“I am one of those happy, healthy HIV + men who take one pill a day. Its interesting how often my good health and smile pisses people off. My existence isn't an advertisement for unprotected sex, but an example for medication-compliant living sans guilt and HIV stigma.”
“Yet another article dismissing the value of decreased transmission through the use of antiviral medications and increasing HIV stigma. To suggest that an undetectable viral load cannot be guaranteed even a day after receiving a test results is bad journalism at best. This article is written with an intentional slant to disregard the multiple studies documenting the near impossible occurrence of transmission with a person who has maintained an undetectable viral load for six months and is current with their treatment.
Adnum... yes, lets examine the facts and figures of transmission of HIV from a person who has undetectable viral loads. Not distort them and perpetuate HIV stigma.”
“Obviously, just because someone is in a committed relationship doesn't mean it is safe to have unprotected sex. Often, many people will presume they are negative because they just don't "know" they are positive. If you were tested 6 months ago and have been sexually active, you cannot say for sure that you are negative. Yet, we cling to the word "negative" because we have been scared by what AIDS did mean in our community in the past. My point was there should be a more open conversation should take place between friends and sexual partners so that the fear is lifted and people are more apt to get tested and truly know their status. Many people might be too scared to get tested, and they shouldn't be.”
Party B on Dec 3, 2012 at 12:21:39
“These are the things all those OLD Gay men were trying to tell you. While you were too busy "being fabulous" to listen. Those old men who lost everyone, well, they used to be young and fabulous too. I am sorry that you now have HIV, I hope the medication works for you, it doesn't for everyone. Get into a support group if you can, it helped a lot at the start, and it will give you some support instead of being just faced with the whispering class. I just wish it didn't take something like this for you to realize that all those old gay men were trying to save you from having to face what they did, what their lovers and family and friends had to face. Maybe you can get your friends to see that too. And when it comes to testing, even if you tested yesterday, and had sex last night, you don't know your status. Condoms can break, but it's better than no protection at all. (and use spermicides with non-oxyl 9).”
Jeremy Bursac on Dec 1, 2012 at 19:12:54
“Testing is a false comfort as far as transmission goes.
My point was that you use condoms for vag or an intercourse unless you wish to put your life or your health in the hands of the other person.”
“Thanks, Steven. At one point, all gay men and women were shunned. Its time we stop this unnecessary trend in our own community. I, for one, am too stubborn to let someone shun me without a fight!”
Party B on Dec 3, 2012 at 12:10:57
“Well, I'm so glad you can stand up for yourself, too bad it took getting HIV to be able to see the error of you and your friends dismissal of an entire generation of those of us with AIDS and those who have lost everyone they knew. I was shocked and saddened and even disgusted at reading your view of those of us who fought this battle, and who have tried tirerlessly to educate those who are ignorant of the issue. But how ironic, it took getting something for you to understand those you readily mocked and put down. And by the way, we had pretty faces and mamos'a back in the day too, hopefully you won't be like all my friends and go missing from the table.”
Pho3n1xSun on Dec 1, 2012 at 10:44:00
“I don't fit in with society, even the majority of the gay community, anyway. they can shun me all they want. I could care less. But then again, many would want me for my body, or shun me for my color before they even knew me, or about the status I carry. All I can say now is that I'll live my life and be happy with myself. The only love I need, is the love that I have for myself”
“Do you think that people with Syph and Hep C should be treated with the same legal repercussions?”
Jennifer Holstien on Nov 30, 2012 at 18:43:47
“Syph is curable in the early years, plenty enough time for the average responsible sexually active person to correct the problem. However, a person who knowingly infects others with syph without their knowledge/consent should be held liable for all medical bills and whatever criminal charge thaf may fit the case. Hep C people already have certain obligations in the workplace and there can be lawsuits for not following them. In regards to Hep C and all other diseases, whatever the disease is, the punishment should reflect the severity, cost, and preventability aspects of the situation. It would be ludicrous to punish people for spreading airborne diseases, for instance.. But airborne diseases of a certain type can and do warrant quarantine once discovered. I dont limit my position to HIV/AIDS. I do not feel people who got the proper risk reducing treatment and used protection should be held as liable as those who did not, though. As it says, the risk of spreading HIV/AIDS is much lower once on treatment, but it is still not a negligable risk, though if the person did use all possible protections and had every reason to believe there wasnt risk of transmission, they shoukd have limited liability.”
“Ted - I think the argument against that would be that HIV is no longer considered a fatal disease. It is now a chronic disease that must be managed. We do not prosecute people that knowingly transmit Hep C, Syph of HPV, but all three can lead to death if not treated.
I agree with you that it is criminal to knowingly expose an unwitting partner to HIV. I think the point is not to look at HV positive people as "criminals" so to mitigate the stigma.
“I do understand what you mean. But as I examine the 30-something community, I would hesitate to assume that anyone is ignoring it because they don't care if they get it. The images that you describe still send chills down everyone's back. Now that the gay community is so mainstream, the trend-setting, gala-attending gays would rather turn their attention to much less "dire" things. Because HIV is scary. I think that there should be a call to action to better understand HIV, not fear it. To talk more about it so that people that are positive can stand and be a representation of what it is now. Therefore, maybe people that are too afraid to get tested will be more inclined to do so and know there status.
Nevertheless, I really appreciate your column and your point of view. I wrote something that should run on here in a couple of days and I would really like to hear your feedback, as well.”
Rastafari59 on Dec 2, 2012 at 09:11:14
“I have spent the last twenty years of my life in the counseling of youth. In the circles I am involved with I simply do not see this fear your talking of Tyler. Indeed, every time I turn around a teenager or twenty something kid is laughing at the idea of safe sex, and saying out right that you don't have to worry about AIDs anymore. I'm afraid I agree with the author entirely.”
“I must say, I agree with your passion but disagree with your approach. A major problem in the gay community is that they fear HIV. So much so that they rather ignore it and cross their fingers than get tested. Your discounting of how manageable HIV is only furthers that fear and increases the stigma that people with HIV must continue to endure. Also, Stribild is a new medication that is out that no longer has any vivid dreams "horrific" dreams. Encouragement is much more powerful than fear.”
hp blogger Charles Karel Bouley on Nov 30, 2012 at 12:44:29
“And I have to say Tyler that I disagree with you. A major problem the gay community isn't that they fear HIV it's that they don't fear HIV any longer. How do you explain the new infections? they ignore it not because they fear it but because they don't. After all you pay attention to things you fear.”