“Wanted to wish you a special farewell, as when we get back at the end of the month, it'll all be different here. I don't anticipate spending much time commenting via Facebook, but we'll see. Gosh, after five years here, this will be a big change for us! Hope you have a great June. Wish me luck in flying halfway around the world with a not quite 4-yr-old. I just can't leave her behind this time, especially not after having just relinquished Michael back to his own house. Luckily Grandpa's coming, too, in case we need to let them chill while we roam. Take care, dear Bella!”
Bellanova on Jun 2, 2014 at 11:09:09
“Murderation most foul struck again. (That's one thing I'll not miss about HP.)
Have a safe flight, Kelly, and a great trip -- and that's all I'm gonna say to prevent even this innocent wish from being murderated. (LOL, it almost feels like the good, ol' days behind The Iron Curtain, when we had to watch what we said, when, and to whom.)”
“You have to rise past the Chanels and Louis Vuittons of the world to find the pieces that aren't logotized to death and are known instead for the quality of their workmanship
Once Chanel began paying, a decade ago, to be placement-associated with the Real Housewives and Kardashian franchises, it stopped being anything more than crass tack in my book. The huge MK on Michael Kors bags? Un-dee-ZIRE-able.
Bottega and retail-line Hermes, Balenciaga and Prada still do real style and function well. Expensively to be sure. But they're also really, really fine goods, too.”
May 23, 2014 at 16:30:09
“Do you have any concrete evidence that she's the biological mother this time? Because it's most likely because of her current age and health circumstances (diabetes, metabolic shape, polycystic ovaries, etc.) that the baby the surrogate is carrying was conceived with a donor egg.
People who possess the health to get pregnant naturally without fertility help do that spontaneously, even in middle age. For those who can't, the fertility specialists always assure them that they'll conceive more reliable, viable embryos with donor eggs after the age of 40 - 42--and usually once they're past 38. She's 47. This is just a fact of fertility. These expectant -through-surrogate moms usually don't advertise this fact, but it's true.
I'd bet my retirement that this baby is biologically only his. And I strongly suspect that the babies she carried last time, which were dizygotic (fraternal) twins, only one of whom survived to term, were conceived the same way. We won't ever find out the real truth about this, but I'm giving you the reality of the scientific odds. This subject is near and dear to my heart, having watched my sister have a donor-egg baby at 47 and conceiving my own spontaneously in my 50th year, which is supposed to be impossible, except that, as they assured me at my doc's office, it happens spontaneously only "when it can."”
ITookTheRedPillAgain on May 23, 2014 at 17:12:49
“Wow... Go figure....Who'd a thunk it?! lol
Thanks for the informative and enlightening breakdown. :-)”
“The reason the hairy areas have an odor isn't because of the hair, Twocents.
Areas with lots of sebaceous and apocrine glands smell funkier than areas without. This is why your male groin smells worse than just your hairy leg does. Sebaceous/aprocrine glands. Your underam? Same thing. Sebaceous and sweat glands.
Read. And also stop pretending to be female, please. You're not kidding anyone.”
MyTwoCentsB4Taxes on May 23, 2014 at 10:20:03
“Ha! I love it when someone likes to pretend they know anything and then right in their very comment they confirm that they don't. When someone assumes others are pretending to be someone they're not, it's usually because that's exactly what that person is doing. Go troll elsewhere.”
“They estimate the retiree number to be at least a million. The biggest group of American expats in outside the U.S. is living in Mexico. My paternal great-grandparents built a retirement home there five decades ago, and the big American retirement communities outside of Mexico City had been there for at least for or five generations before theirs. It's a lot of folks.”
Bengi Mendoza on May 21, 2014 at 23:09:25
“The US census do not track USA expatriates down so they just have estimates. In 2009 Mexico has 1 Million expatriates with the current estimates at 1.5 million USA citizens living in Mexico. Not sure why our Census department do not track to an exact number, but it just probably have to do with portraying the image that people do not leave USA.”
“Since the young men dress up, too, I'm wondering why you would think so. All kids who go to the prom like to play at dress-up, or they wouldn't be going to such an event. It's a rite of passage, Realist.”
Dick Root on May 22, 2014 at 14:23:56
“Men are not subject to wearing low cut and revealing dresses as most of today's dresses are. Compare a tuxedo to a modern prom dress and get back to me.”
“I'm here to tell you that the men who're smart enough not to criticize their wives and to be affectionate and supportive instead are the much-adored recipients of those BJs and sandwiches and other perqs you're not getting, Ivan.
(A big ILY to my amazing spouse for being such a lovebug, btw.)”
“I was rather thinking that I could use some of these and them some equally derogatory new descriptors to compile a parallel list of disrespectful/insulting things about men.
I prefer not to do that, however. I don't fancy either list, and for the same reasons.
People who take refuge in using terms like these about our female gender, like those who routinely do the same to men, aren't doing any favors to humanity. Nor to harmony. Nor toward the next generation, who need to see us getting along and communicating effectively. This seems too often overlooked in this sort of deliberately provocative content.
I stand against all these terms. So should all people. I've heard all these and more applied to my gender, but I've heard tons of them tossed the other way, too. I'd like to see HuffPo take the gender slant off these lists so they're universal and don't portray just women like exclusive victims of derogations.”
Angie Totsch on May 18, 2014 at 17:17:37
“Excellent point! While my comments have been confined to these particular terms in this particular article, I have just as big of a problem with words like 'retarded', 'gay' or the phrase 'man up' (and so on). I totally agree that until we can all engage in respectful discourse, the root of the problem will not be resolved. And this article was posted in the Women's section. I've seen articles in other sections about hurtful terms as well.”
“You, like me, were born to educated white parents. We went to white primary schools during a time when schools were still segregated.
So we likely got better basic educations. We had literate parents who read and talked to us in at least two languages, which gave us an advantage verbally/linguistically. We certainly got better food and clothing than black kids of our time did. We got enhanced educations with things like Scouts, piano, art, and museum school lessons. As much as I hated it, when my parents pulled me out of public school and sent me to a private one early in HS so I could do an international baccalaureate curriculum, that was probably white privilege. That I considered using my IB diploma to apply to English universities certainly was white privilege.
The part I'm not sure of is whether this is really white privilege or just privilege that goes with being born into middle/upper-middle socioeconomic class, except that they certainly went hand in hand with having light skin for us Baby Boom kids.
Would you not say that your acceptance into college and the recommendations that got you into an institution that would teach you how to be a military officer, all on the taxpayers' dime, involved some privilege? Obviously, you also had the grades and accomplishments. But did any black kids of the same age have the same opportunity?
I think most of us enjoyed more racial privilege than you realize.”
“Hear, hear from me, too, Grin! You have probably taken the worst of the insults--and they come from the worst, I think (the dumbest who can't really debate points)--which you are able to take in intellectual context and let roll off your back.
I admire your ability to continue stressing your points and put up with your "debaters" at the same time. I don't have that patience.
This topic reminds me of the fact that my crowd is all in a tizzy about going to a fancy wedding next month, where there'll no doubt be much discussion of how everyone looks and what we're wearing. I dread it like the plague. This one involves a full sit-down dinner, which is not something many Texas brides do. To me it's all a silly show, and I wish I could wear scrubs and clogs to it instead of a dress and hosiery. Ugh.”
“Would I be accurate in concluding that it is more easily ingrained into the depressive arrested adolescent soul than in the functional adult male one? Just a hunch. There's a summer2 online seminar on child/ado neuropsych basics I'm thinking couldn't hurt in dealing with the dynadoubles. Sob. Soon to be single daughter. I think it will come in handy again with Michael, too, because I hope we can be a stabilizing influence when he hits the rougher teen years. He's such a fine little man. I looked out at them plying earlier and got all teary. I wonder how parents keep youngsters away from porn, and this class is going to cover some of the seeds of those compulsions if the description's accurate.”
Bellanova on May 10, 2014 at 16:43:24
“You would be indeed.
It is a scary world for kids and their parents. And it seems to be getting worse, too. I don't have good answers, other than you do your best to instill good values in them and pray that it takes. Then you keep your fingers crossed (and continue to pray). Because there but for the grace of God. Sob, yes.”
“I'm convinced that the reason porn and nudie magazines began doing this to their featured stars--the men are just as denuded in lots of portrayals--started out as visual clarity. They love to show the xtreme closeups in porn and pink detail magazines, and hair got in the way of the detail they were going for. It then caught on wildly because it little-girlified the women.
Thought I'd jump in here and tell you I think you're delectable, too. I won't call you "cupcake," though. Poor ole Reciprocat never has been able to control his manners or his caustic impulses; reminds me awfully of Misty89 in that regard. I also want to apologize if you felt I insulted AI or the young woman you were pulling for. I didn't mean to be overcritical of her. You were gracious as ever in your reply, and then I thought about myself at that same age and just learning to sing, and it reminded me to lighten up on the dear soul. She has real breath power, which is good. I just wish that place would really teach them some real musical technique. That word always reminds me of melasma, which is a dermatology thing. It has beautiful applications in opera, especially Italian ones.”
Bellanova on May 10, 2014 at 13:43:59
“Insulted? Gosh, no! I readily admit to not having as acute an ear for these things. A typical scenario in our house involves me, all agog, showing some awesome beyond awesomeness song performance to my husband, who reacts with, "It's nice, except for..." and then he lists all the technical and other flaws in it. Upon re-listening, I can spot some of them myself, but almost never all. And then I read reviews from people-in-the-know who say what my husband does. The funny (or depressing, depending ;)) thing is that I had musical training (though not vocal) and he had none. But his ear is much better than mine. I do remind him sometimes that the beauty of a performance does not always depend on technical prowess and precision, and he agrees, too. (We are such an agreeable couple sometimes, aww... ;)) I really appreciate learning about melisma and will certainly use this knowledge now to hone my musical judgment.
I think you are right on about the reason why porn has glorified the hairless look, which in the past was considered uber-kinky and not in a good way (i.e., as something that generally provoked revulsion rather than arousal). It is fascinating to see people embrace externally generated trends as something not only natural, but good and somehow ingrained in their and everyone else's psyche since forever; and go to great lengths to defend them as such. An instructive example of the power of marketing propaganda.”
“Why is the immediate reaction always borne of fear that somehow fortunate people are going to be robbed?
There are reasonable ways governments can ensure that the lower and middle class segments of their economies have more money in their pockets, you know. With equitable taxation. With tax breaks and encouragement toward education. With overall economic policy. With ensuring that the lowest earners can have a livable minimum wage. By seeing that these folks have healthcare coverage that won't leave them bankrupt if they face catastrophic medical events.
This is what legitimate redistribution of wealth means. Only the fearful hear it through the filter of a gov't literally taking money from one person to another. All developed countries' economies do better when the largest segments of those economies are the most stable, Greg.”
OhioConserv on May 11, 2014 at 09:16:37
“The senate finance committee just had a chance to close some of these loopholes and instead they renewed all 50+ of them... and that was with a democratic majority. I'm all in favor of closing these loopholes in the tax code, but neither side will do that.”
“No hyperbole in that, Dave. I never binged and purged with my ED, but my formerly bulimic friends and fellow recovering pals always have the same story.
The execution of bulimia depends on a reliably sick-making overabundance of food followed by the liquid volume--ice cream's a favorite because it comes back up less unpleasantly. The two work together to induce guaranteed barfing that barely needs a kick start. It can't wait to come back up, as fast as it's been stuffed down.
I'm glad she's been recovering all these years. Keaton's one of my favorite actresses. She reads and thinks. And has a social conscience.”