Dec 10, 2011 at 20:56:52
“Look, just because you disagree with the way this couple shares their burdens doesn't mean you have to verbally abuse their choices. I wouldn't do it their way either, but it seems that one of the points of the article (and most therapists) is to find what works for the couple. If they are happy getting socks and making ham and cheese, and that shows their love for each other, then they are a happy couple. If each feels loved and wants to help the other, then it sounds like they are doing a great job. Please open your mind, just a bit.”
Anne Siperek on Dec 10, 2011 at 23:11:13
“no - my mind and love life is just fine. You can join her in telling your guy to go back up stairs and please get me some socks --- and if he's lucky, you might just make him a bagel with no questions asked!! That has to be one of the stupidest things I have read here all day! LOL. Good god === live and let live, but we all have opinions and you know what they say - opinions are like as holes. Everybody has one. And so do you.”
Dec 3, 2010 at 16:15:41
“I suppose everyone needs to rant every now and then, get what's bugging them off their chest, but Piver's comments seem to me to be far indeed from the spirit of yoga that I am getting familiar with. Yes, there are basics of yoga poses, but it is important to respect the individuality of each person's body and limits. Yoga is NOT about forcing yourself into some contortion so that you look like everyone else in the class - who are often as flexible as pretzels. Yoga is NOT about competition, who can do the most "correct" or elegant pose, or about "my way or the high way." I have practiced yoga for around 10 years, but you would probably not know it from watching me in yoga class. I wrinkle my nose when yoga instructors say "one day you will be able to do it." I have accepted that there are some things my body cannot do. There are parts of my body that are simply not flexible. And I won't force it. So I modify, because I do yoga "to feel good." So please forgive me (and my defensiveness) when I defend the yoga instructor's desire to respect the individuality of students.”
platolives on Dec 5, 2010 at 01:30:46
“Sherry, great comment and I so agree that students and teachers have to recognize a students limitations and not insist that everyone be at the same level. I've not taught advance classes but beginners and intermediate and I love teaching beginning the most. If you can't do the full posture that's ok but do it the right way as far as you can and in time you will most likely make progress. Men have a much harder time with their bodies and I have never had a male student though I've been in classes where there are men.”
hp blogger Susan Piver on Dec 3, 2010 at 21:08:16
“Thanks for jumping into the dialog with me.
Yes, yoga is not about competition, force, aggression, or obeying a teacher's commands. It's not even about flexibility. It's about connecting with your own body from moment to moment, including the poses you can rock AND those you can't. Today.
There are poses I will never be able to do. I have no idea why and it doesn't even matter. But the beauty of yoga is that it's not about perfecting poses, it's about being perfectly yourself. However, if no one had ever instructed me on the proper form, I would have no place to begin. So I definitely think yoga is about the correct alignment--but not at the expense of everything else. That would be silly.
The best analogy is trying to play the piano without ever learning to play scales. With knowledge of scale, I can create something unique. WIthout it, I can only bang around making noise. Alignment is the scale of yoga. What you do from there is up to you. If my teacher never gave me the basics, she would be setting me up for self-indulgent noise making.
Without respecting the individuality of students, there is NO YOGA, only exercise. Similarly, without some instruction about alignment, there is no reference point. I think you're confusing my wish for skillful instruction with some kind of drill sergeant situation. Definitely not the right interpretation of my post.”
DocManhattan on Dec 3, 2010 at 20:31:25
“When learning any skill, to accept that there are some things you "cannot do" is to condemn yourself to mediocrity. If that's what you're content with, then I suppose that's fine, but why settle?
In every skill I've ever studied, whether language, martial arts or music, there are things that initially seem impossible that eventually become not just possible but routine. But only with patience, diligent practice and dogged persistence (without expecting too much too soon - things just take as long as they take).
I don't understand why anyone would settle for doing something they purport to love half-heartedly. I feel many people stop seriously trying to to do something when it doesn't come to them quickly, so they only end up fulfilling a fraction of their potential.”
SoutheastBeast on Dec 3, 2010 at 16:33:43
“But if you don't do the poses correctly, you will not get the benefits of the practice and may even hurt yourself. I think he is right to stress that teachers should show their students how to do the poses correctly.”
“I applaud Olbermann's decision - I hope he makes it permanent. We don't need name-calling on either side of the political spectrum. While he sometimes made good points during the segment, the personal finger-pointing made me squirm. The left can't claim the moral high ground with this sort of stuff going on. I'm sure he can find a way to make good points without the name-calling.”
“The media gave credibility to a loon and his loony ideas. This is why I have been watching the Weather Channel this week. However, this isn't the first time this has happened. In fact, it's the story of the last year. The screechy right shouts ("Obama's health care plan is going to bankrupt America, kill grandma..." etc.) and the media obediently turns it into a credible story, no matter how incredible it is. And now, when we need another stimulus, America is convinced that it is going bankrupt, thanks to the hysterical screeching magnified by the media. The media has dropped the ball and lost all credibility. Only when we vote with our remote controls will they change. The media wouldn't cover this Qur'an burning idiocy if TV-viewing America didn't turn up their TV volume when it comes on the news. Turn it off, I say, and send a message to the media that their nonsense is truly nonsensical. We won't put up with it any more.”
hyjanks on Sep 10, 2010 at 18:33:05
“Even the weather channel has been reporting, exclusively, on the temperature in Florida.”
“Well-written! More people should understand the massive interests in war that penetrate our society, while the costs are borne by an isolated few. This is a distortion of the most dangerous kind, one that breeds aggression and adventurism.”
“Israel is easy to admire because of the hardscrabble pioneering spirit of the people that built it. But let's don't forget that they didn't build their country "from nothing." It was built on the ruins of the Palestinian nation, over half of whom fled (or were expelled, depending on which version of history you read) and were never allowed to return. They kept the deeds to their homes and land until today - many of those homes don't exist any more, but some do, and their previous owners remember them. Israeli planners systematically destroyed over 400 Palestinian villages and planted trees over the remains. (Remember those coins we put into JNF boxes for "reclaiming" and "reforesting" land?) They took over Palestinian homes and land - free land, without which the Israeli state would have had a much more difficult start. Then they erased all traces of the previous civilization.”
mountvernon43 on Jul 9, 2010 at 16:04:40
“Well said, Sherry.
You make a point that is often swept under the carpet.”
“It seems like internationals are a mixed blessing to the Palestinians. Based on my experience being there and talking to Palestinians, they seem to need and appreciate the presence of internationals. Non-Palestinians bring much-needed attention to their cause back home, as the article says, but also, Israeli troops are much more reluctant to use deadly force when foreigners are in the mix. So there is something of a protective role to be played as well. Not that the presence of internationals can't be problematic as well... but as long as the Palestinians lead their own cause and international activists practice appropriate deference, their presence can benefit Palestinians in their efforts to achieve justice.”
“Well, it might help if the colleges were fully funded and didn't have to sell their souls to greedy corporations - like our elementary/middle/high schools using vending machines to sell junky food in order to stay afloat. When we value education more than consumerism, we will put an end to these practices. Transparency is the first step - thanks for putting this information out there!”
drumsgirl on Jun 8, 2010 at 14:58:47
“Where the heck are you living? My kids' elementary and middle schools don't have vending machines.”
nccanuck on Jun 8, 2010 at 14:57:54
“If colleges were fully funded! LOL You do realize that most colleges have no shortage of equity or liquid assets. Here's one for you, just Harvard School of Public Health’s endowment is worth 914 MILLION and represents, get this only 3.5% of the school total endowment of 25 BILLION. Yale is 16 BILLION, Stanford is 12 BILLION, Chicago U 5 BILLION, University of Delaware 1 BILLION. I suggest you look up this link to see just how much schools have just in endowments, it man cases it doesnt even cover real estate assets of which Harvard has 5 BILLION worth in todays down market.
“Unfortunately, Israel's "hasbara" seems to be working in the US as well as Israel. Most Americans simply swallow the Israeli line - hook, line and sinker. Only the few who noticed the lack of opposing voices in the first few days after the flotilla incident - because of Israel's detention of the activists and confiscation of most footage - had much of a reason to be skeptical. Israel's defenders flooded the airwaves with the "lynch" footage and related "head-talking." Only after the controversy dies down do alternative voices emerge... but does it matter then?”
“The results of this spill are disastrous, and will be felt for years to come. I suspect the worst damage is below the surface, where news cameras don't get their striking visuals of oil-soaked otters and cranes. But the food chain will be irrevocably damaged. Thanks BP.
Let's hope a teaching moment will come out of this disaster - perhaps an effective way to re-align the incentives of off-shore drilling. As it is now, oil companies do not take on associated risks with drilling but go away with the profits - much like the "moral hazard" problem in the banking system. Big oil can gamble with someone else's fragile ecosystem, profiting when it works and washing their hands when it doesn't. Obviously, this needs to change, starting with removing the $75 million damage cap for oil spill cleanup.”
outnow on Jun 1, 2010 at 10:06:52
“This is the problem with our entire system. Big corporations are our sacred cows. Business is elevated to a sacred position for profits while the damage is borne by the sheeple.
You have exposed the greatest fraud of all - and it is systemic. That is why the future of mankind itself is in doubt. Only corporations could pull this off. Multinationals are even worse.”
bobo5 on Jun 1, 2010 at 10:04:35
“I went to Florida at St Petersburg five weeks ago. I won't bother going back and eating another grouper sandwich any time soon. There's always the Pacific coast of Mexico.”
bmickey31 on Jun 1, 2010 at 10:03:53
“Why are you blaming BP, they are only drilling because that is what we use to make al of our products affordable(mainly for the poor). Second of all why is this spill so hard to fix, because it is in such deep water. Why is it in such deep water? because the environmentalist drove them out there!!! Thanks huggers”
“As always, an excellent and informative article, Andy. It's a shame what Congress and the Administration are doing in Guantanamo, and elsewhere (like Bagram, for example). I still find it hard to believe that Americans have turned so far away from our founding values of freedom and the rule of law.”
“Where's Scotty? I keep getting flashbacks of Star Trek episodes, where "we need warp speed in 5 minutes or we're all dead." Scotty (or someone) always pulls through with some jury-rigged contraption that no one knows will work. No testing necessary, just put it on and go. Of course, that is Hollywood, not real life, but one can wish that we had faster action from the morons at BP who didn't have the foresight to put advance plans into place.”
jan4insight on May 22, 2010 at 17:39:40
“Well, that sounds about like what BP did in the drilling process that created this mess in the first place. This is real life, not a movie (unfortunately).”
FREEDOM BELL on May 22, 2010 at 17:30:51
“The morons did not follow established procedures and used defective equipment. They can't do anything right. They should be locked up and never be allowed near oil again.”
“It's sad that an attempt to resist the polarizing left/right pull of today's TV journalism is failing. The early title of her show "No Bias No Bull" was compelling. I liked the show much more than the big 3 competitors. I for one, will miss the show.”
“Do you think he got his inspiration from another Lieberman - Avigdor Lieberman of the right wing Yisrael Beiteinu party and Israeli Foreign Minister - who proposed to strip any Arab citizen of Israel who did not take a loyalty oath or serve in the military (?)
BTW, thanks for all the helpful legal background to this issue. From a human rights perspective, it is unconscionable that a person's right to citizenship could be considered conditional, but thank goodness, there is legal precedent to back up this idea.”
“Yes, while there is potential for a "teachable moment" in this disaster, a majority of Americans still favor offshore drilling, according to a (yep, you guessed it) Fox News poll. Last month, before the spill , 70% of Americans favored offshore drilling while currently 60% favor it. A noticeable decline, but still a sizeable majority. Perhaps a teachable moment, but there remains lots of "teaching" to do.”
gditty on May 6, 2010 at 22:48:57
“As the oil starts up the east coast expect a decline in poll numbers, most Faux news watchers don't care until it effects their way of life...”
“Amen Ariana !I have enjoyed watching Undercover Boss for exactly these reasons. The fat cats need to see how their productivity policies affect the rest of us. Now if our government could do the same. Perhaps if the Senators who vote against health reform could see the. the rest of us struggling to pay our medical bills or keep our house when medical emergency threatens our home, perhaps we would get better policy.”
“Closing GITMO may indeed be complicated by issues of jeopardizing classified information or risking the release of dangerous individuals whose conviction cannot be secured on the basis of evidence obtained though torture. However, even if we put aside issues of justice, we would do good to think of an important question: for every individual NOT released from GITMO, how many actual NEW dangerous individuals do we create and encourage to join or assist dangerous organizations? Although this question is ultimately unanswerable, the thought exercise may help us to determine a major cost of violating the principles upon which our country was founded.”
“It is so easy to rush to judgment when those being judged are poor and black. How many times do we see "heroes" doing exactly the same thing in Hollywood blockbuster movies that the media is calling "looting" in Haiti? No condemnation for Hollywood characters, simply admiration for the determination of someone to save their family. The idea that poor blacks will simply take advantage of chaos to steal whatever they can draws upon centuries of American racism. It works too, in the sense that it allows the media to sell advertising. The worst thing is, the cynical pandering of the media to the African American audience by sending every single black reporter to Haiti is merely revealed for what it is: a money-making opportunity.”