Jun 2, 2014 at 19:56:02
“I don't like Justin Bieber, but his making a racial joke when he was 15 shouldn't be considered a big deal. It says as much about his upbringing as it does about him. At age 15, I doubt he would have considered such a joke as racist. Teenage boys are inherently stupid.”
“I didn't ask the political views of restaurant owners. I patronize locally-owned restaurants because I like helping the local economy. I am a small business owner and a Democrat, but I hardly ever vote a straight party ticket. I do my homework and vote for whoever I think best reflects what I want.”
KnowsBetter1125 on May 29, 2014 at 17:29:14
“That's a very good way of looking at things, and I wish more people would do the same. I was just commenting because you said you don't go to Red Lobster solely because of their opposite views of Democrats. I thought you picked all your restaurants that way. lol”
“I certainly can't dispute the majority of your claim, but the same can be said about most adoptive parents. Throughout my more than 60 years of living, I have witnessed straight men of all ages be loving, nurturing fathers. Life experiences often forge our characters, be they good or bad. I would caution you about stereotyping straight men, as you continue to struggle against the many stereotypes of gay men.”
JamesTurner on May 29, 2014 at 14:19:28
“Am I stereotyping? I acknowledged that there are straight fathers who are good parents. Lets say I am skeptical about things, but open to the idea that generalizations don't always apply.
Hetero adoptive parents receive support from society, not condemnation that gay adoptive parents so often do.
I get frustrated with the level of intransigent stupidity expressed by so many on this issue. I appreciate and recognize your point of view as valid.”
“Perhaps you know the wrong straight fathers. I know many straight fathers who are nurturers. It is the individual's character that determines what kind of father a man is, not whether he is gay or straight.”
JamesTurner on May 28, 2014 at 22:51:03
“I believe straight men are very capable of being a good parent. Especially younger men who haven't been socialized with what men are supposed to do or not do.
I think they are in a minority though. If a gay couple has managed to have children, it is because they really, really REALLY want to be parents, and nurture a child. Many times, a straight guy is happy to do what he must do to have a child, but the afterwards - reading them stories, teaching nursery rhymes, helping with homework, drying tears, making meals and the other stuff that goes with raising a child? Not so much. Character decides what makes a good parent, you are right on that. But when you consider that life usually kicks gay people hard in the ass so they usually learn to be stronger, kinder, more empathetic and supporting and STILL have love in their heat to take on the hardest thing there is to do, I think that says a lot about their character and the kind of parent they will be. Not an accidental or distant one, that is sure.
PS I posted a response just before this, but I don't think it got transmitted.”
“It isn't necessary to put down straight guys in order to show how good these and other gay men are at parenting. It just serves to propagate the "us vs. them" mentality. Gay men don't own the patent on being nurturing fathers.”
JamesTurner on May 28, 2014 at 16:59:22
“True. They don't hold the patent, but they are majority stock holders in the company.
And what I said is right.”
DarrylBrowne on May 28, 2014 at 16:18:12
“You're right that gay men don't own the patent on being nurturing fathers, they share this wonderful quality with most women and, sadly, a spattering of good straight fathers, but not many!”
“Most of us are capable of learning and using good social skills at a much earlier age. Do you really think anyone is going to be able to hold down a job calling others the R word when you disagree with them? Name-calling isn't even accepted in kindergarten for goodness sake.”
“I showed my age in using the term vd. STD's are on the rise, not declining. I grew up around guns and have nothing against them. What people KNOW and what people DO are often two different things. We all know that drinking and driving is wrong, yet how many people are arrested in this country every day for DUI?”
“No one was slowing his progress, except himself. "it is nothing more than a descriptive word that someone decided along the line was offensive to them and EVERYBODY jumped on the band wagon." >>>>>> No, the word became offensive when people began using it in a derogatory way. As the word relates to people, it is a medical term.
When people stop marginalizing those with developmental disabilities, maybe the word won't have the same connotation is does now.”
“He's not a "young kid," he's 23 years old. Parents need to teach their young kids that name-calling is unacceptable, so they don't become adults who still engage in name-calling.”
Ml Vaan Horne on May 7, 2014 at 22:00:51
“LOL. 23 is a kid! Human Brains, especially male human brains do not start actually functioning until about 30-34. Why do you think you have to be at least 35 to be President? Because those under that age have the mental capacity of a beetle bug. I am not speaking about education, I am speaking about capacity for logical reasonable thought. My sons are 31 and 24- I still call to check on them regularly because I know at those ages they are still all hormones and very little common sense.”
angieH1205 on May 7, 2014 at 14:45:52
“Parents do teach there kids not to say hurtful and or bad words, steal from others, kill and or other such terrible things, but our prisons are full of kids, adults that make there own choices in what they do, you can give them the best up bringing and they still choose what and how they act, a parent can only do soooo much.”
dixiedare on May 7, 2014 at 13:17:32
“Linda, I have heard young people call each other that all the time. I don't think it should be said, but I really don't think he is calling that as if they were mentally challenged. I sounded terrible, I think, but not meaning what people are thinking. It is a word, but badly spoken.”
“Believe it or not, many of us were taught as children that name-calling is unacceptable behavior. Also, yes, it is very much like using the N word if you happen to have a disability or love someone who has a disability.”
sherrala1 on May 7, 2014 at 19:01:29
“Since the word "retarded" was used extensively not all that long ago (I had an extremely disabled cousin and the entire family including his parents called him that), there is a learning curve when it comes to things being considered no longer acceptable. But, I'm sorry, the N word, the K word, and others like it are way more incendiary and offensive in my book, even though I would no longer use the word "retarded" just as I no longer call Asians "Orientals", even though a lot of people still do. And the word "retard" always has made the user look stupid.”