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The 10 Worst Apartment Stories We've Ever Heard

The 10 Worst Apartment Stories We've Ever Heard

Commented Feb 2, 2013 at 11:09:23 in HuffPost Home

“Worst apartment I ever lived in was in graduate school. It was only $200 per month and the first weekend I lived there, I discovered why it was so cheap. Fraternity Row was on the next block and there were loud, raucous parties all weekend long every single weekend. One Sunday morning, I awoke to discover the front lawn covered with strips of fake fur and beer and whiskey bottles. My neighbor came out, and said, "Did you see what happened last night? The fraternities had a Barbarian party and it got out of control. There were 20 police cars here last night arresting people. I can't believe you slept through the entire thing."”

checkmoot on Feb 2, 2013 at 18:41:07

“$200.00 a month ? Just how old are you ?”
Step-Grandchildren Of Joseph Goebbels, Nazi Propaganda Minister, Are Billionaires: Report

Step-Grandchildren Of Joseph Goebbels, Nazi Propaganda Minister, Are Billionaires: Report

Commented Jan 29, 2013 at 14:10:40 in Business

“Because he was photoshopped in--or the 1940's equivalent. He was Magda's son by her first husband. He was serving in the German military when the picture was taken and the picture was added in. He was the only one of Magda's children who survived the war. She murdered the others just before the fall of Berlin.”
13 Reasons To Do Bodyweight Exercises Today

13 Reasons To Do Bodyweight Exercises Today

Commented Jan 27, 2013 at 19:56:22 in Healthy Living

“Could you please post the daily 16 list?”

iridium53 on Jan 27, 2013 at 20:23:21

“All branches of the military have extensive guidelines on fitness on their .mil websites.

For the Corps', look for MARINE CORPS PHYSICAL FITNESS PROGRAM

Marines have a higher percentage of combat forces than the other services - because support is provided by the Navy. Traditionally, fitness, combat fitness and appearance are vital to the Corps.

http://www.marines.mil/News/Messages/MessagesDisplay/tabid/13286/Article/109588/changes-to-the-marine-corps-physical-fitness-program.aspx

There are all sorts of videos, tests, etc.

Particularly on the USMC Training and Education Command (TECOM) site.

Here's a place to start:
www.montney.com/marine/dailypt.pdf
or
http://www.livestrong.com/article/412734-marine-corps-daily-16-exercises/
Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Commented Jan 14, 2013 at 14:17:11 in Women

“My mom always said that "hiring a maid is a lot cheaper than hiring a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer." I think paying money for work you don't want to do yourself is a satisfactory solution--much better than expecting your partner to do it all.”
Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Commented Jan 13, 2013 at 19:55:12 in Women

“I believe my boys will turn out fine. My younger son walked in while I was cooking breakfast today and said, "Mom, I will set the table and make the pancakes." He made pancakes, set, and helped clear the table. Tonight he made a quiche for dinner. While it was cooking, my teenage son came in and set the table without being asked and made the sides. They both helped clean up after dinner. I think they will be wonderful husbands and fathers if they continue in this path. The message they get from me is that families are supposed to work together. I show gratitude when they help and don't criticize when things are not done perfectly. We all find it annoying that their Dad won't help, but constantly carps on the quality and quantity of the work everyone else does. There is a a big difference between being a genuine patriarch and "servant leader" and simply being unwilling to pitch in and be responsible. Our family isn't a patriarchy--I have power in my family to influence my childrens' future families. I believe my husband has cheated himself out of a wonderful opportunity to strengthen his relationship with his family by holding himself above and apart from the daily work of family life.”

whalepeace on Jan 14, 2013 at 01:42:37

“Maybe. But recognize that male supremacist football war culture will get ahold of him and it has ruined many a good boy.”
Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Commented Jan 12, 2013 at 21:30:10 in Women

“We never lived together. He did his own stuff before we were married. I just assumed he would continue to participate, but he quit after we got married.”

Bellanova on Jan 13, 2013 at 13:23:22

“"he quit after we got married."

One of the main reasons of marital unhappiness. After the wedding, he quits not only housework, but also romance, and, gradually, taking care of his own upkeep, ceding all responsibility for marriage and even his own personal maintenance to the wife.

Unfortunately, the American culture supports the "marriage is the wife's responsibility" model -- and that is why so many American women are done with it. There is no sense in doing it all alone, especially when one is, supposedly, part of a couple.”
Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Commented Jan 12, 2013 at 21:29:19 in Women

“I have been teaching my sons housekeeping skills since they were toddlers. They cook, clean, and vacumn. I emphasize that housework is family work and everyone should pitch in. This disfunctional behavior ends with this generation. I also set boundaries on just how much work I do, so I don't end up overwhelmed. Clothes get washed, not ironed. I clean bathrooms once a week. Yardwork is at the absolute bottom of my list--the yard gets mowed once a month and the boys help with raking and weeding.”

whalepeace on Jan 13, 2013 at 02:31:54

“It does not matter what you show your sons.

They will soon enough realize that you are female, have no power and that it is a man's world. They will take their cues from their father and will, like him, demean women, denigrate women and refuse to do their share of the work.

Sad. Women should know better than to marry patriarchal men. When hey do, their sons carry on the dysfunction of the fathers.”
Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Traditional Gender Roles Encourage Women To Avoid Marriage, Says Study

Commented Jan 12, 2013 at 15:28:36 in Women

“Soon after we married, I tried to get my husband to help with housework. We both held full-time jobs. He told me, "Men do outside work and women do inside work. We live in an apartment, so I don't have to do anything." Once we had kids, I moved to part-time work and we bought a house. I asked for help again, and he said, "You make less than I do, so I don't have to help with housework, childcare or yardwork." He wanted me to return to full-time work and I told him I would need help with the kids, house, and yard in order to do so. He told me that if I made less than x dollars per year, he didn't have to help me because "I wasn't pulling my weight." Ater that conversation, I finally got the message that he would always find some reason why he didn't have to participate. I quit my part-time job, and became a full-time homemaker. I am preparing to return to full time work and you can bet that hiring a lawn service and a maid service will be at the top of my list of necessities when I do.”

Mollyannie on Jan 13, 2013 at 18:27:34

“Why would you stay and have children by this man?”

Mark Neil on Jan 12, 2013 at 20:59:05

“Why did you wait until after marriage to ask him to help? Seems a little shaddy to change the format after the deal has been signed.”

HuffSusan on Jan 12, 2013 at 20:13:17

“So... you knew how he was BEFORE you had children, and STILL chose to procreate with this man... seems to me, your decision-making skills suck. The only ones I feel bad for in your situation, are your children :/

Doormat women *smh*”

scoobe2 on Jan 12, 2013 at 19:49:48

“you should be thinking about hiring a therapist to bring your husband out of the stone age. ( or a good divorce lawyer).”
Weight Loss Exercise: What's Cardio Or Strength Training

Weight Loss Exercise: What's Cardio Or Strength Training

Commented Dec 15, 2012 at 15:48:50 in Healthy Living

“I lost 56 pounds doing cardio and weight-training and I will continue to do both, no matter what this study says. Cardio helped me drop weight, but weight training helped me turn "middle age mush" into a firm, lean body. Weight-training also increased my strength, coordination, balance, and overall endurance. I suspect the real answer is simply to do something every day to make yourself a little stronger and a little healthier. Small choices add up to big changes over time.”
School Lunches From Around The World

School Lunches From Around The World

Commented Nov 12, 2012 at 15:34:37 in Education

“I have never forgotten watching little Korean kids beg for "Dried Squid on a Stick" at the movie theaters in Seoul or snacking on snails and sugarless puffed rice and wheat. You learn to love the foods you eat!”
Physical Exercise May Outweigh Mental Exercise In Preventing Brain Shrinkage, Study Finds

Physical Exercise May Outweigh Mental Exercise In Preventing Brain Shrinkage, Study Finds

Commented Oct 26, 2012 at 18:16:50 in Fifty

“I think exercise is key. I lost 60 lbs through diet and exercise and now exercise 4-6 days a week. I am back in school preparing to return to the workforce after more than a decade as a stay-at-home mom. I took classes both before and after my physical transformation and I see a huge difference in my ability to learn and retain new information. The difference is big enough that I am encouraging my kids to become more active, too, in hopes of making learning easier for them too.”
Jessica Stilwell, Mom, Goes On Strike And Household Falls Apart (PHOTOS)

Jessica Stilwell, Mom, Goes On Strike And Household Falls Apart (PHOTOS)

Commented Oct 9, 2012 at 16:15:58 in Parents

“I agree that the earlier you start setting boundaries on housekeeping, the easier it is to get family members to do their part. Despite this, I still find myself constantly reminding my kids that they need to do their share of the work if the house is to run smoothly. Sometimes "reminding" means letting my son run out of clean socks and underwear because he has stuffed the dirty clothes under his bed instead of putting them in the hamper. I see them under the bed, but the rule is" if it is not in the hamper, I don't wash it." I also accept that things may not be perfect or done to an exacting standard. We all have our lazy and rebellious moments--I should be putting away laundry right now instead of responding to the comment on my post. The point I wanted to make is that mad, martyred mommies don't inspire anyone to want to help clean the house. We are all in this together, we shouldn't get mad about housework, but encourage our families to work together to get it done.”

Mollyannie on Oct 9, 2012 at 17:04:40

“I agree. That is what I told my kids when they asked why they had to do chores: you walk on the floors, eat off the dishes, wear some of the clothes, etc.

I had the same rule about the hamper, but the main culprit never putting clothes in the hamper was my husband!”
Jessica Stilwell, Mom, Goes On Strike And Household Falls Apart (PHOTOS)

Jessica Stilwell, Mom, Goes On Strike And Household Falls Apart (PHOTOS)

Commented Oct 9, 2012 at 14:35:42 in Parents

“Why so much anger over this article? Everyone who lives in a house shares some responsibility for keeping it clean and livable. Even if Mom is a full-time homemaker, Dad and the kids should show basic respect for her efforts by picking up after themselves and cleaning up their own messes. This is a very different thing from deep cleaning and not that difficult to do. If you make yourself a snack, put the food away and clear your dishes when you finish. If you get toys out, put them away when you are done. If you spill a glass of milk, grab a towel and mop up the mess. Make your bed in the morning and put your dirty clothes in the hamper if you want them to be washed. Cleaning my home doesn't make me angry, but being treated with disrespect does. No one wants to be an unpaid maid.”

dragondancer1814 on Oct 9, 2012 at 21:27:11

“I've been saying the same thing for YEARS now-the word "wife" is spelled W-I-F-E. It is NOT spelled "M-A-I-D!" Everybody needs to pitch in and pull their weight in the house, even if Mom is a stay-at-home mom!”

dancingstu on Oct 9, 2012 at 15:10:09

“Teaching your kids starts from day one, not from year 12. If she (and her husband) had included the kids in cleaning and cooking right from the start, she wouldn't be in this mess. A 2 year old can carry her dishes to the sink. A 3 year old can push a small broom and put her clothes in a hamper.”
Healthy Lifestyle Could Boost Longevity In The Elderly: Study

Healthy Lifestyle Could Boost Longevity In The Elderly: Study

Commented Sep 10, 2012 at 13:07:11 in Healthy Living

“I would add that exercise greatly improves the quality of a person's life. My grandmother died at 93. Up until the last year of her life, she took daily walks and worked out to maintain her strength and flexibility. I remember her dropping a spoon on the floor at 92 and simply bending over and picking it up with no hesitation. She had many friends, enjoyed travelling, reading, good meals, and good conversation. She was derailed by several health issues over the last 20 years of her life (two knee replacements, a broken femur, and three strokes) but always made a rapid recovery due to her healthy habits and determination to live a full life. She was blessed with good genes (her mother lived to 93 also) and a great attitude. I exercise and eat right not because I hope to live forever, but because I hope to gain the same quality of life my grandmother enjoyed for so many years. She is my role model for agiing well.”
Cheap Health Food: Tips To Combat Rising Food Prices

Cheap Health Food: Tips To Combat Rising Food Prices

Commented Aug 30, 2012 at 09:24:09 in Healthy Living

“When I first began cooking healthier, lower cost meals, the food was bland and my family complained. I finally realized that I had to find a way to make the healthy food taste good if I want my family to eat it. I cook my beans with chicken broth, a hambone, or a bit of sausage. I always add the "southern trinity" (onions, carrots, and peppers) and some garlic fried up in olive oil to the pot. If you use your slow cooker, you can spend 10 minutes of prep time in the morning and have a delicious meal by dinnertime. I make a pot of brown rice once or twice a week and keep the leftovers in the refrigerator for fried rice, soups, rice and beans and as a side dish. We live in an area where we can keep a garden three seasons out of the year. I grow herbs, tomatoes, peppers, onions, lettuce, spinach, and greens and use them to add color and flavor to our meals. I check the clearance racks at my grocery store for fruits, vegetables, meat, and bread on sale and build meals and snacks around my finds. I roast a chicken every week, occasionally make stew with a little meat and lots of veggies, and buy a little ham and sausage to use as flavoring for soups, beans, and pasta sauces. With a little effort and some time, you can feed your family healthier meals without blowing your food budget.”

Jaws Mandible on Sep 3, 2012 at 08:32:14

“I incorporate lots of different spices, seasonongs and citrus juices into the foods that I make at home from scratch. I use things like ground cumin, corriander, garam masala varieties, chipotle pepper - ground and whole canned - chile powder. Fresh cilantro and flat leaf parsley as well as chopped green onions and lots of fresh garlic. I am a bif fan of using fresh lime and lemon juice and pineapple-orange juice as key ingredients in my marinades and for simmering chicken and pork. The key for me is to keep my ingredients as close to their original state when I buy and use them. No boxed and processed, prepared junk for me wherever and whenever I can avoid them which is nearly always. Shop often and shop fresh. Happy HOME cooking and HOME eating to one and all!.”

Amelia McSkittles Risher on Sep 1, 2012 at 18:01:27

“it also helps adding spices something as simple as garlic will be enough”

edejan on Aug 31, 2012 at 16:44:53

“Great ideas! F and F.”

Mollyannie on Aug 30, 2012 at 10:43:34

“When my kids were home, the drockpot was definitely my friend.”

NevaforLeadership on Aug 30, 2012 at 10:10:04

“You are to be commended. Such dedication. I'd skip the sausage. Not very healthy.”
Cardio Or Weights First? Exercise Order Sometimes Matters

Cardio Or Weights First? Exercise Order Sometimes Matters

Commented Aug 7, 2012 at 06:56:43 in Healthy Living

“I do both cardio and weights. I switch things up--sometimes I do cardio first, other times weights. 4 days a week, I simply do cardio. As a middle-aged woman, I have noticed the biggest changes to my overall health, appearance, strength, and endurance from weight-training. More muscle makes everything from carrying groceries to 12 mile bike rides much easier and more fun.”

VioletDatura on Aug 7, 2012 at 13:06:26

“So, you do both cardio and weights on the same days, although the order changes. Is this everyday? How do you warm up and when?”
The Freezer That Rang And Other Tales Of Memory Loss

The Freezer That Rang And Other Tales Of Memory Loss

Commented Jul 27, 2013 at 23:10:52 in Fifty

“I am near fifty and back in school training for a career in healthcare. I don't retain new information as easily as I did at 20, but I am actually a better student. I work smarter, not harder--I take good notes, pay attention in class, focus on the information I really need to understand, and treat every class and clinical experience as if I was at a job interview. I make sure I am prepared, on-time, courteous, and go the extra mile in study groups and for group projects. From my experience with classmates, middle-aged people are some of the hardest working students you will ever encounter.”
9 Things You Should Never Say To Your Longtime Spouse

9 Things You Should Never Say To Your Longtime Spouse

Commented Apr 9, 2013 at 15:35:27 in Fifty

“When we get into a fight, I always ask myself, "Which is more important, strengthening the relationship or winning this fight?" Answering this question honestly has kept me from saying some truly awful things to my spouse over the past 20 years.”

Jonathan Ross Taylor on Apr 9, 2013 at 16:28:58

“Good idea.”
'Office Moms' Aren't New, But They Say A Lot About What Women Bring To Work Culture

'Office Moms' Aren't New, But They Say A Lot About What Women Bring To Work Culture

Commented Mar 29, 2013 at 09:57:14 in Women

“My favorite, but worst paid job, was working as a preschool teacher when my kids were small. The appeal was the wonderfully supportive and friendly work environment. The women I worked with were warm and kind, someone was always leaving a crockpot of homemade chili or a plate of homemade brownies in the kitchen, and everyone pitched in to help when there was a problem at home or in the classroom. Bring on the office mom culture! We could use more of it in this country.”
A Writer Of A Certain Age

A Writer Of A Certain Age

Commented Mar 3, 2013 at 11:02:07 in Fifty

“I am of the same generation, and I am back in college. I have to go back through my papers and edit out the the extra space after the periods before I turn them in. I suspect the dead giveaway that I am an older student isn't that extra space, but the quality of writing mechanics. My high school English teachers demanded correct spelling and grammar from their students. One of my English teachers gave an automatic "F" if she found a mispelled word or grammatical error in a paper. This seemed harsh at the time, but taught me to methodically proof-read every word I write. As an adult, I deeply appreciate the hours they spent teaching me to diagram sentences and create coherent, organized essays and research papers.”

signgrrl on Mar 3, 2013 at 21:01:19

“i'm in my mid 50s, and we never diagrammed sentences. what did i miss out on ?”
Does a Mediterranean Diet Really Beat Low-Fat for Heart Health?

Does a Mediterranean Diet Really Beat Low-Fat for Heart Health?

Commented Feb 26, 2013 at 16:31:05 in Healthy Living

“Both the Mediterranean and Ornish diets are much healthier alternatives than the typical American diet. This weekend, I watched a family member down two McDoubles with cheese, large fries, chicken nuggets, and a large diet coke on top of a weekend of eating that included a trip to Waffle House, a donut shop, and a handful of chocolate chip cookies. The real issue here isn't teaching healthy eaters to be even more mindful in their eating, but finding a way to reach the people who refuse to make the connection between what they put in their mouths and the impact it has on their health and well-being. My dad was morbidly obese, smoked, and drank heavily and died in his late 50s. He didn't die of a a massive heart attack or stroke--instead he spent the last 10 years of his life dealing with one medical crisis after another--triple bypass surgery, diabetes and its complications like neuropathy and vision problems, osteoarthritis, and colon cancer. I am now watching yet another family member head down the same road--sad and scary. Let's not get so focused on the details--olive oil or no olive oil? vegan versus eating meat?--that we miss the big picture.”

henriette and hube on Feb 26, 2013 at 19:29:19

“I'm watching an old friend go through all this right now though she doesn't yet have colon cancer nor triple bypass as yet anyway. She needs to lose 150 pounds need knee replacement but is not going to give up her love of eating drinking 5-6 and sometimes more cokes a day, no matter how much it hurts her family and friends to watch this beautiful person eating herself to death. What can one do? Nothing it seems. And her brother is a surgeon, her father a doctor, her sister-in-law a nurse and her sister and mother both nutritionists.”

2Paco on Feb 26, 2013 at 18:25:36

“Great point Kris. I just poster an article from the New York Times magazine above. It sounds like you can relate. So sad.”
Nobody Asked Me: The Plight Of The Reluctant Stepchild

Nobody Asked Me: The Plight Of The Reluctant Stepchild

Commented Jan 22, 2013 at 16:52:59 in Divorce

“I have watched too many stepfamilies implode from the pressure to risk putting my kids in this situation. Even if the stepparent is "good", you are still dealing with financial issues, bickering, angry ex spouses, teenagers whose view of boundaries has been impacted by their parent's dating and sex lives (ever had to deal with a parent having a "new friend" spend night and then telling you to "wait until marriage? It doesn't work out well for the kids), and competition between the new siblings over who gets the best and most stuff. My stepsister got the worst end of the deal--she went from an only child living with both parents to living with mom, stepdad, and two sisters on the West Coast and and dad, stepmom, three stepbrothers, and another stepsister on the East coast. She handled a difficult situation with a lot of grace, all things considered. Even the best, most rational blended family has a lot of issues to deal.”
Nobody Asked Me: The Plight Of The Reluctant Stepchild

Nobody Asked Me: The Plight Of The Reluctant Stepchild

Commented Jan 21, 2013 at 16:39:10 in Divorce

“I was a stepchild. After that experience, I decided that I would never bring another spouse into a house with minor children. Too hard on the kids and too hard on the marriage. The marriage didn't survive the stress of 5 teenagers and the relationships between the kids and parents were also damaged. I wince whenever one of my divorced friends rapsodizes about how thrilled her kids are with the new boyfriend and he will be the perfect dad who will make everyone's life complete.”

daily randy on Jan 21, 2013 at 17:40:19

“Same here Kris. I hated being a stepchild ... my stepfather was horrible (drug addict, alcoholic, chain smoker, passive-aggressive). When I divorced, I got custody of our 2 year old son and I remained single. I just wouldn't have put him through such an ordeal ... I didn't need another wife that badly. I've also had divorced friends with children remarry. They would all talk about how happy they were all going to be after the marriage. I warned all of them ... it doesn't work that way! But they didn't listen. Today, every one of them are either now divorced again or having major issues with their children and new spouse.”
Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do'

Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do'

Commented Dec 27, 2012 at 16:27:03 in Divorce

“I never expected my partner to be perfect. I don't worry about hair or money or whether he buys his clothes at Brooks Brothers or Walmart. I don't even worry about some middle-aged pudge--I have some wrinkles and crow's feet of my own. I am saddened to be in relationship where my spouse has literally allowed himself to become too big to have sex. There is no comfortable, workable position left at this point. He outweighs me by 150 pounds. He says he wants sex and intimacy, but he won't do anything to make things better for us. I used to accept all the blame and responsibility for the situation, but at this point I am asking myself if he really wants sex at all.”

foolsage on Dec 27, 2012 at 16:50:48

“I'm honestly sorry to hear you're going through that. :( His choices about his own health are impacting your life in probably a lot of ways, so in a sense they aren't just his choices; they're choices that he's imposing upon both of you, and from the sound of it they aren't good choices at all. I don't like to judge others but it sounds like he's pretty unhealthy.
Hope it works out for you. Beyond trying to have completely honest and open conversations about what's happening and how you feel about it, I'm not sure what to suggest. I do think though that you have some ethical right to push back, and ask him what he really wants from marriage and sex, and how he expects to get it, given his weight. Good luck!”
Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do'

Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do'

Commented Dec 27, 2012 at 12:43:52 in Divorce

“There is one issue that hasn't addressed here. Partners need to make some effort to stay in reasonable shape and fitness levels if they expect to have lots of sexual attention. I am not talking about "she had a baby and gained 20 lbs" or "he is fifty and wrinkled and bald." I am talking about people who completely let themselves go physically, gaining 100 pounds or more and neglecting their basic hygiene. Women aren't as visual as men, but we find a guy who looks like a hairy Stay Puff Marshmallow Man a complete turn-off. Coming to bed in ripped, dirty shorts and t shirts is also a turn-off. Extreme obesity and inactivity make for dismal performance and endurance and really limit your options. I take care of myself and my appearance. It would be nice if my partner made some effort to be more appetizing, too.”

pageleft on Dec 28, 2012 at 10:31:35

“I completely agree. There are doctors who will prescribe Viagra when weight loss is more appropriate. I can also sympathize with the lack of basic hygiene part. Combine that with ED caused by poor circulation due to too much excess weight and I still get all the blame for lack of interest. Go figure.”

Swimdude on Dec 27, 2012 at 17:25:35

“I know what you are saying regarding complete turn-off, my x-wife used to come to bed in a full length night gown. Can you say GrandMa at the age of 28.”

CJey on Dec 27, 2012 at 14:09:45

“This is true. For many people, marriage is the ticket to simply give up and let it all hang out. While for some, they can still make the sex work, you're pushing the odds when you pretty much neglect not just your body, but your entire attitude. Certainly, many men fall into this trap as you suggest (same with women). Perhaps the more common one for women is how motherhood can trigger in many women the dreaded super-mom ethos that essentially abandons any and all previous "relationship" duties, replacing them with exclusively "Mom" duties.”

foolsage on Dec 27, 2012 at 13:11:48

“Actually, the author did address this. She wrote about how she thought, "If only I were more sexual, thinner, a better cook, more willing to experiment sexually, then he would come around." Men are absolutely capable of feeling the same way when things are reversed. "If only I were thinner, had more hair, made more money, then she would be attracted to me again."

But really, all of this is kind of missing the main point, which is that some people truly don't want much sex in their lives, but aren't always willing to be honest about this up front. That leads to broken marriages and a lot of hurt feelings. So the issue isn't whether you're taking care of yourself, dressing well, trimming your nose hair, and so on... but whether your partner would want sex with you even if you were "perfect".”

hp blogger Cathy Meyer on Dec 27, 2012 at 13:03:11

“@Kris1965, "It would be nice if my partner made some effort to be more appetizing, too." I love that line! I absolutely agree, we have a responsibility to ourselves and our spouse to maintain our appearance and live a healthy lifestyle.”
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