“'08. Between undergrad and grad school, I've got a mountain of debt, plus the cost of living here is ridiculously high. $80k doesn't get you very far in most of the major metropolitan areas. I clip coupons and buy most of my clothes at consignment stores; it's not like I'm living large.”
magic414 on Dec 23, 2013 at 15:45:31
“right---try it before the bush recession.. an MBA was GOLD”
“The pill has many uses besides birth control. It's used to treat endometriosis, dysfunctional uterine bleeding, ovarian cysts and hormonal imbalance, to name a few. And it's none of the employer's business what condition his/her employee needs it for.”
“It's not like there's currently a magical force field on gendered bathrooms to keep the opposite sex out--a guy intent on committing rape in the girls' bathroom will go in there whether it's against the rules or not. Making accommodations for transgender students won't make a difference.”
“Depends how casual. A button-down or polo shirt would be fine; a graphic tee or tank top wouldn't be. All dress codes are artificial to some extent, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. Workplaces have expected standards of dress--you wouldn't think something was "off" if your doctor showed up for your appointment wearing a band t-shirt and jeans?”
fearnomore on Aug 7, 2013 at 09:17:04
“Maybe you should write all of this down so Linkedin can make it official.”
“I'm pretty sensitive to sexism, but in this case, I agree with your post. The dress/top she's wearing says "dating profile" rather than "work appropriate", especially since most engineering cultures in the US tend to be fairly casual to business casual. I'd have the same reaction if the photo was of a guy in a tux.”
fearnomore on Aug 6, 2013 at 10:27:05
“What about a guy in casual? Exactly how far does your artificial dress code go?”
“In a lot of cases, it's a question of jurisdiction. Many colleges are almost considered their own towns...the campus police IS the police, so the victims may not have a choice of where to go if they want to press charges.”
sadwitness on Aug 1, 2013 at 23:53:21
“Then I'd go to the media and drag his ass.backwards through the mud...and if that didn't help I'd have no other choice but to settle it myself. It is a good thing I didn't have a girl child. This is an outrage.”
“If Dunkin's had soymilk, I'd never go back to Fourbucks.”
Jessica Meschino on Aug 18, 2013 at 21:21:34
“That's the only annoying thing about the cheaper coffee chains. None have soy milk, so if one can't have dairy and can't stand black coffee, its either make it at home or pay extra for the cup of joe just to be able to get soy milk”
“If the tables were turned, and the fiance was an off-duty fireman who rescued a kid from a burning building during the engagement photo session, would your first reaction be "Wow, he'd be a great dad!"?”
Mike Bloomfield on Jul 26, 2013 at 15:13:55
“Maybe? Since I'm a cop who has been in a similar situation, one never knows what the first words out of anyone would be....”
“I am ungrateful--I wanted to elope! My parents insisted on the whole to-do wedding, and then proceeded to hijack nearly every decision I made (they changed the venue, hired a harpist which we never wanted, uninvited half of my friends so they could make space for business associates we had never met, and the whole time giving me endless grief about how much the whole thing cost. At the end, it was totally THEIR wedding--I just happened to be the one getting married.”
Kacikaci80 on Jul 26, 2013 at 16:40:49
“It's time to set boundaries with them. I'm not trying to be harsh, I know it's not easy. But part of being an adult is setting those healthy boundaries and saying NO.”
suzannji2 on Jul 24, 2013 at 20:32:17
“Gosh, were you at MY wedding? It sure sounds mighty familiar, except instead of the harpist there was an accordion player (he was the brother-in-law of the director of the country club, and I was horrified, mortified, and appalled.)
I had wanted to wear my grandmother's beautiful 1895 gown, but my Mother X'd that, informing me that I'd look like Miss Haversham.
Then at the tasteful reception our Best Man took off all his clothes and dove into the swimming pool, while some of our other guests dropped acid and bombed around of the golf court. They got arrested, and one kid sold marijuana to on the streets of Hudson to get the bail money together. (Hey, it was 1970.)
The hippie priest who was supposed to marry us had a heart attack the night before and was in the hospital, so we had to talk to the local priest, who hadn't got our "papers" from the Archdiocese and wasn't sure he would be able to sanction it.
Our wedding rehearsal was a dreary event. since neither my husband to be nor any of his family (they had issues, too) were there in attendance. My Father at that point was about ready to load his shotgun.
However, it's fun to look back, isn't it? What seems traumatic at the time becomes hilarious as time passes.
I think there's probably a book there.
Want to collaborate?
MAH999 on Jul 24, 2013 at 15:21:22
“Being able to say no to your parents is a pre-requisite for getting married. If you haven't emancipated yourself from having them run your wedding or your life, you might want to wait until you're able to do that. You'll make better decisions that way.”
Clarabell on Jul 24, 2013 at 14:03:40
“That's a different story -- and sad -- I hope you have reconciled. Parents can be a problem -- ”
“I should forward this slideshow to my parents--my wedding was even less expensive than the typical Alaska wedding, my husband and I paid for half of it, and still they complained nonstop about the cost!”
“It could be a generational thing as well, My mother (older baby boomer) would have been far more impressed had I married a doctor than if I became one, and when I give her updates on friends her first questions are usually "Oh, did she get married?" or "Oh, does she have any kids yet?"”
Victor Zone on Jul 23, 2013 at 16:09:28
“You are right. I have seen it. Takes time for cultures to change. usually through education.”