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Why <i>Every</i> Divorcing Parent Screws Up (and Why It's OK)

Why Every Divorcing Parent Screws Up (and Why It's OK)

Commented Aug 16, 2013 at 09:52:22 in Divorce

“Great article Kate. I love the question "Who needs this call, me or them?" I think the word "call" can be substituted with many things divorcing parents do.”

hp blogger Kate Scharff on Aug 17, 2013 at 11:03:38

“Absolutely, and a great point-- "who is this for, me or them?" is a conceptual North Star (and not just for divorcing parents!).
Best, Kate”
5 Steps to a Clean Divorce

5 Steps to a Clean Divorce

Commented Jun 4, 2013 at 10:08:44 in Divorce

“All good points. I think the key is having the right professional team in place.”
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Everything Is a Matter of Perspective

Commented Jun 4, 2013 at 09:45:12 in Divorce

“Mark, I love that you ask this question.... What are the terms of your pre-marital agreement? They can either be the terms set forth in the Family Code or terms that you specifically negotiated as part of the pre-marital agreement.

Another great article!”

hp blogger Mark Baer on Jun 4, 2013 at 14:02:32

“Thank you.”
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The Personality and Philosophy of Attorneys Impact the Results

Commented May 14, 2013 at 08:03:39 in Divorce

“You're very welcome. I look forward to reading future article.”
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The Personality and Philosophy of Attorneys Impact the Results

Commented May 14, 2013 at 08:02:38 in Divorce

“Actually I was not equally determined that he not win and parenting time had nothing to do with it.”
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The Personality and Philosophy of Attorneys Impact the Results

Commented May 13, 2013 at 12:47:08 in Divorce

“Great article Mark! I've said it before and I'll say it again.... nobody "wins" in divorce. In my case it was our daughter who ultimately lost the most. My ex was determined to win at any cost. He ended up with attorney fees of over $100,000 while mine where a fraction of that. Sadly he passed away within a year of the divorce. So not only did my 10 year old daughter lose her father but ultimately she ended up paying his attorney fees out of her inheritance.”

715W on May 13, 2013 at 22:16:04

“Very tragic.

I take it you were equally determined that he not "win" -- and maybe all he wanted was equal parenting time.

He's gone so of course you won.

My observation is that divorce lawyers of course take advantage of fathers in terms of overbilling abuses. The divorce lawyer for the divorcing wife may even discount her fees to keep her fighting so that the divorce lawyer for the divorcing wife can run up the fees for the divorce lawyer for the father. Then a few cases later their roles are reversed and the favor is returned.

My ex-wife's divorce lawyer literally told me in writing that he was discounting her fees and that he did not charge her for all of the time he spent on her case. I used that letter later when he filed a bogus/bullying motion trying to get fees from me after I fired my divorce lawyer.

My divorce lawyer was on the way to fleecing me of $100,000 but I fired him at the $43,000+ in billings mark. At that point he had done virtually nothing on my case.

In my case the GAL fees were over $25,000. We entered and exited the GAL process with an equal placement arrangement. The first thing the GAL did was change equal to unequal -- to get the hostilities going. If he had kept equal placement his fee would have been $3,000.

The divorce lawyers make each other money -- from the assets of the divorcing”

hp blogger Mark Baer on May 13, 2013 at 15:39:34

“How tragic! Thank you for your kind remark and for sharing your personal story with us.”
7 Signs You're Not Ready To Date

7 Signs You're Not Ready To Date

Commented Feb 14, 2013 at 08:35:36 in Divorce

“Well said Elizabeth! I just wrote on my blog about mourning the end of a marriage. People think it sounds corny but it's one of the most important things in the process of moving on. http://www.divorcehq.com/blog/2013/02/mourning-your-marriage/

Zenka Wistram on Feb 15, 2013 at 09:07:24

“For some people. The end of my marriage was a celebration of life. No cause for morning, just joy and relief.”
The Best Relationship To Have After Divorce

The Best Relationship To Have After Divorce

Commented Jan 31, 2013 at 11:33:31 in Divorce

“Very well said Ms. Larson. I couldn't agree more. Marriage/cohabitation isn't for everybody. When friends or family ask when we're going to marry my longtime boyfriend and I both respond with "why ruin a good thing?" Bottom line...our current status works for us (and our children) and that's what matters.”
Good Things That Came From Bad Divorces

Good Things That Came From Bad Divorces

Commented Oct 18, 2012 at 11:47:09 in Divorce

“After my friend and I went through horrific divorces we started a website to help others that were going through or contemplating divorce. That was back in 1999 and divorcehq.com has been going strong since then.”
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Things You Should Never Say To Your Divorce Lawyer

Commented Mar 15, 2012 at 09:22:53 in Divorce

“Not all attorneys are money hungry. My attorney said and I quote "You can put your daughter through college or mine. I'd rather see you put your daughter through college."

A good attorney will have enough clients that they don't have to gouge the ones they have.”
Where Have All The Men Gone?

Where Have All The Men Gone?

Commented Feb 24, 2012 at 13:55:36 in Divorce

“Sharing feelings and thoughts about divorce is not vilifying the ex. Bashing and badmouthing the ex is vilifying them. Two different things.”
Where Have All The Men Gone?

Where Have All The Men Gone?

Commented Feb 24, 2012 at 13:13:54 in Divorce

“I know from going to a divorce support group that the men sometimes have the best insights into the process. It seems that they aren't so willing to share them outside the protection of their immediate support network. I look forward to hearing some positive, thoughtful and heartfelt insights on divorce from the male perspective.”
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The Selfish Side of Divorce With Children

Commented Jan 27, 2012 at 09:52:35 in Divorce

“Lee, as always well said. I am sure your openness and honesty have helped many people going through the difficult time of divorce.”

hp blogger Lee Block on Jan 27, 2012 at 11:46:42

“Thank you!”
Why Would Anyone Remarry Their Ex?

Why Would Anyone Remarry Their Ex?

Commented Jan 27, 2012 at 09:43:10 in Divorce

“Not for all the money in the world!”
Jealousy

Jealousy

Commented Jun 23, 2011 at 09:55:29 in Divorce

“Couldn't have said it better myself. Great article !”