“that's what the article says but I watched the show and during the discussion with the producers, Howard was the only one saying to put him through anyway. Unless they changed their minds once again and I missed that part, I still say he didn't make it.”
“When did we stop teaching our kids that life isn't fair and that sometimes people will criticize you? Oh right... we don't even keep score in little league games so that no one's feelings will get hurt and everyone is a winner.
Truly if it were my child I would know that he needed a few years and some polishing before trying out for something like this but I would definitely encourage him to go after what he wants. People get rejected in life and it isn't the end of the world. Kids need to learn that at some point. The lesson to him should be to go home, brush it off, get better, and try again.”
Tawnya Coomer on May 22, 2012 at 12:15:53
“How is it that people are being so hard on Howard. I mean all he said at the start is that you are very brave, and then the boy started crying. Who knows, maybe it was all planned. Kids can be manipulative ya know. lol--Maybe when we see him again, we will be like dang that boy can rap. MAYBE>”
“I was talking to one of my clients and he was telling me just how crazy the contracts are.
As a real world example using simple math...
BCBS has a contract with Provider A and Provider B for the exact same procedure... right down to equipment used, medication used, staff used. No differences. Because of contract negotiations or what have you... both providers bill BCBS $100 for the procedure. Provider A gets $75 due to contract and Provider B gets $85 due to contract.
You can't tell me that both providers aren't padding a little to cover the contract difference.”
“I'm not paying a dime until I get an itemized bill that's been adjusted for my insurance and deductibles. Is that fair enough for you?
I don't go to the auto repair shop and pay him $500 because that's what it MIGHT cost and then fight with him to reimburse me if it's actually $50.
I get that we have a problem with people that don't pay. I get it. The thing is, it seems creepy and dishonest to go into a sick person's room and demand payment. Do you have a bill I can pay from? Has my insurance company responded? Too many variables. If you don't have insurance then there needs to be some sort of system but it shouldn't be standing over your sickbed demanding funds.”
“This has nothing to do with hospital collections practices though.”
rkller900 on May 22, 2012 at 10:52:26
“Agreed. I was admitted to our local hospital once,,at the emergency entrance when I suffered heat exhaustion. I was draped over my wheel chair, and could hardly speak. This person came up to me and demanded how I was going to pay,,,, I told her, pick it off my dead body,”
“I wish this was an isolated thing but it's not. It happened to us last year.
Without going into a really long story, my husband ended up in ICU for 4 days and then PCU for another week and a half. We didn't think he'd make it past the first night.
The hospital had the decency to wait until he was moved to PCU to come in and demand some type of payment even though they had all of our insurance information. I realize my hospital bill was headed toward astronomical at that point and they probably have a lot of people that don't pay them but still. I wasn't there when they demanded money but I was told she was very aggressive... to the point she asked my mother in law if she would be making the payment for me. By the end of my conversation with the collections lady, she understood me clearly and I never heard from her again.
There has to be a better way.”
Adartist777 on May 22, 2012 at 10:43:06
“There is and it has been proven to work throughout most of the western world in various ways. But in America, don't become ill if you are poor, middle class or unemployed.
After all, health care is now a luxury here. And an unaffordable necessity to over fifty million Americans.”
“That's the thing. I'm not sure he does have ADHD. I'm not saying he doesn't but I think there are other issues.
Without getting into a lot of drawn out history, let's just say that my son (stepson) has been through a lot in life starting as a baby. I suspect a lot of his behaviors stem from more emotional issues/needs. Feelings of abandonment by his mother. A need to make everyone happy and love him. He is fiercely competitive.
I've approached the school about starting the process to diagnose him as ADHD before. I can't just take him to the doctor and say "this is what his teachers are saying but I see none of this at home and could you possibly give me drugs". The school rarely follows through on sending him to the school counselor or any of the things they suggest should happen.
My husband and I have agreed (outside of any discussion with the school) to send him to a counselor this summer to see if that helps and to get some perspective.”
NoAspirin on May 17, 2012 at 12:42:08
“We've experienced first hand tragedy from this disorder being left untreated so desperately want to warn others of the extreme dangers of leaving this insidious condition untreated. If they had been diagnosed and treated, they may have had a chance at a more normal life.
So if your stepson does indeed have ADHD, I hope that you find the strength to at least trial the medications. You strike me as a rational person who cares deeply for him and this is why I wanted to respond.
I wish for you and your stepson all the very best. I hope he does not suffer ADHD. The problems you mention may only be transient issues of poor attachment. But if they're not, I hope you find the courage to take the necessary steps to genuinely help him...”
NoAspirin on May 17, 2012 at 12:41:41
“The sad fact is that kids with this disorder actually have ineffective brain chemistry and no amount of counselling can fix this, just as counselling cannot fix diabetes or epilepsy. However, counselling can help when a child with ADHD is also taking medication to ameliorate the faulty neural mechanisms that cause the child's brain to function akin to a network of lose wires that can't connect properly. All the meds do is fix the connections so that the neural messages aren't repeatedly truncated. The meds are only temporarily in the child's system and have few side effects other than almost miraculously marvellous ones!
I confess I'm passionate about children getting the help they need because the consequences can be dire. Anxiety occurs in the vast majority of adults with ADHD. I've lost a beautiful, sweet sister-in-law to suicide - she hung herself. She suffered crippling agoraphobia, which in her case was one of the outcomes of living with undiagnosed ADD. My husband also lost his uncle to suicide. My husband's other sister is addicted to sleeping tablets, alcohol and cigarettes (all common habits of ADHDers) and she suffers panic attacks. His father suffered major depression (a common outcome of living with ADHD) plus he was a gambler, a common habit of those with ADHD. This disorder is up to 90% genetic, and although environment can exacerbate symptoms, a good environment can't make symptoms disappear.”
NoAspirin on May 17, 2012 at 12:31:28
“If there's no definitive diagnosis, that's another matter. Are the problems with inhibition present in most settings, both at school and at home? If not, then ADHD is not likely.
Another factor to consider is just how surprisingly resilient children are when their needs are met. (Refer to Martin Seligman's "What you can change and what you can't".) But if your stepson in fact does have ADHD, you are doing him a disservice by delaying the urgent help that he badly needs.
Here's an excerpt:
"...kids who are not getting diagnosed and treated are a much bigger concern. ... the children who need help are those who are chronically out of the normal range for these symptoms, and they are seriously impaired by them. ... No one would tell the parents of a child with diabetes or leukemia that they shouldn't seek treatment, and no one should tell the parents of children with psychiatric or learning disorders that they're overreacting by getting help, whether it's medication or behavioral therapy or both."”