Aug 9, 2013 at 22:28:48
“i'm not saying this is about me. i am saying this is about all of us. yes many people are callus and not understanding, but many people give up everything to help their loved ones who are hurting.”
Nona P on Aug 10, 2013 at 20:40:35
“You were expressing your unhappiness at not being acknowledged for your support. You're continuing that line of thought by using language like "callous", because you don't seem able to acknowledge that the disease means people CAN'T see those who are actually there for them. They're not being selfish. They are NOT ABLE to see it.
Again, I've experienced this from both sides. There are many ways I got screwed by being raised by my mother. But an attitude like yours isn't helpful or constructive for you or anyone else.”
Aug 9, 2013 at 12:38:01
“As a child of a mother with depression, I find some of these "lies" and comments hugely hurtful. After college, I received a job offer and moved away from my hometown. My mother called me crying so often, threatening to hurt herself, that I left my life and promising career to come home.
I listened to her tell me how she is going to kill herself. I went with her to her counselor listened to how I wasn't a good daughter. I listened to her when she told me about the affair she was having because this would finally bring her happiness. I stuck by her when she left my father. I have always been there for her as she clings to me when she's in despair and as she pushes me away because she decided this time it was my fault somehow.
I know depression is a disease and that this is out of her control. But I also know the pain of growing up largely without a mother because she was locked in her room unable to leave. I have been her daughter through all the ups and downs. Depression has torn my family apart. For those with depression to say that it is only them hurting and everyone abandons them, well that's just plain wrong. I wish when you ask for others to understand what you are going through, you would take a moment and understand that this is incredibly hard on all of us.”
Nona P on Aug 9, 2013 at 18:02:46
“I've suffered from chronic depression since I was a child and it was one of my main reasons for not having children of my own (my mother also has many problems that almost certainly include depression but for the most part I find difficult to quantify). Depression can make you self-centered because all you can feel is your own pain.
That being said, it sounds to me as if you're angry at depressed people like your mother not appreciating the ways in which people have been there for them, and that the idea that people suffering from depression feeling like no one is really there for them is hurtful to the people who have been there for them. And that kind of makes me want to say, "Wow, this is really not about you."
Imagine someone blinded and deafened, stumbling around and yelling in pain. You want to help them but you're physically restrained and they can't see you or hear you calling out to them. Obviously you'd feel frustrated, but as they continued to cry out would it be fair for you to be upset with them for not knowing that you're there?
Sometimes our brains lie to us, and it can be difficult and scary to deal with the truth of that idea.”
blckcanary on Aug 9, 2013 at 15:55:38
“May you and your mother be free of your suffering. I dont have all the answers, but you are so not alone, and I think thinking that you are perpetuates depression a lot. Don't pay attention to the negative ones on this board. They are ALSO hurting, but projecting antipathy in order to show so-called 'strength'. Its all sad really, but at the same time, remember that the sun rises and shines everyday, even if the clouds are covering it. The same holds true for you and your mother. Be well.”
“I work in progressive Ohio politics and am a dedicated mother of two boys. I have real issues with this post.
First, Tim Russo may be a prolific blogger, but it does not mean he has anything to say. Countless times, he reports items as fact that are absolutely false. He attacks many hard-working, high-profile Dems such as Mike Stark, Cenk Uygur and John Aravosis, insulting them, trying to bait them into a fight in order to raise his profile. He is childish, insecure and most importantly often very wrong.
Second, as a mother, we have to protect our children. Belittling what Tim Russo attempted to do - - take advantage of a child - - YES A CHILD - - because he is sorry? I believe Tim Russo has the right to move on with his life, but don't ever ask me to feel sorry for him. It is true everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone's mistakes involve molesting children.”