expectations of creativity, social development, initiative.
11:32 PM on 05/03/2011
You think US schools do have those expectations?
The only expectation is that they score high enough on a standardized test. That isn't to say a smart student or a student with involved parents can't get a quality education but let's not act like the bar isn't set right above the floor. America is nowhere near the top of the heap in the developed world when it comes to educating our children for a reason.
09:00 PM on 05/01/2011
From someone who has two fall kids but held them out because they'd have been four, here's what you ask yourself:

What's the rush? The kid has the rest of their life to go to school and work. They might be ready for kindergarten (and both mine were), but you need to consider how it will be in middle school and beyond.

As one kindergarten teacher told me: "I've never seen it hurt to hold a kid out, but I've seen it hurt a lot to put a kid in when he's not yet five."
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ecotopian
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08:43 PM on 05/01/2011
I started one of my kids early. She was more than ready to start kindergarten, even though her birthday was just past the cut off day. She's on the honor roll in her middle school now. It just depends on the kid.
08:37 PM on 05/01/2011
My daughter was born the first week of September, district cutoff was 8/31 and they had an awfully high bar to clear on the WISC, which I think was eventually why we decided to not fight it, though she was very ready. She did two full years of pre-K.

Our pediatrician was the one who really made the decision easier, she had an October birthday and was around my age, she said to us, "my parents held me and didn't seem to interfere with what I was able to accomplish" also, she opined about how rough the middle school years on our girls and suggested that it's better if they are a bit more mature when they hit them.

I think it was good advice, she's a sophomore and on the high honor roll in all honors coursework.