“Placing blame isn't what is important, but more how much the continuous praising has been harmful. I think it's great that you suggested not ordering trophies this year though! I work in higher education and come in constant contact with students who think they are so special, and parents who think their child is the only one in the world- the applauding for simple things is damaging. Thanks for reading!”
"I spent at least three of the last nine years resisting what I wanted to do professionally, not because I didn't know I wanted to do it but because it seemed impossible. Where did I get off thinking I could do the hard, notoriously un-lucrative thing (write, in some fashion) that I had always wanted to do? Who did I think I was? So I pretended I didn't know, and tried for a while to do other things, and all that did was make me feel displaced and paralyzed and like I was somehow cheating on myself."
Amen! I have spent the first half of my 20's trying to figure out "what I want to do" when in reality, I know what I want, I'm just terrified I'll fail getting there and have no business trying to attain what I feel is impossible. I just recently wrote a post about the harsh discovery us 20-somethings are now facing realizing we aren't all that special. What do you do when you've been told most of your life you can do anything you want and how great you are, only to realize you aren't all that unique?: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sarah-stackhouse/generation-y_b_1725787.html?utm_hp_ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false”
“As an adviser/counselor in higher ed (study abroad), I would LOVE for parents to read something like this. Although I slightly disagree with the first opening line as a good amount of parents are in fact those helicopter types, not all of them are. But all would benefit from actually communicating with their child before going off to college, to study abroad or whatever else.”