“Cam, you and your wife are fantastic, precious, brave and wonderful to share such a hard condition with the world. It's not easy to be DID/MPD. I salute you. You are amazing. DID is totally real and the horrific abuse you have to survive to be able to split is beyond what most people can fathom. Fantastic piece. Thank you!”
“Where is the hate? You are not God. You cannot see this man's heart, but God can see yours. Integrity (Wikipedia) "Integrity is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions. Integrity can be regarded as the opposite of hypocrisy, in that integrity regards internal consistency as a virtue, and suggests that parties holding apparently conflicting values should account for the discrepancy or alter their beliefs.
The word "integrity" stems from the Latin adjective integer (whole, complete). In this context, integrity is the inner sense of "wholeness" deriving from qualities such as honesty and consistency of character. As such, one may judge that others "have integrity" to the extent that they act according to the values, beliefs and principles they claim to hold."
“If you define "Loving" as giving you what you want, when you want, because you want it, then you're right. If you define love as "the highest good" and "what is best for the long-term health and safety" of someone, then you're wrong. I have friends who give their kids fresh fruit and salad and healthy snacks. No sodas. No fatty or fried foods. Only lean meat, veggies etc. The kids hated them at first and called their moms mean and hateful. But those kids are among the few that are not obese, that enjoy good health and are coasting through high school as active and well adjusted, normal weight children. The children didn't see the discipline as "loving," but the parents knew it was. "Love" does not mean getting your way. It means getting your ultimate good even when you don't get what you want when you want it.”
“It's FREEDOM OF RELIGION, not freedom FROM religion.”
bully2 on Jan 12, 2013 at 09:47:09
I'm actually not sure how to break it to you, but it's actually BOTH. So, it's time for a remedial lesson in the Constitution for you.
The First Amendment, among other things, guarantees that YOU (or any American) may freely exercise your religion. However, no where does the First Amendment indicate that ANY American may impose his or her religion onto ANY OTHER American. See how that works? Go ahead, look it up.
Now, here's the more important part which you don't seem to remember. The FIRST SENTENCE of the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution says that:
"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion...."
It's funny how many "people of faith" seem to skim right over that part, or are just plain ill-informed, especially in light of how many court rulings there are on the subject, not the least of which was:
Everson v. Board of Education, 330 U.S. 1 (1947). In the majority opinion, Justice Black quoted the words of Thomas Jefferson who said "...The Clause...was intended to erect a 'wall of separation' between church and State...."”
During the civil rights era of the 1960's, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. fought to stop Democrats from denying civil rights to blacks. It should come as no surprise that Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was a Republican as has been affirmed by his niece, Dr. Alveda C. King.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. would not have joined the Democratic Party, the party of the Ku Klux Klan and segregation.
Dr. King fought against Democrat Public Safety Commissioner Eugene "Bull" Connor in Birmingham who let loose vicious dogs and turned skin-burning fire hoses on black civil rights demonstrators.
Democrat Georgia Governor Lester Maddox famously brandished ax handles to prevent blacks from patronizing his restaurant. Democrat Alabama Governor George Wallace blocked the entrance of two black students at the University of Alabama in 1963 and thundered, "Segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever”. All of these racist Democrats remained Democrats until the day they died. In fact, racist Democrats declared that they would rather vote for a “yellow dog” than a Republican because the Republican Party was known as the party for blacks.”
*** BREAKING NEWZ [for those who just read this CRA^p above] Dr. Martin Luther King was NOT -- nor would he have ever been a REPUBLICAN!! ***
Remarkable!... (head spinning, jaw-droppingly) R-E-M-A-R-K-A-B-L-E!! How a person like
yourself could attempt to REVISE history, and twist it for your own personal agenda!?
But, what's even MORE astonishing!?? Is that the "History" you have gotten so dramatically WRONG, is recent 'Civil Rights History' -- less than 20 years ago! ...
Have you ever even READ a book!? -- (I mean a book without pictures, and where you needed CRAYRONS!?) ---
Dr. King did FIGHT the 'Democrats', some of whom were thee most racist in Congress, during that period -- that much is true -- BUT, the Republican Party who (at that time), were still the "Party Of Lincoln", so SOME were a little LESS racist, then most Democrats...
But, Dr. King was a PROUD DEMOCRAT!
He was extremely close with Robert KENNEDY, and there was a mutual respect with President JFK! --- It was his relationship with President L.B. Johnson, which helped him SIGN the Civil Rights Bill into Law! ...
TODAY!?? The 'TEA-pee-pee-publican Party' IS the Party of George WALLACE and "Bull" CONNOR! ---
Both of them would have been on that 'GO-TEA' Primary stage, with Bachmann & Kane! And, I believe that one of them...
would HAVE WON the Nomination! Over Mitt "The 2-faced" twit!”
Sheryl9090 on Oct 14, 2012 at 01:46:33
“Yes the Democratic party of Pre Civil rights era is the Extreme Intolerant Republican Party of today. Black People were part of the "Lincoln Republicans" When the southern Democrats made it clear that they wanted no part of Civil Rights, they flocked to the republican party. Reagan did a number in 1980 by marrying the Social Conservatives, Fiscal Conservatives and War Hawks together. Thus the new Republicans is a mix of "Strangeness". In normal life these folks would never come together but they do when it's time to VOTE. Thank Reagan for that, smart move but Scary,Scary Stuff.”
Bill Braskie on Oct 14, 2012 at 01:31:59
“Two words: "Southern Strategy."
Go Google it. White you are at it, Google "Dixiecrats"”
jaggededge on Oct 14, 2012 at 01:27:46
“dixiecrats....nice try...but there is still some histoty being taught out there... nixon came up with the "southern strategy" after civil rights were passed & it's been a GOP haven ever since
do you think lincoln or TR would be proud of their party as it is now?”
“Why isn't the media as condemning of the black groups threatening violence on whites, or the black gangs (Seattle, Pennsylvania etc) that are actually attacking whites, the elderly and pregnant women (white)? Racism goes both ways. You can't have gangs and groups of blacks threatening to "kill all whites," and expect not to get some retaliation from their white counterparts. I'm not sanctioning it at all. I'm saying, this is what is going to happen! Violence from either race towards another is not acceptable, but as long as the media continues to ignore the issue of blacks targeting whites for being whites and gangs of blacks raping, killing and assaulting innocent whites, this sort of action will only escalate.”
“This is typical of schools. What the public doesn't know is that schools tolerate and encourage bullying because it forces the weak out of the system, allowing them to get the higher test scores they need to comply with the "No Child Left Behind" Act. By encouraging the kids who are less intelligent and capable to "drop out" rather than work with them, the "dummies" (as the school sees them) leave the system and don't hurt the overall grades the school needs to comply with the NCLB requirements. As a reporter I was told this over and over by teachers. The goal is to "cull" the weak, the troublemakers, the ones who don't or won't fit in so the schools can avoid fines and control those who can be controlled. To change a bully you have to change the parents—most of whom are dysfunctional, mentally unbalanced domestic abusers and bullies themselves. They bully their kids, their kids bully others. It's not going to change. Put your kid in private schools or home school to avoid the problem. Or, SUE the bastards. When you start suing parents or filing criminal charges, THEN you'll get their attention. Showing up at their workplace, or writing their boss about "their child's bullying problem," could help (or harm) as well, but then be prepared for escalation....The thing is, if you can get their attention you might not stop THE bullying, but you can sure stop the bullying of your child.”
“Obviously these pastors are not reading their bibles. It's NOT the sinner God hates, but the sin. Many of the early Christians were homosexuals. God does not see homosexuality as some sort of major, worse than sin. ALL sin is EQUAL, that includes gossip, people having sex outside of marriage, those who curse their parents, those who worship other Gods —meaning those who love money more than God, or their lives more than God.
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God?
Be not deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers,nor effeminate ["malakos"],
nor abusers of themselves with mankind ["arsenokoitays"], nor thieves, nor covetous,nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. -1 Corinthians 6:9-11
God is a God of MERCY. He desires compassion and love more than sacrifice. He also judges US as we judge others. When this pastor faces God, God says he will use the same standards of mercy and compassion to judge him for lust in his heart, and any and all judgments he cast on others. Do you think he'll enjoy being penned inside an electric fence and electrocuted or started to death?
Being a Christian is not about "obeying rules." It's about recognizing we are ALL sinners...yes, even the pastors...and that Jesus Christ came and died on a cross for us as a sacrifice because he LOVES us, not because he hates us!”
“Probably the God of David, Joseph and Abraham. Just a guess. Speaking of spiritual things, did you know that one of Lucifer's fallen angels is credited with teaching mankind how to perform abortions? Some angels taught the making of metals, swords and weapons of war, others taught the skill of herbs, or of applying makeup, and yet another taught how to perform an abortion. The study of angels is fascinating!”
catbyte on Mar 16, 2012 at 16:04:52
“Religion poisons public discourse, Becky. Freedom of religion means that people are free to believe or not to believe without prejudice. To make laws based on certain religious beliefs oppresses everyone. Why is that so hard to grasp?”
“If you just see this as a "Republican" issue, or a "stupid, backward Christian" issue then you've come into the global play at act 2. If you're a story teller, or a researcher, or a conspiracy theorist then you can sit back and say "AhA!!" because YOU see what's really going on and you know it's not a Republican issue, or an abortion issue. It's a New World Order Issue. That's the twist in the play. We THINK the issue is about abortion, right to life or gun control, but it's not. In the scheme of things the goal is to eliminate Christianity, true Christianity, not the luke warm church goers who THINK they're Christians, and Jews from the face of the earth; and to reduce the population globally. Ever notice how many countries are in the news for "ethnic cleansing" these days? Yeah. To do this, eliminate Christians (think story lines now cause this is the story the Bible tells) they have to stir up hate against Christians (which they do with puppets like Perry) and they have to stir up hate against Israel. The world will not embrace a one world order OR a one world religion unless they can get people to unite AGAINST anyone who opposes abortion or talks about sin. Quite fascinating to watch all this unfold really.”
thnkfrstpls on Mar 16, 2012 at 19:52:26
“The fault in this logic is that the world is primarily Christian in religious preference, and is the large majority religion practiced in the US (regardless of race). If one looks at the current trends in thoughts about abortion, gay marriage, contraception, gun control, etc., a majority of Americans approve (not overwhelmingly, but more the 50%). The "True Christians" to who you refer (US evangelicals) are a very small population within the Christian minority. This minority likes to believe that persecution of Christians is rampant in the United States. Sadly, not so much.”
“Unfortunately for the majority of Americans most will wake up in hell, having believed the lies and apostasy of "pastors" like Rick Warren who are leading the country away from the true message of the Bible and into a perversion of the gospel. The true gospel is simple. Just as there are physical laws that govern the physical universe there are spiritual laws that govern the spiritual universe. The spiritual universe consists of Lucifer and God. God is the creator, Lucifer is the fallen angel who would be God. We all fall short of the standards of God, meaning that we're all sinners, that none of us are "good" enough to satisfy a perfect God's standard. Jesus Christ came, led a perfect life, was sacrificed on the cross to "pay the debt" we all owe, but that is available only to those who accept it. Lucifer is doing his damndest to lure as many people into his lies as possible before he meets his end. To anyone who doesn't understand this epic and ongoing battle, it's "foolishness." To those who understand the truth what is playing out in the White House and elsewhere in the nation is just Biblical prophecy coming true.
Without morality we get what we're seeing in America now — rising crime rates, increased violence, increase narcissism, shootings, AIDS....Read Apollyon Rising 2012. Then really read the bible. If it still doesn't make sense, it will at the judgment.”
Ninthe Sphere on Jan 17, 2013 at 14:58:23
“Very well said. Thank you!”
bpulliam on Jan 13, 2013 at 19:48:04
“I'm sorry that you feel yourself a "sinner"---I am not a "sinner" for whom Christ had to die. It was
god's idea to send his son to the cross--but then, the god of the Bible is a beast--one who drowned
his own creations. What battle?? Don't we have enough "battles". Lucifer was a character in
an interesting presentation describing what it's like to be "fallen"--a myth. The Bible is an interesting book to study in world history, etc. The Bible, like other holy books, demands a "faith"
to believe its' contents. Faith is believing in something for which there is no evidence.”
“The whole point of criminalizing the homeless, particularly in large cities, is because government officials know that all those capable of finding the money, means or manpower to move will do so — thus becoming some other city's problem, not theirs. It's an economic solution. Police do it all the time. When merchants complain about gangs and drugs and put pressure (political/votes) on the mayor he issues an edict to "crack down" on the area merchants are concerned with. The gangs move to avoid the hassle/arrests and find a new place to roost. Same with the homeless. Crack down on them long enough, arrest enough of them and they WILL MOVE and it won't cost the city anything other than some police and court overtime.
They really don't even care if they stay and get arrested. America has the largest prison population in the world — and almost 90% of those incarcerated work (.67 cents an hour or so) fulfilling jobs and making products for corporate America — and I don't mean license plates. They make jeans, wedding cakes, dorm furniture etc. It's called "The Prison Industrial Complex," in honor I suppose of, "The Military Industrial Complex."
The solution is education and housing first. Create, house and educate the poor about money and entrepreneurship. Address their mental and medical health issues — most are victims of child sexual abuse, PTSD, addiction, alcoholism, depression. Spend 2 years rehabbing them before turning them back out into society.”
Sean Dollard on Jan 10, 2013 at 12:20:28
“You make some excellent and intriguing points Becky. The United States' Prison population is absurd, and exacerbates a plethora of societal and economic issues that are deeply entrenched in our nation. And again, spot on with the solutions being based on education reform and housing first options. Thanks for sharing your tremendous insight.”
“Well, we all find out the "truth" about God when we die eh Frank? A little late to change anything if you picked the wrong path, but ultimately we all see who was right in the end.”
hp blogger Frank Schaeffer on Sep 14, 2012 at 10:32:12
“Hi Becky afraid not, if you die and there's nothing there you won't "find out anything. Then again if there is a God he obviously doesn't like us much anyway so a little religion won't help, that is if you believe that God is as described by our God-nuts. i don't so actually am quite hopeful.”
“Mark, people, including the homeless themselves, still see the homeless as mentally ill, stupid, dirty, dangerous and unable to make their own decisions. They see the homeless as unable to contribute anything to helping themselves. That's why agencies attract so many "rescuers" and codependents whose cooperation with the homeless thrives on the rush they get from feeling in control, playing the hero and helping the unfortunate. There are people who enjoy filling those roles, so that's not going to change.
To change how agencies respond to social media you have to change their mindset about who homeless people are. Obviously Broadway sees the homeless as competent, intelligent, capable people who can and want to take some responsibility in helping themselves and others. Hooray!
When we take PITY out of the equation and replace it with POSSIBILITY, then things change. You aren't just changing a system with what you're doing. You're changing a culture of people committed to being rescuers, nannies, parents, rule-makers and co-dependents and replacing it with entrepreneurs, visionaries and creatives who see the potential in human beings, not their failures.”
DrMMcLaughlin on Sep 4, 2012 at 11:51:49
“Among chronically homeless people, that is, approximately 10 to 20% of homeless individuals, I have found that nearly all in my recent study have multiple and often severe disabling conditions. The most common disability I found was a history of trauma to the head. This is a complex condition that can be especially disabling. If there is a seizure disorder as well, this puts the individual at very high risk of death on the street.
IMO, individuals with a history of chronic homelessness should be referred to case managers who understand disabilities and who have special training for work with this population. Among my study participants, only one has any computer skills at all and he uses computers only rarely. He does not use the email account that I set up for him.
Disabled individuals are protected under a number of federal laws. I am not an attorney but my understanding is that discriminating against them and/ or refusing to provide a "minimal accommodation" to them iegal. Under the federal Fair Housing Act, it may also be illegal to accept federal funds and violate federal laws. w to”
“So glad to hear your boyfriend is both compassionate, and was listening all those times you thought he wasn't. We all change over time as we see things from another person's point of view. Sometimes it just takes patience and walking the talk. You walked your talk, giving to the gentleman you did. Not everyone is lazy, although I agree some are. Some are mentally ill, have addictions, health problems, or a variety of issues. It's not as simple as just being lazy. Yes, there are a percentage of people who don't want to work, but they're prevalent everywhere...ask any parent with a 30 or 40 or 50 year old child still living at home. Thanks for sharing this - there's not enough compassion in the world.”
hp blogger Nadia Gomos on Aug 29, 2012 at 17:23:00
“I love your compassion, your concern, your daring to voice your doubts. Thank you. Having been homeless myself, I can say I would have been horrified to know a photo of me was on the internet that showed me at my lowest. Yet, as a 2009 TED speaker, talking about my homelessness, it's pretty obvious that it's part of who I am now.
As a former photojournalist/journalist for 23 years, I took a lot of photos of people at their lowest. I too struggled with the same question. Just because it's "news" doesn't make it any easier. People who find, copy and use your photos will do what they do with your photos. You can't control them. You can only control your intent when you take the photo. Ask yourself:
Am I taking this photo to share with people to change things?
Am I taking this photo to humiliate, laugh at, or hurt the person?
What do I plan to do with this photo? Personal? Business? News?
Understanding your intent, having integrity and compassion, and hopefully asking permission, or paying for the photo when possible will help you decide. Where possible, I pay the homeless people for a photo —$5 to $20 depending on the photo, the circumstance, the use. Pay more if you have it. You'd pay a model....
Hope this helps! Trust your intuition!”
hp blogger Nadia Gomos on Aug 15, 2012 at 16:49:28
“Thanks so much for the kind words and advice. I will try and have more conversations and photos and give some money”
“Follow the money. It's the number one rule of journalists and politicians everywhere. This proposed ordinance is, I'm sure, based on someone's perception that by enacting it they can charge more taxes, or make more money. Millions of people could be housed affordably if counties across the USA would cut their minimum square footage requirements to 200 square feet. The "Tiny Homes" movement has hit wall after wall of resistance to communities allowing perfectly livable and affordable homes ($20,000 to $50,000) of 300, 400, 500 square feet. I live in 400 square feet—200 of which is taken up by stored items, and I'm very comfortable. Most New Yorkers understand how to live well in 100 to 200 square feet as well. Why is it okay to live in a 200 square foot apartment, but not a 200 square foot house? TAXES. you can't make money (state, local) on 200 square foot home on one quarter acre. But up the square footage and your assessment and taxes skyrocket. We're sacrificing housing, affordable housing, so local governments can tax us to death. It's not about whether someone can live comfortably and well in 100 square feet. Millions of full-time RVers do it every day.
The reason for making this change is people can't shrink square footage by building smaller units. So they subdivide existing housing—thereby getting around the problem. Someone has noticed this and has created the ordinance to stop it! It's ALL ABOUT THE MONEY.”
“The Good Samaritan never stopped to ask who the victim on the side of the road was. He just saw a need and met it. Being a Christian doesn't mean judging, it means sharing and loving. No matter who we are, what we believe, where we come from, we're all looking for love and acceptance. I'm a Christian too and believe God offers that better than anybody, but it's hard to prove that when you only see Christians waving signs, denouncing lifestyles and making judgments. Great post, as usual Mark.”
“Having been one of the working homeless, and then having gone on to speak at TED Global about it only a couple of years later, I can tell you that your sentiments about dignity, while well-intentioned, miss the mark. Dignity is something that signifies that a being has an innate right to respect and ethical treatment, something BBH went out of their way to provide. (1) They worked with the shelter staff to pick what the staff thought were the best men for the job (2) They paid them MORE than minimum wage. If you were ever homeless and hired as a day laborer on the streets you'd make far, less (about $5 to $10 hour tops) for extremely hard labor.
If you want to talk about dignity, talk about grown men sleeping 50 to a room, usually with their shoes on so no one steals them.
Then there's the dignity of begging for money on the streets. Gee...what do I do, panhandle and feel shame every time I hold out my hand or see the sneer, fear or disgust on a stranger's face, or take a job where I'm actually providing a legitimate service in exchange for money?
I think you've confused "entitlement" with dignity. There is no shame in working an honest job for an honest day's pay. There's no shame in being selected for a job, promoted online, and having your story told.”
“Mark, I am TOTALLY with you on this issue—all the way! I thought it was brilliant too! Kudos and high fives to the folks who made this happen. I spoke at TED Global about being one of the "working homeless" and how people tend to avoid interacting, connecting or even thinking about the homeless. They pity them, fear them and avoid them. There's not enough room here to talk about how the homeless are simply people without housing, people without jobs and people without resources, not pariahs, or cretins, monsters or helpless. Like people WITH homes, many have addiction issues, mental health issues, and problems. But if you place two people with the same issues side by side, the one who managed (by whatever means possible) to retain shelter somehow appears "better than." Housing does NOT make the person. There are thousands of celebrities, CEOs, business owners, and famous people who were once homeless. It's something you experience, not something you are. I'm tired of people assuming the homeless need to be pitied and rescued. They don't. They need to be respected, helped and encouraged—just as we all do. Thanks for writing about this!”