11/18/2010 02:12 am ET | Updated May 25, 2011

On Annette Bening's Wrinkles and Lesbian Sex Scenes

Lunch with Lisa Cholodenko, the writer-director of The Kids Are All Right, is not the typical Beverly Hills girl chat.

We're in West Hollywood not Beverly Hills; the food is organic; the waiter wears a farmer's hat and instead of Botox we talked about why she chose to cast Annette Bening, 52, as half of a lesbian couple in her movie.

"I wanted to cast an actor who looked her age. Who had her authentic face on," said Cholodenko.

Julianne Moore plays Bening's wife, and the film -- just out on DVD -- portrays the complications of gay marriage and children, decades into social normalcy.

Cholodenko shot the actress of a certain age with barely any make-up and every wrinkle grandly visible. It feels like an incredibly brave act by Bening as something new unfolds on screen -- a beautiful woman of a certain age unafraid to show herself as she is.

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