“Great post Blair. I don't know of too many people that want to go into marriage thinking that it could end in divorce yet the reality is that sometimes deal breaker situations crop up that neither party could anticipate at the time vows and promises were exchanged in good faith.
Love isn't meant to be a prison sentence. For anyone.”
Blair Glaser on Jan 21, 2014 at 15:45:46
“Thanks for this comment, Samantha. I agree, that is the reality -- especially in today's world where people are so mobile and are focused on expansion -- that deal-breakers can crop up. If you are constantly doing too much work to stay in the relationship, it will feel start to feel like a lonely prison instead of refuge of connection.”
Perhaps it's not so much that we stopped listening and more to do with not having learned in the first place. Or we've been taught to listen to the wrong things, or giving precedence to things that matter less for what needs to matter more.
We must learn to listen to ourselves first. Our own hearts. Your post clearly reveals exactly how we can do that for ourselves.
We cannot hear what our hearts and bodies are trying to tell us if we don't take the time to stop what we are doing long enough to listen. What is my body saying? What is the stress and tension I'm holding trying to tell me about my career choice or what I've been doing lately, or how I've been spending my time? What is my heart trying to tell me?
How am I judging myself? How can I accept myself just as I am in that paradox between already enough and room to improve?
Are the expectations I have of myself realistic? Or are they a reflection of what someone else expected of me and I blindly accepted it as my own plumbline? Can I let that expectation go? Does it still serve me?
As we learn to do this for ourselves, we will see this reflected in the way we listen to each other. If we become increasingly mindful of them, our listening skills will deepen and mature over time.
Beautiful reflection on listening Lolly. Thank you.”
'it can feel like we're starving ourselves of something vital'
When we no longer find 'relief' in all of our outer activities, this is the potential gift that causes to sink deeper and go within. We cannot thrive without our 'home'. When we feel disconnected from the heart, we will long to return home. It's just a heartbeat and breath away. So near and yet so far when we can caught up in our cultural current in today's world.
'We all need a place where we can feel safe and nourished, a place we can call home.'
Yes. And we find it be looking within and also with an understanding that we need this in communion with each other as well. Our home is in this paradoxical relationship of 'inter-being'. The home we already have when we connect to ourselves within. And our home in the outer world that we rely on and share with each other.
'The things we're feeling are urging us to activate our heart, discover our purpose, reach for deeper meaning.'
I just want to say yes, Yes, YES to the whole post! : )
We are in a cultural crisis that is causing many us to dig deep roots within. To get UNDERNEATH this cultural curren in order to find true meaning and purpose. So that we can connect with one another in a deeper way. A deeper love.
Thank you for sharing this lovely post.”
lolly daskal on Sep 27, 2013 at 08:24:20
you nailed it!!!!!!!!
A resounding YES YES YES to your comment, you articulated it beautifully the issues we are suffering externally.
We must go inward, to find our meaning.
we must look for the heart, listen to the heart, and reside in the heart.
Love your insight as always they are Brilliant and RIGHT ON POINT.
Love wants nothing more then to connect each and every one of us. It is the powerful energy in the world, WAITING to connect and unite us all. Ready to empower all people and all nations. If we would only seek it more then all other things. If we would only yearn for it more then the need to be right, to be 'superior', to ignorantly believe that another nation, people, race, or gender must be 'put down' or else 'we' (my group) or 'me' won't succeed or have enough. There's more then enough if the world would only share.
Namaste: "I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the place in you of light, love, truth, peace and wisdom. I honor the place in you where, when you are in that place, and I am in that place, there is only one of us.
Thank you for sharing your heart Lolly.”
lolly daskal on Sep 12, 2013 at 13:47:51
“Namaste to you Samantha,
Our hearts were in the same place this week, thinking of what is happening in the world and all around us, I truly love what you wrote; Love wants nothing more then to connect each and every one of us. It is the powerful energy in the world, WAITING to connect and unite us all. Ready to empower all people and all nations. If we would only seek it more then all other things. If we would only yearn for it more then the need to be right, to be 'superior', to ignorantly believe that another nation, people, race, or gender must be 'put down' or else 'we' (my group) or 'me' won't succeed or have enough. There's more then enough if the world would only share.