“This is a perfect idea: Intolerant people can find other equally intolerant people because surely only someone who sees life exactly the way you do is worthy of your love and affection. What took so long?”
solid on Jan 11, 2013 at 16:50:56
“I see your point, but I also see the perspective that, while two people can't agree on everything, there are maybe 4 or 5 core values that are deal breakers if the other person is on opposite sides. It would be very hard if not impossible for me to live with a racist or xenophobe or someone who rants all day about the unemployed people being deadbeats. And I doubt I could ever live with a right wing evangelical Christian, it's just too big of a divide. However, as a moderate liberal, I probably could be relatively compatible with a moderate Republican. But we would have spirited arguments!”
“Underneath many a relationship is no foundation. Men, I hate to tell you.....She married you for money just like you married her because she looked a certain way. This is the exchange that many make. And when the money goes, the woman goes just as when the looks go, the man goes.”
ironfelix on Dec 24, 2012 at 19:20:19
“yeah, thanks for reminding me why i'm better off single”
“I haven taken care of patients who flew in from overseas without insurance who have had cancer and heart disease. I've seen Americans with the same maladies and no insurance. They received cancer treatment and heart transplant and everything you can imagine.
I've seen patients who are American WITH INSURANCE be denied coverage by their insurance companies. Their care continued as it should have as the doctors and hospitals worked to get the payments for the treatment that had been performed.”
“I've seen people who can pay and have insurance make the same less than optimal decisions.”
JudgeMoonbox on Oct 13, 2012 at 20:21:45
“Me: "Even to the extent that hospitals are required to take care of the uninsured, there is a deterrent factor where people won't seek treatment when they're "only a little" sick and wait until they're seriously ill. With cancer especially, the wait can turn a treatable illness into something incurable."
DrVeronicaEyeMD: "I've seen people who can pay and have insurance make the same less than optimal decisions."
As smart as people are, logic does not come naturally. You're committing the common fallacy of "Affirming the Consequent."
Take this statement: "If it rains tomorrow, Joe will give me a ride home." Tomorrow comes and Joe gives me a ride home. Does that mean it rained? The statement is true if it doesn't rain, no matter if Joe gives me a ride or not!
Similarly, you're saying that because some people make bad decisions when they do have insurance, the absence of insurance cannot be the cause of other people's choosing not to get health care until they're seriously ill.
You cannot justify that conclusion. You can say my conclusion is false only if you can say that all the uninsured would make the same bad decision if they did have insurance, just as if in my illustration, you can prove that Joe would not give me a ride home if it did rain.”
“Ok. Let's assess what happens really. When you are sick, you go to the hospital. You get taken care of whether or not you have insurance. It is illegal to turn anyone away. So Romney is right. Now what happens as a result of the bill is another matter. Even people with insurance can be caught with a huge financial burden before and after Obamacare and Romneycare.”
keleas on Oct 13, 2012 at 00:56:03
“Romney is wrong, very wrong. They fix minor problems in the er, or they stabilize more serious ones. If you go to the er and they discover you need a kidney transplant, are they going to give you one? No. If you have diabetes they will stabilize your blood sugar, maybe give you a sugar monitor and advise you to follow up with your personal physician. Not ongoing care. If you fall off a ladder and hurt your knee, they will take an xray and give you a splint. But if nothing is broken, maybe you have ligament damage, they give you pain meds for a few days and refer you to an orthopedist. You don't get ongoing care.”
JudgeMoonbox on Oct 12, 2012 at 21:41:55
“"Let's assess what happens really. When you are sick, you go to the hospital."
Even to the extent that hospitals are required to take care of the uninsured, there is a deterrent factor where people won't seek treatment when they're "only a little" sick and wait until they're seriously ill. With cancer especially, the wait can turn a treatable illness into something incurable.
Even if as your name suggests, you're an ophthalmologist, I'd sure you've seen people who make less than optimal choices because they worry about having to pay.”
Jo Hargis on Oct 12, 2012 at 20:45:55
“Actually, with all due respect, you are wrong. They treat the symptoms, not the problem. I know someone who went to the ER with chest pains. All they did was stop the chest pains and discharge, referring her to "her physician" that she clearly cannot afford. The problem is still there. It will still be there until a more severe heart attack occurs, and they'll treat that ONLY as far as absolutely necessary, and then they'll discharge again. Not everyone qualifies for Medicaid or Medicare, so not everyone gets treated past their immediate symptoms.”
indigotrustee on Oct 12, 2012 at 20:25:00
“The town where I live, they wll turn you away in the emergency room, if you have the flu, if you fall and break your arm or leg, whatever it is that's making you ill.
Emergency personnel would tell you-me-or anyone to go to their own physician.
What if you don't have medical insurance and therefore your own doctor?
You're up a creek without a paddle.”
“It should always be the man's idea to get married. If its the woman's, he will later say he was pressured and really didn't love you but there was no reason to say 'No" at the time. And don't be pregnant ladies because that really pisses men off.”
“And if she keeps looking and trying and test driving, she will find the right car. Seriously though, men have to be open to taking direction from their women. Most aren't because they become offended because their woman has enough experience to know what works for her body.”
kwaut lizard on Feb 21, 2012 at 09:47:08
“"Seriously though, men have to be open to taking direction from their women."
And when you do, how do you get them to stop? LOL”
“Yes, of course I demanded great sex while dating. Because in order to know that great sex is you gotta have it. Once you know what it is, there is no going back to mediocrity.”
Terence Manuel on Feb 19, 2012 at 17:19:54
“You did not answer my question.
If women are demanding "GREAT" sex from their husbands and only 10%-20% can provide this "GREAT" sex, then why are women bothering to get married in the first place? We know for a fact that nearly one third of women admit to marrying the wrong guy and knew this on wedding day!
Like most women, you have simply decided to punt and avoid confronting reality.
Women have numerous discreet partners for this reason; Ted for sex, John for husband, Michael for companionship etc. Men want "GREAT" sex too. Most married men would take any sex, probably. The number of women who can provide "GREAT" sex is very few. Most are escorts and prostitutes. After all, practice does makes perfect.
I opted out of my marriage because I refused to be a part of my wife's lies and deception over sex. Women need to come clean with men when it comes to the issue of marriage and sex. If you no longer like the poor sap or think he is a lousy lay, then for God sake why won't you just say so and tell him?
All I ask is for just a bit of honesty in the debate. This is not about judging. It is the honest pursuit of the TRUTH.
But, very few women are made of the the stuff of say Katharine Hepburn. Most are like yourself, unfortunately.”
“My new husband likes the idea. In fact, now he actually has two wedding bands although he did not wear one before the marriage. He had a loaner ring before his chosen ring was ready. Because the minister blessed the loaner ring, I felt he should keep it. The chosen ring is now here so he wears both.
He likes the idea of symbolizing to the world that he is committed even before the actual marriage ceremony took place. I think men are committed when the request you to marry them so it would be appropriate for him to wear a mangagement ring.”
“Well...Its not a "black thing". I spent Thanksgiving with my fiance's family. They were all born in Benin, Africa. They didn't serve mac and cheese. Black people from different cultures eat different things, the same as all other ethnic group. While I didn't see Pat Robertson's question as racist, I saw it as typical of how non-black people lump together all black people.”
thomasskycap on Nov 25, 2011 at 16:14:23
Pamela Lake on Nov 25, 2011 at 12:14:17
upthewazooforus on Nov 25, 2011 at 11:20:54
“And you're guilty of lumping "non-black" people together. I take nobody's race for granted. I may be "white", but I love the foods of many different cultures. I enjoy the food associated with the black culture, known as "soul food", very much. Just as much as I do the food of the Mexican and Chinese cultures. Is it REALLY necessary to compartmentalize foods and cultures? Why not simply enjoy them all. I'm surprised you didn't SEE this for yourself.”
“Most of us learn the hard way. We date where we are and we all deal with divorce in our own way. That is okay. So go on the date and learn what will and will not work for you. Also, there is no hard and fast rule as to when its right or wrong to date after divorce. Its different for different people. So let's not judge who is available and who is not available because, seriously, how do you know what the state of mind is of someone else? You are just making assumptions based on your own experience or what you have read somewhere.
Now I thought it was fun dating all the types described. Why? Because it gave me a good laugh and after divorce, boy don't you need those laughs?? But I also made some good friends. And these 'divorce' friends accept each others shortcomings and support each other AND understand the emotions of divorce as your married friends abandon you ( or you choose to abandon them).
So my advice is to try out dating all types except the abuser (that should be added as #1 on this list) who you should avoided at all costs no matter how bad you think his wife was. And men realize that there are many woman out there who are emotional and physical abusers and don't try to rescue them. Stay Away and leave that to the professionals.”