“Mark, I love that you ask this question.... What are the terms of your pre-marital agreement? They can either be the terms set forth in the Family Code or terms that you specifically negotiated as part of the pre-marital agreement.
“Great article Mark! I've said it before and I'll say it again.... nobody "wins" in divorce. In my case it was our daughter who ultimately lost the most. My ex was determined to win at any cost. He ended up with attorney fees of over $100,000 while mine where a fraction of that. Sadly he passed away within a year of the divorce. So not only did my 10 year old daughter lose her father but ultimately she ended up paying his attorney fees out of her inheritance.”
715W on May 13, 2013 at 22:16:04
I take it you were equally determined that he not "win" -- and maybe all he wanted was equal parenting time.
He's gone so of course you won.
My observation is that divorce lawyers of course take advantage of fathers in terms of overbilling abuses. The divorce lawyer for the divorcing wife may even discount her fees to keep her fighting so that the divorce lawyer for the divorcing wife can run up the fees for the divorce lawyer for the father. Then a few cases later their roles are reversed and the favor is returned.
My ex-wife's divorce lawyer literally told me in writing that he was discounting her fees and that he did not charge her for all of the time he spent on her case. I used that letter later when he filed a bogus/bullying motion trying to get fees from me after I fired my divorce lawyer.
My divorce lawyer was on the way to fleecing me of $100,000 but I fired him at the $43,000+ in billings mark. At that point he had done virtually nothing on my case.
In my case the GAL fees were over $25,000. We entered and exited the GAL process with an equal placement arrangement. The first thing the GAL did was change equal to unequal -- to get the hostilities going. If he had kept equal placement his fee would have been $3,000.
The divorce lawyers make each other money -- from the assets of the divorcing”
hp blogger Mark Baer on May 13, 2013 at 15:39:34
“How tragic! Thank you for your kind remark and for sharing your personal story with us.”
“Very well said Ms. Larson. I couldn't agree more. Marriage/cohabitation isn't for everybody. When friends or family ask when we're going to marry my longtime boyfriend and I both respond with "why ruin a good thing?" Bottom line...our current status works for us (and our children) and that's what matters.”
“After my friend and I went through horrific divorces we started a website to help others that were going through or contemplating divorce. That was back in 1999 and divorcehq.com has been going strong since then.”
“I know from going to a divorce support group that the men sometimes have the best insights into the process. It seems that they aren't so willing to share them outside the protection of their immediate support network. I look forward to hearing some positive, thoughtful and heartfelt insights on divorce from the male perspective.”