“As a nurse and social worker, I understand and encourage discussions about when to end advanced treatment of any illness based upon many circumstances. Each patient is different and making serious decisions about their healthcare can be very difficult. As a medical social worker I am not here to judge anyone's decision regarding how long they wish to be treated for what is essentially a terminal illness…it is a very complicated and many times families are involved in this process as well. As for documenting this personal struggle such as Lisa has done…I would say thank you to her for being so honest and open and allowing others with cancer know that they are not alone in fighting this disease which took my best friend at 41 years old and a mother of a 3 year old at the time. Lisa should not be made to feel guilty for sharing herself online and we should all want to support her and learn how to be a friend to someone with cancer at any stage…we all know or will know someone with cancer, it might even be ourself.”
“I find the headline a little disturbing…it sounds like it is an incredible surprise for a women in her 60's to still look good in dress that has a low cut neckline. She does look good and there are many other women the same age, who, given the chance could look good as well!”
ptrgamb on Nov 1, 2013 at 09:02:14
“Almost every one of the articles in the Celebrity section is either "Amazing" or "Incredible" or both.”
“I am enjoying this discussion. I remember your first article.
I did choose to be a SAHM in the 80's but I am a registered nurse so I could work very part-time, teaching nursing while my kids were in school. When my kids were a little older, I job shared at a local hospital for 3 years.Then, I became part of the sandwich generation and I used my nursing expertise to take care of my aging mother and my uncle. Now, I am helping with my grandchild.
It has not been easy for me to re-enter nursing because once you leave for any extended period of time you lose the edge in your area of expertise.
During my kids' college years,I earned another Masters degree in social work,but quickly learned that ageism would play a role in my return to work.
Fortunately,I can depend on my spouse and now I blog...where I share my knowledge in nursing, clinical social work and my parenting experiences. I am not sure that I "opted out" but it seems that I did in a way. I miss the work camaraderie and the financial independence but I find that at this point in my life I must find my own comfort zone which is now in social media...it is just an ongoing journey.”
“Enjoyed your response...so true that once you are a parent you can understand how it feels to try to "manage" your child's behavior with all the variables that go along with each individual human being...and with standard growth and development markers.
And yes, some of what Mr. Bruni observes is annoying and at times, we parents wonder why we do what we do and are actually annoyed by our own behaviors and that of other parents but in the end...it really does help to "walk the walk" and then "talk the talk".”
“Wonderful... I have tried this and it does work except that I am more liberal with snacks but I just might try the "French" mother approach because it is just to easy to snack all day some days.
Teaching patience is not an easy task...since we are all used to instant gratification!”
“What a wonderful story...love the pictures too. I think most homes would look the same if mom went on strike. I wish I had the stamina to do such a thing. Maybe there should be a small handbook on how to effectively strike and keep a journal of the strike so that the family will have a reminder of what it was like.”
Freedom Mama on Oct 9, 2012 at 11:18:39
“Hang on there, my home would not. Unlike her kids, my 3 children were all taught from a very young age how to keep our home looking nice, as that's a way of loving each other. Doing housework is not a chore, it's a way of showing respect for ourselves, our homes, and each other. I've been "off duty" for several weeks at a time when I had knee surgery. A quick 5 minute meeting explaining that mom was going to be down for the count for a few weeks, everyone just adjusted their workload up to pick up the slack. No problem. I blame the parents. Nothing more sad than when a parent punishes their child for the parents' failures. Case in point above.”
“As a dialysis social worker I know that there are problems associated with transplanting adult organs into children. Here is an article that explains the procedure http://www.lpch.org/clinicalSpecialtiesServices/COE/Transplant/KidneyTransplant/adultKidneys.html .
The procedure is not without its complications and special care to preserve the blood flow to the adult kidney that is transplanted into a child is needed. This case is very sad and this child should be allowed to receive a kidney that is appropriate for her size from a cadaver.”
“It is my belief that once a baby leaves the maternity ward and goes outside of the hospital he/she cannot be readmitted to that unit because of the possibility of infection...the baby would become a pediatric patient at that point. I am sure there is more to the story but the essence is that a baby needs to be signed out of the hospital and identifications need to take place...these are all securities put in place after the many tragic abductions. The Kennedy's fight for protection of children and other vulnerable members of society...these regulations are put in place by hospitals so that they are compliant with Federal health regulations in order to receive Federal funds like Medicare and Medicaid. Mr. Kennedy may have been ignorant of these procedures but the welfare of his child and others was at stake here. He should apologize and be done with it.”
bgofca on Mar 1, 2012 at 21:48:52
“one of the main concerns is also infant security. infants are released with their moms after bands are checked and identified. anyone taking a baby off of the unit could be stealing the baby. that's why the babies are transported in a crib by the staff; anyone carrying a baby is noticed and more readily recognized as a threat to a baby. maternity nurses take this very seriously. keeping the babies safe and making sure they go home with their families is important. if they were lax and the dad took the baby off of the unit and someone snatched the baby then he'd be really upset (and so would they be).”
SouthpawSass on Mar 1, 2012 at 21:11:13
“Do you know how many germs babies are exposed to in those maternity wards? Lab rats are kept in cleaner environments...”
“I am part of your mom's generation and understand the world in which she parented...there were many lonely moments and times when no one was there to listen. I sat at the Iris Awards marveling at the women that I was honored to be sitting among. Fortunately for me, I have found this young community that helps me grandparent/co-parent in 2014! I feel honored to share my blog and blog among such supportive women. Yes, I wish I had a community like the Moms of Mom 2.0 when I was younger and I think your mom would be right there with me! Thanks for sharing...I hope you have a nice Mother's Day!”
“Horrid choice of words...where is the empathy here when you use words like diabolical to describe the behavior of a 3 year old! This piece did nothing for helping parents deal with the behavior the child or the feelings of the parent. It was purely entertaining at her child's expense. I view this as exploitive of children and their growth and development and would not want my child to see this in print. Just my thoughts as a grandmother and therapist.”
“I do not like this way of dealing with a 2 year old...I would suggest looking through "Happiest Toddler on the Block" for some behavior management that does not revolve around food. I agree that dinner is important but with a child that is a picky eater there is much to be sad about finding a food that they like and serving it to them so that they can actually enjoy the dinner time as well.
If at breakfast she orders something like oatmeal and throws it on the floor I see nothing wrong with her helping to clean it up and then asking her why she did not want to eat it when she calms down. There is something else going on here and it is not the "food" that you are serving...it is about her controlling her environment.
I would suggest that you look at the rest of her day and your day, see where you can let her control things with choices that are not centered around the dinner time...good luck...look at child development at 2 yrs old and see how you can help her grow into her new self...good luck and get help if you need it.”
llisa on Aug 4, 2013 at 23:29:49
CoachNelly2 on Aug 3, 2013 at 17:08:29
“If a child throws their food on the ground, I take it as a sign that they are done with their dinner.”
“This is the worst choice for a co-host...Jenny's views on vaccines are dangerous and deadly...I would like to know the list of sponsors of The View so that I could encourage them to reconsider supporting this show.”
“I am in total agreement here and love your post...probably the best case would be if parents packed snacks for their children. It would be also a good idea if the camp actually specified what constitutes an appropriate snack food at summer camp.
I imagine that it is problematic for them considering heat and field trips...since some snack foods do not take well to not being kept cool.
This seems like a problem that needs some parents to get together and work out a solution that would be beneficial for all the children.”
“Thanks for sharing this ....I was one of the bloggers for #momsnotlovinit. The bottom line is money and until their customer base is looking for better and healthier food McDonalds will not be offering it to any of us. Too bad they actually could make a difference if they would think outside their bottom line.”
NashGuy on May 30, 2013 at 16:58:51
“And their customers would not buy it. I love America.”
“A clear delineation between a Difficult Mom and a Narcissistic Mother...makes me think about how it is to have a narcissistic dad. I always remember thinking my relationship with my dad would change and he would be "Robert Young" from "Father Knows Best" the next time we met. It never happened...Your article really explains why you will never have the mom you fantasize about and it explained to me why my dad never changed.”
Olana on Jun 4, 2013 at 12:27:41
“I'd been wondering about what a narcissistic father figure would be like too actually. Or how this would affect sons. I can't begin to guess though.”