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It's Not Just Tiger: Monogamous Marriage Is An Anomaly
Commented Dec 10, 2009 at 14:46:05 in Living
“The real problem is that most of us are caught between a rock and a hard place.
One the one hand, most of us lust after strange. You can give whatever reasons you want for it, or none at all. But it's a fact of the species - always has been, and always will be.
On the other hand, most of us aren't at all comfortable with our partner lusting for strange. Again, you can give whatever reasons you want for it, or none at all. But it's a fact of the species, as well.
There are some exceptions who figure out how to square the circle via polyamory, swinging and so on. But most folks won't go there, because they're just not comfortable with that sort of alternative lifestyle.
So what's left is cheating, or just saying no.
Neither is without it's problems. You pays yer money, and you takes yer ride, either way.”
One the one hand, most of us lust after strange. You can give whatever reasons you want for it, or none at all. But it's a fact of the species - always has been, and always will be.
On the other hand, most of us aren't at all comfortable with our partner lusting for strange. Again, you can give whatever reasons you want for it, or none at all. But it's a fact of the species, as well.
There are some exceptions who figure out how to square the circle via polyamory, swinging and so on. But most folks won't go there, because they're just not comfortable with that sort of alternative lifestyle.
So what's left is cheating, or just saying no.
Neither is without it's problems. You pays yer money, and you takes yer ride, either way.”
Just Listen -- There Are No Mistakes, Just Lessons
Commented Dec 10, 2009 at 14:30:29 in Living
“nicholasjh1: I get what you're saying. It's not that we shouldn't call mistakes mistakes, it's that we need to reframe how we think about mistakes.
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Exactly. But reframing how we think about mistakes, and respond to them, is not the same as saying there are no such things as mistakes. That's just nonsense.
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nicholasjh1: On the other hand, I think you are taking mistakes too far. For instance I took many interviews in this economy to find a job, some that I didn't have a good chance for, some that I made many mistakes in, part of this was to train myself to have better interviews. I don't think it was a mistake to schedule the interviews themselves, but many may consider it to be a mistake in their lives, so they would end up not trying.
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I'm not sure why you'd think I'm "taking mistakes too far" from what I said. Of course it's fine to step outside of our comfort zone as you did.
What I'm saying is simply this: If you make a mistake, own it - don't loan it. Man up (or woman up) about what you did. Call it by it's name.
If the mistake has a moral failing attached, then don't fool yourself by thinking or acting as if it doesn't. Call it what it is, and clean up after yourself, making honest apologies and legitimate amends as necessary..”
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Exactly. But reframing how we think about mistakes, and respond to them, is not the same as saying there are no such things as mistakes. That's just nonsense.
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nicholasjh1: On the other hand, I think you are taking mistakes too far. For instance I took many interviews in this economy to find a job, some that I didn't have a good chance for, some that I made many mistakes in, part of this was to train myself to have better interviews. I don't think it was a mistake to schedule the interviews themselves, but many may consider it to be a mistake in their lives, so they would end up not trying.
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I'm not sure why you'd think I'm "taking mistakes too far" from what I said. Of course it's fine to step outside of our comfort zone as you did.
What I'm saying is simply this: If you make a mistake, own it - don't loan it. Man up (or woman up) about what you did. Call it by it's name.
If the mistake has a moral failing attached, then don't fool yourself by thinking or acting as if it doesn't. Call it what it is, and clean up after yourself, making honest apologies and legitimate amends as necessary..”
What If We Had A National Institute Of Addiction?
Commented Dec 10, 2009 at 12:44:34 in Living
“A National Institute of Narcissism would be a much better waste of taxpayer funds.”
gbrooks replied on Dec 10, 2009 at 13:38:55
“lol”
Just Listen -- There Are No Mistakes, Just Lessons
Commented Dec 10, 2009 at 12:42:45 in Living
“She may have tattooed that slogan on her bod...but she doesn't REALLY believe it.
Just read her words about ex-bf Chris Brown.
And I agree with her - what Brown did to her was an EPIC FAIL.
Of course, that doesn't mean he can't find his way to redemption, via making amends, learning lessons, etc. But one of the critical components of redemption (and I am not talking in mere religious terms here) is owning one's moral failure, and calling it by it's name.”
Just read her words about ex-bf Chris Brown.
And I agree with her - what Brown did to her was an EPIC FAIL.
Of course, that doesn't mean he can't find his way to redemption, via making amends, learning lessons, etc. But one of the critical components of redemption (and I am not talking in mere religious terms here) is owning one's moral failure, and calling it by it's name.”
Just Listen -- There Are No Mistakes, Just Lessons
Commented Dec 10, 2009 at 11:05:54 in Living
“You're missing my point here.
What I'm saying is that mistakes don't stop being mistakes just because we've learned a lesson from them, as the author asserts. Mistakes are mistakes, and are part of our history (whether personal or societal) after we've made them.
Case in point: Vietnam was a mistake. SecDef Robert McNamara admitted so, and spent the rest of his life trying to understand it, make amends, and learn moral and political lessons from it. But that doesn't change the fact that it was a tragic mistake, costing many lives.
This kind of New-age newspeak is Orwellian. It doesn't help us think more clearly about ourselves and our lives. Rather than addressing our common tendencies towards egotistic narcissism, it just provides a cover story for it.
Every time people abandon moral language, there is hell to pay. I say let's not go there.”
What I'm saying is that mistakes don't stop being mistakes just because we've learned a lesson from them, as the author asserts. Mistakes are mistakes, and are part of our history (whether personal or societal) after we've made them.
Case in point: Vietnam was a mistake. SecDef Robert McNamara admitted so, and spent the rest of his life trying to understand it, make amends, and learn moral and political lessons from it. But that doesn't change the fact that it was a tragic mistake, costing many lives.
This kind of New-age newspeak is Orwellian. It doesn't help us think more clearly about ourselves and our lives. Rather than addressing our common tendencies towards egotistic narcissism, it just provides a cover story for it.
Every time people abandon moral language, there is hell to pay. I say let's not go there.”
nicholasjh1 replied on Dec 10, 2009 at 12:54:34
“I get what you're saying. It's not that we shouldn't call mistakes mistakes, it's that we need to reframe how we think about mistakes. They are a necessary part of life, and beating ourselves up about them is often nonproductive. I have been able to make much headway in life because I don't worry about many of my mistakes. If I beat myself up everytime I failed an interview I probably wouldn't have a job now for instance. On the other hand, I think you are taking mistakes too far. For instance I took many interviews in this economy to find a job, some that I didn't have a good chance for, some that I made many mistakes in, part of this was to train myself to have better interviews. I don't think it was a mistake to schedule the interviews themselves, but many may consider it to be a mistake in their lives, so they would end up not trying.”
Just Listen -- There Are No Mistakes, Just Lessons
Commented Dec 09, 2009 at 21:44:14 in Living
“To say "there are no mistakes" is not helpful.
As human beings, we make mistakes. Always have, always will.
Sometimes we learn from our mistakes. That's when they become lessons. Sometimes we don't.
Any authentic spiritual path requires an honest accounting for personal failures - particularly moral failures. It doesn't help the person, or the process, to call moral failures "lessons".
We have too many examples of political leaders, spiritual gurus, medical quacks who make mistakes because of pride, greed, lust. Such mistakes cannot - and must not - be mis-labelled.
What we want to avoid, as we go through the process of taking our own moral inventory, is beating ourselves up. That's useless.
But let's avoid Orwellian new-age newspeak.”
As human beings, we make mistakes. Always have, always will.
Sometimes we learn from our mistakes. That's when they become lessons. Sometimes we don't.
Any authentic spiritual path requires an honest accounting for personal failures - particularly moral failures. It doesn't help the person, or the process, to call moral failures "lessons".
We have too many examples of political leaders, spiritual gurus, medical quacks who make mistakes because of pride, greed, lust. Such mistakes cannot - and must not - be mis-labelled.
What we want to avoid, as we go through the process of taking our own moral inventory, is beating ourselves up. That's useless.
But let's avoid Orwellian new-age newspeak.”
kalijuri replied on Dec 09, 2009 at 22:03:34
“the point of the statement isn't about negating bad behavior, as you refer to in your comment regarding politicians, etc.
those things are done on purpose with the hopes of never getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar.
the point of this article, i think anyway, is to look at mistakes as a learning process and not to knock yourself down for it. real mistakes aren't evil with intended greed, etc.
they are just life and it is better to learn from that instead of feeling bad about yourself.
as in, 'never a failure, always a lesson.'
it is subjective and i can see where you read a negative pov into it. but i believe it was meant to uplift people who have made 'honest mistakes'.”
those things are done on purpose with the hopes of never getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar.
the point of this article, i think anyway, is to look at mistakes as a learning process and not to knock yourself down for it. real mistakes aren't evil with intended greed, etc.
they are just life and it is better to learn from that instead of feeling bad about yourself.
as in, 'never a failure, always a lesson.'
it is subjective and i can see where you read a negative pov into it. but i believe it was meant to uplift people who have made 'honest mistakes'.”
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Washington Post Profiles Neel Kashkari As Recession-Era Victim [UPDATED]
Commented Dec 07, 2009 at 17:11:36 in Business
“Here's my favorite part: "His shaved head, his broad-brush eyebrows, his blackest-brown eyes -- all turn sharply. "
Bear Sterns, and Lehman, and Merril - O my!”
Bear Sterns, and Lehman, and Merril - O my!”
Making Money In Yogaland
Commented Dec 07, 2009 at 15:58:28 in Living
“Blogger: Yoga teachers don't make enough money unless their classes are packed.
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Here's a question: What is yoga essentially? Is it a business, or a path towards enlightenment?
If it's a business, then let's monetize the hell out of it, one way or another. That's what we do best in America. Yay, Goldman Sachs!
On the other hand, if it's a path, then it's not for sale. Period. Any attempts to monetize it - including atttempts to "make a living" as a yoga teacher, are misguided.
"Following your bliss" doesn't mean figuring out a way to turn your spiritual aspiration into a money-making opportunity - even though so many do.”
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Here's a question: What is yoga essentially? Is it a business, or a path towards enlightenment?
If it's a business, then let's monetize the hell out of it, one way or another. That's what we do best in America. Yay, Goldman Sachs!
On the other hand, if it's a path, then it's not for sale. Period. Any attempts to monetize it - including atttempts to "make a living" as a yoga teacher, are misguided.
"Following your bliss" doesn't mean figuring out a way to turn your spiritual aspiration into a money-making opportunity - even though so many do.”
Holly Sampson PICTURES: Photos Of Porn Star, Tiger Woods' Alleged Mistress (NSFW, VIDEO)
Commented Dec 07, 2009 at 15:51:16 in Sports
“SarcastoFromageHead: Unlike the vast majority of us, Tiger Woods is completely in charge of his own destiny.
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Looking at that 4 iron dent in his head, I'd say not so much.”
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Looking at that 4 iron dent in his head, I'd say not so much.”
SarcasticFringehead replied on Dec 07, 2009 at 16:42:41
“LOL.”
Tiger Woods Car Accident: Alleged Affair, Mistress, Wife Fight (UPDATE, PHOTOS)
Commented Nov 30, 2009 at 07:03:16 in Sports
“What do your comments have to do with what I said?
'Splain, Lucy.”
'Splain, Lucy.”
JohnFromCensornati replied on Nov 30, 2009 at 10:49:21
“Hey OP,
Russell Bishop dissed you in his blog today.”
Russell Bishop dissed you in his blog today.”
Tiger Woods Car Accident: Alleged Affair, Mistress, Wife Fight (UPDATE, PHOTOS)
Commented Nov 30, 2009 at 05:18:57 in Sports
“Ever since the OJ thing, "don't ask, don't tell" isn't the way law enforcement handles potential domestic violence cases. If they suspect DV, the investigate, whether or not anyone wants to file charges. If they determine a DV crime has been committed, the wheels of justice start to turn.
And that's how it ought to be.
If it turns out Tiger's wife did hit him with a golf club, she'll probably have to go to some anger management classes before a conviction is expunged from the record. No big deal.
On the other hand, Tiger stands to lose more money than you'll ever have in your life if his squeaky clean reputation is tarnished.”
And that's how it ought to be.
If it turns out Tiger's wife did hit him with a golf club, she'll probably have to go to some anger management classes before a conviction is expunged from the record. No big deal.
On the other hand, Tiger stands to lose more money than you'll ever have in your life if his squeaky clean reputation is tarnished.”
Patriot86 replied on Nov 30, 2009 at 08:30:34
“She hit the car with the golf club and he freaked out and ran into a fire hydrant...stupid and childish, but not criminal.”
bzb replied on Nov 30, 2009 at 05:31:03
“Then this is about race. I'm bi-racial my dad is a retired Capitan African-American policemen and my mom is white she's a professor at a major university. I have seen them both argue but my dad never laid a hand on my mother and never disrespected my mother.
And they are still married to this day.
Now if both of them had let their friends dictate their marriage, they would be divorce today.”
And they are still married to this day.
Now if both of them had let their friends dictate their marriage, they would be divorce today.”
What Ails Black Women, Part 2: Health and Life
Commented Nov 30, 2009 at 03:29:51 in Living
“Thanks for these informative blogs.
I note that none of the usual bloggers from the coaching/guru business are commenting here. No one is touting the Law of Attraction, yoga or whatever the fad of the day might be as a cure-all for some difficult, systemic problems in our society.
I look forward to your next post.”
I note that none of the usual bloggers from the coaching/guru business are commenting here. No one is touting the Law of Attraction, yoga or whatever the fad of the day might be as a cure-all for some difficult, systemic problems in our society.
I look forward to your next post.”
quirkitude replied on Dec 03, 2009 at 22:36:05
“A huge blind spot indeed! Doesn't diminish the value of universal spiritual law, meditation, yoga or any other ancient paths, but the conversation of manifesting / creating a fulfilling life is incomplete without acknowledging the power that social constructs (like race, sex, class and so on) exert on people's lives insofar as getting in the way of a fulfilling life. THAT'S the invisible elephant that sits in so many lily white self-improvement seminars - you know, the kinds of events that tend to attract folks with lots of leisure time and $10,000 to burn.”
Summers Ignored Warnings About Harvard Investments, $1.8 Billion Disappeared
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 22:50:34 in Business
“1.8 Billion isn't much.
What's the beef?”
What's the beef?”
Jason Alexander & Fran Drescher Paid To Host Stranger's Wedding
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 22:47:54 in Entertainment
“Let's see...
He's a 66 year old convicted murderer who lost his medical license. She's a 20 something glamazon who works as a "fitness trainer".
They met in Vegas.
No doubt this one's gonna end with someone hitting someone in the head with a golf club.”
He's a 66 year old convicted murderer who lost his medical license. She's a 20 something glamazon who works as a "fitness trainer".
They met in Vegas.
No doubt this one's gonna end with someone hitting someone in the head with a golf club.”
MsLiz replied on Dec 01, 2009 at 00:34:18
“I was going to say it's a marriage made in hell, but down under will have to suffice.”
NotEvenAmerican replied on Nov 30, 2009 at 01:25:10
“Not quite a murder, he just wanted the guy to rough the patient up a bit. No one died.”
laddieluv replied on Nov 30, 2009 at 00:24:24
“ROTFLMBO!!!
Thanks! I needed that laugh.
And I agree.”
Thanks! I needed that laugh.
And I agree.”
David Hasselhoff Hospitalized, Then Ex-Wife Gets DUI
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 22:45:20 in Entertainment
“I heard she hit him in the head with a golf club.”
rzan1 replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 23:42:02
“You make me laugh, OtayPanky.”
Michael Bernard Beckwith: A Spiritual Teacher for Our Times
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 22:39:01 in Living
“He's also one of the featured contributors in THE SECRET, so it looks like he's getting around these days!
KEEP THE CHANGE.”
KEEP THE CHANGE.”
1freedom replied on Dec 01, 2009 at 15:08:02
“I don't understand. Do you look for "positive" articles and think of something negative to say? Or do you just look for any article and look for something negative for say? Why are you so unhappy? If something is helping someone, there is no way you or your cynical words can take it away so are you writing to satisfy some sick need within yourself, to hear yourself smugly type? If a scientist enjoys Mike Beckwith, I'm sure he's just as or more analytical and brainy as you but he enjoys it. If you think it's a farce, let him have his farce, good God! Read Joseph Campbell - even myths can be beneficial. Get another hobby. Stop purposely reading articles that you know will infuriate you, that's insanity. Leave people alone and let them live.”
Reese Witherspoon & Jake Gyllenhaal BREAK UP? They Say No (UPDATED)
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 22:10:29 in Entertainment
“I heard she hit him in the head with a golf club.”
The Brad & Angelina Tell-All Book - How Fake Is It?
Commented Nov 29, 2009 at 16:19:17 in Entertainment
“I heard she hit him in the head with a golf club.”
andj replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 19:21:23
“hahaha”
mew-too replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 17:32:02
“Do they even play the game?”
VOTER replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 17:29:51
“Is she a Tiger?”
VTL replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 16:39:03
“Katherine Thomson isn't sure if any of it's true.
Then why is she writing this tripe?”
Then why is she writing this tripe?”
rzan1 replied on Nov 29, 2009 at 16:25:23
“I must have an evil sense of humor because I am laughing out loud at your comment.”
Chris Brown On "20/20": R&B Star To Appear On ABC Show
Commented Nov 28, 2009 at 13:29:39 in Media
“Clearly a desperation move orchestrated by his publicist to try to salvage his career.
I'd say the odds are 2:1 it won't.
It's time for him to get a second act career as an evangelist or something. Or maybe a crossover to gospel music.
O happy day!”
I'd say the odds are 2:1 it won't.
It's time for him to get a second act career as an evangelist or something. Or maybe a crossover to gospel music.
O happy day!”
TopJack replied on Nov 28, 2009 at 15:33:16
“That will likely be the route. Ike Turner should have done that.”
Vicki Kennedy On Oprah: I Can't Share Teddy's Last Words
Commented Nov 27, 2009 at 17:47:54 in Politics
“Your missing the basic point. He DIDN'T live a sainted life at all...and he knew it...and finally came to grips with his moral failures.
That's the best most of us will ever do.
Let's not dishonor the life he did live by trying to make it into something else. He would not have wanted that at all.”
That's the best most of us will ever do.
Let's not dishonor the life he did live by trying to make it into something else. He would not have wanted that at all.”
JerseyGirl4Obama replied on Nov 28, 2009 at 18:56:47
“Thank you!”
Whycee54 replied on Nov 27, 2009 at 23:28:02
“I agree!!!!.”
Haastnooit replied on Nov 27, 2009 at 19:22:57
“:) indeed”
You Say You Believe In God: What Are You Willing To Do About It?
Commented Nov 27, 2009 at 17:39:06 in Living
“JohnFromCensornati: Who gets the credit for the mini (or not so mini) disasters? I'm talking flat ties, job layoffs, kids with H1N1, stuff like that. Is god just testing us?
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It's a lot like politics, John. When the good stuff happens, our side gets the credit. When things suck, it's the other side's fault.
It's a great system, really. That's why so many who are either political or religous use it habitually.”
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It's a lot like politics, John. When the good stuff happens, our side gets the credit. When things suck, it's the other side's fault.
It's a great system, really. That's why so many who are either political or religous use it habitually.”
Anger As 'GMA' Books Chris Brown After Canceling Adam Lambert
Commented Nov 26, 2009 at 19:23:30 in Entertainment
“All CB did was beat up his ex-girlfriend.
It's not like he kissed a guy or anything.
What's the beef?”
It's not like he kissed a guy or anything.
What's the beef?”
ReasonIsMyReligion replied on Nov 26, 2009 at 19:27:38
“Bingo.”
Thanks, But No Thanks
Commented Nov 26, 2009 at 16:01:48 in Living
“Tofukey In Space:
http://news.google.com/news/url?sa=t&ct2=us%2F0_0_s_0_0_t&usg=AFQjCNEItXZsACcFhwDGgf937VWCCTYfig&cid=1476547768&ei=FewOS8CoMcGgmAfOktKeAg&rt=MORE_COVERAGE&vm=STANDARD&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2Fhostednews%2Fap%2Farticle%2FALeqM5g8gpZRl3t8mV2RxsVjIuPU75dJeAD9C7B6AG0”
http://news.google.com/news/url?sa=t&ct2=us%2F0_0_s_0_0_t&usg=AFQjCNEItXZsACcFhwDGgf937VWCCTYfig&cid=1476547768&ei=FewOS8CoMcGgmAfOktKeAg&rt=MORE_COVERAGE&vm=STANDARD&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2Fhostednews%2Fap%2Farticle%2FALeqM5g8gpZRl3t8mV2RxsVjIuPU75dJeAD9C7B6AG0”
Hillary Clinton Vice President Rumors Flare Up Again
Commented Nov 25, 2009 at 19:24:58 in Media
“Maybe if Bill takes that sweet chariot ride to glory.
Otherwise not so much.”
Otherwise not so much.”
Mr. Skin Uncovers Unknown Celeb Nudity With Blu-Ray
Commented Nov 25, 2009 at 19:04:38 in Technology
“You're a cheap date, and I'm happy to provide even a moment's solace in this hard, hard world.”
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