“What a fantastic collection of images here. And a fitting dedication to Gloria who stands fearlessly for equal representation of women in the world, the media, the workplace and the home. I got to hear her speak this month and was thoroughly impressed by her brilliance and warmth. Thank you HuffPo!”
“Lisa, thank you for this coverage. I am glad you continue to expose these issues. Seems motherhood is under criticism this month. I despair at our cultural attitude toward pregnancy and parenthood. An article in the Atlantic by Lauren Sandler posed the thought that perhaps women writers might be better off with just one child. I wrote about all this on my blog this week. I will continue to share your posts with my followers. Much gratitude for all you are doing! Suzi
“Oh Lisa. I have loved your writing for a few years and this post and it's earlier brother have me in tears today. Lucky kid. Lucky family to have your huge heart and brilliant observations to hold this moment in the amber of your memory. We are about to send our first child, our son, to college in August. I will make his bed with you at my elbow. Many thanks, Suzi”
hp blogger Lisa Belkin on May 17, 2013 at 14:42:56
“Oh Lisa. I am with you on this. Horrified by what one human can do to another. We play out this frightful scenario as mothers, as fathers every time our kids walk out of our sight. But, we must must must stay faithful to the belief that with each tragedy we learn to do better. As I write this, I have no idea what 'better' looks like, but perhaps if this perpetrator was diagnosed and treated for mental health problems when he had charges against him, perhaps this would not have happened.
I am pulling at straws here. Just sitting in silence, grateful you have given words to what so many are feeling today. xo Suzi”
Thank you for your words here, your emotional truth. Having grown up with sisters I only became familiar with the blood lust thing on the skating rink, with the big hockey kids, guys with sweat wet tshirts and bloody chins. And, it terrified me. Now, with a son who is 18 who seems to have lived without a whole lot of fights in his life, he is just not drawn to it. Whatever you model, your kids will do- whatever you endorse, they will endorse. Turn off the TV now. Read books. Take walks. Swim, ski, express yourself physically and let your kids see you and join you in that. All that energy needs a place to go. I am just so- what can I say, honored? inspired? relieved? that you have let these stories out so completely. Keep writing about it. Thanks, Suzi (from across the state, in a place where you can take that kid skiing)”
“Oh you guys, really, what a treat. This would be a great thing for other couples to read to each other and fill in the with their own...okay, truth? I have a similar list and I bet my husband of 23 years has his own and I'd give anything to hear what those things are. I am curious- does hearing this of each other make you think about say, wiping up the whiskers or letting the ant thing go a little? Thanks for this heartful post. xo S”
“Having just wiped the last plate from our Seder meal this evening, early yes, but a kid is home from school, but we take this advantage to celebrate Passover, in our own way, talking about freedom with our guests. I especially appreciate these thoughts about how important it is for each of us to live what we believe in daily, in all our interactions. Thank you Jan for showing us how. xo S”
“Oh then, then then...there is Snap Chat and the photos of my bad hair days sent to my girl's pal that disappear within seconds...really???? Do they really evaporate? What if some other giant absorbs Snap Chat and then all that content is reinvigorated? What if the iCloud bursts? What sort of toxic rain would that be with butt shots and cleavage and bad hair? Just a few meanderings by a mother of teens. Okay. Good job guys. You covered some brave territory there with Instagram. Boundaries are good. They never go out of fashion. Ever. xooxox S”
hp blogger William Lucas Walker on Mar 31, 2014 at 14:53:52
“Ouch. This gets me right in the belly. Hard to type with tears. I have a 19 year old and what catches my breath the most is the breadth of his hands. Recalling his little soft paws moving Playmobil figures around carefully constructed scenes and comparing them to his large strong hands now, I gasp. How and when did all this multiplication occur? Well captured here. Great blog post on HuffPo.”
GDRPempress on Jan 25, 2014 at 20:17:39
“Thank you, Suzi. You and I have a lot in common. Those days, I miss those days....”
“Oh Janine. Thank you. This work is what you were set here to do. Thank you. I am on my way to the airport to pick up my son. It will be with an extra measure of grace and gratitude for the work of Flawless and all who are making room in their hearts for mental health care for all, but especially these young men and their families- that I hold him close. Thank you for all you are doing to spread the work of Flawless and to connect so many people who have suffered loss but are willing to reach for what might become gold in their grief. Many blessings to you, Janine and to Flawless. xo Suzi”
hp blogger Janine Francolini on Nov 25, 2013 at 10:01:52
“Tears and chills of gratitude to you Suzi. Thank you for always putting your heart on deck for the entire Flawless community. We are so grateful to you this Thanksgiving.”
“Oh Jan, on the bare template of my heart, your words, your cherishing of Annie who went out cherishing her life, all this lands on me today, a day when I too am honoring grief. Thank you for so eloquently and clearly stating how it is for you. And for living it full out with Annie to the end. Today is a day full of mourning. I have read several other posts about grief today. I am complete, having read yours. All my love, Suzi”
“Dear Glennon, What a great post. I am grateful to HuffPo's email notification system that lets me know you posted. They let me know so very much and I can only take in a bit of all that juicy news. But this, your truth about social media and the habit around being liked taken to the next extreme- I am so happy to read this. It sounds like you have a very brave handle on your consumption.
I really believe that we have to live our lives without an eye for content...as a blogger, author and workshop leader, I am always thinking about how things overlap, how one thing highlights another and have an eye out to share the work of others I believe in...but this can get crazy sometimes.
Fasting is good. Living 'hands free' is key for me. I found myself with cramps in my left hand from holding my phone all the time and once I noticed that, I started leaving it places, like in my bag and out of sight. I like your suggestions for balance. And I love your thoughts about gratitude. I post about this often.
Thank you for writing here. I will share this because I believe in your good work.
Thanks for doing it.
“Oh Janine, what a eloquent reflection on Ms.Tuff's courageous and compassionate presence. I am happy to hear that Brian Williams has responded to your request. Evolving leaders are people willing to model what it is to learn from one another. You live this. And you invite others to step in.
“Oh Melanie, this post is so full of your creative genius, delivered full term from your joyous soul. I too want all this for you and I celebrate what you are creating en route to your future. You propose a certain perspective that names what you long for and frees you to actively engage in your life. Thank you for writing. xo Suzi”
“Oh Janine. I love how you have taken Passover and the biblical connotation of the safety in being passed over to the action of 'passing over'- which here means checking out of human contact, choosing electronic stimulants over human interaction, passing over someone we might judge as unsafe for our desired level of contact.
Your sentence about eye-contact with people living on the street made tears shoot of my eyes. I was immediately with my uncle, who has done the other kind of 'passing over', but at the time of my memory was an architect with the Frank Lloyd Wright Foundation. He was a compassionate man and taught me about being present with others, and so much more. One time my uncle was walking through an underpass where a homeless man lived. He could not walk past this resident of the street, but crouched down to make eye contact and speak for awhile with this man. In return, the man told my uncle how he craves eye contact with others, how he feels his invisibility so painfully.
Eye contact is the first step in so many interactions. However complicated or simple, the trusting step of offering your eyes to another is, as the poets say, offering your soul.
Thank you for all the work you and Flawless are doing in the world.
I too will be lifting my eyes this week to see the people before me and notice when I try to pass over.
All my best,
“Thank you William. So so so very glad to find this post right now. Congratulations on this year of brilliant posts full of your wit and wisdom tempered by the true humility of a parent and your bounteous humor.
All my best,
williamlucaswalker on Mar 1, 2013 at 01:34:54
“It's a really good video to watch on a sucky day. I'm going to keep it bookmarked for whenever I'm feeling rotten.”
“"What once was sorrow may now be a song."
Thank you Jan for so completely capturing what gets me out of bed, out from under the laundry to make a poem of daily living. I am so grateful for your words and the way you live your life.
I look forward to June.