No doubt many people believe that wisdom comes with age. Indeed recent research shows that people believe those in their 50s and 60s to be pretty darn capable. (Unfortunately, other research shows that wisdom starts to decline at around age 75.) But is it really true? What do you know now that you didn't know 20 years ago?
The Huffington Post previously published an article on the "30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know" by 30. We decided to take that a step further and ask our readers what every woman should know how to do by 50. Our Facebook fans offered a variety of opinions. Kim Shaw Bussey said women should know how to "date men under 40." Melanie Springer responded "pay bills (on time)." And Brian Friesen said women should know how to "have an orgasm. If you've never figured it out before, now is the time."
After much discussion, those of us at Huff/Post50 compiled our own list of 50 things we believe every woman should know how to do by the age of 50. Is there anything you'd add? Let us know in comments!
By 50, women should know how to:
- Say "no" without feeling guilty
- Book their own travel
- Say "I'm sorry" and mean it
- Laugh at themselves
- Change a tire
- Take themselves out to dinner and/or a movie -- on their own
- Get around in a foreign country
- Program and operate their TV (this is easier said than done!)
- Mix at least a few classic cocktails
- Do their own taxes
- Invest in the stock market
- Make themselves and their own needs a priority
- Sew -- at least a little
- Defend themselves against an attacker with at least one signature self-defense move
- Perform CPR
- Carve a turkey
- Choose their own wine
- Light a grill -- and then cook on it
- Order a credit report -- and then be able to read it
- Examine their own breasts
- Graciously accept a compliment
- Flip their own breaker
- Plunge a toilet
- Properly hang photos and artwork
- Whip up a signature dish that's not spaghetti or meatloaf
- Walk away from a situation or relationship when it's not working
- Tell off at least one person who deserves it
- Say what they really want in bed
- Put together a piece of "some assembly required" furniture
- Apply makeup without a mirror
- Buy something crazy expensive just because they want it
- Ask for a raise
- Mow their own yard
- Unclog a drain
- Tell which direction they are facing
- Tell at least one really good joke
- Make small talk with just about anyone
- Know when to reveal personal information -- and when not to
- Think critically and independently when hearing speeches and listening to the news
- Paint a room
- Buy the right-sized bra
- Beautifully wrap a present
- Hail a taxi
- Reach out to an old friend
- Jump a car battery
- Show love with actions and not just words
- Put together a real retirement strategy
- Look good in a photo
- Open a bottle of champagne
Anything you want to add? Let us know in comments!
Earlier on Huff/Post50:
A Good Friend
Better yet -- a few: one who makes you laugh, one who listens without judgment and one who challenges you.
A Good Book...
...always on hand to return to.
At Least One Great Love Of Her Life...
...and preferably more than one. Letting go of the idea that there is a "one and only" person out there for you is a sign of maturity. By opening your mind and your heart to the possibility -- the reality -- that you can fall in love again, you remove a big obstacle to happiness.
A Go-To Purse...
...that's never out of style.
Great Black Boots...
...to go with everything.
A Comfortable Bed and Bedding
A Good Vibrator
A Treasured Hobby
A Secret Crush
A Regular Exercise Routine...
...ideally one that involves friends.
At Least One Amazing Travel Experience
The Grace To Accept A Compliment
A Recognition Of Your Strengths...
...and how to use them.
A Handle On Your Buttons...
...and how to deactivate them.
An Appreciation That Gratitude Is The Basis For A Happy Life
The Experience To Know That Loving Is An Act Of Giving, Not Receiving
The Understanding That Money Is Not Happiness, Power Or Security...
...but just a tool to help you get the things you value; and that you can often get many of them without a lot of money.
A Love Of Life-Long Learning
Life ends when your mind shuts down, not when your body fails you.
The Smarts Not To Be A Victim
Self-sufficiency is part of wholeness.
The Awareness That The Grass Is NEVER Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence
The Ability To Laugh At Yourself...
...and with others. A sense of humor is a great tonic for the mind and soul.
With decades of experience under your belt, you know how to move forward with courage and confidence.
Belief In, And Support Of, A Cause Higher Than Oneself
A Quiet, Verdant Place...
...to disappear and appreciate Mother Nature.
Eight Hours Of Sleep On A Regular Basis!
The Ripe Report
"That You Really Didn't Have To Put Up With All That Bs...
...and you are perfect just the way you are." --Esther Petrilli-Massey
"Hopefully A Wonderful Relationship...
...and 'true' self confidence and self esteem." --David M. Logan
"All Of The 'Stuff' Doesn't Matter."
"The big house you wanted...well, as you get older it gets empty. Then you want to downsize and purge the stuff!" --Patti McGee Thompson
"Know That Spark Inside That Connects You To What Really Matters."
"If you let it take the lead, you'll deepen toward more honesty, creativity, meaning, purpose and joy." --Christine Castigliano
"Their Own Bank Account"
"That Beauty Is Not One Size Fits All!"
--Patricia Crisafulli, Huff Post Blogger
"The Ability To Say 'No' Without Guilt."
"Successful Adult Children Who Do Not Live At Home."
"An Expensive Piece Of Jewelry That Was Purchased By Herself."
"A really good sex life with a least one partner (past/present) a knowledege that info. constantly changes and we have to keep moving with it." --Linda
"Have The Courage To Stand Up For What You Believe In Without Fear Or Apology."
"A Relationship With The God Of The Universe."
"Reconciliation With 'MOM' Whether She Is Alive Or Deceased."
"What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!"
'Don't Sweat The Small Stuff', Don't 'Spin Your Wheels' Over The Insignificant....
"The ability to prioritize what is important, will truly impact your life, or has significant negative consequences vs what is just an 'issue' that gets under your skin, or a perceived problem that is more trouble than it truly is worth. We often tend to get wound-up about things that really aren't as important as we think they are. If we stop and think---'Will this truly have a positive or negative effect on my life (or others'), or is it just something that is bugging me and I'm spinning my wheels trying to deal with it?'" --Chris
"Her Own Income."
"How To Keep Her Heart Healthy."
"Having The Confidence To Take Your Own Self Out To Dinner...
...when no one is available to go with you." --"Lucy and Ethel"
"By 50 A Woman Should Take A No Guilt Day At Home In Her Jammies Whenever She Needs One."
"Regularly Scheduled Manicures, Pedicures And Fresh Flower Deliveries."