“While I think Obamacare is a step in the right direction it scares me that costs have not been dealt with for most of the families I know. Those of us that do not qualify for subsidies are eaten alive by co-pays, medicine costs, deductibles. I have never had so many healthcare bills in my life for regular blood work, meds, etc. It scares me to think that this is not discussed. What about prescription drugs? If you are really ill those drugs cost a fortune and will break your bank with insurance.
I feel that corporation, big pharma, and insurance always win in this country. For profit healthcare is a death trap for people. Many of us with insurance wait until the last minute to see a doctor. None of that changed, it has gotten worse. Neither party works on behalf of the people. The Republicans are awful, but Dems are sell outs as well. Corporations run the show.”
“When I lived in LA people had a very strange mentality about anything to do with the environment. Nobody conserved at that time (15 years ago). People did not recycle, reuse, re-anything. The mentality down there seemed to be focused on having fun, living a fast lifestyle. I did not meet to many people that were at all interested in more substantial issues of life. Not saying that there are none, but they seemed rare. I live in WA State now, where it is the opposite. People are more in touch with nature and environmental protection. Maybe it is just the area, I don't know.
I am not totally familiar with all parts of AZ. I do know that especially during the housing boom thousands and thousands of homes were built without regards to conservation or planning. Phoenix has mushroomed into a giant city. The people that I know who moved there fit the same crowd as those in LA. Lot's of pop culture, big malls, man-made entertainment. Not connected with nature much. Maybe that is part of the problem why we cannot tackle environmental issues. We need to breed a different awareness from day one. You need to connect with the outdoors on a personal level if you are supposed to care about it.”
“To be paid for not working? Apparently you don't understand the nature of what fringe benefits are for. It is part of your compensation. I always feel as if I entered the dark ages when I moved to the States. Sorry, but very regressive to not see off time in some form as part of compensation.”
Hayek FA not Salma on May 22, 2014 at 11:05:31
“Nothing wrong with time off, keeps the mind and the body fresh, often makes for a better worker.
However, there comes a time when there is so much time off that you are no longer worth it to the employer regardless of how good you are when you are at work.”
“How is that surprising? Don't they cut and paste everyone? I don't look at anyone in magazines and assume they really look like that. Not to mention, they are altered by plenty of surgical procedures. What's real?”
dennishastings on May 22, 2014 at 11:54:26
“"Let me take you down, 'cause I'm going to….strawberry fields…. nothing is real, and nothing to get hung about… strawberry fields forever…"”
“I remember going to school in Germany and being about 7 or 8. I came home and told my mom that my Turkish classmate smelled like garlic. All the kids were mean to her. First of my mom took me aside and told me what a Mitlaeufer is. That is a follower. A person with no guts, no character. She told me that when all the Jews were killed many Germans were Mitlaeufer, and tolerated the abuse. She also told me that my family is different, and that we stand up for what is right. My Opa was a Catholic Worker who opposed Hitler.
It is what we teach our children. I never went back and laughed at that girl. I also learned early that I believe in standing up for others. I might never be a rich person, but I can sleep at night. Today I work with disabled adults and children. There is a reason for that. I thank both of my parents for the strong education they gave me from the time I was little about respecting others and caring for them. It starts at home, and continues at home. I hope my kids will learn these lessons. I do know that they understand that picking on others and demeaning them will never be tolerated in my house.”
“Who has all these days off? Many people don't get one paid leave day in this country. This is more a schedule for good companies and government employees. The rest are thrown under the bus. What do we live for? Only work?”
Hayek FA not Salma on May 21, 2014 at 11:10:10
“Anyone not working by the hour.
Let's add a bunch more time for education employees too.
Union workers get even more than the above.
I agree that many people live for work and that we are a work centric nation, but that is not the same issue as demanding to be paid for not working.”
“A lot of women I know get migraines that send you off a cliff. Some impair your vision. We would not have this discussion if we already had sufficient sick leave for all people. I think both, women and men should have the same amount of leave. The question is: When will we have mandatory leave for all people? Many can't even take off one day.”
“i thank you for showing compassion as a man. there are some women that have very awful symptoms. just showing that we care about each other matters a lot. i think we are used to sucking it up, but knowing that some people-especially men-validate the pain is already helpful.”
“I don't recall my husband getting kicked in the testicles a lot. I am so used to suffering with horrible menstrual symptoms, I don't even know what it would be like without. Starting with awful migraines to cramps, and the whole nine yards. Sometimes it is truly awful. Thankfully, I have a husband who understands, and co-workers that do as well.”
May 19, 2014 at 22:07:29
“It's a combination. Of course it takes good parents. But we need policies that enable people to be good parents. Good healthcare, family leave when people are ill, etc. Things that lessen stresses on people. We don't live in a vacuum and there is a lot of pressure on families. But yes, personal responsibility is not a bad thing. I agree with you on that.”
May 19, 2014 at 22:05:25
“Where did I say that I think it is wrong for people to have their child in childcare? I did not. What I did say is that kids need predictability in their life. They don't need constant change at a young age and no boundaries or mixed messages. What are childminders? I think the ideal thing is a parent, but of course that is not always possible. However, we are wondering why kids are on meds at a young age when we are constantly pushing them around. People that work with children will agree with me, I am sure.”
Worldaffairsfan on May 20, 2014 at 04:55:13
“I am sorry if I offended you. I took your sentence about "not get paid to take care of them" the wrong way, I guess. The rest of your post was clear and I do think we agree on the fact parental guidance is the best for children. Loving our children does not mean we have to be friends with them all the time, it means giving them positive attention and consistency.”
“No safe zone is going to prevent bullying. I also dislike when people say that kids are generally mean. Absolutely untrue. Having worked with kids for years I can tell you that the ones who bully have backup at home. Parents that legitimize it and tolerate it. I can tell you that my mom or dad would have never done so, so I stood up for others. Neither one of my kids bullies.
I have had kids in my groups that are amazing positive influences on others. Those are the ones we need to build up and turn into allies on behalf of the ones that can't always stand up for themselves. I think that we need to let kids handle some of their issues again. Parents are micromanaging just about everything from playdates to activities.... give them space to learn. Yes, help guide them, but let them problem solve. Sometimes I really think that if we allowed kids to defend themselves (which schools don't) we would not have most of these issues. Instead we come up with campaigns and slogans to make ourselves feel better.
Also, I think what needs to happen is that adults take responsibility. Bullying is learned behavior. If adults want bullying to stop they must become good parents and do their job.”
Wallysmom on May 20, 2014 at 07:25:00
CanuckistanCommie on May 20, 2014 at 00:42:33
“What do you feel about healing circles?”
dini56 on May 19, 2014 at 22:16:12
“You are right. Parents need to understand that they are responsible for modeling the behaviors they want their kids to learn. Kids will notice when parents say one thing and do another. I am concerned for our society in general, given that fewer people are willing to engage in civil discourse, observe basic rules of etiquette, and think of someone other than themselves.”
“I think he went a little too far with his comment. However, I do think we need to let kids fight some of their own battles. I think adults are now planning and orchestrating about every aspect of children's life. I do wonder if it would be better if we enable them to become strong and stand up for themselves. Of course, there are instances where that is no enough. But I do sometimes wonder about the anti bullying campaigns and how effective they are.”
amicusceo on May 19, 2014 at 23:19:44
“Kids need to be taught that they do have two choices when confronted with bullies. Either walk away and eventually the bully will not bother with you or stand up to them. My son had a bully pester him and I told my son you have these choices, either walk away or beat the crap out of him. He got into a fight with him. My son was suspended for three days and the other kid for ten days. I can live with that and so did my son who was never bullied again. I grew up with this saying " sticks and stones my break my bones but names will never hurt me" Today's kids are way to sensitive.”
May 18, 2014 at 10:51:39
“And it is not just that they want attention. It's everything. Kids need discipline (not beatings) such as a predictable life. They need to know that the adults around them have the same expectations. They need to know that they have healthy meals, and are expected to eat them. They need enough sleep, exercise, and time with people that love them, not get paid to take care of them. This is so obvious, but nobody wants to take the blame or discuss it.”
Worldaffairsfan on May 18, 2014 at 11:00:48
“There is not much wrong with children being cared for during the day by people that get paid to do so. As long as the parents/guardians show them love and attention when the family is together. Childminders can often give children more attention during the day then a parent can. But parents can read stories to, listen to stories from, and play with their children.”
May 18, 2014 at 10:49:17
“So agree with you. My experience, exactly. So many people have kids and then they cannot handle them. Their own life is so much more important. And they overindulge their children because it shuts them up. Dealing with them is left to educators and caregivers. And the expectations for those working with kids is getting higher and higher, while the pay is low.”
May 18, 2014 at 10:32:19
“Not surprised at all. This culture looks for quick fixes everywhere. There is no time, parents rush around, kids spend time with a ton of different people that have all very different expectations. Toddlers live more complex lives than a lot of adults due to personal choices that some of the parents make or are forced to make. Parents are forced to put children into care from a very early age because they can't get any leave or hardly have time, just to make ends meet. Often, caregivers switch, or they have too many responsibilities to devote their attention to one child. The caregiver ratio for infants in Wa State is 1 to four. Other states are worse.
This country is anti family to the core. And kids will bear the consequences. I also think that parenting is now more and more becoming the responsibility of caretakers and teachers. They are supposed to fix every child, which is ridiculous. So, in order to deal with large groups of kids we put them on meds. The ratio in childcare for toddlers in my state is one to seven. So, if you have a toddler with serious impulse issues, some of which might have disabilities (which are not diagnosed early) you are putting kids and teachers at peril. I am suprised the numbers are not higher. And yes, of course a lot of behaviors are normal, developmentally. But you need to have time to address issues. And time is money.”
itsacoolbreeze on May 18, 2014 at 10:38:41
“It's the countries fault? How lib of you to think so.
Good Parents raise good kids. Period.
Look in the mirror parents. There is your problem.”
“I love it here. Very beautiful and progressive. I went to The Evergreen State College, and I think that it adds a lot of substance to this area. Right now it is absolutely awesome with the weather so nice, and surrounded by water.”
“The best way to fight poverty is to support a healthy middle class. The Republican party has done everything to kill the middle class. Taxing investments and wealth less than income, rewarding outsourcing, letting people die without health insurance, supporting capitalism without checks and balances. I would say they have done just about everything I can think of to increase poverty since Reagan. Good job, guy!”
“having had two glasses of wine maybe i don't see straight. but hey, i could think of a million more important or beautiful things than that. it's not even nice looking. but- these people are so saturated with stuff and money, they are bored. maybe he should have build her a wall of sea weed or a wall of pebbles. makes as much sense to me.”
“People that question in the US are ignored and made fun of. This will become the end of our middle class and further stunt progress. It's sad to see. If I had to do it over again I would never move here again. Luckily, I live in Olympia, WA where a lot of progressive people reside. I don't think I could live in a lot of places around the US, I would completely lose it.”
“I like this, however I am tired of people telling me how much better I have it and... blah, blah, blah.... This is really irrelevant, and thinking that you are advocating for social change such as great maternity leave above, it is futile. How about turning it around and confirming that there are a lot of places where mothers are treated much better? That way we don't keep patting our back and saying how great this country is. You can't make change happen when you keep telling people to suck it up, because it is worse somewhere else.”
“My son works there. He hates it. He had no choice. Being that college is now so expensive that you have to either go into a zillion dollars debt or work full-time this is the only employment he could find. Many of his friends don't have jobs or can't find anything for more than five hours a week. He tells us about how the company brainwashes their employees, understaffs, underpays... They are so huge and could make a real difference in people's life if they would choose to.
I sometimes wish I was rich and could just pay for his school. Then, there is a blessing in disguise. First, this company has motivated him immensely to further his education. And, he has become very politically aware. It will motivate him to become an activist, I am sure of it. So, I am looking at the bright side.”
“Sadly, that means he is in the minority of those that dare to question and think. You need to say no more since it has become standard to shut up, watch Housewifes of OC, try to emulate the wealthy in People magazine while being unable to cover your co-pay at your next doctor visit. So yes, Reich is a nutball according to the mainstream. That is what those in power want. A lot of obedient, numbed sheep that laugh at thinkers and think they have a Democracy. God Bless America!”