“If this is the case, then at 5'8" I'd have to have 44.6 inch hips to be considered overweight. I think that's about on par with most height-weight charts.
I do think this could be more accurate than the height-weight charts, however, because I'm athletic, but personally my weight at 150 seems high. My hips are 38 inches now, so this calculation results = 24.5. I'd still like to be 140 lbs.”
Aug 19, 2010 at 14:02:35
“That's a different form of narcissism that you are describing, Larry. We're talking about it as a personality disorder. You know someone has NPD because they fit the description of a relationship (friend, relative, spouse, parent) from Hell.
For instance, people can be angry, but they don't need anger management. Liking oneself is good, but combining that with all the garbage that includes manipulating others for personal gain, not being able to admit mistakes, and other NPD stuff, and you have a person with NPD. Friending people on Facebook doesn't even come close to the true hell of having to work with someone with NPD.”
“As a parent of two healthy and intelligent teens I agree with your point, mostly. Your last sentence, however, actually points to the problem. "Your ability as a parent isn't decided by race, color, intelligence or political party."
Unfortunately, our ability to parent is decided by intelligence, not academic intelligence, but common sense. Many parents don't read labels. Many believe everything they see on the front of a package. I've often thought it odd that many people don't trust the government, but when it comes to food, they completely trust the FDA, run by the government. The government wants us to believe GMOs are harmless, just like pesticides in the 50s.
Intelligence does have a lot to do with our ability raise kids. So does time to think about food choices. Single moms and dads are usually doing all they can to get by. I know, my mom was single. We had fast food for dinner many evenings after she taught school and coached sports for 10 hour workdays. Are you going to tell me I didn't make food choices with my pocket money? That the colorful candy packages didn't get my dollar more often than not?
Kids do make food choices. Vending machines prove it. We need to regulate advertisements, and if you don't agree, then let them sell cigarettes in vending machines at schools, right next to the candy cigarettes. Your kids, and the kids they hang out with, certainly will be able to say no.”
AngryMonkey on Jul 9, 2010 at 10:17:21
“You make good points. I have friends that are processed food junky's. Their son makes up two of my son. Mom and son both have weight problems but they do nothing to correct their eating habits. Sam's club premade everything. Their son also has mental problems, like ticks and such. I think to myself well if you would get him off softdrinks and red bull maybe he wouldn't have the problem, but instead they go to doctors to get a cure. They are both intelligent but low on the common sense. Food is the most important part of my monthly budget. I know alot of people can't or don't think that way but they really need to. Even if there was a big red X on the 50 pound box of frosted flakes they would still buy it.”
OSCPJ on Jul 9, 2010 at 09:16:30
“Good post. I still stand by the intelligence. I don't know how to do alot of things. But I can google and research them. I can be of high intelligence and not be aware. If you have a lack of awarness then yes, I can agree with you.
With my wife traveling I to have made the fast food choices over time. But those are my choices. I knew they were bad, but a trade off for time.
Kids do make choices. But you influence that. If kids grew up in a family that smoked and drank, they would see that as okay. If they were educated about the abuses and harm, they would be less adapt to think that was okay.
I suprise my kids about every other week at lunch. I'm lucky I work near their school.”
Jul 3, 2010 at 10:39:28
“This article makes a lot of sense and I hope it helps many begin to disentangle from unhealthy patterns, most likely with family, but also with co-workers and "friends."
One note, be careful even if you are "Direct" with those you may be disentangling yourself from. They most likely won't understand what you are talking about because they are not conscious of what they are doing. The most important part of being independent here is saying what needs to be said, and letting go of expecting the other person to "get it."
I had a discussion with my father about two decades ago where I told him what he was saying made me uncomfortable and I'd rather not talk about it (he was spewing his conservative politicical views with which I did not and do not agree). His reply to me was, "Well these are things you need to know about."
As if I was the ignorant one. He never did "get it."
Say what needs to be said, do what's right, and let go of results.”
Christy Caudill on Jul 3, 2010 at 17:32:53
“"Let go of results," well said. A good friend once told me that I shouldn't be too attached to certain outcomes. It is quite an appropriate sentiment in this context. Doing what is right for yourself is sometimes all you can do.”
Jul 3, 2010 at 08:39:29
“I'm glad that worked for you. Of course an excess of anything, fat or carbs, will lead to weight gain. I suspect you had a high fat diet before you shifted your diet, hence the weight loss. I lost the 30 lbs I needed to (down to a healthy 145 for being 5'8") about 20 years ago by cutting out refined sugars: anything made from sugar cane, and anything ending in -ose.
I've long believed sugar and refined foods are at the root of too many health (and mental) problems in this country.
I've also found as I age (almost 50) my body needs less calories so it's hard to get recommended amounts of certain vitamins and minerals. Supplements have definitely helped me feel healthier, especially B vitamins. When I was younger they didn't seem that important.
Weil's been at the forefront of the-studies-show-this-for-health for at least 2 decades. Ornish is good too.
Everything in moderation, supplement when needed, and consistent exercise for life.”
“Diane Denish has been good for NM, and I voted for her in the Democractic primary yesterday. I hope she wins, and may join a campaign for the first time ever. Ugh, I can't imagine the other woman winning.”