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Barack Obama, You've Forgotten Your Mother

Posted: 05/10/11 04:07 PM ET

Young Barack the Second was 25 years old when his mother traveled to Pakistan for her Ph.D. fieldwork. She was a unique woman, an American who married two Muslims from very different backgrounds, and learned languages most Americans have never heard of, including Urdu, one of the main languages of Pakistan. Stanley Ann Dunham was a woman with compassion for the Pakistani people, she had seen their troubles with her own eyes, and studied ways that they could be helped.

She could never have imagined that her own son would one day be directly responsible for hurting the people she had worked so hard to help.

On May 1st, as President Obama looked into the eyes of Americans and the world to announce the bizarre end to an even stranger manhunt, we looked back into his eyes and for the first time ever, there was no trace of Stanley Ann.

His gaze, glazed and haunting as it complemented the equally opaque proclamation of the assassination of a defunct enemy, sent shivers down our spines. It looked like Barack. It sounded like Barack. But it was of an ilk many Americans had thought they'd voted out of office in 2008.

Yes, his predecessor started the war in Afghanistan and Pakistan. Yes, his predecessor handed over billions of dollars in aid that go almost entirely into the hands of corrupt politicians and military officials in Pakistan, instead of the people who need it. And yes, his predecessor explained these wars as a hunt for Osama bin Laden.

But Barack Obama upped the ante on every one of those fronts. He didn't help Pakistan -- he made it worse. And while it is not exactly the job of the American President to help other countries -- even if being the world's only superpower would suggest some responsibility on moral fronts -- it is at least the job of the American President not to put his public in danger, the kind of danger that arises out of perpetuating wars and half-truths, and further agitating religious extremists.

True, Obama hasn't been all wrong on foreign policy. To his credit, he has so far avoided bomb-bomb-bombing Iran as McCain surely would have tried and the previous administration would have done if it hadn't been bogged in the quagmire of myriad other disasters. He is making his way out of the Iraq war he once opposed. His administration has also been highly supportive of the Arab revolutions as a new method of transferring power in the region. And no one is surprised by his strategy in Afghanistan -- that Bush war was extended under Obama as per his campaign promise.

But every war he has avoided has been replaced with another conflict, and his administration has even somehow managed to avoid calling them wars. He is now fighting a full-out war in Libya and what were once remote-controlled drone attacks in Pakistan have become ground operations by U.S. troops on Pakistani soil. The military operations taking place in Yemen and Bahrain, and elsewhere among the Middle East uprisings have tacit U.S. approval, or in the case of the recent attempted assassination of U.S. citizen Anwar al-Awlaki, direct U.S. military involvement.

Most people understand that the pressures of the top job and a need for re-election can be overwhelming. But very few of us expected that the shady areas of political morality would be anything more than a sanctuary for the son of Stanley Ann.

She didn't raise him in highfalutin Connecticut or on a sprawling family estate in Texas, after all. He was a little biracial boy whose mother was extraordinarily fascinated with the world beyond her borders and carried him along her journey to appreciate that world.

Her life was spent on fomenting understanding between cultures and peoples, on learning and educating others about how civilians in all societies can help each other overcome the failures of their governments to take care of them. She was the primary influence on the mind and manner of a young boy whose father was not in the picture and whose grandparents were far away for many years.

Barack Obama is the first President of the United States who knows from experience what life is like in other countries and what life in the United States is like not only for a racial minority but for an immigrant.

In the days since the Bin Laden announcement, as the official story has undergone several manifestations, more civilians have been killed in Pakistan following a U.S. drone attack, the war in Libya has continued to escalate under America's watch, and U.S. government officials have instigated plans for heightened security protocols that infringe on the free movement of Americans in their own country.

It seems clearer than ever that Barack Obama has either forgotten his own journey or decided to discard it for the sake of power.

Perhaps it is better, then, that Stanley Ann isn't here to see.

 

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Young Barack the Second was 25 years old when his mother traveled to Pakistan for her Ph.D. fieldwork. She was a unique woman, an American who married two Muslims from very different backgrounds, and ...
Young Barack the Second was 25 years old when his mother traveled to Pakistan for her Ph.D. fieldwork. She was a unique woman, an American who married two Muslims from very different backgrounds, and ...
 
 
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08:08 AM on 05/13/2011
I find this article unfair, and a cheap shot. you have no idea exactly what his mother said to him. I was raised by a single mother, and the bond between a son raised by a single mother is as close a bond as there exists in nature. I believe that President Obama thinks of his mother daily and always wonders what she do in a particular situation and always considers whether or not what he is doing is in the greater interest of America and mankind.
12:14 AM on 05/13/2011
would you prefer that he allow the Libyan madman to murder his own people in cold blood, like they are doing in Syria. There are some places where action is in the best interest of humankind. Also the militants in Pakistan would murder and kill people who have differing opinions than them as the Taliban have done, if allowed. I don't agree with the drones that kill innocents.
02:06 AM on 05/12/2011
I was thinking the same thing before I read this, that Obama's mother would be very sad to see her son's actions. There was a wonderful article about her in a recent Sunday New York Times, which is an exerpt from a new book. She was an amazing woman and it's good that we are finally learning more about her. I hope that, in the future, Obama returns to the values that she gave him.
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06:05 PM on 05/11/2011
Pres. Obama ordered a mission that had three casualties as opposed to bombing the compound and killing all the inhabitants and possibly people outside the compound....and you are accusing him of not caring about the Pakistani people? Huh?
11:32 AM on 05/15/2011
There were more than 3 casualties - but why let the truth in the way of your stand.
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01:35 PM on 05/15/2011
OK there were 5, sorry.
02:12 PM on 05/11/2011
i think it's really insane that people are commenting about how this article is "below the belt" hmm but it's not below the belt or inhuman to kill thousands of pakistanis afghanistani's iraqi civilians because USA has been on an adrenaline rush for ONE human??? so millions can die because USA wants ONE person dead. i guess american's really do think they're better than the rest of the world, sadly they're just as savage as the rest of the world.
09:32 AM on 05/12/2011
Let's remember that this ONE person savagely killed 3000+ people from all over the world on Sept 11 2001. I also beg to differ on your "millions" quote.....Millions? Seriously? Get a grip fishX2....
12:52 PM on 05/11/2011
"Full-out war in Libya"? You need to learn more about military engagements. This is a rather silly article, really, despite its intriguing title. I think of myself as a pacifist, also, but I would still fight to protect my family and my home. And I utterly fail to see how taking out bin Laden harms Pakistan further, other than to expose its government's incompetency.
03:08 PM on 05/11/2011
No doubt the operation to kill Bin Laden embarassed and angered the Pakistani government and people and therefore I agree with LMarley on this point. As for Libya, I think the US support is essential to help in toppling a 41 year old dictatorship. The Libyans have suffered for four decades of abuse, torutre, execution and suffering under the tyranny of Gaddafi.
11:33 AM on 05/15/2011
70 dead from a revenge bombing would disagree

but hey! its only pakistani children dead!
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12:17 PM on 05/11/2011
Is it just me, or does this article come off as below the belt?

Is she disappointed that Obama isnt the super-liberal dove that she imagined him to be? Because that's not what he campaigned as- and that's not who I supported. He was always a hawk-centrist (he even spoke of sending troops into Pakistan against their wishes if it came down to it, for goodness' sake). So why is she sad now? Did she get dazzled by his Nobel Prize?

Shaking up the military establishment in Pakistan is the best possible thing he could have done for the Pakistani people. Shirin, if you weren't naive (or at least weren't pretending to be, in order to score cheap points like in this article), you would know that.

You dont know his mother or his relationship with her. This is emotional blackmail of the worst sort.
10:33 AM on 05/11/2011
I find this article to be extremely shallow and belligerent. Not only are you insulting his mother, but you're insulting his morality. Would you have preferred we let Osama Bin Laden go, because lets be realistic, the Pakistani government would have let the intel "slip", and poof he'd have disappeared in second. “Not our airspace, not our country”, is the only argument that I'm getting out of this. The Pakistani people cannot be condensed into their government (remember those 8 years when Bush "represented" us, ugh), but we weren't dealing with the people we were dealing with their government.
The talk of global policing has always been an issue, if we seclude ourselves and pretend nothing is happening we’ll have the same re-awakening we had on Dec. 7, 1941. Whatever we do, you realize we are screwed, we leave the countries that our former President decided to invade, and we leave them a shattered country and what remains of our tattered image. The rest of the world will speak of how we are a society of destroyers; if we don’t leave we have people talking about the “wasted” American lives. It’s a no win situation, but I think the President is doing the best he can under these circumstances.
11:34 AM on 05/15/2011
saying his mother is a woman of peace and understanding is an insult?
12:39 PM on 05/15/2011
I didn't say that was the insult. The implied insult is, she didn't have the ability to teach her son the values she held so dear.
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10:22 AM on 05/11/2011
Or maybe he remembered nearly 3,000 Americans dying on 9/11
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08:30 AM on 05/11/2011
It is fine to wax poetically about the woes of the world, but at least give some insight in how You would have handled it. It is all too easy to sit on the sidelines and sigh about supposed mistakes made by others, but until You step up to the plate Yourself and outline Your plans, You mills and boon esque opinions are nul and void.
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04:18 AM on 05/11/2011
Obama's foreign policy has been another policy of intervention in another countries affairs. It has been a policy of war and not peace.US should bring all its troops home and instead protect its own borders and spend the billions of dollars to help its own citizens. By doing this, it will no longer can be blamed by other countries including terrorists for intervention and that will bring a much better image for Americans and therefore create more peace in the world and its also reduces the dangers to the Americans overseas. It also should promote United Nation to become a more effective international representative of the people and not only the corrupt governments. US ca learn few things from its neighbor Canada. But then it's too early in the morning and I must be dreaming...
07:04 AM on 05/11/2011
No, DavidET, you are not dreaming, you are correct. As an American, I am against the jingoism and intervention into the affairs of other countries. Countless civilians in other countries have been killed in addition to the losses of our own armed forces. America should change.

I'm disallusioned with President Obama. I voted for him, but he has turned out to be a "business as usual" leader. I was drawn to his "vision" by empty words.

I look forward to the day when the USA will properly take care of our own people, which is sorely needed now, and give up its role as international policeman.

Yes, we certainly could learn a few things from our good neighbor Canada...
08:27 AM on 05/11/2011
How is one to help those Americans who are in need when the GOP sees them as not important. The GOP thinks all those who are Civil services workers and teachers are expendable.
I am a Medically Separated Veteran who was pushed through the system by the military and thank god my heath is good. If Americans can't get completely on board with Helping Veterans. HOW can we help a larger portion of our society who work 50 hours a wk for $30,000 and are expected to raise a healthy, productive family to grown into productive members of society = Civil Service Employees do this.
But the GOP doesn't care, they want to cut, cut, cut. they should have cut and run while GWB was spending billions for HIS war, where we didn't get ANY OIL? what kind of Oil man is he?
Canada Eh, maybe, don't know enough about our northern neighbor.
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07:08 PM on 05/12/2011
Obama is the president not GOP.
02:49 AM on 05/11/2011
Hi Shirin
It wasn't an easy article but I would make couple of observations. I agree that the billions of US aid to overseas allies end up in the pockets of corrupt politicians in Asia and Africa.

Following the success in tracking down Bin Laden and exterminating him in Abbotabad Pakistan, I would like to see a swift US military intervention in Libya to topple the Gaddafi's odious regime. I would also urge the US Administration to take a tough stance against Damascus, to declare the Bashar regime as illegitimate and to help the opposition to dislodge the Syrian dictatorship. So far Barak Obama has been less than assertive about Syria. This must change and soon.
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Lifer2006
10:36 AM on 05/11/2011
On the money! Although, 2 trillion dollars to track down a terrorist is delusional and insane. He (Obama) doesn't seem to think this.
01:09 AM on 05/11/2011
Ok, was anyone else paying attention back in 2008 when he was running for president, and said 'If we have actual intel on a High Value target in Pakistan, and Pakistan is unwilling or unable to strike against them, we should".

I mean, were any of you guys paying attention? I mean, I was, and I voted for him, because I agree.
That you are so outraged over it, and are acting like this is some shocker.....well, what can I say, you're willfully ignorant (about many things, as is obvious from this article)
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04:18 AM on 05/11/2011
I've come to the conclusion that many on the left bought into the Republican labels of Obama rather than listening to what he actually said.
07:36 PM on 05/11/2011
He literally promised he would make it a priority of his administration to track down Osama bin Laden and kill him. Politifact counted that one as a campaign promise fulfilled. It may be the most satisfying item to check off a list, ever.
11:36 AM on 05/15/2011
So we can agree Obama was righteous for doing what he said he would do?

and when he extends tax breaks to the rich (of which he is now one) after saying he would not /
we should ignore his hypocrisy?
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Lifer2006
01:06 AM on 05/11/2011
People here do not seem to understand what you are trying to say.

Right on target!!
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01:04 AM on 05/11/2011
I am very impressed by your post. Something I've been wanting to say, but have not have the research to do so. I would question, how is it, that this man has turned out to be worse than the previous grotesque jerk, is beyond me.
You are very succinct in your comments.
Thank you for an amazing post. I'm sending this to my mom. She'll be very impressed.