“My bad...I assumed there would be serious things...like "kids...yes or no? Or how money would be handle. Small things matter...but too many people put off the serious questions in the vain hope that it will just all work out. Wrong. Love your partner and yourself to have the courage to ask the questions you are afraid of getting the "wrong" answer to...or DON'T get married.”
“Oh, i see.
Women who are being paid less than men are just imagining it.
Or playing the victim card.
Let me clue you in.
When my husband went for shared custody in mediation, no one was in the LEAST concerned that his employment as a first responder (24 hour response or less) would make it impossible for me to find gainful employment, I was simply expected to be his unpaid sitter, while of course supporting myself and my child. But it was supposed to be 50/50. Like HELL.
Funny...when he had to make a response call, that caused him to miss one mediation appointment, they cancelled the mediation. Apparently it as was an issue for them...but not me.”
Daniel Martnez on Jun 2, 2014 at 13:49:43
“"Women who are being paid less than men are just imagining it."
Yes, even president Obama apologized for transmiting false information.
"Let me clue you in."
One seagul does not make a summer.”
“On the contrary, the answer is to do something.
To divide the resources on health, domestic violence and other issues 50% for women and 50% for men. Because we are all equally valuable, no victim competition, just cooperation.”
“What century are you from?
Feminism gave us joint custody in most states.
Your entire post sets men's interests against women's...without exception.
I trust since you are SO against women having equal rights, you don't avail yourself of any of the hard won but slow advances. In fact, I challenge you to put your money where your mouth is...and DEMAND that your employer only pay you 59 cents on the dollar...which used to be the common wage of women.”
Georgina Brown on May 30, 2014 at 12:49:38
“"Your entire post sets men's interests against women's...without exception."
Actually, no. You failed to see my point, which was ,if feminism is more likely to take care of the issues affecting women, over the ones affecting men, then what on earth is so terrible about a group that looks after those issues affecting them?
My point is that we can't, and shouldn't let feminism take care of mens issues, because they haven't. Ever.
What's curious is you assume Im against equal rights for women, when all I have done is bring to light the issues men face. I think its you, and only you, who is setting womens interest against men's...without exception.
Also, whether the 59 cents on the dollar remark is true or not, I don't live in the past.Those issues have thankfully been taken care of, and I am most gratefull they have. If you believe the 77 cent wage gap is true, however, you need to spend some serious time with a google search engine within the near future.”
Daniel Martnez on May 30, 2014 at 11:52:01
“There is one fact that you are ignoring, Lisa Shields, the resources are limited therefore it is not posible to do everything.”
I spent three years disabled, due to an accident.
As a result, I gained weight.
I saw doctors...nutrionists...they said the same thing.
Eat less, and work out more...sort of ignoring the fact that I couldn't walk. One doctor told me I couldn't cut my intake below 1000 calories a day without risking my health further.
When I finally could walk again, a lot of the weight came off...but it didn't stop people from being HATEFUL, and assuming my weight gain came from stuffing myself.”
“They suggest that sheets and towels be washed after a week of use because you get sweat, and skin residue on them. A typical work day means you wear them for 8-10 hours...that's 40 to 50 hours a week. No offense, but they may not look bad, but they are far from "clean.".”
About five years back, I noticed that BRAND new pairs were emerging from their first or second washing with tiny holes of them, and that the belt loops broke after perhaps five washings. CLEARLY they have cut the quality. Some of his jeans from 30 years back are still intact after all that time, and all those washes.
And who the HECK is going to put grubby denim in their freezer with food?”
NoCaSoccerGuy on May 26, 2014 at 13:18:19
“The breaking belt loops plague me too. The loops themselves are strong, but rather than attaching them to the seam that runs along the back of the jeans, they are attached just above that seam where they are unsupported and will too easily tear away.”
Yes, people make fun of his weight.
But they also elected him Governor...TWICE.
Show me ONE WOMAN even half his size that was taken seriously for so lofty a position. Doesn't EXIST. A woman who weighs only 200 pounds (When Christie is easily double that) will NEVER be allowed to go there.
“My daughter just bought her first...at 23. Nope...she isn't a size six, nor even a 12...but i have to say she ROCKS it. I always wondered if She had confidence...now I know she does!”
Jenna Foster on May 20, 2014 at 11:03:24
“Growing up, I always wanted to look good in a bikini but always thought I was too fat. Then, a couple of summers ago, one of the life guards at the neighborhood pool (who was bigger than me at the time) rocked a bikini and I realized that there is no such thing as a "bikini body". Now, at 23 and a size 16, I fully intend to rock a bikini again this summer. I hope people like your daughter and I can show the next generation that they don't need to be thin to feel good about themselves because that's a lesson I wish I had learned sooner :)”
“Six hundred dollars a week sounds like quite a bit of money...but for your average child care worker, that is their ENTIRE income...less taxes, if they are ethical.
I have run into some real winners over the years...including families that offered "free rent". suggesting I would not have to pay taxes on it. Wrong---no matter what you call it, The IRS will consider it compensation, and expect taxes on it. People hate to pay the sitter...and frequently expect extra services, even if you are watching more than one child. My specialty is children with special needs issues, and I know to steer clear of any parent who is looking for a "two-fer"...because they will never be happy with what you do, and always look to add to the load.
Some parents can get money from the state to defray their childcare costs...but that is regulated. I am supposed to supply services to the child ONLY...not the whole family. (I didn't make the rules...but I am obliged to follow them.) The first woman I worked for wanted three different staffers---figuring we would take care of her cooking, her laundry, etc. She got caught...and we all lost our work with her...but I did not count that a great loss.”
“Not a single bride I know didn't "take advantage of the freebie"...and not a single room was cheaper than I could have booked myself online.”
brittie on May 14, 2014 at 11:28:28
“The only wedding I went to where they reserved blocks of rooms was in a small mountain town and it was the only hotel in the town, the married couple didn't even stay there, they rented a house. Obviously, you have more knowledge/experience in this area than I do.”
“I loved the woman...but she also may have been the last star who was ALLOWED to age. Every one since (Helen Mirren as a possible exception) has been pigeon holed into botox and plastic surgery unless they want to play eccentric grandmothers for all time...once they hit 35.
Some are trying to break out---but we don't permit it. No respect to the women who show gift, and style past 40.”
“Got to love the wisdom of the "many", sometimes.
When the young men who molested a IQ impaired young woman were convicted of rape for it in NJ, there was a HUGE public outcry that demanded that the "nice boys" not face jail time...but rather community service. I recall listening to talk radio, where it was proposed in specific that they do their service with special needs kids.
Apr 30, 2014 at 16:27:34
So the kids who were breast fed over a hundred years ago and still died of measles, mumps, small pox...what sort of lunacy is that? I live in New England, close to two old burying grounds. Each family plot has a DOZEN tiny head stones...for the children who died of childhood illness. Every ONE of them was breasts fed. because formula didn't exist...but the children still DIED. Breast feeding is a wonderful thing...but it will not keep children from acquiring disease.”
Apr 30, 2014 at 16:24:08
And all those kids with polio when I was a child were just pretending.
Likewise the children at the School For the Blind...who lost their sight after bad cases of measles. They just liked having a dog...that sort of pseudo science makes me ill. "HUNDREDS" of doctors question vaccines? There are many THOUSANDS of doctors who don't and vaccinate their own kids.”
“It also ignores the fact that most people face drug testing to get or keep their jobs. Pretty sure your employer with a zero tolerance policy won't care WHERE you got high...and gee...does he think NO ONE smokes in NJ...where he's keeping it illegal?”
“I did live there...my whole life.
But when I could not get a single job after FIVE years of trying, I moved elsewhere. Gainfully employed in less than three months. But before I left, I noticed the INCREASE in my real estate and income tax for my husband.
About 20 percent extra to NJ...and we made less than the year before.
If you are fond of him, I am betting you come from one of the "protected" tax brackets. I found him useless.”