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How To Deal With a Control Freak

How To Deal With a Control Freak

Commented Oct 10, 2010 at 05:44:53 in Healthy Living

“5th Make your views loud and clear to your boss. Remind him/her that you are acting on this but do not necessarily agree. Be persistent that you have best interest at heart for the company.
6th Choose your battles carefully and avoid involving others especially a superior to your boss in every encounter unless it is gross misconduct. You may even loss your job when the freak thinks you are by passing. This is a major threat to control freak boss as they percieve it as total failure of being in charge.
7th Know that control freaks always micromanage. They get insecure if you don't share with them a simple conversation let alone decisions involving resource with others.However, be persistent in your definition of your areas of responsibilities. Control freaks may not give you good, clear and detailed JD as they are afraid of losing control. It is always good to ask for clarity of JD with control freak boss.
8th Be loyal but open to express your views.
9th Avoid telephone or e-mail battles. Face-to-face is much powerful to get your points across a control freak boss.
10th Avoiding and cutting ties with control freak does not solve your problem permanently especially if you can not avoid this person. You mus put your feet on the ground respectfully, honestly and openly to mend the relationship and make it productive and minimize emotional toll for both side.

I hope this helps!”
How To Deal With a Control Freak

How To Deal With a Control Freak

Commented Oct 10, 2010 at 05:40:54 in Healthy Living

“This is interesting topic. There may not be a rule of tumb on how to deal with control freak & some of the advise given by the author are good.
1st, It is good to make your opinion known persistently. You are definitely preparing a ground for the next event.
2nd Don't swallow everything he/she said to avoid argument. Be respectful, brave and strategic to express your side of the story.
3rd Avoid arguing every point to death. If you don't win on this specific issue it is very unlikely you can convince control freak, who usually believe know better than you, cares more than you and has more wisdom than you. Arguing with control freak is like pursuing a dead end. You can not score a point when you argue with control freak. Leave it open and they tend to come back and agree with you. By doing so, you are not playing low self-esteem crap but a brave battle to win and it cost less(emotional tone). This strategy causes less turmoil and frustration for you and the control freak.
4th Show that you care. Control freaks have feeling like you but they are misguided and tend to be defensive to cover their emotional inadequacy. Show them you still care even if you disagree on this particular case. A control freak person want to hear words like " Absolutely", "You are right" and 'Agree" when they do good.


MadAs on Oct 10, 2010 at 23:34:48

“Contradicting (well sort of) my comment above, controllers can be exasperating to have to work with or be married to or be friends with, and your points are well taken, your mission (helpful pragmatism) being much more noble than mine above (semantics).

Neverthless, use of "freak," as used to express frustrated anger and distaste, is understandable but perhaps might be better served by the compassion and understanding you presumably want that boss person to have.”
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Revitalizing the Political Will to Achieve the Millennium Goals

Commented Sep 21, 2010 at 07:38:13 in World

“I think it is important to know the UN or NGOs can be facilitators of change especially in policy reform and sharing best practices. However, we should not loss sight the primary duty bearer is the national government. This shift in think has to occur in the humanitarian agencies that tend to point fingers at national governments of poor countries instead of working with them to address extreme poverty. The UN is positioned to provide a coordination role and monitoring progress. But I doubt the capacity of such agencies such as UNDP to deliver or ensure delivering the goods to the most needy. Improvement in the UN system is something to be desired!”
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Revitalizing the Political Will to Achieve the Millennium Goals

Commented Sep 21, 2010 at 07:26:24 in World

“Addressing hunger is a win-win situation for everyone! The political will is paying off in some poor countries that were ravaged by civil war and drought. Mozambique, Angola, Malawi, Ethiopia, Vietnam, Bangladesh etc. It is very encouraging journey for most of these countries in the past decade but we are not there yet, so we can not afford to give up!”

Saying "Nuts" to Hunger

Commented Sep 11, 2010 at 03:31:13 in Food

“It is simple to detect out peanuts with aflatoxins before processing. Such peanuts can be identified and removed.”

LJIESQ on Sep 11, 2010 at 19:43:54

“so you think. Also, the nicest looking ones go into bags, and the nastiest most contaminated ones go into peanut butter. happy death.”

Saying "Nuts" to Hunger

Commented Sep 8, 2010 at 15:14:23 in Food

“There are some local production efforts like in Ethiopia, Malawi, and Senegal but to your surprise the price never come down and at times it is even expensive than the one sent from France. It is being franchised like CoCaCola for a product that can be produced at household level. Expanding and localizing the production of PN is in the right direction. However, the cost is exceptionally high for life saving product(i.e about 4,000 USD per ton) I think the battle to make PlumpyNuts like the retroviral drugs should be boosted up in all fronts by national governments, UN, NGOs, donors and civil society.”

Saying "Nuts" to Hunger

Commented Sep 8, 2010 at 09:02:59 in Food

“The bottom line is poor countries has the potential to produce enough food for themselves and for the rest of the world if assisted with good and faire trade policies coupled with critically needed support in terms of technology transfers and introduction of the right technology to boost crop production and diversification such as improved seeds & seedlings of fruits and vegetables, fertilizer, small scale irrigation schemes, technical support to extension work etc. It is NOT JUST and faire to be obsessed with patent rights of PlumpyNut, a life saving product and make profit out of poor people.

If we spend 60 USD per child per year, which is the amount required to treat a child with sever acute malnutrition in two months period, in poor countries in agriculture, small-sclae irrigation, health, water, education, basic infrastructure, micro-enterprise and ICT, there is good evidence that we can transform the livelihoods of the local community. We can, thus, see a much better, striving and JUST world free from the suffering and pain related to hunger! This is within our reach if there is a political commitment nationally and globally.”

Saying "Nuts" to Hunger

Commented Sep 7, 2010 at 05:28:36 in Food

“This article was right on spot. This is "commercialization of humanitarian work". The good old tradition of humanitarian work based on compassion seems very rare these days.Yes PlumyNut is good product that revolutionized the treatment of sever acute malnutrition & reduce child mortality. However, at best, it can only addresses 2% of children with sever acute malnutrition worldwide(mainly in crisis areas). It does not address the over 10% of children with moderate acute malnutrition, commonly treated through provision of supplementary food, general ration and/or improved complementary food at home. PlumpyNut helps to treat a symptom and not underlying cause of malnutrition. The glamorization of PlumpyNut is diverting the attention of the humanitarian work form addressing the root causes of malnutrition.

This cycle of treating symptoms will continue, unless we address the root causes of malnutrition by empowering local communities to improve their livelihoods. Governments as primary duty bearers need to make all efforts to divert tax payers money and humanitarian resources towards ensuring equitable access to basic services, land and improved technologies. The MDGs and its targets definitely serve as simple quantified tools to track such changes, something that has never been done before.

It is important to note, however there are circumstances where governments can totally fail on their duties and such life saving products have no alternative. But to sell PlumpyNut as panacea is indeed irresponsibility. It is time for humanitarian agencies, governments, NGOs and UN alike to reflect on what works best and where.”