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Learning 'How to Be Sick'

Posted: 07/20/10 03:08 PM ET

How one particular book ends up on the top of the nightstand stack is anyone's guess. But this soon-to-be released book, How to Be Sick, a Buddhist-inspired guide for the chronically ill and their caregivers, by Toni Bernhard, was even more of a long shot. I am not sick; in fact, I pride myself on being healthier than I have been in years. My daily meditation and yoga practice is deeply rooted in a routine that is shockingly consistent and satisfying. My life work is all about "how to be well" so you may wonder, why have I become completely enamored with Toni Bernhard's new book?

It was clear from the moment I read her bio that Toni's unpredictable turn of events could have just as easily happened to me. Here was the classic smart, successful career woman with a busy and fulfilling life. A lawyer, professor, wife and mother who took a short trip to Europe and got sick. This has happened to many the well-heeled traveler on occasion. The difference is that Toni never recovered. Her story is authentic and speaks right to the heart. Her journey and subsequent insight is thoughtful and uplifting.

Filled with easy-to-read practices, focused meditation ideas and lovely poetry, the book is a perfect blend of inspiration and encouragement. Toni's engaging teaching style shares traditional Buddhist wisdom in a format that is accessible to all readers. Full of hopefulness and promise, the valuable tools she offers are sure to comfort others who are suffering devastating loss and illness.

Toni's personal account throughout the chapters is very compelling but the book is so much more than that. Written as a road map for people suffering with illness and their caregivers, I find the advice an important supplement for the health practitioner too. It is too often that our doctors are unable to find answers to what ails us and have nowhere to direct us for support. With the publishing of this guide, they now have a useful alternative to "learn to live with it."

A lovingly written foreword by my favorite "Bubby Guru" Sylvia Boorstein is an added endorsement. Sylvia suggests that "this book is for all of us." I couldn't agree more.

Find Toni Bernhard here.

 

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leejcaroll
11:30 PM on 07/27/2010
Another book you might like is a full first person account of living with and fighting against first trigeminal neuralgia, a severe, often disabling facial pain disorder, and then chronic pain.
A PAINED LIFE, a chronic pain journey is."A fascinating story, honestly told and courageously lived." Stephen S. Hall, science and medicine writer. NY Times magazine, Smithsoniasn, Atlantic Monthly. Author, Invisible Frontiers: The Race To Synthesize A Human Gene.
Also called "...hard to put down. Carol Jay Levy’s courage and perseverance can help light the way for others who endure pain and a medical maze, with little hope and less help. Medical professionals might also gain insight from this personal story of someone at the other end of the stethoscope." ACPA, A Pained Life is a book that helps others with chronic pain know they are not alone and those that support them understand what it is like to live with this "invisible disorder" known as chronic pain.
06:42 PM on 07/20/2010
I can't wait to read this book. (And, I'd like it if my doctors read it too). Even within the medical community there is very little understanding of what it is like to live with an illness that just won't go away. Thanks for this article!
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Joel Brokaw
05:59 PM on 07/20/2010
I had a chance to read an advance copy of this book and agree that it is a must read for anyone struggling with chronic disease. I hope that potential readers will not be turned off thinking that they "have to be Buddhist" to understand and benefit from it. Toni's book demonstrates how making the slightest attitude adjustments can significantly reduce pain and suffering for both the afflicted and the loved ones and caregivers in their lives. The solutions she presents are valuable. The situations she describes from her own experience are poignant but universally shared. Better than flowers, this book might be the most valuable gift you could ever give a friend or family member who is dealing with serious illness and its aftermath.